north of the border - bulging bumps and bonnie bairns!

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folks - thought it was time for a new thread with a new title for all those whose LO are out! i thnk we shoud be aiming for a meet up in May / June?? - what do you reckon?

Yeay! Just logged on to find out if there was any news. CONGRATULATIONS!!! And welcome to little Eilidh. And great that you managed to avoid the induction too.

Hope all are resting and getting a wee bit of sleep. Look forward to hearing the details.

fab news - a new baby for this thread!! congrats talualh - cant wait to hear your story! hope you, brett and the bubba are doign well and we get to see you soon!

Tallulah -CONGRATULATIONS !!! and well done.yes , brilliant that you avoided the whole induction thing
hope to see you and Eilidh soon!

Hi everyone, just back from a break in Italy - lovely time, and grea to come back to Wonderful news tallulah - and Eilidh, lovely name!
Vio - as everyone has said, if there's anything we can do, just ask. You are being so strong

gosh - we have been quiet on here!

loulee - glad italy was lovely - have you a bronzed bump??

isnt this weather rubbish - really annoyed as i had visions of long hot days in teh aprk with eh bubba. all the cute summer outfits she was given will not fit if this continues - bah!

we went through to Pride in edinburgh atthe weekend for my work and to meet up with folks. lovely day but soaked to the skin. caoimhe went downa storm with all her uncles and i even breastfed under a brolly on teh march round the town! very proud of myself as i never really wap the boob out in public!

i hope tulla is gettin on ok and has anyone heard from vio??

trixy - when are you back from germany??

WO - a gently bronzed bump TBH a lot of the time it was too hot for me - shouldn't moan - and usually I love the heat, but this far on it was a bit much...DD's had a fab time swimming every day + playing with other kids, whil;e we chilled by the pool. Back to reality now though and STILL trying to finish off work. Feel like I'm suddenly on a count-down.

• and am frantically nesting, chucking out junk and cleaning cupboards!

Hope you're all getting on well. How's Eilidh Tulla? Hope the bf is going well and you're getting lots of help + rest.

Oh what I'd do for a bit of Italy right now...glad you had a good break Loulee.

Hope all going well tallulah.

Well done tallula!

Just thought i should update James condition. Hes ok, my EB nurse came yesterday and she said to me that she thinks James is okay, he is stable. As his parents, the most difficult part of taking care of him is watching him suffers, i dont mind taking care of him, its part of parenthood and i think you look after your child anyway no matter if he.she is well or unwell...he needs 24 hrs special care but i have never felt its a burden, i love looking after him...its the fact that i cannot touch him which upsets me a little...

James is getting stronger as well which makes looking after a bit more difficult as well, he gose crazy when we change his dressings and so the back of his head gets loads and loads of blisters, as hes lying on his back all the time just like other babies...the blister popped itself and so its a real mess...sometimes i get so emotional..but then i just have to put my emotional in a box...change his mitts is heartbreaking, its a task i do everyday and i feel upset each time...

James seems to rub his eyes and face more now..as a resut, he starts to get a few tiny blisters on his face...i can only try my best to stop him...sometimes i feel angry..he cannot do what other babies do ..rubbing his eyes or face, is something that most babies do,...hes not allowed..

We went to Robin House on Sunday as my EB nurse suggested that Martin & I should go and have a look,..its a children hospice..i remember its raining on Sunday when we were on our way ...i thought about James, ...missed him so much even hes home with my parents...then i thought..Martin & I are going to a Hospice..our son is really going to die..then i cried..just couldnt hold my tears..its true,.hes not well and he isnt going to live for very long...

Robin house is a lovely place, its not horrible, i think we would consider using it when the time comes....i saw photos of kids with their parents..kids who used the place...i felt sad...i have never given any thoughts about illness...children live their live with life limiting illness ..i have never given any thoughts until it actually happened to me...then i realise we are just lucky to be born healthy and lucky to have given the chance to live and be able to do most things...

Its a dilemma when you have a baby with EB....you cannot give your son a cuddle...i dont think i want to watch him suffers for many many years then die slowly but losing the chance of seeing him grow also saddens me....you know what you are hoping to see ..you want to organise a birthday party for your child..you want to hear him talk for the first time, you want to encourage him to walk...you want to hear him calling you mummy...........there are so so many things i will miss out..

We were told that its 1 in a million chance to have an EB baby with Receesive Dystropic EB...but James got the most severe form of EB, Junctional Herlitz which is more rare..so i reckon its probably 1 in 2 or 3 million....my hushand said..he thinks James picked us out of million couples cos he knows we are capable and we have the love for him...i said to him..i only wish he hasnt got EB... i used to think..i am chinese and martin is english..our son will only get the Best Gene from us..he did pick our good genes cos hes a big boy and hes very bright but he also picked our bad ones by accident..i only wish he didnt pick my faulty one or my hushands faulty one then he would have been well though he would still be carrying the faulty gene..

Hope everyone is well...by the way WO, thanks for the stone..i carry it everyday, i put it in my purse and i rub it when i feel sad

Hi Vio. You both sound like amazing parents to wee James - he's a lucky boy to have you.
Would it be OK for me to get your email address from WO, Vio?

Hi,

Only just found this thread. Is anyone here based in Glasgow? I live in the south side and looking for others who do. I'm 30 weeks pregnant, feeling huge and a little isolated, as we moved to Glasgow from Leeds not that long ago and nobody I kow here is pregnant/ has a baby. It'd be great to meet other in a similarposition ...

