Staying posifrickentive- Thread 15 for ladies pg after mc

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Hya ladies, hope you find this!
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My last and first pregnancy ended in a mmc at 13 weeks. I'm now pregnant again at around 9/10 weeks and I'm showing already. I look like I've eaten all the Easter eggs. Has anyone else had this? I'm shocked at the size of me, bump arrived 4 days ago.

Glad everything was ok Oliversmummy.

Not wanting to wish away the lovely long weekend but I'm looking forward to going to work tomorrow just to distract my incessantly whirring mind. I feel utterly convinced there isn't going to be a heartbeat when I go to my next scan on Friday. The increase in discharge (sorry for tmi) isn't helping with the constant worry that I'm going to find blood every time I go to the toilet.

I was just wondering what others have done about exercising during the first trimester. I usually run 3 times a week, twice with a running club. The third time I was pregnant I decided to stop running completely but still had a miscarriage so this time I've decided to carry on. It is definitely better for my mental wellbeing if I run. I have however decided not to go to running club for a few weeks as I found I was getting quite worked up after doing intervals etc at training sessions. At least if I just go on my own I can be in control of the pace and distance. Everything I've read seems to say you're fine to carry on doing what you did before exercise wise.

Glad all seems well olivers

keep the advice I was given was to remain active but not suddenly take up any strenuous excercise. Sounds like doing your own runs is a good plan as you don't want to be pushing yourself too much. As you found out last time, stopping didn't protect you so do it but don't over do it.

Morning all. I haven't been to gp yet, but have a general question.
We had sex throughout first trimester of both our previous losses. Officially 4 wks today and not sure what to do. One of the main reasons I thought we might wait is so that we can't blame it on that, but no doctors have mentioned this.
My mc's were at around 8/9 weeks with development halted at around 6. Bleeding etc didn't turn up til around 8 wks. I had one small bleed after sex at around 5 wks in first pregnancy (bit of a pink wipe). So anyway, just wondering what you have done, if anyone has been officially advised to abstain.
Thanks

Sock I definitely felt like I was showing at 9/10 weeks this time, 17wks now and in awe of those that manage to hide it until 20wks!

Miami we didn't abstain as such this time but haven't dtd many times as I was really tired through the first trimester and now I just don't fancy it. We didn't dtd at all in my MMC for similar reasons which ended at 13 weeks. I don't think it makes any difference unless it's a particular issue maybe with your cervix or low lying placenta later on but just do whatever you're comfortable with.

I can't believe how quickly this weekend has passed. I'm away for work 2/3 days this week and just want to stay at home with dd. Is anyone else struggling to keep their head in work? I am normally really concientious but will take whatever I can at the minute to keep my hours under control and get more time at home.

Hi all, I posted a couple of days ago about my absolute loss of symptoms, thanks for your repiles. I've been trying to hang on bit and keep calm but I'm now 6+2, still no return of any symptoms. I've been doing an cheapy test every morning, last two have been getting lighter. I know where this is heading but it's torture not knowing for sure.

I've spoken to EPU and have a scan booked this afternoon as the kind nurse recognised my name after all the problems I had last year. 'D'H is fuming with me as he's away with work as of just now and he wanted me to wait till Friday when he is home, he thinks I should just not think about it till then head in the sand. He's got form for taking things out on me when he's upset, it's not helpful to say the least.

Not sure why I'm posting, I'd be overjoyed to find out I'm wrong about this pregnancy, but after the tests fading I just can't see any postive outcome. Also want to be prepared as to what'll happen naturally. I'm supposed to be on holiday next week.

Gah. I hate that bloody scan room. I've got to go on my own and somehow cope with driving home afterwards. I hate this whole bloody thing.

Ladies, I've booked an early private scan for this Thursday evening. I'm starting to feel excited although a bit nervous. By my dates I will be 10 weeks, but by my midwife calculations 9weeks 2 days.

Good luck sock :) I am feeling the desire for another scan but holding out for my 12 week one.

What's your EDD by the way? You must be around the same time as I am (17 Nov) but maybe a few days later as early scan was too small to measure accurately.

Hello all!
Good luck with your scan this afternoon Monkey, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

5+3 today and nausea has kicked in 🤢
I wish it was a reassurance but it's really not. 2 weeks today until my scan at EPU, I'm wishing the next 2 weeks away!

Couldn't cope any more went to the loo at work after pains and had an upset stomach have convinced myself MC is coming as I've not eaten anything dodgy! So burst out with it all to my manager as it is just us two today we are so short staffed and I'm so stressed and just wanted to stay in bed today. 10+3 today same point I was when I miscarried twice before and I just can't stop crying, so scared it's going wrong again. Don't know what to do. X

Oh hazard you poor thing.

Not sure how you'll take me saying this, but your upset tummy etc could be caused by the mental stress you're under right now rather than anything physically actually causing it. That won't make it go away I know.

