Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

peace Ooh, this sounds exciting! I do hope it is the loss vomit.
Hollyhop A very good post. Very sad, of course... I am glad they put it up. You've had great advice about sick leave and maternity pay. I am not up to date on these matters...
Mellee You poor thing! I am glad that beer swilling guest has gone. I had to smile about two babies on your bladder.
FlapAttack I hope you are well enough to go back after half term. Ah, you're a teacher, then. We do tend to have a high percentage of women on this thread who are teachers.
Mustang Never worry about tmi. There is nothing that is off limits here...

No real labour signs yet, but I haven't been sick for ages and ages, at least a couple of weeks I think. Until today. I'm ready to start the eviction process now.

Was sick in labour with DS so am willing to accept there might be one more.

I'm still lurking and cheering everyone on in my head! You're all doing brilliantly.

We are actively TTC (no "luck" thus far) and every failed month I am secretly a little relieved at having put HG off for a little while longer. But also frustrated at the age gap increase with MiniDrifter as I wanted it as close to 2 years as possible. It's an odd mental dissonance!

Peace this is very exciting! I too was puking en route to the hospital and during labour but by then I could have cared less! Thinking of you and everyone

Ooh Peace I hope so for you!!! Fingers crossed!

LucindaE yes a teacher! Felt awful going on sick as have exam classes but I truly was no good to anyway and needed to be off! I let myself get too run down staying at work so long and was just getting more and more out of control with the vomiting.glad I took you advice and had this extra week off too. I could have probably dragged myself back in but as I am still struggling at home it would hve been a silly move! Fingers crossed after half term I am well enough for the home run!

Mellee thank you! Can't believe I am half way! Some days that's so exciting others it's. . Ahhh only half way!!!! Haha. Lovely to have two babies sleeping on you.. poor bladder haha

Flossy let us know how you get on at the Dr... aim for 3 weeks I say so you never have to step into your work again!

TwoDrifters Ahh I was you for a year. Took a year to fall pregnant .. my DH husband wanted a 2 year gap originally and I wanted a 3.5 year one so first one could attend preschool and I be able to do drop offs and pick up a for the first year while on maternity. We ended up with a 3.5 year gap haha. We are both actually relieved it took a bit longer than we thought as it's meant ds has been old enough to udberstand about me being sixk and isn't too confused and upset.. or bothered about having more daddy time whereas when he was a bit younger he still wanted me all the time . I had the same feeling if hope and dread all at once.. I was sooo excited to see the blue lines and then I panicked for the next few weeks thinking oh no when will it start! ! It can't be worse than lsst time I thought .... Haha good old hormones blocking out the worst of the memories. I will be writing myswlf a strongly worded letter before this one is born to make sure no number 3! Fingers crossed for you xxx

Waves to all

peacelove very exciting, hope things getting moving soon.

Waves to everyone else.

I've been missing in action a bit because, well I've been doing a whole lot better and I'm never sure if that would make people feel better or worse to share!

I'm 25 weeks now and while the exhaustion is a bit much some days I have no more sickness or even nausea. I won't lie I feel like a new person. I had a different personality in my darkest days and was so so low. This place was really a life line so those in the thick of it I hope you are taking some comfort from this thread.

I returned to work last week and so far so good. I'm part time so that is helping and fairly flexible with regards to working from home so feel very fortunate. I'm nervous it will creep back up on me but trying to enjoy a new lease of life for now while not over doing it which is a real temptation and has scuppered me a few times.

I will still check in and hope to give back as much as I can. Still so grateful there is a place for all of us thanks to mother hen!

One thing to add which I am blaming on HG on is my lack of excitement in this pregnancy. I was really aware of it returning to work when people were saying you must be so excited to have a girl this time etc. Of course I said yes but the truth is I still feel a bit flat on that front. My dh has picked up on it and I think he's a bit worried. Just wondered if anyone else has felt or is feeling the same?

Ah Magnum no thats suxh lovely news and gives me hope! !!! Hope it continues.

I am 20 weeks tomorrow and starting ti feel a little better and have only just starting really thinking about baby and that's only on my good days ... I think it's totally normal. When you're so unwell your body and brain can't even think past survival so a baby just doesn't seem real.. that hiw I felt when people were a dig me if I was excited or to think about the "magical" thibg that is pregnancy rather than focusing so much on sick. I prefered to focus on the sick haha as thinking about baby only reminded me of how far i had ti go!!!

