Staying posifrickentive- Thread 15 for ladies pg after mc

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Hya ladies, hope you find this!
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Morning all and happy weekend!

Cookie glad your scan went well.

Nocats congrats and welcome.

Sock I know what you mean about the sense of smell. I seem to be able to smell things no one else can smell. Dh thinks I'm weird 😂

8+6 today and having a major wobble! I'm still cramping up and have really bad back ache. Still been feeling queasy and having sore boobs. Just feel fed up. Try to be positive then I get these waves of negative thoughts crossing over me. I've not told anyone in RL either because I just feel stupid as there's no reason for me to worry. All signs are pointing towards good things. Maybe it's because I'm approaching the time I mc'd with my last pregnancy? It was dd's 9th bday yesterday, had a nice day. Going to call the dr on Monday if I don't feel better by then.

I feel so paranoid this morning. My sore boobs have disappeared 😢 I am trying to keep repeating to myself "I am pregnant today."

Sockportal are you due any early scans? Try not to symptom spot too much they can vary wildly.

I had no symptoms with this pregnancy then varying symptoms in the end I had to stood thinking too much about them as I was driving myself crazy.

Fingers crossed for everyone in the early stages. It's so stressful. xx

Sock I have days where mine don't feel sore too and hen I constantly poke at them and actually asked them out loud why they don't hurt the other day. By the end of the day it was back. Around 9-10 weeks symptoms do start to ease up a bit as the placenta takes over more. Try not to worry.
I keep telling myself the same thing today too. Just don't feel right xx

Amy I found it really hard when I got to the time I had my previous mcs too, I had spotting that week too so was a bit of a mess.

I had various pains and particularly back ache like with a period which really freaked me out as that's what happened when my second mc started. However it was all just pregnancy doing its weird thing.

It ain't over til it's over and remember the thread motto, "today I'm pregnant".

Sock I had a super intense sense of smell when I was pregnant with DD but it hasn't happened this time, I'm kind of sad about it, it was kind of like a superpower, albeit a rather lame and pointless one!

Happy Saturday everyone, hope we are all well have good weekends ahead.

Thank you ladies! I'm turning into such a mess. As far as I know I'm not due any early scans. Although I'm tempted to look into booking one

Sock - plenty of private clinics offer early scans, with prices ranging from £50-100. I decide it was worth it for a bit of reassurance but I waited until 9 weeks.

I'd recommend waiting until 8 weeks if you possibly can. If you go too early you risk not getting a helpful result: ie being told they can see a sac but nothing else because it's too early and you'd have to wait a week and pay for another scan for confirmation of the pregnancy.

In the meantime my advice for anyone navigating pregnancy after MC is distraction! Try to keep yourself busy with nice plans to spend time doing things you enjoy and spend time with people who are fun company. This approach has definitely saved my sanity!

nocats I got pregnant this time straight after MC with no AF in between.
My MW requested an early scan for me to check dates but I wasn't given one. I ended up having a private scan at just over 8 weeks for reassurance. I went with the first day of bleeding of MC as day one and was about 5 days out!

Thanks!
Say I did miss a period the month before I got pregnant so I think that's why my dates were off!
Deffo agree with Ineed distraction is key, I've distracted myself so much since I found out, tried not to think about it too much. Time really does fly by though. Try to relax and enjoy it
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Thanks all, lots of distracting things planned for me. I had to take dd2 to the hospital today for her ears. She's almost completely deaf! She's had grommets which have failed, don't know what ent plan to do next.

My dad is also coming over this afternoon to take dd1 out to Pizza Hut for her bday. I'm going too but I've just come over with the worst nausea yet. I actually do feel like I'm going to throw up right now! I really hope this isn't the start of HG again, I can't cope with it.

Last night I was reading about old wives tales and decided to try be baking soda test. It was super fizzy like mentos in Coke fizzy, indicates a boy but not sure on its accuracy. Was fun to do though

Hello, sorry for not updating sooner. When I got to th hospital with reduced movement the other night they did a scan and saw the heart was beating too slow, but then did a ctg which made it look normal so sent me away saying everything was fine, I new they were wrong so I phoned the specialist hospital from my car () and went there instead were they confirmed the heart is now beating too slow, I've come off the medication they put me on to see if that helps and it's just a wait and see type situation at the minute. I'm glad I went in though, if I hadn't I'd have carried on taking the medication and who knows what could have happened. I've been ill the rest of the week and DS has chicken pox now so I've not had chance to keep up, it's been a busy few days on here!

congratulations purple I hope you and your little boy are doing well

Alb - so pleased to hear from you and that everything is as ok as it can be. I've been thinking of you all week hoping that all is ok (which seems weird to say about someone I've never met!).

