Staying posifrickentive- Thread 17 for ladies pg after mc

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Hope you all find this one ok!

That is great news Pattern. Now many weeks are you now?

Glad to hear you are feeling rubbish (and therefor pregnant) Minnie. Tell your husband that if you look hard enough there will be a study somewhere showing everything results in an increased risk of miscarriage - and cancer, things always give you cancer too.

I have been feeling quite crap most days since Tuesday too. I am really quite enjoying knowing things feel a bit different from my mmc.

I'm 10+5 now and baby is measuring spot on for dates.

Sorry you both feel crap Brenna and Minnie but also yay for feeing crap meaning you're pregnant! I have felt a little better the last couple of days, but still not really got an appetite to speak of. I've had a blinding headache all day today but apparently my mum also did when she was pregnant so it's not unexpected! Couple of paracetamol and some caffeine seems to do the trick- even though I don't usually drink caffeine even when not upduffed!!

My OH went out on his stag so last night so is currently feeling very rough and I think he now has an appreciation of how crap I felt for the last few weeks! I found him sat on a chair in the collecting yard for the parlour this morning when I took him breakfast. Bless him!! Wedding is on Saturday so I have a super busy week coming up!! Cannot believe how fast the last year has gone!!

I'm really struggling with the nausea as well minnie, I seem to average throwing up about once a day at the moment. I'm hoping it means all is well.

I'm still brown spotting, that's nearly two weeks now. I called the EPU on Friday and they seemed very unbothered about it, just said to call if it turns red. It's still really stressing me out though, especially as this was a sign of my MMC last time :(

That's hard anxious. I hope it stops for you. For now, I hope the nausea is providing some comfort at least. I so desperately hope to get out of these early weeks. I'm hoping there will be some enjoyment and relaxation later down the line...

Brilliant news pattern. Must be so lovely to see. I'm still haunted by the stillness last time... Really exciting about the wedding. :D

I am trying to take positives from feeling rough but unfortunately with my mmc I had these symptoms they just didn't get worse and eventually faded. I had hyperemesis with my other DC so fingers crossed I'm hugging a bucket for 11 hrs most days with in the week still not sure I'll relax. I have booked a private scan a week on Thursday should be 7+5 weeks then so hopefully will get a little bean with a Hb fingers crossed

Anxious I'm sure lots have peeps have said this but usually it's fine just hormones usually my friend had the same in her case it was twins! I hope your ok the stress is awful

Thanks minnie. The stress is just horrible! I'm just waiting for something to go wrong and trying my best to not get attached

@minniemouseears i totally hear you.. a week ago at 6 weeks i was literally saying out loud "i just want to feel horrible" and panicking because i wasn't... just queasy.. however, at 6+6 i got my wish and HOLY CRAP did i get my wish. 24 hour a day horrible, body overtaking nausea. and I AM SO GRATEFUL!! ha..well as well as being miserable. When i feel this bad the focus is on feeling bad, not panicking about another mc. So that's something.

anxious I worry about a MMC, my midwife asked about my symptoms and she just said I had nothing to worry about. A MMC is rare and from what she was saying a MMC with symptoms is still rarer. I know it's easy for me to say!
pattern what's a collecting yard for a parlour? I'm intrigued!
Still feeling rubbish here as well, very sick and very tired. And still eating crap, as it's all I can stomach. I read somewhere that gestational diabetes is more likely if you eat processed carbs and don't exercise (my life at the mo!) so I went for a litttle bike ride sat and might try and swim tomorrow.
It's so hard when you feel like crap!

mogul it is where you gather all the fairies cows so that they can go into the milking parlour and get milked.

I think the mmc thing is such a huge horrible thing - I can't even trust that because I haven't miscarried that all is well.

I have had mild cramps all this weekend. It is about when my next period would be due too. I am hoping that it is either just things stretching or a hangover from the fact I should be having a period. No bleeding since wednesday though and I feel pretty rough a lot of the time. I have done as little as possible this weekend.

Brenna it is exactly that! Even the lack of mc isn't particularly good comfort.

Hahaha, I said that about the window last week Utter. That is exciting if you have felt any flutters at all though. Fingers crossed you will get something more regular soon.