And I just got this message from my SIL

"When's your scan? I know what you've got is awful & wouldn't wish it on anyone but I'm so huge now, I could have done with some of your symptoms 😘"

😤😤😤😤😤😤

Good job she lives a long away away so I can't go and ginger her up as the poster was explaining about the other day

Thanks flapattack

As for your sister in law she really has no idea does she?! It's hard to know whether to laugh or cry at a comment like that. And when I say laugh I mean cackle incoherently as you plan her demise

One thing I've had since being back at work is a few women taking me aside and telling me they had HG too. It's like a secret club! They KNOW the hell! Everyone else can sympathise but unless you've been through it I think it's really hard for people to comprehend

Holly: will read your blog tomorrow. I went of at 34 last time and am going off at 34 this time as I just don't want to be at work. 34 also means I go back at the start of the Easter hols next year, so it's nicely timed, rather than if I stuck it out a bit longer and went back half way through a half term. I would defo try the sick note. I'm coping at work at the moment but my symptoms haven't been as bad so far 3rd trimester as yours. My workplace is also a nicer environment than yours sounds like. You don't need the stress. Definitely have some nice ideas and plans for the time off though. I found the weeks dragged a little all on my own last time. This time they will probably be filled with stressing about moving and trying to do some packing and not worrying about what will happen if baby comes before we move... that's if we get the mortgage of course.

Mellee: glad the guest will be gone soon. Many sympathies for the bladder. Baby likes to gig/punch/hug mine. Woo for 27 weeks as well.

Flap: the pressure between guilt for not being at work and with your classes vs the guilt of not really being able to do a good job if you are there is hard one to balance. Kudos for trying. I stayed off till 21 weeks as the vertigo and HG just made it seem worse. Thankfully my current timetable has few classes so I can just about cope. I dread to think what I would have been like at work when I was much worse. Glad you've taken time off when you need it and fingers crossed you're feeling up for the challenge after half term.

Magnum: I always have the same thought and yet I was reassured by others posting about their 2nd and 3rd trimesters during my worst moments. Also, I'm pretty certain most of us have lacked excitement and positive feelings about pregnancy. I know I have gone through various 'grieving' phases because it's not 'normal' or how I imagined it might be 2nd time around. I have pretended more excitement than I've felt quite a lot. Most of the time I just want it over and my thoughts are centered on how to cope with how long is left and trying not to worry about stuff, rather than yay I'm having a baby. I've had a few OMG I'm having a baby panic moments too if that helps anyone.

My HG is back to my current normal standards after last week, which is a relief, but the cold does not seem to be going anywhere and in fact the cough is worse which sucks. I hope there have been some good days out there.

Waves to everyone and sends best wishes

Haha thanks Magnum... I just read my husband your reply as a model answer rather than his nervous laughter and "ah she just means well" response !!

Flap that's appalling! You wouldn't say that to someone with an ED so why HG?

Haha I know! !! It's shocking. She doesnt think before she opens her mouth and always says outrageous things but this one really takes the (ginger) biscuit.

I almost replied with something very funny (albeit very rude and wildly inappropriate) but managed to rise above it to save my husband 's ears haha

Omg flap I would be raging! Not sure I could keep my mouth shut if someone said that to me.

After one of my worst days yesterday, today was a pretty good day. Which is great as my house guests arrived. They have been so great and understanding. I've had great fun playing with their baby and getting cuddles. It is really cheering me up because we were TTC for 18 months and I was worried this visit would be hard for me if I still was not pregnant by the time they arrived. Soon I'm going to have one of those all to myself :)

I kept going until dinner then just ran away to bed leaving everyone else to tidy up as I started feeling nauseous. Definitely lucky to have so many supportive people around.

Satsoooma - so jealous! It's nice to have compassionate people around. Rather than those who leave a trashed room. So glad my house as my own again.