The only thing you can do is practice conscious breathing. Long, slow deep breaths and remember our mantra - today I am pregnant.

I really hope your body gives you the break you deserve and you feel better really soon.

@GingerHanna by my dates I'm 17th November, but the midwife says 21st. I hope I'm not tempting fate by saying this but I would baby to come on 10th as it's my grandads birthday and he is desperate to be a great grandad.

@Hazandduck we are here to hold your hand. Was your manager supportive?

Thank you sock and ginger. Xx

My manager was brilliant and told me she already knew! How?! She has said I can go home at any point but I'm just at my desk trying to keep myself busy at the moment because it won't change anything!

I don't want to be too detailed but it was so weird I went to the loo and it was more wind with a bit coming out (gross!) then I had almost constipation which I've had for weeks! I have had pains this whole pregnancy but never had the gut feeling something is wrong, I just feel like I can't trust my own body or instincts!

I feel like if I just survive today maybe it will be ok. I so envy people who never go through pregnancy loss and just get pregnant when they want and don't worry like we have to. X

Also ginger my manager said the same - probably stress related!

Haz so sorry you're feeling like this, as others have said it could well be stress related, esepcially as if this is the same time as your last mmc then you're bound to be worried...do you have an early scan booked, or could you book a private one?

@Hazandduck one of the joys of being pregnant is your bowels doing all kinds of strange things. Could be why you are feeling a bit off today, especially as that area of your body can be effected by stress.

I would finish work early and try and sit in the sunshine if it's sunny near you.

It is sunny yes :) and I am going to try and escape early. I feel bad because we are so short staffed but we have been for ages and it's not letting up and that coupled with pregnancy exhaustion has really taken a toll! I've not had a day off for months and I am just getting fed up. Anyone else in local govt massively overstretched at the mo?!

Thank you olivers it is booked for this Friday! This week is going to crawl by 😩
How are you feeling now? Hope you are ok xx

At the very least Hazard try and get out of the office for a short walk. If it's dry and sunny it will do you the world of good.

Sock same as me then! I went for my scan when I should have been 6+6 and they suspected I was actually 6+3 but will confirm when I have my next scan.

The good thing is my official letter for work says my EDD is 17 November so if I'm actually due later it doesn't matter as I will get a little more maternity leave! (It's very different over here in NL to the UK - you have to finish work 4-6 weeks before your EDD and the rest of your leave kicks in when you have given birth, unless you are early in which case it kicks in when you were due so you don't loose any time off).

I think I need to apologies for my earlier post, really not in the spirit of keeping postive, just lost my marbles after a long weekend of worry, sorry ladies.

I'm very pleased to report my scan went well. I'm not sure how but I measured at 6+6, I'm sure I'm 6+1. Utterly amazed, my first ever scan with a heart beat. One day at a time I guess.

Hazandduck sorry to hear you are struggling, hope you've managed to escape from work and get some fresh air. I've had a really bad stomach ever since I got my BFP, completely opposite from last time. I think mine is anxiety related as my previous post shows.

Oh monkey don't apologise! We all have wobbles and meltdowns and that's what we're here for. Sorry I didn't twig on your post sooner and reply.

Really happy to hear the scan went well and yay for a heart beat. Incredible isn't it?!

Monkey that's great news, so pleased for you.

Lots better now thanks Haz we are putting the bleed down to DTD, midwife I spoke to on the phone yesterday said it could be because of low lying placenta, so we'll find out at our 20 week scan next Wednesday (can't wait to see baby properly again - the room yesterday was so cramped, I caught a glimpse of the heartbeat and then DH and Dr saw everything else!). We will be abstaining until the scan though so we can have a chat with the sonographer and see what they think.

DHs birthday on Saturday, so he's going to have to go without on his "special" day! ha ha!

Baby has been kicking LOADS today, it's amazing! I've got an app, as the Dr yesterday said it would be worth tracking movements, and now I'm looking out for them, I'm seeing just how much he's moving

Oh monkey in my panic stricken state I missed your post. It is so hard to be positive even some of the time so don't worry at all! This is the best place to be to vent and let out your fears and frustrations! Glad you're scan went well. Hang in there and honestly just vent away xx

*your scan not you are scan! Sorry I'm not with it today z

Glad it all went ok Monkey. Wise words of one day at a time. I have to say that to myself A LOT!

Hi everyone,

I feel like a total fraud even posting as I've not even missed my period yet but have had faint positive tests so am tentatively joining...! Am under care of Dr Shehata (miscarriage clinic) and on so much medication that I'm rattling, so that should give me confidence but it doesn't at all. I just want to fast forward to 12 weeks please!

So I'll be 4 weeks tomorrow, decided to not to test again this morning and wait for then. It's my birthday Friday so very very hopeful that this is the best present ever! Has been just over a year since my last miscarriage so was beginning to lose the will a bit.

Wishing you all hope & positivity! So great to see so many of you are further along ❤️