Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is great: 024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Thanks!!! 🤗 x
Yes my first sicknote for my early mc 2.5months ago was stated as miscarriage.. so that went as a pregnancy related sickness.
My sicknote i handed in on Tuesday said pregnancy related nausea. I always did make sure in the past pregnancy that it was stating pregnancy related so i was always covered. Tbh.. the back log is massive for the OH and I'll hopefully be back in work by then anyway.

Don't think I have HG but am suffering with severe NVP, is it still okay to chat on this thread or should I start another one? I know HG is mega debilitating and don't want to get in the way.

Hi bunny, and welcome. Sorry to hear you are suffering You are most welcome here. There's a wide range of sickness on this thread and HG is hard to define anyway. It's not a competition.

How far along are you? What symptoms do you have? Are you on any medication?

So it's early morning but I've not actually slept.. while I've not really suffered with constipation for a few weeks due to the root beer helping, I have suffered this week and let me tell you.. this one was a pain in the ass.
Also had the midwife phone late on Tuesday to let me know I have a new midwife.. 3rd one now since being pregnant and she apologised so much for all the hassle. Tbh I don't care as long as the baby arrives safely and the midwife is nice.
BabyDoor hasn't really moved much the last few days. Hoping he's alright as he's done this before. I'm wondering if the constipation has had anything to do with it this time though. I know I shouldn't worry too much as it's not at the 28 week when they suggest to start seeing an eye on the movements but still.
Daffodils I've been keeping up with all 8 threads of that blasted story. I commented a few times to placemark. Had me hooked for the weekend. DH kept asking me how it was going.
Nausea is a bit here and there. I've spent most of the last few days either asleep or doing art stuff. Later on today I'll be looking into setting up my own editorial job so I can work from home. Doing nothing is driving me crazy.

Tiger either tell OH you're too sick to speak to them or if you do speak to them explain that HG means you can't speak to people / leave the house / look at a screen without vomiting. I spoke to OH when I was pregnant last time and found them really supportive so it just depends who you get. They should in theory be on your side and there to support you, not to force you back to work. St the end of the day if you have a sick note and you tell them you're too sick to work there isn't a lot they can do.

I'm 12 days into the 24 week growth spurt and have nearly lost the will to live. It's just relentless. It HAS to get better soon right?

BlueeSpottyTiger I spoke to OH over the phone. At first the lady sounded a little sceptical but when I had to halt the call twice to be sick (& I just leant over the side of the bed to use my bowl, I didn't leave the room, so she would have heard me in all my vomiting glory) her sympathy noticeably increased!

Hello ladies, I hope I'm okay to post in here!

I have a DS age 12 who I had a HG pregnancy with, and before him I also had a teenage pregnancy, again with HG which resulted in jaundice and a termination.

My mum had 4 HG pregnancies and 3 dcs, as did her mum!

So.... DS is now 12, and I am now with a lovely supportive amazing partner and we would love to have a child together. We were planning to TTC end of October after our holiday but I've just had a sick bug this week and it's really shaken me. 12 years on I still freak out and pee on a stick any time I'm sick, and it's reminded me how monumentally shit a HG pregnancy can be!

Has treatment and knowledge improved?

I'm also worried as last time I was employed and just went on sick, this time around I'm self employed and a lone worker so if I'm ill it will cause big problems with my work/business.

Am I mad to want another child? It is at all possible it will be better this time around? Feeling anxious....

The OH nurse at my work is my mums friend.. she said she will have a word with her 🙈
I'm not constantly throwing up maybe only about 6/7 times a day at the moment but last time it got worse and worse. It's more about the severe nausea and dizziness.. maybe its my own fault as i will not take tablets unless absolutely necessary im a bit of a weirdo like that!
I've just been throwing up and couldn't make it upstairs so had to do it in the kitchen sink and my 18m dd was stood there the entire time laughing at me! Mum life eh 😂! Luckly i had enough time to tie my hair back!

