Anyone just found out they're preggers and want some buddies?

[CL1982]

I'm 4w5d and wondered if anyone else fancied joining me on the amazing journey to come?
First, second, third or fourth (or more!!) timers welcome!

This will be #1 after a long 18 months of miscarriages, infertility and heartache but i'm feeling super positive about this one and ready to enjoy the next few months!

Hi @CL1982. Thanks for keeping track of our growing crew.

I'm feeling better than last Wednesday, thank you. No more 30 minute unconscious spells- in fact I have managed to avoid unconsciousness entirely (except sleep which I think is allowed).

Have just been for my first swim since I found out as have been free of bleeding for a fortnight. It felt so good. Still craving strange things (today was strawberry Ribena: haven't had it since I was about 11 and it was gross; saw some when out for a walk earlier and thought 'yum'. Walked to the shops yesterday as I felt I had to have tinned sweetcorn (last eaten at uni...). Regressing big time!

@CL1982 it sounds as though you are feeling somewhat pushed into telling your employees, which isn't a good feeling. Can you give them a pep talk about not speculating about other staff medical details (in case it makes that person uncomfortable/ feel singled out/ claim risk/ none of their business). Are they the sort of employees that if you tell them they will be helpful support, or nosey parkers? Now could be a good time for laying down some boundaries. Telling them could be done while setting boundaries, but it can be done without.

I told my clerking team very early this time around (didn't tell mine last time at all as they would have been unhelpful). This time one of them has experience of his wife having had multiple Mcs before they had their kids, and the other is a father of 2 toddlers whose wife is also professional. They have been fab support. It helps me that they know as if it all kicks off into drama I can keep it brief and they'll be able to sort. I also had to tell the lead author on a text book I contribute to as he was pressuring me to take on more chapters (but I can't see why you can't - you have 10 months... ). That felt pressured but was the right decision. He backed off (and didn't kick me off the book either). I've taken the view that pretty much everyone else can mind their own business.

I'm sure your midwife has seen more chaos. Better do the messy work now rather than later.

Good luck with the scans all

Sorry - managed to randomly bold bits again. Not sure how I'm doing it. Looks like I'm quoting myself. Surely a sign of madness

That was really helpful @blueobsessive, thank you.

I don't think i should feel pressured either. I think i'll see how i feel. In many ways it would be a relief but also we said we didn't want to tell people until 12 weeks so we bloody well shouldn't do!! I may have a chat at the all staff meeting but personally....I feel like they shouldn't be involved. They aren't my boss. My boss knows where I am which is the most important thing.

What do you do - it sounds awesome :)

Just read a post about a venicci car seat handle breaking while the mum was carrying her baby in it!!! Resulted in a trip to a&e. Thought I would put it on here incase anyone was going to buy one

I'm due 28/2 at the moment... (might change)

At the end of the day if they suspect they suspect....theres probably nothing you can do about it that's just standard office gossiping isn't it. It doesn't however mean you have to tell them before you want to....its none of their business.....i got spotted in the scan department by one of my colleagues holding my maternity notes(I work in the maternity unit so it was always a risk ' last time I had my scans at a different hospital but I couldn't be bothered this tims) so I'm sure everyone at work knows now....theyre not subtle.

@CL1982 re Isabella Oliver, I got some fab stuff on eBay last time round for next to nothing, including some Isabella Oliver dresses which I wore loads at work. Definitely worth a look there. If you think about it, maternity clothes are only going to be work for 5 or 6 months so everything I got was still in pretty good condition!

Thank you @mummyGof2boys

Welcome new ladies and congratulations!

Thanks for the tip re Isabella Oliver @Sah2241 and other maternity stuff on ebay, great stuff! I hadn't thought of that.

Claire - I'm joining the choruses of 'they can mind their own bloody business!'. I'd wait a few extra weeks tbh and just smile at them over your big belly. My workmate waited until she was about 18 weeks to officially 'tell' and it was hilarious.

@CL1982 my EDD is 14th march :-)
Sorry thought I had sent it.
Welcome new ladies :-)
Exciting times ahead :-)

Yes, would love some buddies! I'm 38 and just found out for first time, 4.5 weeks... I was on contraception so this is a huge shock, and my partner is not being supportive at all. It's good to know this forum exists

@IslingtonHels congrats is this your first?

@IslingtonHels congratulations. Are you excited?

@CL1982 EDD 21.01

Scan today. Seriously nervous. Just hope it's all still ok.

Great tips on the maternity wear actually! I will totally be doing this.....

Updated:

AmandaP86x - 21/01/2018
Lauralou031986 - (Laura) DD 28/01/18
SAH2241 - 16/02/18
MummyGoftwoboys (Amy) DD 23/2/18
CL1982 (Claire) - DD 02/03/2018
kerryleanne84 -( Kerry) - DD 4/03/2018
Blueobsessive - (Blue) dd 7 /03/18
1sttime - EDD 11/03/18
Summerblush1982 - 14/03/2018
Linz - estimated DD 11/4/18
TobleroneBoo - EDD - ?
AmyMisc - 13/04/2018
YorkieDorkie - EDD - ?
Kendra95 - EDD - ?
IslingtonHels - EDD - ?

