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mrsjkerry · 08/03/2017 20:49

Hello!
Any one else received their first BFP this month!? I am 4+5. Due November 10 and would love to talk to some other first time mummies as every twinge and niggle sends me into panic at the moment!! I'm sure I'm not the only one...

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Squigglefish · 24/03/2017 17:05

My sickness had gone today!

THirdEeye · 24/03/2017 17:58

I had my scan yesterday and wasn't required to have a full bladder...this was a scan at a clinic though, so may be different?

THirdEeye · 24/03/2017 18:00

Reading again, I had an internal scan so that is possibly why I wasn't required to have a full bladder.

MistyBxx · 24/03/2017 18:00

Hi girlies god what a day I'm knackered 🙈 here's my update, sorry it's another long one 🙈 Ok so docs was a shambles. I had a horrible doctor who literally made me feel so shit, I explained everything and she was looking at me stupid and was like "I'm not a midwife and I'm not a gynaecologist" and I was like I know... which is why I need you to refer me and she was like "I'm not referring you to the early pregnancy unit coz you're not bleeding" and I was like yes I know that, but that's what the scan doctor recommended coz of the cyst as well and she was like oh everyone gets cysts now and again, as long as it's not an endometrioma you'll be fine. And I was like but she thinks it IS one, if you read the notes she gave me!!!! And she was like well if you're that concerned, go to A&E!! I was like what? I'm not dying, I just need you to refer me to a gynaecologist or pregnancy ward or something!! She just wouldn't listen to me girls I was shaking and thinking to myself am I going mad? Am I actually crazy? Maybe she was genuinely not concerned so thought if she showed absolute disregard to my worries and feelings, I would think oh I'm being silly, look at how flippant the doctor is, it must be nothing. But I didn't feel like that, I felt really belittled 😩 So in the end I was like right forget it, I'm going.
So off I went then and rung the midwife hysterical. They were so nice there, I've been unimpressed last couple of times I've phoned (mainly because I've been "too early" to see them and found this frustrating) but I should have phoned them straight away and missed the doctors out all together today! Lovely lady who was really sympathetic and listened to everything I had to say, didn't try and fob me off or say I've got nothing to worry about! She made a few phone calls and rung me back saying I've got an apt in early pregnancy unit next Monday 3rd April. They're going to check out the cyst, see what kind of cyst it is, if it's definitely an endometrioma, I may have to have a labroscamy further down the line to officially diagnose endometriosis. But most importantly check on the embryo... it will be 11 days from the scan I had last night (the scan woman recommended 7 days so 11 days will be even better) so if it's still not visible then that unfortunately will be the end of that. What will happen to the sac that's there (coz there is defo a sac there), I don't know, but if there's no embryo in it in 11 days, then it's game over for me. If it IS there and visible (🤞🏼) then they will measure it and look for a heartbeat and I will be back on track, possibly less in weeks than I thought, but still pregnant. And that's all I wanted from today! Exactly what was recommended by the scan person last night. I just wish I hadn't had to cry and beg for it, I feel exhausted.
But I do feel so much better now, and there's literally nothing else I can do now except carry on as normal but I do feel a lot better.
Also mrsj I'd recommend having a drink before scan but not a full to bursting bladder. I was painfully excruciatingly full of wee for my scan and she said coz I was tensing so hard (so as not to piss all over the bed,) that in itself can make the view blurry 😂 and it hurt as she presses very hard! So I'd say down a drink just before you go in so there's enough liquid in there that your bladder isn't empty but not so much in there that you can barely hold it in. I thanked the lord I'd had no previous children in that reception last night coz if I had, I swear I wouldn't have been able to hold as long as I did 😂😂😂

mrsjkerry · 24/03/2017 18:07

@MistyBxx I'd have been tempted to say that she saw nothing in my womb and thinks it's ectopic. That usually gets them acting!! Glad you got somewhere eventually though!

@THirdEeye yes mine is at a doctor surgery and I think they may go straight for internal rather than even attempt an abdominal one.

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mrsjkerry · 24/03/2017 18:29

Just had this from the doctor doing my scan tomorrow:

"Scanning between 7 and 8 gestational weeks, counting from the first day of your last period, will likely show the embryo. The heartbeat of the baby can be heard starting from 8 weeks, not earlier."

Surely that's not right?

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sophr2017 · 24/03/2017 18:34

That's right MrsJ! I had mine done at 7 weeks and the lady said that you will be able to see the heart beat, and she pointed it out for me by placing another colour showing it beating, but you don't hear it until at least 8 weeks

mrsjkerry · 24/03/2017 18:39

Oh I see. Thanks @sophr2017. Maybe I shouldn't have changed mine to a week earlier! I don't mind seeing it but I guess I'd have seen more at 8 weeks 😄

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Tillums · 24/03/2017 19:26

Misty I'm so sorry you have had such a rubbish day! I am crossing my fingers for you fir better news next week xxx

Peppercorn what's the app your hubby has? I would like to recommend it to my boyfriend 🙂

Moo31 · 24/03/2017 19:34

Misty that sounds so exhausting you poor thing. Hopefully you get some good news next week - everything crossed for you.

