Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Thank you @noparticularpattern... I'm just holding on to my sanity but sure there a little way to go x

@minniemouseears Our candle is lit also... for the little one we lost to early to know, for dPs daughter born sleeping 18 years ago and for all of our little angels x

lisara, I'm in the same boat. 14+2 today. Nausea subsided a good couple of weeks ago and I can cook food again, enjoy eating most foods and don't feel like every smell is going to make me puke. I look at my scan photo every day to remind myself how perfect our little bundle is in there, even if I can't feel him or her yet or know for certain they are okay. I was beginning to think I could flutters but I honestly think it's wishful thinking - I can't wait to feel those movements. Do you have your 20 week scan date yet? We can do this!

My candle is lit. A little late, but it's lit all the same 🔥

@emvy you've mirrored my thoughts exactly! Particularly wh3n it comes to the movements... I get the glitters some days and wonder... my 20 week scan is 26th November (I think... or 28th) so still feels like ages to go! Have you got yours?

sorry.. flutters not glitters!

@lisa I feel the the same I have no symptoms I'm only 6+1 so no flutters but I've had no sickness no sore boobs no tiredness, I was pregnant in January and was absolutely ill would cry when I took my bra off, slept all the time sore back alsorts!! I took another test today just to make sure I am still pregnant!! Xx

Best of luck tomorrow Smurf.

30 weeks is amazing Utter. Keeping my fingers crossed you make it to full term.

Sending you hugs Lisara. My symptoms came and went all through the first tri. Symptoms can go naturally from about 10 weeks on, so it could just be that it is your time for that. The huge gap between the 12 and 20 week scans are really hard as your symptoms are going but you are not yet necessarily feeling movement and don't necessarily have a bump. It is a long, long wait. We are here with you all the way.

I finally got hold of the picture of myself and my niece from last sunday. She is 33 weeks and I am 22 weeks in the picture. We lost our first within 6 weeks of each other 2 years ago. This is her second pregnancy and my 4th.

@bisset80... I understand completely... it was about your stage that I started getting sickness... I wouldn't normally wish sickness on anyone but it is reassuring for a while.

Thank you @brenna24... loving the bump pick x

lovely bump pic brenna how lovely ok can share pregnancy with your niece I’m glad crazy lady isn’t impacting too much on your Italian. I’m glad you kept it up!

lisara the wait for the 20 week scan is long isn’t it, I was so nervous. I’m now 22 weeks and it’s wierd that’s it until birth! Very strange. I prefer glitters to flutters

Thanks brenna scan went well and everything looks good so far!
I might have sounded like I was going to cry on the phone though when they phoned at lunch time to say that due to approaching storm ophelia they were cancelling appointment until next Monday.. Phoned me back 5 mins later to say if I could be with them within 15/20 mins they would see me!
Like others have said now at 17 and half weeks I don't feel as sick as I did and don't think I feel movements yet so it was a relief to see baby on screen and hear doctor say it all seems to be as it should be.

That is brilliant news Smurf. It is all so worth it to see the little wrigglers. It won't be that long until you get consistent movements now either.

Mogul one of the best things about sharing it with her is that her mum and dad both died 4.5 years ago and she had a miscarriage 6 weeks after my first one. So we have been through a lot together. And now we reap the rewards together.

So I typed a mega message and my phone deleted it! Was just to say I’m pleased to see plenty of positive news on here and also loving the bump pics!!

I’ll share mine at about 23 weeks the other week. I was celebrating having found some maternity stuff that was long enough (take note new look- your leggings are all I wear right now, but your tops are bizarrely short I’m the body!!). Gap are fab and have a sale on if anyone’s looking!!

brenna that’s awful, she’s very lucky to have you. I hope to be close to my neice like that when she grows up.

particular lovely bump! That’s a definite baby on the way and not large dinner! I didn’t know gap did maternity stuff, and a sale too. I need to give in and get some more stuff so will pop in... I was trying to rely on what I wore in my last pregnancy (which was a summer baby, I’m an idiot, a cold idiot!)

I think their maternity stuff is only online mogul but I could be wrong since we don’t actually have a store anywhere near us haha! But their sizes are really good (I was surprised as I thought you had to be thin for Gap!!).

pattern Found it! Going to have a good mooch... www.gap.co.uk/products/maternity-clothes-sale.jsp

You look slim in your photo 😊 I’ve always found gap good size wise. They do midget size for me (I’m 5 foot tall- I look rediculous in late pregnancy!).

