Miscarrying at 10 wks can anyone tell me what to expect

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

It's happening on its own and I am scared. The embryo died at 8 weeks. It measures 1.6cm. I don't think it has come out yet but I've been bleeding for 12hrs, started with pink spotting 36hrs ago. Now it's red but not flowing like AF. Nothing comes out unless I go to the loo. I'm not in much pain yet.

I can call GP on Monday morning or go to EPU. I guess they need to check it has all come out.

Has anyone experienced this and how long did it take to pass the embryo? Would I be crazy to go to work tomorrow?

Sorry if this is in the wrong topic. I couldn't see a miscarriage / pregnancy loss section.

Grumpy I just wanted to say how sorry I am I've been thinking about you. I really hope you're as okay as you can be.

@Zaberwocky thank you. How are you getting on?

My breasts are leaking a small amount of colostrum. I'm not going to get full on milk production am I? As my body thinks it has done labour? Cant be dealing with that too

Grumpy I wouldn't think you would, when I miscarried at 12 weeks last year I had similar, though it cleared up after a few days. There's no harm in calling your GP though, that's what they're there for in times like this.

Under no circumstances stick anything up there, tampon or mooncup. The last thing you need is an infection I know the nappy like pads are horrible, but they're going to keep you safe.

Have you got some support in real life as well?

Yes my DH is home with me all this week. Just spent another afternoon at the hospital as I was feeling so awful. Good news is that I've now passed all of the pregnancy tissue so should start feeling better now I hope.

Oh Grumpy I'm glad your DH is around to look after you. I'm relieved to hear you've passed it all, it's so hard to cope with mentally when you're going through the physical stuff too.

I'm back at work today, fighting back tears every step I take. I feel unreasonably angry with DH, I don't understand why. I can't believe I'm not having my baby in December

Oh Grumpy, I think you are amazingly brave to be back at work already. I have (with my headteacher's support) self certified until Monday, and find myself considering a doctor's appointment to get signed off til the end of next week. I'm finding the thought of 30 lively, noisy children quite scary at the moment. I think you are being really strong. I don't know what work you do, but would it help/is it possible to either hide away somewhere or throw yourself into something where you have to stay busy, and so can't think about it quite so much? On Monday morning, before my mc was confirmed, I did go into school and teach, and it was kind of helpful following the same routines and dealing with the children's problems rather than my own.
I hope you find a way to get through today. Here's a virtual hug of support. x

Grumpy I think anger is just part of the course this takes to be honest I think your DH knows you aren't angry with him. Not really.

Good luck at work today, please be easy on yourself.

Well I lasted about three and a half hours.. just left because the bleeding got heavier again and although I know it should be just like a period now it still freaks me out, and I didn't want to panic at the office, was feeling weak and faint so no point staying.
Thanks for the support. Hope you are doing ok today @Springersprung

Thank you Grumpy, am continuing to take things slowly. I'm helping out at a museum event my mum is running this evening, so we'll see how that goes. It should have been my 12 week scan today.

I hope you are feeling better now you are home. Be kind to yourself - eat cake and chocolate was one recommendation given to me.

Take it easy on yourselves ladies. You've been through a rotten experience.
It does get better.
I had a MMC over 11 years ago. My ten year old is building shapes on the table :) he was conceived the next cycle.

I should have been 11 weeks today 😢