Hi @Lemondrop99 - thanks so much, I really appreciate it, really feeling the need to talk to others who understand.

I am 8.5 weeks, have been nauseous for a while but things really ramped up this week & had a frightening and humiliating commute home from work with public vomiting & wondering how I was going to make it home. Have felt absolutely dreadful since and haven't left the house for a few days.

I take medication but it's for my mental health, it's safe for pregnancy.

I feel nauseous all the time, throwing up, the slightest odour can set me off, my OH struggling to understand that, last night he has eaten some Haribo sweets and his breath was setting me off, I think he thinks I am exaggerating but I am not. I have no appetite and feel really weak.

YourHandinmyhand I'm on my third hg pregnancy, my mum and Nana also suffered although my sister's didn't. My kids are 9 and 11. First time round I was given stemetil suppositories which worked well but were discontinued in my second pregnancy. This time round hasn't been as bad but still pretty lousy. I've got ondansetron which isn't as good as the suppositories but better than anything I was given second time. It is definitely easier having older children than toddlers as they can do more for themselves and to help.

Aww bunny, that sounds rubbish It's very hard to make someone who hasn't been through it understand, but I hope your OH learns to be a bit more sympathetic. I would suggest talking to your GP about some antinausea medication. They will likely start you on cyclizine which is an antihistamine and has been safely used for a long time in pregnant women. In the mean time, snacking frequently can help. An empty tummy makes nausea even worse. Bland salty carbs (ready salty crisps, crackers, digestive biscuits, supernoodles, mash and gravy) are your friend. Try drinking sugary drinks like lemonade, flat Coke or Lucosade which can help settle your stomach a bit, and give you an energy burst which you may be lacking if you're struggling to eat. Sip through the day if you can, so important to try to avoid dehydration. You can get ketostix from the chemist to check ketones in your urine if you think you're getting dehydrated. This is a great website too www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk But the most important thing is to please talk to your GP.

Oh dear Blue! I know what you mean about tying your hair back. I used to have a long bob but had to grow it out so I could tie it up while vomiting!

Hi YourHand. The idea of doing it again is daunting, isn't it? I'm on my first and admire anyone who does this more than once! HG care is still hit and miss between various practitioners. Some GPs are very supportive, others not so much. But help is out there. Lots of us are using the drug ondansetron (which might not have been around much previously) which is quite effective.

Door, I've had a few episodes of reduced movements. Always trust your instinct and get checked if concerned (I went in at 25 weeks). That said, plenty of room for baby to hide at that age to don't worry too much. Also, my personal theory is that a full bowel definitely affects the movement I feel. That's just from my personal experience though.

Good grief bunny! I just saw your other thread! Please ignore the person who said being sick is "part of the journey" and to embrace it!!! I've never heard such rubbish in my life. That can only have come from someone who hasn't struggled much with pregnancy sickness. It can be utterly debilitating and is in no way a 'rite of passage' or anything to be enjoyed. It's attitudes like that which stop people seeking help because they think their sickness is normal, or that they're being pathetic by not coping. Oooh I'm really quite cross now

Mel. Wow almost full term. Rem when you joined the group

Blue spotty tiger - great advice from other blue. You must make sure note says preg illness !!!!

Bunny - welcome to the group no one wants to belong to

Your hand - if had hg once then likely to have again - only you can decide if you can go through it all again

Personally I won't - once was enough and I'm grateful to have dd after 10yrs ttc

yout hand 3rd gen HG sufferer here and my nan and mum are both glad I've got tablets that can help, even though my mum still said 'I just got on with the sickness. I'd eat my way through a roast dinner while going over to the sink to be sick 3-4 times throughout it.' Yeah.. I didnt try that until I knew I could stomach the meal. Throwing up McDonald's was bad enough for me.

bipolarbunny my mum found the house smelled so bad she had to move back home with her mum. One of the signs of HG is that smells are heightened majorly. My DH used to smell and I didn't like being near him.. He's nowhere near as bad now 24 weeks on but it can stay with you for a while. But I was lucky that I was also tracking the weightloss from being sick (16% bidy weight) and he'd never seen anyone throw up as much as I had (His mum had 9 easy pregnancies, 8 of which she wasn't sick at all) so it was a big concern for him.
You're in the right place. But speak to a GP about meds as they help so so much.

