Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is great: 024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Well said lemon drop!
I had 8 weeks off over the summer with my HG then then couple of weeks off after the miscarriage. So I’ve been in work about 5 weeks now and predict my hg will start in 2 weeks time..... will be quite difficult telling the boss I’ll be off again!!

Oh Shehz :( I hope things are better with you now. As soon as I got sick I hated my DP. It was awful. I was going to have the abortion and then leave him. But things are better than ever now, thank god.

weasle Please tell me my last reply to you didn't offend I feel as if it has somehow

seizethecuttlefish Welcome. Sorry things have kicked in so early. What meds did they give you last time? I am glad you found them effective. As you are a veteran, you don't need my 'Have you got kesostix and do you find the juice of tinned fruit, flat full sugar coke and ice lollies any good' spiel.

Shehz21 I wish I could give you a lot of cases of women on here who had steroids; a number did,and found them helpful. I certainly haven't heard that they are connected with abnormalities,but I think they scan you regularly as they sometimes are associated with a slight risk of smaller babies than you might have otherwise. However, the doctor has given them because on balance the risks to the baby's health from untreated Hyperemesis significantly outweighed the risks of taking the medicaton, and you mustn't feel guilty about taking them. I am sorry to hear that you had to go through an abortion and I am glad you have lots of support.
BlueButTrue I am sure weasledee is no more offended by whatever you than I was over something you thought I might be upset over - I can't even remember what it was! You are obviously a kind and senstitive person.
Waves to Oklahoma, BeautifulLiar Lemondrop DeadDoorPost and everyone.

Shez21 and AndInShort I am so sorry- I have cleverly missed out a sentence of my post and given my comments about steroids to Shehz21! Stupid of me. What I meant to say was just the sympathy about going through the abortion part. AndinShort I also meant to say that I didn't know about that gestational diabetes risk, but they are obliged to emphasize the risks of meds, even if low.

Lemondrop I meant to say, I so agree with you about strength of character and what women on this thread go through.

I'm feeling really down today. Just fed up of feeling ill and feel really lonely as I'm not really seeing anyone as I can't ever predict how I'm going to feel. Feel like crying I'm so lonely.

Blues! Don’t be daft, never even occurred to me to be offended
I hope people don’t mind me being here when I’m HG free!! Although it’s coming......

justtheonethen I completely get where you're coming from - I don't even text my SIL on a Friday to see if I can come round and see the kids anymore... I just don't want to let her down I can go from feeling fine to head down the toilet within 10 minutes.

I'm having to be quite spontaneous with plans.

weasle I shall fear not, it will catch up with thee soon enough I sincerely hope you have an easier ride this time though! You deserve it

I tend to find I get really tearful in the evenings once DH has fallen asleep. It always feels like he's abandoned me. Which is ridiculous. But then, he had no difficulty sleeping and I always have done.
Fear about being a parents are setting in now. I'm just so worried about turning out to be bad at it, or becoming like my own mum, or just never bonding. I've never been a fan of children, I barely liked my own siblings when they were babies. Don't know how I'm going to manage. (And please don't give me the "it's different when it's your own" spiel my dad and everyone else has told me so many times over the years I feel like I'll snap at any minute if someone else says it) it's just not what I need or want to hear for my own sanity

DeadDoorpost But

DeadDoorpost sorry pressed post by mistake.
What I meant to write was but its only normal to feel fears creeping up at your stage.
If it makes you feel any better,I feel the same about DH when I wake up at 4am staring at the ceiling and he is snoring away next to me probably dreaming about when we will be able to resume our sex life as ever since HG kicked in, we haven't been intimate at all. 3 long months now...
But yeah I am 22, we haven't been married a year yet and it scares the CRAP out of me to be a parent. Just never imagine I would be a mum at this age, I always thought of having a career,living my life to the fullest and now.. life has stopped.
You know what the other day I read a mind blowing article about a mum being dead honest on her story with her newborn and how she didn't have that rush of love or instant love at 1st sight with her child. But that didn't make her a bad mum,she was just 'managing' until the day her baby cracked his 1st smile at her. It just happened,the rush of love.
Don't worry too much about it though,I would say the same way we have been doing with HG. We take a day at a time,learn more about our new companion and try our best to manage throughout the days. There will be that one day though that it will come naturally and we will just be pros at this whole motherhood thing! [Flowers]

