Pregnant at 40 and over - thread 4

[Gizmojo]

To continue support for mums to be over 40

Just to say a huge Thank You to user1491934204. That's the most reassuring post about pregnancy in your 40s that I've seen :) I feel less like a deviant!

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness - hope everything goes well with the appointment today :)

Hugs to you all :)

Congrats J73 and welcome :) x

I've just had my booking in appointment. I'm really lucky where I live and we have a case load team, so I have a particular midwife assigned to me who comes to my house to do appointments. I have her mobile number and she overseas everything. Apparently she arranged the scan that I have on Thursday but it is earlier than she intended. It should be my 12 week dating scan that she wanted slightly early but she's not sure why it is this week, as I'll only be 9 weeks. Good news really as it means I'll have the scan this week and then, assuming it is all ok, they will need to arrange another at around 12 weeks. I also have my first consultant appointment arranged for 15 May.

I'm currently reading Expecting Better by Emily Oster. It is really good for guidance on all issues such as testing, what to avoid food wise etc, that is based on actual data and reviewing carefully various studies that have been done. I definitely recommend it and much better than googling.

Welcome Ja73!

Hi Mighty, thanks for explaining about your GD diagnosis. I have monthly scans now so that is reassuring.

Sounds like you've had quite an Easter! Glad you and baby are okay and in the right place for now. Weren't you booked for delivery before your due date anyway? I guess it might move forwards but you are pretty well cooked at 35 weeks at least. Fingers crossed for a calm end of pregnancy and safe delivery, whenever it may happen.

Teabag I think we are close together, I am 30+1 now. Anyone else hit the last trimester yet?

I am fine, though tiring quickly these days. I am welded to the sofa today with a feverish 4-yr old. Back-to-back episodes of Sarah and Duck. That's a treat in store for all you first-timers

Afternoon! Welcome Ja73 and congratulations!!

Hope everyone is ok, mighty sounds like a tricky weekend but hopefully all going smoothly now.

Christmas I'm now 32+1 and closely resemble a bowling ball up the jumper!!!!

Had whooping cough jab today - ow, ow, owwwww!!!! Not looking forward to rest of week as I believe it can really hurt as week goes on! Baby is also breech at the mo! Any tips for making him turn???

mighty that doesn't sound like fun at all. I hope it all goes well for you!

christmas I'm 29+4 just now - so slooooow

cake my whooping cough jab didn't really hurt at the time but for about three days afterwards it was agony. Rubbing the site of the jag helped

Hi ladies,
I'm 32+3 today and became 41 yesterday! It's my first Babi and expecting a girl. its my Clomid baby plus ovitrelle trigger and IUI! After 5 months trying naturally, I decided to speed things up. We did it all private and it was first attempt at all and here we're! Lucky, really!

Anyone from Kent on here?

Hi Russ, long time no hear! Glad all
Is going well.

London here.

Hi Christmas, how are you feeling?! We're not far off from each in the last trimester.

London ladies, fancy meeting up for a cuppa in London?!

Well booking in appointment went as well as can be expected considering I'm an "older mum"
Fucking patronising. I'm 42 not 62!!!

As suspected consultant led care. Age being the primary driver, i.e. Being a geriatric.plus anaemia and resurrection utis, reduced movement in late third trimester with both of them and second baby being just under 10lbs at 39 weeks all relevant apparently. They might not let me go past 38 weeks. That's all fine with me I generally hate the last few weeks of pregnancy and spend half my time ringing the MAU saying they've stopped moving so much or I'm in huge amounts of pelvic pain.

Explained my fears re the tests and just for "well it's out of your hands, all you can do is have the tests and deal with whatever the results bring". Well thanks for that. I kind of figured that out ht I might have got a bit more reassurance but no.

Oh well, just need to get through the next few weeks.

I think I'm out.

Just had my dating scan. A week behind size wise and nt measurement too big. Just waiting to have bloods taken and they are trying to swing me a consultant's appt today to discuss further.

Oh, Greedy I'm so sorry to hear that? Have you got someone with you?
I know it's easier said than done but a big NT sometimes resolves itself. I have read several experiences of this, so perhaps wait until you've got your bloods done? Also one week behind isn't necessarily bad, my second baby - I though was almost 13 weeks at dating scan but she was actually bang on 12.

I will keep everything crossed for you and sending you positive vibes.

Hang on in there xx

No, unfortunately it's way too big. CVS or amino being arranged at UCH for first thing Friday, as my hospital's fetal medicine consultant is on holiday. No one is giving me any false hope.

Bar a few weeks I've been pregnant since October with nothing to show for it. This is shit. We had to bring dd as our childminder is on annual leave this week, now I've sent dp off with her to do fun things and I'm here on my own, ugly crying and falling apart.

I'm really so very sorry that you're going through all of this. It's rotten. It is shit. I don't know what else to say other than I feel so truly sad for you and your family. Life is a fucking bitch sometimes.

I've got an appointment now but I'll come and check back in a few hours.

You are in my thoughts and sending you love x

GreedyDuck - I am so very sorry to hear what you're currently going through. This is a nightmare. Life doesn't play fair. There aren't words to convey how sorry I am, or to make this any easier. Just know that I am thinking of you and your family at this difficult time, and wishing you lots of strength and resilience to get through it.

Big big hugs xxx

Oh greedy duck that is so, so unfair I'm so sorry.

Greedy I'm so so sorry. I cant begin to imagine. Sending love.

greeedy so very very sorry for your bad news. It really is horribly unfair, I have been in that exact position at the same number of weeks. If you want to vent/cry we're here, feel free to message

Oh Greedy I am so so sorry

I'm sorry too, greedy. It's a horrible thing. Huge best wishes.

So sorry greedy :( x

Thank you all so much. It's a bit of a lonely place to be in as we hadn't told many people, partly due to my fears about something like this happening, and partly due to my mc in December.

I just feel extremely tired and sad right now. I would also really love a stiff g&t.

I am sorry you had to be on your own Greedy - it's one of the complications of already having a DC that you can't always have DP with you. But awful at a time like this.

If you are still there can you go home soon? X

Hope you're not alone now Greedy.
Will it be the CVS they perform as you're under fifteen weeks. What have they discussed with you already, in terms of the NT? Sorry don't mean it to sound intrusive, and you absolutely don't have to answer: I just hope you've not been left feeling like you don't have any context for Friday and any more vulnerable and rudderless than you are already.

I can totally understand you wanting a stiff g&t.

Sending you strength and love x

Yep, I'm at home now. DP is being a rock, DD is being a two year old. He took her to the marathon expo to get his race pack today and wore her out.

I've rearranged the cvs for Monday as we just don't have childcare this week, plus I don't want to be lugging her around London all day Sunday post cvs.

Basically they were very negative about things, I think because I was measuring a week behind as well as the nt being 4mm. It just didn't look quite like a 12 week scan image, and I should be 12+3. They didn't allow one chink of hope really. Of course I've googled and there are always similar stories with positive outcomes to be found, but I am being realistic. If we get a miracle, then great, but I wouldn't bet on it.

It had grown well since last Monday though and still has a lovely strong heartbeat (naively I thought the worst thing I would hear today was that it had stopped, I could've dealt with that because my history means I expect it).