Mrsj - I had mine today, it's 7 weeks since my last period and I saw the heartbeat - it's magical. She measured and it's putting me at 7+2. Hope it all goes well for you tomorrow.

Tillums · 24/03/2017 19:38

Aww congrats Moo on your scan xx

mrsjkerry · 24/03/2017 19:43

Yay @Moo31 I'm a huge mixture of excitement and being very nervous.

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THirdEeye · 24/03/2017 20:29

mrs they are correct. I'm seven weeks now and we didn't hear the heart beat, the nurse said she couldn't let us hear it. However, we could see the movement of it which was nice.

MistyBxx · 24/03/2017 21:59

Evening girlies. Thanks for all your kind words. I'm feeling better this evening and so happy for the lovely scans others have had. I fully expected to have a happy scan story, crazy how different things can all be.
Just have to keep telling myself, my boobs are still sore (not as bad as they have been) and most importantly, I'm not bleeding. There's nothing physical which has indicated I've got any problems in there... they just couldn't see anything. Eeeeek 🙈 I've been googling like mad, not always a great idea but has been reassuring today, I'm not alone in seeing an "empty" sac at 7 weeks. There are loads of reasons, miscalculation of dates being the main one, but I've got to be honest, I don't see how Ive miscalculated my dates... I only dtd 6 times in Feb lol, 3 times in fertile week, twice the week before and once the week after. And regardless of which day I conceived, it doesn't change the date of my last period, which is how the weeks are calculated, am I right? So whether it was the sex in fertile week or the week before or the week after, I had the scan yesterday 7 weeks to the day since my last period started. Does anyone have any advice or experiences on this? Maybe I'm not working it out correctly but like mrsJ's doctor said in her previous post, that does seem to be how it's worked out. I'm praying because it was 7 weeks bang on to the day, and perhaps I ovulated later and it was the very last sexy time I caught on... that's what I have to hope lol xx

tmc14 · 24/03/2017 22:16

They calculate from first day of last period, but conception still only happens when you ovulate. If you ovulated later than usual then that could mess up the dates. Technically, sperm from the last time you dtd could survive for a few days after that, making the very latest possible date of conception a few days after the last time you had sex.

tmc14 · 24/03/2017 22:17

Keeping everything crossed that this is the case!! Hopefully next week your scan will have better news xx

MSH2010 · 24/03/2017 22:20

Well I never thought I'd see this day.... but I'm hoping talking about it might make it sink in as at the moment everyone but me is excited.
I'm 11 +6 first time.... and with twins!! Think I'm still in denial. It wasn't planned I found out at the clinic it was twin and made a massive u turn on my decision.
I have serious issues with my in laws too which I think is adding to my stress levels.... they've ignored me for over 3 years now despite being with my partner for 10yrs married for 6 1/2yrs. I've even been told twice by my MIL to end my marriage. Isn't she just a delight! She doesn't know yet!
I've also got a terrible virus at the moment so feeling really rubbish. Red raw throat, cough and a lot of crap on my chest which keeps making me reach 😭

Anyway just wanted to say hi!!

MistyBxx · 24/03/2017 22:21

Thanks tmc14. That's what I have to tell myself. I feel like I'm being so selfish, all I've bloody done is talk about myself for the last 24 hours lol I'm so sorry girlies 🙈 I'm totally keeping up with all your stories and hoping to be back to normal after next week, I hate feeling so miserable and really don't want to bring anyone down lol xx

MrsB12345 · 24/03/2017 22:33

@MistyBxx don't apologise lovely. I think you're being ever so brave. Waiting is horrific at the best of times. Chin up and keep us all updated xx

MrsB12345 · 24/03/2017 22:35

@MSH2010 congratulations. How exciting. What did you mean about a massive u turn on your decision?

MSH2010 · 24/03/2017 22:39

I'm not ashamed to say it, I'd gone for the A word.... was in two minds really didn't know what to do.... but finding out it was twins made me grow up and realise I can do this

mrsjkerry · 24/03/2017 22:47

@MistyBxx you are doing so well! Really encouraging to see you staying so positive and it's making me think that whatever happens at mine tomorrow I can deal with it 👍🏻

Had a pizza and coke. Felt better. Now feel sick again and in bed wanting to just drink coke coke coke. I feel SO guilty but it's the only thing that's stopping the nausea right about now...

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tmc14 · 24/03/2017 23:09

Misty - you're doing really well & are allowed to be selfish sometimes xxx

MSH - my past relationship had in laws like that. Luckily no kids came from it. I understand your situation though. Is your husband supportive & putting you first?

THirdEeye · 25/03/2017 06:55

Mrs coke is supposed to be good for nausea, I'm hoping you feel a tad better today.

MSH I've the opposite issue to you, in the sense that I don't really have a relationship with my family. I've been thinking about it somewhat, however I have realised that my hormones certainly have a part to play with my rollercoaster of emotions. Have you spoken to your GP/midwife? Maybe you should, they may be able to offer some counselling.

Misty maybe you are not as far as you think you are? Try not to worry if you can, a week can see a big difference.

mrsjkerry · 25/03/2017 08:45

No such luck. I am currently sat in McDonald's look like I've got the hangover from hell. I walked the 30 mins into town and am sat here nibbling on a hash brown hoping for a miracle....

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