Pregnancy After Infertility IV

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Pregnancy after infertility or fertility treatment can be a scary place, from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding to other random symptoms.

We are a supportive group of women across all stages of pregnancy who are used to being on the wrong side of the odds and still can't believe it's really happening.

Previous thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2755564-Pregnancy-after-infertility-III

Star I still can't really believe I've got this far! Yes I would like to go to a birth centre, are local one is not attached to a hospital so really need the consultants ok to go there. Totally understand how you felt about the clinic.

Congratulations and welcome moggle, ticking & Ash

moggle & ticking sorry to hear your both feeling rough, I've no personal advice as I didn't get full on sickness but if you're struggling might be worth speaking to your GP.

Good luck for Monday moggle

ticking even though my viability scan was fine I found I didn't want to buy anything pregnancy related until after the 12 week scan! The NHS recommend you also take vit D & I think you can get folic acid with vit D but I take a pregnancy & fertility multi vit from superdrug (cheaper than the branded ones)

hi ash! figured you'd come here too! good ole maple!

hi brook thanks for the info! congrats on your BFP! Gosh your subconscious must be on overdrive to be dreaming that but I cant really judge as I feel like I always think its not really real yet, not until we hear the hearbeat, then the genetic screening tests to check for abnormalities, and so and so forth. I guess until, we hold our very own babies in our arms, its all too good to be true. I've just ordered the pregnacare original, compared it with the other pregnacare varieties and decided the original is enough. If you dont drink milk but eat a lot of fish, brocolli, nuts, green leafy veggies, you're covered for calcium.

hi custard how many weeks do you have left? my gp just said to monitor how many times i vomit as if i cant keep anything down, I should go to the nearest urgent care clinic. I've decided to at least buy more vitamins and the bepanthen cream and start rubbing that on my tummy. Aware stretch mark is genetic but still, it helps to start moisturising! Did you self refer to a maternity hospital or did your GP do it for you?

Glad you found us moggle, ticking, ash!

Custard I wasn't able to move my scan in the end as they only do the viability scans on a Friday. Does being on the ball make baby turn? Hope it does before your appointment!

Star i think that's very sensible of you and DH. I've been secretly umming and ahhing (as DH would disapprove) of having a scan before my 8 week one but know it's just feeding my anxiety and I just need to try and sit it out until 30th! I would feel the same about being discharged so quickly!

Good luck for tomorrow moggle! Will you have another before the dating scan too? Sorry to hear you are suffering with sickness. Have you tried ginger?

Ticking I'm on the pregnacare original vits now. Have you tried eating little and often? I heard it's meant to help.

Ash your scan is a few days before mine - and yes time is going SO slowly! Feels like OTD was at least a week ago but it was only 3 days

Welcome brook and sorry for your loss. I've not had many dreams yet but I did have one that the day before my OTD it was negative. It's hard to stop dreams effect you as you wake up feeling terrible - agree it's because you have been thinking about it and experienced it previously, dreams and minds are a funny thing with a life of their own!

AFM I've been feeling quite hungry and have stocked up on snacks. Boobs slightly tender and the tightness in my stomach seems to be going (which has worried me!) otherwise I feel OK. I feel like I should be feeling more but it's early days I suppose!

May I very cautiously say hello? I recognise lots of you from the infertility boards.

We have a daughter who is almost 5 who took over 2 years to conceive with drilling and clomid. We've been ttc#2 for 3 years. One mc in September 2015 and 2 failed cycles of ivf. This is a complete suprise pregnancy as we never expected it to happen while waiting for more treatment which we were due to start next month.

So I'm around 4-5 weeks, found out a few days ago and utterly terrified. As this isn't a pregnancy after treatment I'll understand if you don't want me stick around so please just say xx

Brook welcome and congratulations. I think the dreams are fairly normal unfortunately, I know it's hard but try not to let the dreams upset you too much.

ticking I have 7 weeks and 1 day until 40 weeks! But it's my first pregnancy and apparently the average is 40 + 10 so might have a bit longer to wait! I waited until after my viability scan then called my GP who referred me I did have to provide a sample to prove I was pregnant though

maple sorry you couldn't move your appointment. The ball should help my pelvis open and encourage a head down position, I think it's worked currently!

bean welcome and congratulations, there are a few others who have had surprise bfps so your more than welcome. Will you book an early scan?