Flap - I have said in the past, I've never had nicer abs than after 3 months of puking everything, but to have someone be so blase about HG is pretty horrendous. Generally most pregnant people come to me and say 'OMG, I threw up once a day for a week, I don't know how you coped'. Last time I was pregnant same time as my SIL (due a day apart even) and it's actually really hard to be compared to another pregnancy. Good luck for your scan!

Magnum - the only people who know I'm pregnant this time around, is close family and any friends that have happened to visit. Otherwise no one knows. I don't want to be congratulated for getting pregnant, I'm happy to wait to be congratulated for surviving pregnancy.

TwoDrifters - we wanted 2.5yrs gap, took us 8 months for DD, so started trying 8 months before the gap we wanted. Got pregnant first time and quite literally freaked out. Good luck with TTC, and enjoy all the food while you can!

Waves to all

melleebacca I have wondered the same thing about abs. Most of my muscles have wasted away lying on the sofa (holding the baby wa s actually really hard work). But between vomiting and constipation I feel like I must have amazing stomach muscles!

Hi ladies, hoping I can join you...

I am so fed up. I can't keep fluids down properly and have a nasty headache most of the time. I'm now bringing up blood with the sick because it feels like a small tear in my oesophagus.

Last night I cried through sheer pity of myself and wondered how I can manage a possible 4+ months of this yet.

I'm currently 14+5 and sickness has gotten worse during the second trimester. I just can't take it anymore.

Family are cautious of my work and insist I should try a day etc but I can hardly manage to sit up in my own bed without throwing up.

I started this job less than two months ago so not a good look

Gosh zoflora that sounds bad. Are you getting any treatment from your GP or a hospital?

HelLo Zoflora. So sorry to hear you're having such a crap time :( sometimes sitting on the bathroom floor wailing in self pity is exactly what you need to do!

I thonk 14 weeks is such a tough time for people with HG as thus is the promised time where people.say it gets better (ha) but that isn't the case for most people this HG. .. in fact my worst weeks were between week 9 and 15.

Have you been to dr yet? Any medication? Tear sounds horrid :( please go and be checked out.. you may be very dehydrated and need a drip. Sorry if this is stuff you've already heard. With my first I didn't get help as I just thought I was not coping as well as everyone else and I hadn't heard of hg.. I got so unwell.

Lots.of lovely people.on here and someone more coherent will be along soon to give you more advice and words of encouragement! You're doing great. Don't look at those 4 months. Get to the end of today.. that's all you need to.worry about for now.

Rest rest rest as best you can

Zoflora I remember your post from last night now...I was the one who directed you here. Don't take no for an answer from Dr about seeing you.. or get yourself to A and E if they really won't see you.. call early pregnancy assessment centre on maternity waRd?

Hello all,

Thanks for the replies and thank you to the lovely lady who redirected me here.

I was on a sort of travel sickness medication that was prescribed to me at 7ish weeks, I ran out of it at 12 weeks and foolishly didn't get any more. It didn't really do much but it certainly took the edge off of the nausea.

I'm now taking nothing. SIL has advised me to request Cyclizine? She had horrid sickness until 23 weeks and swears it helped her. But a lot of the reviews are that it does help with the vomiting but not the actual nausea, which is bloody killing me at the moment. I'd rather have a broken leg... At least it's manageable!

I've been keeping fluids down so far today but food is still a no go. I booked in with my GP about 4 weeks ago as that was the only appointment they had available. That appointment is at 10 today so fingers crossed I get somewhere

Take a look at the NHS guidelines on what can be prescribed.cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

There are loads of meds to try. Cylizine is often prescribed first but from the sounds of it you could do with something stronger.

Try cyclizine.. I was worried like you about it stopping the vomiting Whixh Brought a little relief at least but not helping the nausea.

For me it worked wonders. Reduced vomiting and cut down nausea by about 70 per cent I would say. Lots say it makes you v tired and zombie ish and it probably did for me but at the time I was so ill that I didn't even notice any change.

I did come off it 2 weeks ago now things have eased slightly and am.doing ok but between week 9 and 18 it was a godsend and if I was a bit late taking a pill then I knew about it!!

Try it.. it works for some people but not so well for others but I was pleasantly surprised how much it helped me and within a day or so too

I lost you!!! Oh the panic...

We've moved. I'm back in bed but we managed move. Will post more later.