Staying posifrickentive- Thread 17 for ladies pg after mc

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Hope you all find this one ok!

Spotting again today at 8 weeks. Booked into epau for Thursday. Feel much less sick today too but hoping it's because I've done nothing all day.

Hugs bean I wish you a green and yakky day tomorrow and a good scan on thursday. It is such a horrible hard time to get through.

Oh bean fingers crossed I have been feeling less sick today and been munching all day when ive had no appetite for over a week also hoping to hug the toilet tomorrow fingers crossed for you can't imagine getting through another 6 weeks of this panic and that's just the first 12 weeks 😣

Fingers crossed for you bean hopefully it's nothing to worry about
minnie I felt less sick earlier and was worried, but it came on this evening, couldn't eat my dinner, I'm in bed as I'm so exhausted and thinking about a pot noodle (only thing I can stomach!).
My symptoms come and go too, I'm sure you're fine

Glad it went well with your appointments today @Brenna24 and @mogufield.

@peachgreen hugs to you and hope it turn out to be nothing/normal.

I had my 16 week appointment today and I thought it was going well until she asked me if I am feeling depressed. At that point I just started crying and couldn't stop and just spent half the appointment being comforted by the MW. She was lovely and told me as hard as it as to think positive thoughts that I am going to have this baby. I was pregnant this time last year and it ended in an MMC

The good thing about this afternoon though is I heard the little heartbeat and that put a smile on my face and gave me a little hope.

The next stage for me now is the 20 week scan at the end of the month. So far away...

Hows every1 doing been gone for a while. Good news brown discharge/bleeding has stoped. But every tue i get this strong pain in my right side so weird like i had this last tue then i was ok & now again today but worse. All day i was in pain no idea why & what it is. Midwide said dont worry its growing pain but REALLY? Is it supose to be this painfull???

Sweetyboo I'm glad you don't have that worry anymore, at least! I think it's different for everyone; a girl I work with said she was in agony with the ligament pain, whereas I felt a bit of it but just more like a stretched/sore muscle rather than truly painful.

For everyone else in the same window as me (I think that's Miami, peachgreen, Sweetyboo, Utter, Brenna, JCLeRoux), I am also filled with doubt until I get to the check-up and hear the heartbeat, and then really until I feel baby moving/my bump starts growing. It's not the extreme anxiety of the first trimester as I know the chances of things going right are so much higher now, but it's still there. I do prenatal yoga videos and she tells me to "greet your baby," but I feel like a fraud doing that still. I don't have a big bump yet either (I had a very slim waist before so it's definitely visible to me and those who know me, but if you didn't know me before you would just think I had a tummy!) Another of my friends who had a MC before her healthy pregnancy (and is now coincidentally on her second, due less than 2 weeks after me!) said she found the time between the scan and feeling movement very difficult, too. Counselling always helps, imho, as does having a very understanding partner! Xx to all in this particular boat!

Really hope the spotting has stopped and you feel grim again today bean.

Brenna I'm glad it went ok , though definitely a shame she hadn't read the notes in advance. Hopefully all will be looking good next Tuesday.

Mogul I remember last time the midwife telling me I should be talking to my bump (or at least, where the bump would be) etc to start bonding. It feels cruel now, to have to start doing that when I know I might never get to meet this one. Glad everything seemed normal for you. Fingers crossed for a smooth few weeks to your scan.

I'm 6 and a half weeks. I've known for three weeks. I've got to the point where I'm so scared I feel close to tears nearly all the time. I know tears are probably hormonal too, but I really, really hate this. I just don't know when it's going to go away. Counting down the days until booking appt a week Sunday. And I have a private scan booked for reassurance in a fortnight. I still don't really have symptoms apart from tiredness. My boobs don't even really hurt, which I think is scaring me most, as that seems to be such a universal symptom!

Yep feel awful. In fact basically have realised that if I do nothing I'm ok but even walking down the stairs makes me feel yucky.

How are you doing today Bean? I hope all is well and you feel as sick as a dog. Sending you all the strength I can muster.

How lovely you have heard the heartbeat JC.

That is good news Sweety. You do get pains as things move around and ligaments etc. stretch. That is quite normal.

I am still first trimester WMcL I have never heard a heartbeat for any of mine yet.

Hugs Dancing. It is an interminably long wait. Lack of symptoms is ok. Some people don't get many. My mum never did. She felt a little queasy first thing in the morning, ate something and was fine after that. Having lots of symptoms and losing them would be more worrying, although even that can end up ok too.