I'm glad the specialist hospital are on the case. When are you next being seen?

Alb so glad the specialist hospital took action. Fingers crossed everything goes well from now. Will they be monitoring you more now they've spotted this?

Also really glad things being looked at for you alb, goes to show how important it is to trust those mamma instincts.

Hope things calm down for you soon and the rest of your pregnancy is uneventful.

Hope they find a solution for your DD too amy and that the nausea passes and you can enjoy pizza!

Alb good to hear you're as ok as can be. I was thinking of you yesterday. I hope the specialist hospital keeps working with you to keep baby safe.

Sock how are you feeling now? I have had plenty of wobbly days when I wondered if anything was ok as my symptoms this pregnancy have been much more mild than my MMC. Now I'm getting close to the second trimester I'm nervous as to how I'll feel when the sore boobs and tiredness fade.

Amy I hope you managed to enjoy some pizza and that they can find a solution for dd. Would they maybe try grommets again? I had grommets as a kid, my mum didn't realise I was deaf as a post until I asked her how I was supposed to know what she was saying unless I could see her. She then twigged I'd been lip reading.

We're visiting my folks who live 3.5 hours away. We set off at 6.45 and had a good run to get here just after 10. I have had to have two naps to tide me over. Hope I sleep tonight!

I feel relaxed just being here with my parents looking after me. DD broke the news of us having a baby boy by showing them the dinosaur sleepsuit she picked yesterday god I hope this one works out .

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend!

Thinking of you Alb - must be so worrying but try not to stress too much - easier said than done I know!

We're having our last pre baby holiday so having a nice relaxing week in Spain...he kicked like crazy in the sun earlier!

Thinking of everyone on this thread and wishing you the best of luck! Just to recap for those who have joined recently, I had two miscarriages last year (12 weeks - stopped growing at 9 weeks, discovered on scan when ended up in hospital with a UTI which turned sepsis and 6+3 which started off with bleeding/cramping.)

Baby was born on Wednesday at 37+4 via emergency c section due to being breech, my waters broke and contractions started.

Is there a follow on thread from
This does anyone know? Struggling with breastfeeding and I could do with some advice. The latch isn't great and baby gets very frustrated as he wants it instantly and the milk is only just starting to come in. I've been expressing since yesterday and that's fine but I don't want this to be long term. Think we need lots of cosy time but came home from hospital yesterday and it's been guests non stop so the routine is like this :

• Baby wakes from sleep or is awoken if longer than 3.5 hours
• nappy change
• strip down if still sleepy
• try to latch but fails
• baby frustrated and stressed as very hungry
• give baby expressed milk in bottle
• top up with formula
• burped
• baby settles to sleep and transferred to Moses basket

My friend recommended waking the baby every 2 hours and staying in bed, keeping it close and building the bond , doing skin to skin and then he may latch better as it'll be a calmer environment.

Can anyone offer any advice? Point me to the right direction? Sorry i know this thread isn't the correct forum but lots of experience here. I feel overwhelmed

Hi purple, I trained as breastfeeding peer supporter when I had DD, over 3 yrs ago so am a bit rusty but will try help.
Sounds like you are doing good things so far and would second getting lots of skin to skin time. Try and get some quiet time just you and baby too as lots of visitors can be distracting and stressful for you both.
If you can avoid it try and cut out the formula top ups as these will impact your supply.

Make sure you are drinking plenty of water which will help your supply, you don't want to get dehydrated.

Feeding shouldn't hurt, if latch is wrong then use a finger to pop baby off and try again.

Don't hold the back of baby's head, support the neck/head gently but don't force him on.

Remember it is hard to get started and don't beat yourself up.

Have your spoken to midwife? Has she offered a lactation consultant visit?

See if she can recommend any breastfeeding clinics in the area.

Feel free to pm me if you like and I will dig out my training folder to see if it has any more tips.

The website Kellymom is a good resource... link to get you started
kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursing/

Went to Pizza Hut and managed to eat without throwing up but pretty much had my senses cut off while I was In there, the smells of food were horrendous.

As for dd2, she had a big chunk of wax removed from one of her ears which also contained one of her grommets that had been stuck for i don't know how long. Her tymp test was still flat, compete negative pressure with no movement of the ear drum but she can hear perfectly. They said they don't know why that is and that's she's probably hearing through the bone in the ear rather than the drum which I find really really weird! Anyhow they've discharged her for now.

