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Miscarrying at 10 wks can anyone tell me what to expect

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 09:26

It's happening on its own and I am scared. The embryo died at 8 weeks. It measures 1.6cm. I don't think it has come out yet but I've been bleeding for 12hrs, started with pink spotting 36hrs ago. Now it's red but not flowing like AF. Nothing comes out unless I go to the loo. I'm not in much pain yet.

I can call GP on Monday morning or go to EPU. I guess they need to check it has all come out.

Has anyone experienced this and how long did it take to pass the embryo? Would I be crazy to go to work tomorrow?

Sorry if this is in the wrong topic. I couldn't see a miscarriage / pregnancy loss section.

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deste · 14/05/2017 09:35

The embryo came out soon after the bleeding got heavy, I knew immediately what it was. I had to go to hospital shortly after for a D&C. Please don't go to work, apart from people asking how the pregnancy is going which will be very sad for you, I think you might feel a bit weak. Thinking of you, take care.

DaisyChainsForever · 14/05/2017 09:35

Hi Squirrel, so sorry you're going through this. Do you have any support there with you? I miscarried at a similar time, I definitely noticed when I lost the embryo, even tho it was only small. There is a miscarriage section under the Body & Soul heading, you might find some useful threads in there. x

NovaArt3mis · 14/05/2017 09:37

So sorry you're going through this OP.

I had similar situation in Feb. Miscarried naturally at 10+4 with the heartbeat stopping at 8+2 so a similar size.

I'd recommend not going to work. I bled for a few days then very suddenly I had moderate pain/cramping and was very glad to be at home when it happened.

It didn't go ideally for me and I ended up having to go to hospital as there was a blockage at the neck of the womb. But in general I think a few miserable hours on the toilet and you will pass the majority of it. Make sure you have lots of water, snacks, painkillers and someone on hand incase you're finding it too painful. You can probably call the EPU out of hours if you have any concerns tonight.

Flowers for you.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 14/05/2017 09:39

Sorry you are going through this.

I mc at home alone last year - thought I was ten wks but no hb at 8.
Started off spotting then heavier.

Actually had a few hours of contractions that caught my breath. .
An urge to push and I caught my tiny one. .
Sounds urgh but it was quite comforting to have the chance to say goodbye.
Bleeding slowed down and pains stopped. I didn't go to hospital. .
I have had dc tho so was confident to stay at home.

Don't be afraid to ring either your mw or an ambulance.

Flowers

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 09:53

Thank you all for your replies. The bleeding isn't getting any heavier yet so I'm worried it will take ages. Going for a walk then may go to A&E. my EPU doesn't open till 8am tomorrow. I just want it out.

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 09:54

No one at work knows as I was only 10wks and it's a sexist environment where I was already worried about pregnancy discrimination. Now at least they don't need to know.

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Nousername2015 · 14/05/2017 10:20

I'm so sorry OP. I had a mc 2 years ago and ended up going to medical management on hospital as it wasn't progressing on it's own and I'd bad enough of being in limbo. I bled for almost a week, only a bit on a pad but it had already been confirmed that the pregnancy had ended at 9 weeks. I didn't want to see the embryo and the hospital were really good on that front. If you don't feel like you can keep waiting I recommend calling your epu who will help.

NannyOggsKnickers · 14/05/2017 10:30

So sorry this is happening to you. I had a miscarriage diagnosed at 10 weeks but embryo only developed to 7 weeks. Mine took a week to start properly and then the main part was over in a few days. However, I've been bleeding on and off ever since. It started at the beginning of March.

My advice would be to take the pain killers, get curled up somewhere close to the toilet and find something to watch/read to try to take your mind off it. I managed with some co-codemol and a lot of hugs from DH. I never noticed the sac pass. But I didn't really want to see it. I found the bleeding came in waves at the most intense and I spent most of an afternoon sat on the toilet. Once the sac had passed it calmed down and continued like a heavy period.

My only really important advice would be to keep badgering EPU if the bleeding does calm down in a few weeks. I now wished I'd been brave and had the D&C.