Wow congrats! am sure you will get through this one safe and by the end have a cute littlebaby in your arms , i am not expecting but i am hoping i will be joining you guys by the next month fingers crossed and everything is right about this i hope it happens now! i am excited, super duper excited :)

@CL1982 good luck. Let us know how it goes.
Just put my order in for my pram, care seat, cot etc eeeek. Super excited. Can pay them up so they will be here in January

Good luck today @CL1982 . Keeping everything crossed.

Wow @mummyGof2boys you are so organised! Hope the nausea has calmed down (or that degree of organisation is doubly impressive).

I am not doing so well at keeping out of trouble at the moment. Woke up at 545 am with contractions every 5 mins (strong enough to give rise to involuntary oooo- ing each time). Just after DH got the pile of towels down they stopped after an hour. Mercifully no bleeding (yet).Midwife said to go into epagu as this isn't normal and needs checking. Epagu were surprised that in the last week I'd got myself into 2 emergencies. Duly Scanned. Baby (hereinafter "drama llama") was waving and squiggling away like nothing was awry. No obvious cause for an hour's worth of contractions. Apparently too early for braxtons. This little one doesn't want me to have an easy life, do they?

Right- must now stay out of hospital for at least a week! It's been a busy 6 1/2 weeks of knowing I'm pregnant!

V glad not to have been in Switzerland. Today was to have involved 2 hrs 45 mins train and a flight home. Glad to avoided that.

@CL1982 I don't want this to alarm you, with your hols booked in the autumn. We were glad to have the travel insurance number and midwife in my phone, mat notes carried at all times, ehic card on us and hubby got clearance from insurers before calling ambulance (or they would not have covered). Also, I'm a lawyer, so the next morning when phone wrestling with the insurers to get us home I could make pretty short work of their payment avoidance tactics (I counted 6 attempts at their end). Had we not had any of these things it would have been a right royal bother so might be worth being prepped with these in advance of travel. In the end, it was alarming but was actually ok and baby seems to have sailed through blithely unaffected (if giving my nerves rather a shredding on the way).

@blueobsessive shall we just put you down now 😂😂 what a week!!! So glad baby is ok. No wonder your poor nerves are shattered. Hopefully that's you done for a while. Good advice regarding the insurance etc.

The sickness is still just as bad but I wanted to get everything ordered as the shop allows you to pay it up. I thought order it now and have more time to pay it. Also with two of my own children and a childminding business I thought if I didn't do it now it would get out to the back burner. Just made sense. Ordered the out and about as I'm always walking off road.

Oh @blueobsessive what on earth shall we do with you. I'm glad everything has settled down.

@CL1982 I'm still.not on the list edd is 28/2 at the moment.

I'm still plodding along and shattered mostly. One of my oldest friends was meant to come and visit a month or so back but cancelled due to work which was fine but she messaged yesterday asking if she could rearrange for next week....i should have just said no but I didn't feel like I could and it's not that I don't want to see her I'm just not exactly the most sociable of people at the moment - so now I'm cross with myself for not just saying no because I know it's going to stress me out. My sister has literallyvjist gone and DH and I are working back to back nights (he's on 4 then I'm on 2) finishing Sunday morning and I really don't want visitors next week. Am I being unreasonable. I think I'm just grumpy today.

Welcome to the newbies. @CL1982 how was the scan today?

@islingtonhels...congratulations...my partner was the same with my first....took him a good few months so come round but he's an incredible dad and unbelievably our relationship is stronger for it. Hope your partner gets on board quickly xxx

@SS81C that's. It being unreasonable. Just make an excuse up about work or something lol

@MummyG I should have just said no. I'll see how I feel over the weekend. To be honest - worst case she comes and she can entertain the toddler and make me tea - haha - she would be totally ok with that. She knows I'm pregnant and shattered.

@SS81C oh if she knows your
Pregnant then just go with the flow. She will understand if you just want to
Chill out.

Hey ladies!

All went well. Win Nugget doing best full frontal/peanut/nodding cat impression and all looking good! We had a trainee doing the pics so it was pretty grainy

@blueobsessive thanks for the advice!! I will check and let them know for sure

@SS81C I'm so sorry!!! I'll get on that asap.

I want to comment on a lot more but work have had a crack down on desktops and so I'm using the app. Which is interesting..... 😂 can't see what I'm replying to as it only shows my typing screen. Bugger.....

Ah!! @mummyGof2boys yes say no if you need to. I am being very selfish at the moment. Def the best way to be.

Told work in the end-well, my team. They were being pains in the arses bless them but were lovely.

@CL1982 congrats on the scan!

@blueobsessive - OMG!! You poor thing. Hope that is the last of the drama for a while now!

@islingtonhels welcome and congratulations. I'm in the same boat as while myself and my 5 year old are delighted about my pregnancy, my husband is really not. We were trying but he'd been very reluctant and I know was secretly hoping it wouldn't happen. I know he will come round once the baby is born as he's a great dad and think he just needs some time to get his head around it, but it can feel quite lonely as I can't share my excitement with him at the minute. Hopefully your husband will come round in time xxx