Purple your baby is gorgeous. Sorry you're having trouble with feeding. I'm also a breastfeeding councillor and second what doom has said. Bottle feeding is so completely different from breastfeeding, it can hamper the latch further. What I would suggest as well is plenty of skin to skin, as much quiet as possible so you and baby can concentrate, drinking plenty and perseverance. My daughter had a tongue tie and would slip off a lot and make slurping noises when the latch wasn't right. I would squeeze a tiny bit of milk out hold her head in one hand and my boob in the other. I'd touch her with my nipple at the top of her top lip near her nose so she'd open her mouth really wide like a yawn and then latch her on. Took a bit of practice but it worked in the end. The try to relax. Also waking baby up before they get to the point of being so hungry they're distraught helps too. I tried wake feeding every two hours until I got my latch down.
I hope you settle soon, it's really hard in the beginning when you're in recovery yourself.

I'm really rubbish at keeping up with the thread, hope everyone else is ok xx

He's just so gorgeous Purple

Sorry you're struggling a bit with feeding. I gather its par for the course a bit. I don't know whether this will be helpful at all and I might be stating the bloomin' obvious, but as I attended a feeding talk last week it's fresh in my mind:

Most of what was said has already been covered by your friend and by ImGonna but one more thing:

I was surprised at how much boob the baby is supposed to get in their mouth (nipple should be at the back because its by squeezing the boob rather than squeezing the nipple that the milk comes out) so you put your nipple towards their nose which is their signal to gape open their mouth and you quickly pop in as much boob as is feasible.

Realistically you're going to need some quiet, unpressurised time to get to grips with feeding. I'm planning on making myself unpopular by taking myself upstairs to feed baby if visitors stay for too long.

We have been told in our NHS antenatal classes to phone either our midwives (during office hours) or the hospital (out of hours) if we need help with feeding. They're very keen on breastfeeding here so they have a whole team of lactation support staff on hand to help you out. Maybe your hospital run something similar?

@SayItIsntSo1 I feel a happier now, the tenderness in my boobs has returned. Never thought I would be celebrating pain and discomfort! I went to IKEA and the smell of meatballs made me want to vomit.

@purpleviolet1 your baby is gorgeous, I'm sorry that you had to go through everything you did before having your baby, your story is giving me hope

Purple has he been checked for tounge tie? With the latch it is hard when their mouths are tiny. I found holding my boob with my thumb on top and fingers underneath, bringing baby to the nipple, pulling baby's mouth open by pulling their chin down with the back of my index finger, then shoving as much boob as I could into their mouth really helped. Also, play white noise (there is an app you can download) next to baby to calm them down when trying to feed really helps. PM me if you need too- I'm not an expert but I'm still feeding 8 weeks later which I never thought I'd be able to do. Also check out the 'infant feeding' forum in 'feed the world' section on here. He is gorgeous! What have you called him?xxx

Purple Congratulations! He's gorgeous.
I'm sorry you're struggling with feeding. I'm only 3 weeks in, and a first timer, but wanted to say don't beat yourself up over it. Breastfeeding is hard. I spent a lot of the first week or so in tears over it because I thought it was supposed to be this natural thing and I couldn't get the hang of it. It's now a lot easier (still not perfect, but getting there) so it is worth persevering. It sounds like you're doing all the right things. I'd second what others have said about keeping visits to a minimum and lots of skin to skin. The thing that really helped me was speaking to as many different midwives, lactation consultants, other mums as possible. Each time we improved the latch a little bit more. Also try out different positions and see what feels comfy. I was shown two different basic positions and I'm now doing a sort of mix of the two, no idea if it is 'right' but it's working for us.
Also, you're right that it's much harder if baby is very hungry and has worked themselves up into a state, so I try to feed as soon as I see signs of hunger in his sleep (starting to stir, moving hands, sucking motion with lips etc). Even if he's still asleep it's possible to get him to latch. It tends to be every 2 hours for us. Or every 15 mins like this evening.. I also change nappy part way through feed, if he's fallen asleep on the boob it wakes him up so he gets a bit more and means he isn't waiting whilst I change nappy first. I'm going to say it again, breastfeeding is hard, you and baby have to learn together on top of exhaustion and hormones so give yourself time.

Ah cluster feeding! Those first few weeks are tough. It does get easier and quickly. I promise! Hope you get the fabled extra long sleep that follows Nasch!