NannyOggsKnickers · 14/05/2017 10:31

I meant 'doesn't calm down'

castleontheground · 14/05/2017 10:40

I was 12 weeks in the pregnancy but it had stopped at 6-8 weeks. There wasn't anything that could have been an embryo. But huge clots. One I had a couple of contractions for and was the size of a satsuma. The hospital may want to see any big clots. Sorry this is graphic but it wasn't too painful and drink lots and rest lots. Watch lots of films. Take care and if you feel feverish get to a doctor.

auntym · 14/05/2017 11:00

So sorry you are going through this OP. I would definitely stay off work, you need to be kind to yourself whilst you get through this Flowers.

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 11:45

I'm in A&E they've done bloods and they are transferring me to OB/GYN shortly

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Oysterbabe · 14/05/2017 12:21

I'm so sorry Squirrel SadFlowers

NotAnotherUserName5 · 14/05/2017 12:22

I'm so sorry Flowers

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 13:22

Surgery is booked for Wednesday, they could not do it today as too many trauma patients in front of me. Don't know what to do about work. Fucks sake

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HariboFrenzy · 14/05/2017 14:29

Grumpy try not to worry about work. You will be signed off for the op and a time afterwards - ask for your note to be vague if you don't want to tell them. I guess it's up to you if you go in tomorrow and Tuesday. I personally don't think I would want to but you may prefer to keep busy Flowers

NannyOggsKnickers · 14/05/2017 16:00

Whether or not to tell work all depends on your circumstances. I did and it really helped because they fell over themselves to give me time off and arrange for support for me. But I work in a fairly female environment. With hindsight I should have had more time. I only had the time for hospital visits and one extra day. Take some time to heal.

BWatchWatcher · 14/05/2017 16:03

So sorry for your loss.
I lost a baby under similar circumstances. To be honest it was just like a very bad period. There was nothing identifiable.
Keep as active as you can, but take time off work.
I advocate lots of beer/wine/gin and spoil yourself. It is a shitty thing to happen to anyone so please take it easy.

LeninaCrowne · 14/05/2017 16:08

The doctor wrote something bland on my medical certificate so work wouldn't know - I had a week off work as advised ( I needed an operation too.) All I told work was I was ill, then I was going to hospital, then I was signed off for a week.

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 16:21

I've decided to tell my direct line manager as I think I can trust him and it will look very bad if I give some vague reason (they will probably guess anyway) so I'd rather be upfront. Especially as I've been out of the office on various business trips for the best part of the last three weeks.

I can't risk passing the embryo or having huge blood loss at work / being in the loos for hours which is an hour tube journey from home / my local hospital, so I'll need to stay home until the surgery.

Talking to him in 40 minutes Confused

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googietheegg · 14/05/2017 18:34

Good luck with speaking to you manager. I had a similar experience and wouldn't have wanted to see colleagues. Thankfully I'm freelance so although I didn't take any time off, I didn't have to tell anyone.
It's a sad old time, just do whatever takes your mind off it even a little bit. Watch films, read, do your nails. Eat nice food and drink wine. Talk to whoever you can trust to not say stupid shit. Know that people say really stupid shit when you've lost a baby and try to stay out of those people's way. Actually, always stay out of their way. Xxx

DaisyChainsForever · 14/05/2017 18:37

Hope it went ok with ur line manager.

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 14/05/2017 18:37

Thank you, he was very understanding and I'm going to work remotely all week except for the day of the surgery when obviously I'll be unable to work. My DH has told his boss too and is staying home all week to look after me.

They told me cervix is still quite closed so it may not happen before Wednesday but there is still a chance that I could pass the embryo naturally before then. My crampy backache is getting worse Confused

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Kikiroo · 14/05/2017 21:09

Oh lovey, I am so sorry you're going through this.. There is actually a Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss section here on mumsnet which I found oh so helpful and supportive, the women there are wonderful and I owe them so much for their guidance and mending a broken heart. x

I hope this helps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

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TheGrumpySquirrel · 15/05/2017 10:54

At home in bed working on my laptop. Bleeding more but pain is not worse. I need some sort of treat / distraction but a puppy is not practical at this point.. ideas ?

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