My sense of smell is superhuman! I send OH to the fridge to find our what's gone bad because it smells so strong to me that I can't open the door but he can never smell anything 'off' at all so he's useless!

I'm the same. Did someone open an orange ? Oh yes, Sofia did, and she sits two doors and a corridor away. Mine is like turkey vulture level.

It never went after birth either, husband has endless Hannibal lecter jokes about it.

My husband is struggling too. He keeps saying how I'm doing better just because I got out of bed. He keeps saying how I was this sick with dd - no dear, I only lost 3% and worked full time. I've now lost nearly 10% body weight and barely left the house in 4 weeks. So miserable.

That said frequency of vomiting a little better so im hoping as I'm nearing 2nd tri it might get a little easier.

Snap on the super human smell and it not going away after pregnancy.

Not caught up yet but Bunny there is some right fannies on these threads. Any body who is anything but understanding and empathetic to your situation is completely fecking clueless. I can guarantee you if you stood face to face with these loons on here they would be nice as pie. It's really sad how vicious people can be when they are faceless. Chin up and ask to delete the thread if it's getting ridiculous.

Anatidae your post just made me laugh out loud. The supersmell is ridiculous I can't be within 100 paces of anyone who has even seen coffee in the last 24h or I puke on the spot.

Puking on the phone to Oc Health is a genius idea. I never thought of that!!

Yourhand this is my second HG pregnancy. Doing it again is mentally easier but has been physically harder. Understanding what is happening and knowing it will end helps but the extra tiredness from having other kids to look after is pretty brutal. Ondansetron is an excellent drug but has some less than fun side effects. If you do go for it we are all here to support you.

Oh yes smell!
The fridge.. the dishwasher.. the bin.. urghh! 🤢 can't stand any of them.

And omg how hard is brushing your teeth especially the back ones!

Tiger I hold my nose whilst brushing my teeth found it really helps. On the subject of smells I noticed a horrible smell under my kitchen sink and remembered smelling when I was pregnant with my daughter. Happy memories

@Oklahoma I feel the same about coffee. The coffee pot is banned from the office. However, everyone still drinking it at their desk and that makes me sick. Actually, this is my general gripe this week. Although my managers are being text book supportive (they have to, it's the NHS), it's obvious no one understands as they eat their smelly food (curry, pasta etc) at their desk. I have mentioned it but it's ignored. It makes me feel terrible.
I also went in early to work today to set up for a course we had on and I was told by my colleague that I shouldn't do it, not because I need to do less, but because she feels guilty and bad that she's not given the opportunity to support me. It sounds ok when I write it on paper, but the conversation did not feel supportive.
I left work at 1pm due to vomiting and nausea. I was tearful to my manager. I just feel like they hate me. I must be annoying them so much!!! Argh.

Thingy I also work in the NHS I found in my first pregnancy that they made promises but then didn't deliver, I then had fertility problems then a pregnancy which ended in a missed miscarriage I was under pressure to return even before I passed the baby. I am extremely lucky to be pregnant again (struggling with sickness but nonetheless lucky) I just went and got signed off from the go. I do want to work ,however, my health and pregnancy have to take priority. Are you line managers supportive?

Sorry didn't read your message properly slightly blurred vision at the moment!

@user1471462428 my line manager is text book supportive but he's a man (a very experienced emergency care practitioner) and I feel like I'm really getting on people's nerves. My GP was happy to sign me off but I am ok to work most days it's just the odd bad day when I need rest / toilet time so they said they'd write one which says amended duties / increased rest / occasional time off. They don't have to honour that. They are trying.