I still feel nauseous pretty much all the time. I am now at least 8+2 and by now during my MMC my symptoms were fading and I had never felt as sick as I did this time round. I am starting to find some hope for this one. Only a very slim thread, but it is there. Less than a week to my next scan too.

I have had a bit of a melt down today. Sickness has gone 😣😭 I'm meant to be in work tonight I've ended up ringing in. Spoke to epu this morning who said they don't normally see you for this as symptoms can come and go but explained my history and the fact this had only ever happened to me with my mmc and they've asked me to get my gp to refer I'm scared waiting for gp to call absolutely starving today roo after not feeling hungry for days

Hugs Minnie. I know just how you feel. Mine did it 10 days ago after some bleeding and it felt so like my MMC. But mine came back. I hope both yours and Beans do too. Keep strong and keep going.

www.glamour.com/story/actress-melissa-rauch-announces-pregnancy-and-reflects-on-miscarriage

This is very well written. It is good to see people speaking out on the subject and getting things so right.

Brenna thank you so much for sharing that. (Although I shouldn't have read it at my desk!!)

I think right now I'm aiming for one hour at a time. I'll progress to days later on I hope!

Brenna
Thanks I read that earlier and thought it was very well put together. Jeepers and they had her be pregnant on the show too, which must have been a complete head melt for her.

Had my mw appt earlier. She refused to listen for heartbeat. I got a bit upset. I understand that it is just their policy but now I am losing my mind. Looks like closest scan place has gender scans available on Saturday. May just do it.

Miami if you can afford it, I would. It will ease your mind for a moment. If she had listened for a heartbeat and not been able to find one you would be even more scared. I know that's not reassuring, and hopefully doesn't come across as insensitive. I completely understand that you are desperate to know everything is still ok in there.

Oh I know dancing I would have freaked if she couldn't find it and I completely understand her reasoning. Just hard when loads of others seem to have the hb listened to at 16wks.
Gender scan is £59. Think I will just book it today. Will see what DH has to say. We have managed to avoid private scans this time round as in previous pregnancy it was a private scan that showed the slow heartbeat and lack of growth and the scan centre didn't really deal that well with it. Anyway will see where we get to this evening.

Sorry Dancing. I should have warned people to read it in private.

So sorry you didn't get to hear the heartbeat Miami. I am seriously considering a private scan about 16 weeks if I am struggling. I am trying to avoid them early on, but that 8 weeks where symptoms are wearing off and you can't feel them move yet sounds to me like a new form of hell (if I get that far naturally).

@Miami81 my midwife didn't listen for a heartbeat at 16 weeks and it really upset me, especially as it seemed that the rest of the world seemed to do it.

I had a private gender scan at 16 weeks which was amazing, that's when I started to allow myself to be excited about this pregnancy.

@Miami81 where are you being treated as they seem to be bellends from a couple of things you've said. Let me tell you; when I had my 16w appt (at 15w) the midwife chirping said "ok, so how's it all going?" to be confronted by me going "I am absolutely convinced something has gone wrong and I have nothing at all to base this on".

She got the Doppler out then and there.

I'm actually angry for all of you who aren't getting dopplered at ~16w. You've had previous mc's ffs. What more do you have to do to qualify?

26w today. Baby is wriggling happily and following scan yesterday I now know that the latest he'll arrive is 27 October; if no natural labour by 41w then its CS time. Im ok with this. Am letting myself get a bit excited. I just want to meet him. I want to just hold him in my arms and just cross the finish line.

Ps; my blood sugar is ok again meaning I have no idea where the kilograms of sugar from all the sweeties I'm consuming is going...

Oh @Miami81 that's rubbish of her to not listen to the hb. Surely there are exceptions policies. I'm so sorry

I would go ahead and book a scan too.

I am going to a private scan on Sunday because I also assumed they wouldn't use the Doppler. But also because we are telling our DS (6) about the baby.

Thank you @DancingUnicorn. I love the heading 'In my heart until it's in my hands' been repeating it ever since I read it.

Had a scan at epu who were lovely scam showed a little bub with a heartbeat so for now I can say today I am pregnant... reassuring that most things that go wrong would do so before the heart begins to beat but also well aware it can still go devastatingly wrong and I'm worried at lack of nausia nurse did say nausia is usually the last symptom to go in a mc usually long after a heart beat stops or fails to start so trying to be positive

Scan had me at 6w 1d but apparently not that accurate yet I'm 6 w 4d by lmp so it's not far off tbh