First Time Pregnancy

[mrsjkerry]

Hello!
Any one else received their first BFP this month!? I am 4+5. Due November 10 and would love to talk to some other first time mummies as every twinge and niggle sends me into panic at the moment!! I'm sure I'm not the only one...

Hi everyone. I'm getting myself a bit worried. I had an early scan last week at 7+3. I was squeezed in to see a consultant where I work. He just did a transabdominal scan and struggled to get a good measurement with me being so early. Anyway he didn't seen concerned at all but I measured 0.76mm which put me at 6w5d. We saw a lovely heartbeat. It's started to play on my mind a little bit now and I'm getting worried. He showed no concern but it's my mind working overtime because I know when I ovulated and I got my first positive test 8dpo. I'm 8 weeks today and seeing my midwife tomorrow but all my morning sickness has gone and I'm starting to overthink now

Sorry 0.76cm

Hi Squiggle,

I know it's really hard but if the consultant seemed happy then I don't think you should worry. It's not an exact science & a variation in size shouldn't be a concern. Especially when you could see a good heart beat. Sometimes having all this exacting technology isn't helpful as nature doesn't work to our graphs.
Just concentrate on the consultant showing no concern & a good heartbeat.
Plus you can ask the midwife as well when you see her.
xxx

Thanks tmc, you're totally right. It's so easy to think off all the wrong scenarios, especially as a first timer. I'm not sure there'll ever be a point where we can chill out completely but I will be so happy when week 12 comes and goes and there is a lovely, healthy scan then xx

I hear you. I'm just 6 weeks with my first, never been pregnant before, was very lucky to fall pregnant really quickly but that just makes me think we're too lucky! I'm 37 & while I'm not old I also know I have limited time so do find the whole thing quite anxiety inducing. Although not trying for long I've waited a very very long time to be in a position to try and the thought that we could soon have everything we wanted for so long is very overwhelming!

@Squigglefish when I had my early scan I was 6+6 but they measured it at 6+2, they said it's so hard to measure something so small and it will catch up when it gets a bit bigger, xxx

They always say that dates change around!!! You can never get exact and the midwife told me my delivery day will change a few times throughout the course of pregnancy...!

That's reassuring ew thank you. Got about 3 different measurements and went with the longest one. It's me freaking myself out because he didn't seem concerned at all.
tmc I'm in my 30s too and we managed to get pregnant first try, which scared me because I was fully expecting a year of trying. Like you, I keep thinking this has been too good to be true so far.
xx

Mrsj I cannot wait to offload all this to the midwife tomorrow :)

Wow I never once realised how draining this would be 12 + 1 with Twins, first time, and a virus has bed ridden me.
Paracetamol aren't doing anything. Been to the out of hours doctors this morning as the sinus and head pressure is so unbearable :(
Currently living on paracetamol and milkshakes. Grateful I had my scan Friday and know they are both doing ok otherwise I'd be freeking right now.
Anyone got anything else I can try? Had 4 days off work last week, thought it was getting better but clearly not. Going in to tell my boss tomorrow morning that I'm pregnant and to prove face 2 face how ill I am so she doesn't think I'm pulling the wool over their eyes. I get the odd sniffle from time to time but I cannot remember the last time I felt so ill

Oh girls. I'm 5 +3 today. I did a clearblue last Sunday with the weeks indicator which showed 1-2 weeks from conception. I did another today in the hope to see the weeks indicator read 2-3 weeks so that I could reassure myself that the pregnancy is progressing as I have had no symptoms whatsoever. But this morning the weeks indicator still read 1-2 weeks 😔
I know I should probably try again in another week before worrying but on my last pregnancy I had a silent miscarriage at around 5 weeks which was then discovered at 8/9 weeks when I had some early scans so I'm really worried it's happening again.

tillums I had exactly the same. My cb said 2-3 weeks on 4th march and still said 2-3 weeks on 13th march, 9 days later 😳 this put the horrors on me and I've not got over it since tbh, I've been to an early scan which didn't help coz they couldn't see anything inside the sac and said I was either out with my dates (can't see how this is possible) or... pregnancy is not progressing. I have another scan a week today to find out for sure. I mentioned the clearblue to the midwife, gp and sonographer and they all rolled their eyes and said words to the effect of "I wish people would stop taking these tests as gospel" they basically said they are NOT an accurate indicator of how a pregnancy is progressing and are just there to give you a rough idea when you conceived but that everyone's levels vary slightly etc. The midwife was particularly annoyed about them. So my advice would be try not to worry too much about it for now. Ridiculous to say as I myself have been hysterical for almost a week and I'm currently off work on sick with stress while I wait for my next appt so I'm not going to patronise you, especially given what you've been through before as that's what I may be going through myself. Sonographer told me having one silent Mc does not mean you'll have another. But if you have had one before then they should be taking extra care of you and you should be a candidate for early scans this time round so if you are tearing your hair out about it, I'd ring the midwife coz no good feeling so horribly stressed as I know myself. Please stay positive chick, I know how hard it is but that's really all you can do. Don't do any more tests!!!! You'll drive yourself mad xxx