Oh my word I feel like I am loosing my mind. I am 16+1 and tomorrow is my second miscarried babies due date. Now I know that I am being irrational but I lost my second pregnancy pretty much on the due date of my first pregnancy. So now I just feel like I am waiting for it all to go radically wrong again, with this my third pregnancy.
I like @AnUtterIdiot have a little more padding around my middle and whilst there is definitely something that feels bump like it is no bigger then it was a week and a half ago. I feel like all symptoms are gone, I can eat normally again (had been getting uncomfortably full, now fine) not at thirsty as I was, even feel like the big blue veins on my arms have faded a bit. Don't think I am peeing as much either.
I have my MW appointment on Wednesday and I will speak to her about my fears but she said previously she doesn't look for hb until 22 weeks so she will probably refuse to check for me. I am too anxious to get a Doppler myself and I just think that really will send me over the edge.
The logical part of my brain knows that I just have to get through the next few days but I genuinely feel so anxious and worried. I am being a complete bitch to DH, it finally clicked with him why yesterday when I eventually told him it was our due date.
I think now that I have written all that down I might ring my counsellor and see if I can get in to see her this week, may speak to DH about a private scan as well. I have one in 2 weeks but don't know if I can wait that long. Sorry for ranting.
Utter idiot I know how you feel, one of my friends described the 8 weeks between the 12 wk and the 20 wk as the worst hell of pregnancy. Here to hold your hand, I am sure everything is fine with your wee babies (there are two aren't there?) I am struggling to keep everyone's details sorted in my head.

Hugs Miami. Hang in there. Could you get a private can to fill in the gap? They are cheaper in the second and third trimesters.

Oh @Miami81 I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. I reckon it's the illlgical stuff that does more damage. It's like we can't be talked out of any of it, we feel what we feel and that's that. I think making time to see a counsellor is a good idea. And writing it all down too. Hope you're ok. Hoping the midwife appointment on Wednesday reassures you.

@AnUtterIdiot I'm also in the annoying stage where I don't properly look pregnant yet but also have a small bump that looks more like I've had a big lunch. It's annoying. I bought clothes online and they arrived at the weekend and I literally cried with frustration. They're all too big!

I have my 16 week midwife appointment tomorrow. I find that lately I'm taking on a lot of unnecessary anxiety. Like over the weekend my friend was telling me about her friend who miscarried later in pregnancy. Now I've taken that as mine and making myself go mental. It's never ending. I find this period between 12 weeks and 20 weeks just too long to go without any kind of assurance. So much so that I'm filling my head with fear. Hoping I'll feel better tomorrow after my appointment.

Thanks Brenna, JC and Utter. Feeling slightly more positive today. It is just this feeling that I am waiting for the inevitable that I really can't shake.
Anyway will speak to mw tomorrow and try and stay calm.
All the best to you. I hadn't realised we were so close in dates JC.

Just had my booking in appointment. First question "Is this your first?" I guess she hadn't looked at my notes first then Apart from that it all went well. I am on higher strength Folic acid just in case and she is putting me into the high risk, consultant led care for the first part of this pregnancy until we are well past danger point (although we are really not that far off it now anyway). My BP, urine etc were all fine and bloods have been taken. 12 week scan date should be through in the next couple of weeks.

Glad it went well Brenna. It's a shame she hadn't read notes properly. Mine had which just made me like and trust her instantly. I am sure your one will up her game. Great that all baseline info is fine.
Just been to the metabolic clinic as am high bmi. Basically just loads of sitting around to be weighed and have my bp taken. The dietitian who was the only one I wanted to speak to wasn't there today!! Ah well.

brenna I've seen my midwife today for booking in bloods/bp etc, all looked fine (obviously can't tell the blood looks fine just by looking at it!). Mine didn't have any notes at all as I've moved area so I had to go through everything (2 Mcs 1 of them missed, looonnnggg labour that went very wrong, lots of medical detail to convey). She was lovely though and came to my house (good service I thought!).
Just waiting for my 12 week scan letter now, same as you, we can wait together
It's funny she was talking about the birth and my choices and I hadn't even really given it a thought as I just want to get past the 12 week scan first.

I treated myself to a cream cake to cheer myself up. My first pregnancy they asked me at the booking in where I wanted to give birth. This time they didn't. We concentrated more on my history and extra risk factors because of it and how they are going to deal with it.

Shame the dietician wasn't there. I hope you get to see them soon. I am heavier than I have ever been but I knew that before going in and the midwife wasn't concerned - 30.3 isn't that bad really.

Brenna no chat whatsoever about birth options for me. I am consultant led for 3 different reasons so I will be in a hospital bed and hoping for no c-section, although accepting that it may be best for everyone if it is a c.
Mogul I know what you mean about getting to the 12 wks, my mw at 9'wks kept talking like the baby was a reality, whereas I was still very much protecting myself and being very cautious about it.

If I make it through the first trimester and don't develop any problems then I can go back to normal care. But they want to see me get through this.

Like you Mogul and Miami I am doing this in little stages. Stage 1 - get pregnant. Stage 2 - get to booking in. Stage 3 scan at 9/10 weeks - next tuesday. If we still have a heartbeat then, then I can aim for the 12 week scan. No way can I think further than that.

My niece, who miscarried just after my first mmc, has just had her 20 week scan today on her second pregnancy. All is totally perfect. As of yet she has not enjoyed this pregnancy or been able to see it as far as labour and a baby. I hope today helps for that. Apparently they did get to see the baby do a double footed kick right to her bladder which made her pee herself a bit. Everyone in the room laughed quite a lot.