@justtheonethen aww we HG sufferers are all there with you love. You are not alone! We are all suffering in our beds,in our homes. Most of us, most days without friends or family. But this too shall pass like @LucindaE says!
I don't know anyone who would be more relieved than us when our water will break and contraction will begin, the end to our suffering will seem so close!

DeadDoorpost I won't lie to you, I get similar emotional feelings that are probably a lot more sinister, I'm ashamed to admit.

This baby was really tried for, I've lost 4 other pregnancies. After the first trimester, I started to resent being pregnant. It wasn't even the HG. It was the reality of "oh fuck, I've really done it now. There's going to be a baby!"

I had fleeting thoughts of giving him away etc, which is all a load of tosh. But some days I just really doubt myself. What if I'm not enough? What if I don't like this job of motherhood? Yes, I know I can't give him back and will just have to get on with it, but what if I'm always miserable?

I think my MIL hasn't helped much - if I say I want to purchase or do something differently, because that's the product of whatever I feel most confident in, she always contradicts and has an answer for everything, mostly disagreeing and making me feel stupid.

I've learnt very slowly to ignore and crack on, but it's hard as we often rely on her for little things etc.

I often wonder how the bloody hell I'll cope with a baby, I'm so tired all the time and my body no longer feels like it's own - But even the most pessimistic of mother's have advised that once baby is out, I will feel my normal self again in terms of not carrying around a huge bump, being physically weighed down with exhaustion and constantly being sick.

I feel like something is missing sometimes - All these people I see on social media pregnant at the same time and getting so incredibly excited.

I just want to feel like me again. I want to sleep again without being awake every 2 hours for no bloody reason other than insomnia. I want to stop being sick every bloody where I go.

Ah feck everyone feels like shit again!!!

Dead you really don’t know how you will feel about your baby and there really is no right way so please try not to be hard on yourself. The trick is to try and always make a wee bit time for yourself. Make sure from the start your oh does his fair share it really does make a difference. I had an awful up bringing and my parents barely had a maternal bone in their bodies which I always ponder wtf they had 3, meh. I worried I’d be like my mother, I’m the opposite I still struggle every day though with those thoughts and with baby no2 coming and me not being remotely broody I worry I won’t love this poor wee squish and shit it happens. Try not to beat yourself up with the what ifs though.

You too Blue.

Oh and toddlers are far harder to love everyday especially whilst screaming Thomas at the top of their lungs and refusing the bloody porridge they requested lol.

Shehz yeah I've been with DH for 4 years, married 2 of them and I just.. I had everything ready and lined up. I'd spied for all the jobs I wanted and one of them I was pretty much 95% guaranteed to get so to then find out I was pregnant was the worst thing in the world. I didn't want to be pregnant. I never have done. But DH has always wanted kids and I could never adopt so I guess this is how it was going to happen. The world works in weird ways.
Blue I tend to ignore my MiL as well but I'm so happy for you that despite everything you're going you get that baby. My aunt only ever had one pregnancy I believe after years and years of trying and even then it ended as a miscarriage. She didn't want to be around anyone with kids for ages it was horrible especially as my parents got pregnant soon after. I find im always happy for others just not myself.
Mustang yeah but toddlers can at least communicate with words... I will go crazy not having a conversation with someone for months except the few people I know around here. Even phoning family isn't the same. I feel sad afterwards.