Thank you for the reassurance Misty
I know exactly what you are going through. It happened to me just before Xmas. It's rubbish and there is literally nothing you can do to stop the worry! It's impossible. I really do hope that you get some positive news soon and that they have just missed something or that your dates are out.

I haven't even called the doctors yet and had any contact with a midwife because I'm so convinced it'll happen again I don't want to waste everyone's time.
Maybe I should call them and make an appointment soon though. Maybe they can measure the levels of hormone in my blood?
But then part of me just wants to wait until the 12 week scan and not know before then. I honestly don't know what to do for the best.
The test this morning has really bummed me out 😔

I know exactly what you mean. I'd never thought of testing again lol I just thought you get a bfp then you see it at 12 weeks etc then in 8 more months you get a baby! I often wonder if I hadn't tested again, hadn't read every horror story going on here and Google and just carried on as normal, if anything would have been different. I hadn't even heard of a chemical pg or silent mc before 😳 yet as soon as I got my bfp, I was instantly stressing and started googling like mad and really looking for what could go wrong. I hope I haven't brought this on myself by digging into it so much that I've somehow "attracted" it 🙈 I know that sounds crazy but I can't help it.
Only you will be able to decide. If you're a strong person, you may just be able to say right, I'm not going to stress, I'm going to chill and wait for the proper scan and not worry. But if you're neurotic like me 🙈 it will be hard. At 5 weeks midwife wouldn't even make appt for me. You don't get booking appt til 8+ weeks in my area. But coz you've had history, they may be more accommodating. There is that feeling of once you've spoken it out, you can't take it back then and it feels more scary, especially when they can't truly reassure you (which any honest midwife will say) but as you're so early, I would truly not worry too much about the clearblue. If you're super stressing then defo speak to someone but only if you're sure you want to, coz it's scary when you go looking for answers and the result isn't what you hoped. Such a worrying time chick isn't it, but please know that we are all here for each other for good and bad and I just hope that you're worrying over nothing chick although I know it's impossible to feel like that yourself 🙃xx

@MistyBxx I was just reading back through some of my earlier posts and at first I thought I was sure to get a BFN. Then because I tested early and got a BFP I thought it would be a chemical pregnancy. When I went for the 7 week scan I honestly didn't think there'd be anything there to see. But so far, touch wood, everything's been fine. You're so right - you can't think negatively about things and what will be will be. But I don't think worrying will have attracted any bad luck. Still thinking of you and I don't know how you're keeping it all together - seems like an agonising wait for the next scan.

In my news....morning sickness got me all morning, day and night. It's horrific.

Thanks mrsj I think Friday and Saturday were my worst days. Spending time with my lovely family yesterday was nice, and they are all so supportive. Hubs is still very disinterested and is absolutely convinced I'm worrying over nothing. Which is hard coz although I've tried explaining the science, he just rolls his eyes and says "you're making something out of nothing, you'll see." I can't decide whether he genuinely doesn't understand all the horrible possibilities, he's burying his head in the sand or if he genuinely and truly believes everything is going to be fine. Love him 💕 the limbo is awful but I am trying to be more matter of fact today. I honestly can't do a thing lol so why am I crying myself to sleep every night and feeling like a weeping willow. I have to stay strong one way or the other. It's all I have control over xx

Mrsj I know it's not for most people but when my sickness was terrible I went to the doctor and got cyclizine to take on bad days. So far I've only needed 2 and luckily the sickness has eased off totally. I lost a lot of weight, got dehydrated and I have a phobia of vomiting, it got too much. I can't look at ginger biscuits anymore haha.
Had my midwife appointment today. It's all so real now!

I'm on the same boat ladies. Convinced something will go wrong because

1. We fell pregnant first time
2. It's to 'lucky' for this to happen to us
3. Were older (mid and late 30s) so it's crazy we fell so quickly so surely something will go wrong for us
4. I want this baby sooooo badly (when you want something you don't always get it)

I can't help but worry something is wrong in there. My hubby thinks I've lost it and says everything is fine. That's his standard answer. 4 weeks Thursday till our 12 week scan. Can't. Come. Quick. Enough. We were going to get an early scan but it's £89 (I thought we could get one for £50 but can't ) and I just don't know if that's too much for 5 mins of certainty.

