First Time Pregnancy

[mrsjkerry]

Hello!
Any one else received their first BFP this month!? I am 4+5. Due November 10 and would love to talk to some other first time mummies as every twinge and niggle sends me into panic at the moment!! I'm sure I'm not the only one...

Misty what a horrible time you are having, I am so sorry. I don't want to give you false hope but were you opk'ing? I have heard of some women getting a second surge - the opks are positive as our body gears up to release an egg but doesn't actually release. We stop tracking as we thing we have ovulate and then we have a second surge where the egg does actually release - normally a few days after we think we have ovulated. Hopefully that's what has happened. I can't imagine what you are going through. Hugs xo

Afternoon ladies

@MistyBxx so sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Am thinking of you

I went to London today. I went to get on the tube and I don't know if it's the hot and flustered look on my face or my hugely bloated tummy but at 8w4d I got offered a seat by a sympathetic looking young guy. Not sure whether to be happy or mortified I look pregnant already 😂

Hi everyone, sorry to hear that some of you are having a difficult time, this is something we've all been looking forward to yet we have absolutely no control of it and can only hope for the best. I haven't even called my doctor surgery yet but I've decided that I will make the call on Monday morning when I'm 8 weeks. My dh knows my anxiety of another mc so we don't really talk about it yet which I'm really happy about. Today I feel a lot better than yesterday, yesterday I was incredibly tired, I could have fallen asleep at my desk, then in the evening I got really irritated and emotional for no reason. Today I've had more energy and my appetite is better. I've just bought some gin gin chewy ginger sweets, they are great! I'm going on a long train journey on Friday so I thought they might come in handy

Ladies can I ask if any of you had a early scan at roughly 5weeks?

I'm due in tomorrow as I previously had a scan at 4+1 and then 4+3 which showed a sac but not a great deal of development in the two days. My HCG went from 854 to 2000+ so they booked in tomorrows appointment. Midwife just said there was no sign of a "reaction" so she couldn't be sure it was all OK in there, and pretty much then ushered me out the door. What is the reaction, is it the yolk etc? I'll be 5+1 tomorrow don't I'm doubtful there will be anything to see...

Misty, I'm sorry to hear of your situation and I really hope it all works out OK for you.

Xxx

Thanks girlies, it's pretty shitty 🙈 I did wonder that myself moo (clutching at straws) because I've been looking through my old posts on the ttc thread I was on and I mentioned a couple of times that not once in my fw did I get a positive opk. I was only using the cheapy Poundland sticks though. But I opk'd from cd7 til about cd20 and it went from snowy white to a couple of squinters back to snowy white, but as I was in my tww I gave up then. We dtd only once after my fw though and that was only 6 days before I got my bfp so I can't imagine even if I ovulated late and caught on the second surge if there was one, that it would have had time to implant and produce hcg in 6 little days. And the small matter that my first test said 2-3 weeks... although I did find that weirdly high for a first test as I was barely 2 weeks from my fw, in fact I think it was only about 12 days from when I thought I'd ov'd. Who bloody knows lol. I've thought of every scenario going 😳 thanks though, I do appreciate it.
And mrsb take the politeness of others while you can, id be milking it for all it's worth 😂xx

@Tillums and @MistyBxx sorry to hear you are having a bad time. While there's still hope misty you should think positive.

In my news, I have been admitted to hospital. They're saying I have HG. 😩

Oh MrsJ sorry to hear, I did wonder when you said how poorly you were and that you weren't able to keep food down. Best place to be for them to sort it and monitor you though, and on the plus side baby must be damn strong!
(Not saying if you aren't sick then there is anything wrong with baby by the way!)

Misty you are such a beautiful person, I really want you to have good news just as much as I want to have good news myself. Thank you so much for thinking of me when you are going through so much yourself. And thank you to everyone else too, you have all been fab.

I have called the doctors and they booked me straight in for a scan tomorrow morning. I couldn't have asked for better to be honest. I've tried to keep myself busy today to keep my mind off things (after a morning of weeping). They have asked me to attend with a urine sample and a full bladder. I have had some more bleeding this evening, thick like tar, (sorry if tmi) and I have had a stitch like pain in my tummy for the past few hours.

I'm trying so hard to stay positive and not cry constantly. It's awful. It's so so hard. Thank you all of your for your thoughts and words of encouragement.

Misty you are so brave. I really hope that you get good news in 48 hrs. It's encouraging that they saw growth in the sac isn't it?