Hi bean! Wow that is great luck, but of course only if you view it in isolation, you've been through so much on the way. Congratulations and I can totally understand how terrified you are. Hehe, you and star are going to become those tales that wellmeaning yet annoying people tell of "well I know someone who TTC for ages and then just as they were about to have more treatment, bang they got pregnant just like that! so you never know!"

We had some fucking terrifying exciting news yesterday which is that we are having twins. Only 7 weeks tomorrow so still early days but they were there on the screen in their little sacs beating away and looking perfect. I feel bad for saying this but we are both pretty scared! Fourth FET and down to the 'worst' embryos of the bunch, we thought we'd be lucky if one took. I had a suspicion due to feeling so very sick, and I can feel my uterus already, but DH was in happy denial. I've told my mum, and one of my good friends from NCT with DD who gave the correct response of congratulations mixed with horror. I am at work today and want to tell everyone but am managing to keep my mouth shut.

ticking I got no stretch marks last time which amazed me (mum has tons), I did put some kind of oil from body shop on. I'm guessing this time my body will be wrecked!

Congratulations moggle - twins!
I'm not going to be one of those stories. I think with enough crap down I wouldn't dare say that. It's still got to stick yet, last time I had a mc at 6 weeks.
I might see if I can get a scan at 6-7 weeks through epau. My gp is pretty good and I've had lots of surgery so massively increased ectopic risk. Otherwise yes i guess we will pay for one.
For now I'm testing and watching lines change. Freaked a little yesterday as had some brown when wiped but that seems to have stopped now.

Don't worry, I know anyone who goes through this all would never tell those tales! It'll be your next door neighbour / work colleague / etc :-)

Fingers crossed it sticks. I would've thought an early scan would be sensible, hopefully your GP / the EPU sees it that way. Those first couple of weeks of waiting are awful xxx

Firstly, Bean!!! I am so pleased to see you hear. Get that you're being cautious but eeeee! Congratulations!

Secondly, Moggle I don't know you, but just wanted to pop on to say that twins are awesome! Hard work, but totally worth it!
Are yours DCDA? I have MCDA girls who are 17.5 weeks now. We had 2 embryos put back, but lost one and the other one split! Xx

DCDA... I think? Two sacs? Assumption is that both embryos took and no mention that it was one that split. I did make them look carefully for a third!!

Yup DCDA. Lovely :). Chance of one of each then

Hi everyone. Nice to see some familiar faces over here from the infertility boards.
The Nurses won't give me my scan date and yet and have to ring back next week.
5 weeks today and I'm dying to know if there's any thing there and if its a double pregnancy!
moggle my dp said he would be shit scared if we had twins! Happy denial I would take lol
custard I was thinking of taking the pregnacare vitamins but im just feel like with the suppositories and steroids im already dosed up!

Bean great to see you here! I think each of us have cautiously creeped onto this board - I'm still lurking more than posting - doesn't seem real and afraid.

Wow moggle twins! How many weeks are you now? I still have to wait until 30th for my viability scan

Broody when do you have to call next week for the scan? Are they waiting for you to be so many weeks along? Also I'm sure if you are taking folic acid and vit d the pregnacare isn't necessary.

I'm 5+6 today and pretty much all symptoms have gone. Don't feel pregnant at all! Feeling very worried constantly and have massive scanxiety already. Finding the wait really hard and still got 16 days to go!

moggle next Tuesday though they given me the date to ring this Monday gone! I have to be 7.5/8 weeks for the scan. My anxiety is bad too, knicker checking, keep taking tests..16 days I get ur counting down the days!

Aw maple and broody that's a long wait. I'm 7 weeks today. So still early.
I had no real symptoms with DD so try not to worry about lack of symptoms. Impossible though :-)

haha this is my work calendar 5 was OTD, 27 is scan. I think we're all obsessed with counting.

maple I don't really have any symptoms either a very small amount of queasiness is all.

broody, maple counts same as me which would put you 5+5

Welcome moggle, ticking, ash, brook, bean. Love to have some more early first semester buddies Looks like the May/June cycle thread has been super positive!

Bean, you're definitely welcome if I am - 8+6 here with no 1... 18 months on the infertility board, failed Clomid rounds, cancelled ivf and then a surprise natural bfp after over 2.5 years ttc. And I'm pretty terrified.

Twins! Congratulations moggle, how exciting! I can't imagine twins - I can understand why you're nervous, but it's definitely great news!