I'm a different note, woken up feeling like crap again. Hoping the tablets kick in pretty quickly coz I don't feel like being sick today. And DH and I should hopefully be going to that seaside town tomorrow after last weeks spectacular vomit that mde me feel ill for 3 days. Kinda excited coz theres the promise of Treleavens icecream and chip shop chips 😍

BlueButTrue and everyone, nobody should worry about bonding; it will come, though it may not come at once. If it doesn't, just act as if you love your baby, and it will come soon enough. A friend of mine admitted - brave woman - that she even preferred her cat at first, but that didn't last! The cat was soon superseded. Because mothers who have had Hyperemesis - particularly you may not be mad about infants, but your baby will seem massively different. Soon enough, stupidly doting mothers 'Oh, s/he's obviously a genius. Did you hear the way s/he said 'Ga?'' will make sense...
justtheone Cyber hugs on offer. This is the most isolating and lonely experience. Crying is a good way of coping with it.

BlueButTrue and others - sorry, done it again, a sentence missing. That should be 'Because mothers who have had Hyperemesis, and particuarly those who have suffered thorughout, are a bit exhausted and haven't found pregnancy exactly a joyful experince, this can take time'.

Hi feel like a bit of a fraud posting here as not actually vomited yet, but I'm 6+2 and my nausea is so bad I haven't been able to leave the house today. I've tried to work from home but can only do 5 minutes at my desk before I feel so ill and have to lie down.

I'm struggling to climb the stairs at home, constantly feel on the verge of throwing up (haven't yet) feel dizzy and have had diarrhoea.

Thought of ginger biscuits and ginger tea is making me heave.

Any advice? Could this be the beginning of HG?

Not ginger bunny it’s a bloody lie!!!

You are not a fraud the nausea is easily as debilitating as the vomiting. It could be is this your first pregnancy?

Yes my first pregnancy

The nausea is worse in some ways. I suggest you get to the gp as mine prescribed when I was 'just' nauseous. It then got worse and I was vomiting constantly but with medication I can mostly cope. The nausea is still there but dulled.

And no, ginger is fucking evil.

My advice is to eat anything you can stomach at any time whatever it is. Ice lollies for hydration.
Swap pregnancy multivitamin for just folic acid and vitamin d as the iron can make it worse.
Lucinda will give you some good tips. I can't think right now!

The website in the OP is really helpful.

Hell no ginger is the worst and punch anyone who suggests it to you. It'll cause you so many problems if it develops to HG s it'll just burn your throat...
Again, ice lollies, ice cubes, grapes and watermelon are all good if you can cope with them. And please talk to your Dr before it gets worse. The earlier you treat it the easier it is to cope. I waited 8 weeks and by that point I'd already lost a stone and a bit and should have been admitted into hospital but I didn't know that at the time.

Currently keeping an eye on symptoms for preeclampsia. Just taken paracetamol for the headache that suddenly started and feeling sick. Hopefully it's not that but I've got DH on alert s well in case I try brushing off any other symptoms like I usually do

Bunnyfluffy Welcome. Sorry you are suffering. You have already had some fine advice. That certainly sounds too severe to be normal MS, and it is early days. Do get some kesostix for the early stages of dehydration; they are available from any chemists. See if you can get anti sickness meds from the doctor, emphasizing that you are unable even to sit at a desk because of the nausea. There are several safe ones these days. How are the liquids going down? Some fluids sufferers have found useful - flat full sugar coke, ice lollies, the juice of tinned fruit, ice cubes, soda water, sips of chocolate milkshake (maybe soya), Dr Pepper, Elderflower Water, Lucoazade,Fizzy Orange, Orange Juice, cocoanut milk and jelly. For foods, nibbles of crisps, cuppa soup and cheap ice cream.
justtheone and DeadDoorPost Good advice. How are things?
BlueButTrue I meant to say, did you say you had been unlucky enough to have four miscarriages? Much sympathy, if so. One is distressing enough!
Waves to Oklahoma and everyone.

Bunnyfluffy As below.
DeadDoorPost Goodness, cross posted. Do keep an eye on it. Hopefully it is hormones rather than anything sinister.