I'm not convinced they will see anything tomorrow but I certainly won't lose anything by going.

My friend just sent me this link which I must admit has given me some hope...

http://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a18946485/updateddarkkbrownblood..54weeks..isitthappening_again?cpg=2&csi=2076023595&pd=1

Oh bless you mrsj Kate Middleton had that too so you're in good company 😷 and you're defo in the right place. Hope you start feeling better soon!

Oh tillums that's so lovely to say but I think saying how we feel is all we can do and if we can help others then that's a bonus. I've had little bleeding today, more like brown smudges on wiping (sorry tmi) that article is definitely interesting chick.
How far are you?? I'd make sure you ask for an internal scan as well as a tummy one. If they've asked you to come with a full bladder sounds like they're gonna try an abdominal scan but if you're much less than 9 weeks, they should be doing an internal really coz if by any chance your dates are out, they will struggle to see anything abdominally and that can be terrifying 🙈 they may try tummy first then tell you to pee and do an internal. And good they're gonna test your pee too. It's so hard coz you want to stay positive, but scared to get your hopes up. Just know that whatever happens you WILL get through it. We all will 🌺
Hope everyone else is feeling ok xx

Misty, I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time

MrsJ, have you found your way over to the HG thread on MN yet? Lots of good advice. The Pregnancy Sickness Support website is great too. You have my sympathies, I also have HG

Thanks lemon it's not great at all. Feeling a bit rough today, was lying awake for hours last night as my stomach was cramping horribly, felt exactly like period pains. Got up a couple of times but no more bleeding. Eased off this morning but the cramps are coming back now, think I'm going to try and have a nap. Roll on tomorrow so I can get these second bloods. Results will be about lunch time but as time goes on, I'm getting less hopeful. I think the bloods will probably confirm my worst fears and then as soon as my mind hears that for certain, I think I will probably come on properly and lose whatever is left inside me coz these pains are incredibly threatening, not just little twinges any more, they feel like full on af cramps. Just can't wait to get some proper answers tomorrow.
Hope everyone else is feeling ok?
How's the sickness mrsj must be awful not being able to keep anything down chick, thinking of you xx

Also due in November for first time! Very nervous! This is my first post on MN too!

@MistyBxx I am very much looking forward to you getting answers one way or another tomorrow. The waiting limbo must be agony and it's no wonder you're not sleeping.

@Lemondrop09 I haven't seen any sickness boards, I did have a quick look.

I am now finally out of hospital but am not going back to school this week. Feel bad as I hate being a problem, but it's for the best really. They told me the sickness will come back almost definitely and I'm to go to the day unit where they can hook me up with fluids and send me home. They've also given me anti sickness medication, but I don't want to take it as I'm worried about the risks to the baby...

I'm a bit worried this afternoon girlies, my cramps are really really bad. To the point where I've taken 2 paracetamol (and I've not taken any medicine at all since I've been pg but the pain is so bad I've had to) unfortunately paracetamol doesn't tend to touch me, don't know why, it never has. I usually take ibuprofen which works like a dream within 5 mins, but can't take that as it can bring on a MC (ironic) I'm not doing anything, just on the settee and my lower tummy is really quite bad, whether I curl up or stretch out, makes no difference. Long, achey proper period cramps which stay for a while then go and then come back. Spotting again but very light and brown, not red and no clots (sorry tmi) I've been googling ectopic and I don't think it's that as the pain is very central and concentrated to the small area directly above my foof, not one sided, nor around the back area, no shoulder-tip pain, flooding or dizziness, just the kind of pain you have on day 1 of af when you want to stay in bed (but when I do try to nap, I can't sleep) it's making me very miserable and it's gonna be a long night ahead. I don't really want to go to docs or hospital (again) as I will be there at 8:30 in the morning anyway and if pain hasn't stopped by then I will obviously mention it to them. I'm getting so fed up now, you guys must dread seeing my name pop up on here thinking oh god what's she moaning about now but I can't really talk to hubs coz he's convinced everything is gonna be fine and I'm making a fuss over nothing which is heartbreaking in itself coz I know he's gonna be upset when whatever happens is confirmed tomoz. And my poor parents are worried sick so I can't keep going on about it to them, they're in their early 70s and are worried enough about me. Just feeling grumpy and in pain today 😩

@MistyBxx just think that this time tomorrow you will have an answer. What helps me sometimes is reminding myself that whatever pain I'm in will end and can't last forever. Your cramps will ease up and you'll get your answers. Would taking a bath help? What about some hot water? That sometimes soothes my stomach cramps.