Brook, I'm actually starting to have dreams about having a baby! Seems my subconscious is being positive, but when I'm awake I keep thinking I'm bleeding.

In terms of supplements, I'm just taking folate and vitamin d.

Maple, I do think symptoms come and go, but it's hard not to freak out when they reduce. I hardly have any symptoms but I've been so so tired - literally slept all day Saturday and been going to bed at 8:30. Then yesterday I had a presentation and had a really long day at work on Tuesday and had to go to the shopping centre after then up early the next day. And I felt fine... so obviously instead of being pleased I could get all my work done and didn't fall asleep during my presentation, I decided this means I've probably miscarried cos my symptoms have gone! Sorry, a bit long winded, but I guess try not to worry and ultimately we should feel happy about a relatively easy time so far.

So sorry to those suffering from sickness. I hope it eases up soon, or you can find some remedies that help.

Hoping for confirmation of my referral (and hopefully a scan date) this week. Not too much longer til viability scans for a few of you.

Star seems like a few of us have been lucky! Im just on constant knicker watch, worrying about every twinge and cramp. Hopefully next week ill get a date for my viability scan.
maple symptoms have been fluctuating with me. One day I have cramps next nothing. The tiredness is killing me. I'm also on steroids and there making me eat like there's no tomorrow

Hi all, had a bit of a scare last night when I got up to go to the loo at 1am - there was really dark red / brown blood then it went pink then it had been brown since. I called the clinic and they told me to go the the EPU. Got back earlier after a 4 hour wait and I was measuring exactly 6 weeks and also saw a heart beat! So I'm feeling relieved - I burst out crying and I was on my own as DH was en route still and mum was waiting for him in the waiting room! Apparently there is a bleed next to the placenta which is causing the spotting.

Have you had a booking in appointment star? I'm not sure when to call my GP. I was going to wait until my 8 week scan but then I'm worried about waiting lists for scans and appointments so I might call and ask what the procedure is. I asked the Dr scanning me if it was normal for symptoms to come and go, cramping etc and she said it was.

Broody how long will you be on steroids for?

Scary maple glad everything went well though and you got to see your baby for the first time. X Should the bleed just resolve itself then?
I think I answered the symptoms question too quick. The queasiness is def escalating to full on nausea!

Thanks ash, yes the dr didn't seem concerned and said I'll probably spot for a few more days. Had a bit of a Google and I think they usually get reabsorbed. Stopped googling now as I'm sure I will end up freaking myself out!

Sorry about the nausea! Ginger tea / biscuits etc?!

moggle congratulations on the twins amazing if slightly scary news!

broody you do feel drugged up in the first few weeks (then you worry when you stop taking the suppositories!) but as long as you're taking folic acid and vit d that should be fine.

star my symptoms did come and go but on the days you feel fine it's so hard not to freak out!

maple sorry to hear you've had a scary time, so pleased all was well. I had a similar experience and bled several times between 8 and 12 weeks, the bleeds were outside the sac but scary nonetheless. EPU are fantastic though so make sure you call them if you're at all concerned

maple glad everything was okay, i would have been to frightened. I keep checking, i keep getting cramps. I've been on suppositories since why transfer after I had am allergic reaction to some meds
Custard yeah i definitely cant wait til I stop taking all these meds!

Oh wow maple, how amazing to see the heartbeat! That must have been so scary, but I'm so pleased all is fine and you got a bonus early viability scan!

Sorry about the nausea ash

Got my referral through yesterday and my booking appt is 29th when I'll hopefully be 10+6. Guess midwife will book the scan then and imagine it'll be around 13 weeks Not sure I can wait that long! Maple, I'd just get onto your GP now. I called mine at around 4 weeks and she said to call back when I'm 7/8 wks and they'll refer me. So I took the time to register with a new GP (you might remember I'd stuck with my old gp over an he ago to continue the ivf treatment without delays). So then made appt with new GP at 7 weeks who said they don't do the referral and I just self refer to maternity services which I could've just done. But guess it's just the way different boroughs work. Anyway, feel like I've left things a bit late so I'd advise to just get all the info you can now about how it all works and then you'll know what you need to do when

Great news maple

Thankfully my brown spotting has completely stopped. Feel v sick and boobs seem enormous at the moment. Scared to feel any hope though.
Seeing gp on Monday due to past history of mc. Will also try for an early scan. Need to see gp as it's a bit complicated as I need my 12 week scan will be after I've moved 50 miles!