Thanks,
Cath

hi cath - there are a few of us from glasgow - either recently had babies or about to and ... like you ... a number of us are not from scotland.

i am over in the east end but tend to be out and about with my 9 week old quite a bit...

how you doing? are you heading to the southern general?

yes, midnight, of cos its ok.

looking after james, he has fallen asleep now..i have never left him on his own, i always make sure theres someone there for him...

Tonight, for some reason, has been a sad night...feeling very sad all of a sudden, i get them every now and again...

Losing your baby is like losing your future...you cannot dream anymore, you cannot plan anymore... you cannot live you life like you were anymore...i am sad..very sad indeed.

looking after james, he has fallen asleep now..i have never left him on his own, i always make sure theres someone there for him...

Tonight, for some reason, has been a sad night...feeling very sad all of a sudden, i get them every now and again...

Losing your baby is like losing your future...you cannot dream anymore, you cannot plan anymore... you cannot live you life like you were anymore...i am sad..very sad indeed.

Hi Cathbell - I'm on the southside, near Queen's Park - where are you? I've got two ds, 19 months and 5 months. Like WO said I'm one of the non-Weegies, but been here a few years now. Would be happy to meet you for a coffee if you like?

Bother, posted too soon:

Vio, sorry to hear you're feeling , but I'm sure every day must be a bit of a rollercoaster for you. Will email you if that's ok. WO, could you email me Vio's email address when you get a minute?

Helloooo!

I'm back from germany, but still down at my IL's. The VW made it to Germany and back despite the torrential rain and psycho dutch truckers!

Had a good time apart from DS being an absolute bugger to feed. I just can't feed him in public at all as he just wants to see what's going on and turns his head away from me and starts screaming when he realises my nipple is no longer in his mouth, but doesn't want to turn towards me to start sucking again.

Had to put up with mumblings about formula and spoons from my MIL. Was hoping to get to 6 months exclusively bfing, but I don't think I can put up with it for much longer .

Had to have DS' hair cut as it was just getting silly, have put pre and post haircut pics on my profile.

Congrats Tallulah!!! Can we see some photos please!

Vio - I am totally in awe at how strong a person you are. Please let us know if there's anything at all we can do to help you and your family.

Hi all, rather hectic in our home right now, on count-down and praying this one doesn't decide to come early...

Welcome back Trixy - god i remember that feeding issue with both dd's - so frustrating. I ended up sitting in toilets and all sorts to try and find quiet spaces so she would feed!!

Hi Cathbell, I'm due in 3 weeks, but wishing it was a bit later as I'm so disorganised! How are you feeling?

Vio, thinking of you xxxx

Trixy, meant to say i also tried big scarves / ponchos so baby couldn't see anything - have you tried that?? It worked sometimes

Hi - how's everyone? Having really crap time with the B/F. My milk seems to be drying up. My wee one has lost weight at every weigh-in and yesterday the m/w advised me to top up with formula. Had been trying to top up with EBM but an hour's pumping gets me barely an ounce which is guzzled in seconds & just not doing the job. Gave her some formula & she then slept for hours, couldn't wake her for next feed & when did eventually get her on the boob she was very half-hearted and barely fed at all. Today she has tried to feed from me but I just don't seem to have anything to give her. Have been feeling so upset and disappointed in myself. Just don't know where I have gone wrong.

hi Tallulah - sorry to hear you're having problems with the feeding - it's so miserable isn't it? You spend so long looking forward to the arrival and then it's all so bleedin difficult. Have you been in touch with the bf advisors at the Queen Mum's? I have no experience but have heard v good things aboutthem. I think WO spoke to them didn't she and they helped get her feeding sorted, so def worth a try. I can'tremember where you gave birth but don't think it matters if not same hospital. But would say don't give up on the bf just yet - it does usually get better. But if not, don't feel guilty.

Tallulah - QMH bf support number is 0141-201 0110. Hope they can offer some help.

Loulee - hope last few weeks are vaguely restful. Bit of a drag with the LOs to run around after I expect? Just think, in 3 weeks you'll be able to get your own socks on (though one sincerely hopes that by then we might have some sandalesque weather for a change).

Better go, have both boys home today - DS1 has caught yet another lurgy (I blame nursery) and feeling v sorry for himself. On road to recovery, but milking it for all its worth: 'hot', 'water', 'biscuit', 'cuddle', 'more cuddle', 'monkey' (currently covered in vomit and therefore awol in washing machine), 'knee', 'babba chair - knee'...repeat until fade.

Hi everyone - have to say fat chance of any rest for me before baby - I'm trying to squeeze in wee treats over the next few weeks and have reflexology, haircut and eyebrow shaping squeezed in - rest of time is still filled with wee ones ( )and work ( )
Sorry to hear your ds isn't well again midnight - it's tough isn't it? Watch out as well as hand foot and mouth disease is going about at the mo - a couple of my friends wee ones have got it.
Tallulah, it can be really tough in the early weeks - don't beat yourself up about it - it's the most difficult time, getting feeding established etc - i remember with dd1 having terrible problems expressing at the beginning - and then one day it just clicked ( i had to try and make myself cry - and think of dd to get the let down!) - and nothing is easy when you're shattered. I've also heard excellent things about the qmh bf support - may be worth a try?

Meant to say as well - i have my cs date at last monday 23rd July is d-day! - very strange feeling, knowing the day

Thanks for advice folks. Have called & made appt to see b/f support person @ Queen Mum's tomorrow. She gave some advice on phone but it contradicts what m/w has told me to do. So more confused than ever. Will see what tomorow brings, but feel am running out of time as every day seem to have less milk.