Pregnancy stress sucks!!!

@Mrsb we had an £89 early scan on Friday (at 7 weeks) and it is sooo worth it. The girl was fab showing us everything and explaining everything. It's a 20min appointment. We saw the heartbeat, she measured baby etc etc. We both came out feeling reassured! I would definitely recommend.

Mrsj ms is a bitch isn't it!? I'm finding if I eat every 2 hours it takes the edge off (even a few plain biscuits). If I let my tummy empty then its worse. I'm loving carbs and stock up at meal times. Also boiled sweets and sickness bands are helping too (I had them off for 2 hrs yesterday and it confirmed they are definitely making a difference when I wear them!)

Misty - still thinking of you. Admire your strength. Hopefully you get some answers soon as uncertainty and worry isn't good.

£89 seemed expensive until I did it. Our private scan was a lovely experience (much nicer than my NHS scan!) and well worth money. We plan to go back at 16 weeks for another scan, partly for reassurance and a gender check, but also because it was so lovely that we want to do it again.

Hey ladies
I'm a little confused, CB says I'm 2-3 weeks but app and Dr say I'm 5 wks... do I tell people at Dr 12 wks or my 12 wks? Because obviously I know I wasn't pregnant during my period...

MrsC you count your pregnancy from the start of your last period. Doctor will be right, but your 12 week scan will be booked correctly by doctor and I would tell people at that stage personally.

ok, that seems reasonable. Think it's going to be slow going until we can announce it, no alternative but to hibernate as my one trip out on saturday on softdrinks caused quite a stir in the local.... clearly i'm a bloody booze hound

Misty you didn't attract bad karma. It's perfectly natural to worry because these things do happen. But equally, sometimes the doctors make mistakes and I'm hoping and praying that's the case for you!!

Thank you so much for all your advice. I decided yesterday that instead of stressing I would just contact the GP and actually tell them I was pregnant and then tell the midwife about my worries when she gets in touch. She usually calls on a wednesday if I remember correctly.

Well anyway, I woke up this morning bleeding, dried blood in my knickers (sorry if TMI) 😥
I haven't contacted anyone. There's nothing the GP can do but take bloods and check my hormone levels and that's not actually going to tell me anything or change anything. I'll speak to the midwife tomorrow but even if they tried to scan they wouldn't see anything. So instead I will lie on the bed in my dressing gown and weep 😭

My boyfriend has just left for a work course for three days and I felt so awful telling him moments before he walked out the door. I was supposed to drop him into work but I couldn't face driving so he has had to take the car, which is fine but just made me feel like I was letting him down twice. Work wise and baby wise. And now I'm on my own for three days. My parents and friends will rally round I'm sure but it's not the same as having him home. xx

Hi girlies, tillums I know exactly what you're going through chick I really do. Started bleeding about 10pm last night, along with pretty bad cramps. I phoned nhs direct who suggested I went to hospital (coz of the pain, they thought it may have been ectopic but I didn't and don't think that, it was ordinary period pains not agonising) so off I went. By 2:30am I was out of there having had my tummy pressed and an apt in the EPU for this morning at 10. Bleeding stopped overnight, more like brown smudges now. Scan showed exactly what it did 5 days ago, sac but no contents, not even a yolk, just the outer sac. They said again I could be as much as 2 weeks out on dates but I can't be coz I've tracked. All I can think is if I ovulated later than I thought and caught the ONE time we dtd a week after fw ended... but it's highly unlikely. They've taken bloods now though and I'm going back Thursday morning for bloods #2. So basically, if the hcg has increased correctly between now and thurs then I'm still pregnant and I MUST be wrong on dates. But if the levels have dropped, then obv my pregnancy has ended and my body is taking a while to get the message. Sac measured 5mm bigger than 5 days ago but that would happen if it "thinks" there's an embryo in there, which there definitely wasn't.
So sorry for the long and depressing post. My hopes are hanging on 48hrs but my mind is being cruelly logical.
On the plus side, the suspected endometrioma (cyst) the sonographer saw on my left ovary (which was 4.5cm!) seems to have disappeared in 5 days. Both clear and good looking ovaries she said today. Small mercies.
As we know, there's literally nothing we can do, or have any control over. The waiting game is the worst. Judging how rammed the EPU was this morning and how many tearstained haunted looking ladies I saw walking out before me, I know we are not alone. In a minority thank goodness, but not alone. Nature will take its course no matter what but I know how much it hurts in the meantime. Hugs to you tillums and anyone else having a hard time, we will get through it xxx🌺