Thanks mogul! I think pregnancy has actually slimmed me down because I seem to be carrying it all within me. Which apparently means it’s a boy (which also means we really need to have a long hard think about names!). But I am also 6’1” so that helps! I weigh nearly 19 stone right now so I am very far from slim haha!! We’d make a right pair at 9 months pregnant haha!

Smurf that's great news, you must have been relieved not to have to wait.

Pattern what a lovely bump, you look very in proportion.

Well after the chat about when to tell older children, DS asked again on Sunday about my eggs and whether they would grow into babies, so we decided to tell him that one had started to grow and hopefully there would be a baby next year. His response was "good" and then to go back to playing. We had more of a chat this morning after he accidentally hit my bump... I don't want him to feel responsible in case something does go wrong but he needs to know to be careful! He asked whether all my eggs would now grow into babies and we'd need a bigger house, and decided it would be a girl named Sophie (we've been reading The BFG). He also said that he loved babies. So that was nice. Let's hope it really happens. 16 weeks today.

Msjuniper I was incredibly relieved .., it was our anomaly scan and I had spent the weekend not sleeping properly thinking about it.
Your son sounds so cute!

That is so sweet MrsJuniper.

It is so good to get past the anomaly scan, isn't it Smurf?

It is brenna and it was really good to hear doctor checking things and saying as far as she can see everything looks as it should. Keeping all fingers crossed.
I think I really have to tell my work colleagues now.. I work in a special needs school so my own classroom assistants do know as does management but I know at least one other colleagues has asked someone else if I'm pregnant .. Bump is getting a bit hard to hide. (not been trying but it's fairly obvious in my jumpers now) I don't mind the others knowing.. I just don't know how to say it.. I live scan to scan and I know I'm being silly but I don't want to jinx this (i know it is ridiculous!!)

smurf I know what you mean about not wanting to jinx it- I’m 25 weeks and so far I have bought absolutely nothing apart from maternity stuff (because I don’t fit in anything else now!) and some second hand baby clothes from a friend. I know I really need to start buying things but I am also worried that I’ll curse it by doing so! I’m not sure what point I’m going to think it’s ok since, all being well, we won’t actually see baby until it’s here. But I still feel like I’m being overzealous thinking about buying stuff. And telling people! I feel all embarrassed and shy using the words “I’m pregnant” which is ridiculous! But you’re not alone!!

I'm not having a great week! Have a horrible cold, suffering from piriformis syndrome (basically buttock pain with shooting pain from certain movements, a bit like sciatica-went to physio today) and then phone call to midwife this afternoon, telling me tests had come back high risk for Downs (1:120, low risk categorised as 1:150 here) , and could she come round to speak to me and husband...

She came round and discussed our options (too late for CVS, so could do amnio, or harmony, then amnio if still high risk)
Husband and I chatted after she left, and we have decided we didn't want to do an amnio, so in that case, we are going to not do anything and wait until the 20 week scan, when if there are major anomalies we shall have to deal with it then... He's gone out now, and I'm just sitting googling... Fucks sake

Glad your scan went well smurf

MsJuniper, kids are so funny, bless him. I've begun gradually telling more people at work now and it feels nice to not feel like I have to hide it quite so much (unless there are parents around). Do you have many behavioural issues at your school? I worked in a special school as a TA before I trained as a teacher and I can't imagine how difficult it must when pregnant avoiding meltdowns and dealing with outbursts.

NoParticular, I don't blame you. I think this is all part and parcel of having those negative experiences constantly feeding into our consciousness. It really does mute the excitement and makes you feel like you shouldn't allow yourself to have hopeful, positive feelings. I've said we'll buy things from 20 weeks, one big thing a month to spread the cost but not sure about the little things like clothes etc.

hotcookie, I'm so so so sorry you've had a high risk result. My mum is a specialist midwife and her job involves talking through options for results such as yours, counselling to help deal with decisions etc so if you have any questions pm me and I can have a chat to her for you. I think waiting for the 20 week scan is sensible. I really hope you get some good news from that. Look after yourself and give yourself time to process this x

NoParticular I am glad to hear it isn't just me i have bought maternity clothes too as nothing else fit properly but that's the only thing.
Hot cookie sorry you had a bad day I hope you're 20 week scan can give you some reassurance.
Emvy thanks 🙂 my school kids all have challenging behaviour - 3 in particular (out of 6!) with there being meltdowns and tantrums at least a few times a day! But luckily I have 2 fantastic assistants who take control with these students and management who couldn't be any more understanding they pop in now and again to check we are ok or if we need an extra pair of hands. As challenging as they can be I love my kids and can definitely say they keep me sane by making the weeks go by quickly.