Thanks mrsj that is one way to look at it. It's so mad to think that after an absolute rollercoaster of a month, by this time tomoz, I am either going to be still pregnant and thanking my miraculously lucky stars... or saying goodbye. F*%?ing hell girls what a crazy ride 😳 pain has eased a bit now thank god, felt hideous earlier x

Just caught up mistyb so sorry you are going through this, you girls are like a little family to me, not told anyone yet apart from our mums so it's nice to be able to talk to people, misty please let us know how you get on tomorrow xxx

Evening ladies,

Just catching up on the last couple of days as been mad at work - so sorry to hear what a difficult time you're having @Tillums and @Misty, thinking of you both and hoping you get some answers soon.

Glad to hear you're out of hospital @MrsJKerry, hopefully it will ease off for a bit and give you some recovery time.

I don't ever remember anyone telling me quite how difficult this first part is, sounds like it's quite a worry for all of us one way or another x

Thank you all so much ew I know what you mean, although I have told a few people (coz I've had to due to work reasons) it's so nice to speak to others and keep up with everyone's journeys, good and bad. Like mrsJ for instance, we have been on the same boards since about January lol I feel like we've all grown together. But I am fully prepared to have to face what is coming one way or the other and if I can offer any words of advice or anything to anyone else, I will do my best. I will defo keep you all updated and know we will all get through this exciting but scary time somehow x

Aw Misty, hope you're feeling better this evening and got everything crossed for you for tomorrow!

On the plus side for me, my morning sickness has completely gone, got my 12 week scan in less than a week and can't bloody wait. I'd pay for a private scan weekly if I could but DH won't let me!!

@Tillums didn't realise how much I've missed, sorry your going through this too, I know it probably seems like nothing compared to what youse are going through but I've been panicking today over pains, sharp shooty Ines, had like 3 all day and they last about 1 second soon as I notice them they are gone, i know it's in the right place but can't help but worry, I haven't been to toilet in about 2 days (tmi sorry) so I'm hoping its constipation that's causing them, seeing my midwife Monday so gunna ask her xxx

MrsJ, it's not a board, just a thread in pregnancy

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2838622-Hyperemesis-Support

tillums how are you feeling chick? I know your OH is away and if you're feeling anything like me, you'll be more than a little down at the mo. Especially as not many people know your situation in real life. But just remember we are all here if you need a rant/chat/moan or just feel like talking to people who understand. Sending hugs and hoping you're ok 🌺xx

Thank you everyone for thinking of me. Sorry I have been absent all day.

MrsJ good to hear you are out if hospital and feeling a little better! Xx

Misty oh I do hope that terrible cramping has stopped hun. It's not only scary but painful isn't it.

I had some pain last night, not a lot, would normally put it down to trapped wind but am conscious of every twinge since the bleeding.
I'm only 5+4 so they did do an internal scan in the end. Why torture me by pressing on my full to bursting bladder fir 10 minutes first?! It's like a test to see if you'll wet yourself!! 😩😂
They still couldn't see anything on the internal scan though. The urine test only showed a very weak positive but again that could just be because I am early. But then they did bloods and my hormone level came back at 21. The nurse said it should be up in the thousands and a result under 20 would show as a negative on a pregnancy test, so that explains the weak positive. So it's not looking good. I will get a call from a consultant in the morning who will make the final call on wether I have or haven't miscarried based on everything and what to do next but the nurse thinks it's a miscarriage.

Oh tillums I'm so sorry. I had the same, pressing at my tummy so hard, I thought I was gonna wet myself on the table, it was awful. But same as you, internal showed nothing but an empty sac. And that was last Thursday. Had an internal again Tuesday which also showed nothing but empty sac. They took my bloods but didn't give me the results of what that first lot was, they are just going to compare them with tomorrow morning's samples and then let me know lunchtime. Dreading the phone call already as I bet you are from the consultant. Hideous feeling.
I'm lying here about to go to sleep feeling very sad that this is most likely the last night I will go to bed with any shred of belief that I'm not alone in my body. Such a surreal feeling. The cramps have returned this evening but no more blood. So uncomfortable and actually painful. Nature is cruel 😖
Lots of healing vibes to you tonight chick and anyone else who may be having troubles but keeping quiet on here 🌺
No doubt we'll chat again soon, thank you all so much for your support and kind words xx