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Pregnancy After Infertility IV

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Blueroses99 · 10/02/2017 06:40

Pregnancy after infertility or fertility treatment can be a scary place, from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding to other random symptoms.

We are a supportive group of women across all stages of pregnancy who are used to being on the wrong side of the odds and still can't believe it's really happening.

Previous thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2755564-Pregnancy-after-infertility-III

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AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 30/03/2017 17:17

blueroses Flowers

Let's hope the stitch does it's job and gets you through to viability.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 30/03/2017 17:17

Its not it's!

BabytoBoris · 30/03/2017 17:20

Blueroses - Flowers hope you are ok - thinking if you lovely.

BabytoBoris · 30/03/2017 17:22

For a tone who has given birth we have a really quiet 'babies after infertility' thread - we need you to come and liven it up :)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2808184-babies-after-infertility?msgid=67967903#67967903

lucieloos · 30/03/2017 17:26

Thinking of you blue, hopefully the stitch will help.

Boris, can't wait until I can join you on the new thread. Another 7 weeks until due date for me.

How is everyone else doing? We are off for a drink with our nct class tonight. We finished last week. Found the course good although I was disappointed they didn't really do anything on breathing as my mum reckons she found that so useful. I've bought a hypno birthing cd now which I'm hoping might be helpful.

Blueroses99 · 30/03/2017 17:30

All ok. Will update later x

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blue2014 · 30/03/2017 17:39

Glad things are ok Blue, been thinking of you Flowers

Chocolateandwineplease27 · 30/03/2017 17:40

Glad to hear you're ok Blueroses

Lucie - I did a hypnobirthing course and to be honest there wasn't that much breathing! Think yoga is the most useful!!

Has anyone heard from sammy??

13 weeks left for me and definitely feeling bigger/things seem like more effort!

kiwiblue · 30/03/2017 17:49

blueroses I've been thinking of you, so glad all ok.

Boris I'm due in just over 2 weeks so will come and join once the baby is here!

Lucie my NCT only did breathing briefly as well. A lot of people recommended the hypnobirthing book by Katharine Graves to me. I've read it and found it had a lot of good advice on breathing, so would recommend it.

I'm now on maternity leave, which is so nice. Spent the first week organising hospital bag and baby stuff! Now trying to rest lots and enjoy the peace.

Hope all doing well.

friends123 · 30/03/2017 17:49

Thinking of you blue Flowers

lucieloos · 30/03/2017 18:18

Thanks kiwi and choc. Will give the CDs a try and hopefully there will be something useful on them.

I meant to ask about Sammy too have been looking out for updates but not seen anything.

Chocolateandwineplease27 · 30/03/2017 20:35

kiwi was thinking about u the other day and wondering how long you'd got! Hope the maternity leave goes well - keep us posted!! Xx

Blueroses99 · 31/03/2017 07:33

I had the second stitch yesterday. Doctors are much happier that I will avoid imminent labour. Still likely to be pre-term but they believe we've bought a bit more time. Advised to rest, not necessarily bedrest, definitely not going back to work now, no walks etc. Feel drained but so relieved. Staying in hospital til Sat. Thanks for all the kind wishes and support xx

Boris have bookmarked but hoping I don't join too soon!

Lucie I remember lots about breathing techniques in my yoga classes too if that's an option for you.

Chocolate perfect excuse to delegate anything you don't want to do!

Kiwi wow nearing the finish line, enjoy maternity leave!

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MPP81 · 31/03/2017 08:12

Hello all!!

Apologies for disappearing! I've had a crazy time, but I'll get to that after I've caught up with you all! Prepare for another essay!!

Blueroses My heart absolutely broke for you, reading your update. I am so so sorry that you have to deal with this, and I wish I could do more than tell you I am thinking of you. I am so glad the doctors have bought more time, and the second stitch went well. I admire your strength and am praying for you, your DH and your baby xxxxxx

Friends How are you doing, lovely? It does sound like we've been taking turns! How were the swab results after? Any sign of infection? Great news that you're nor dilating! What is your plan of action? That cheesecake looks awesome!!

Ghengis HUGE congratulations on the birth of your little boy!! You must be over the moon. Lots of love to you and your family :-)

Sara ah, people and they're insenstive buump comments! Ignore your husbands aunt. I bet you do look fabulous!! Your colleague also needs to shush! I think its perfectly normal to be nervous before the anomaly scan, especially when you've been through so much to get to this point. Ignore her! Good luck with the scan today!

Custard Glad that you're feeling movements. I think that was the point that I relaxed a little. I hope youre doing ok :-)

Hedgehog Congrats on finding out you're having a boy!! Exciting!! Glad the 20 week scan went well and hope you're doing ok!

Blondes Hope everything has progressed well with the induction!! Keep us posted when you are able. Thinking of you!!

Trixie I'm with you on the nightmares. They've been pretty consistent for me from the start, and I always wake up feeling horrible and anxious. I hope your stretchy crampy feelings have eased. Try not to worry about them too much as I think they are fairly normal but, as aways, its always worth checking with your midwife if you're concerned. Definitely worth looking into group b strep in my opinion, but keep in mind that there are some terrifying stories online and while its worth knowing about, there are things that can be done to minimise the risks if you were found to have it.

Thirdeye Gad to hear your scan went well. Such a lovely moment seeing the heart beating. I hope you are feeling positive :-)

Sammy How are you and the twins doing?

Kate Congratulations on the birth of your son!!

Rosebud Glad to hear you're well!

Lucie I've been wondering how you're doing? Is everything going well? 7 weeks to go for you now!! Thats fab!! Hope you had a good time, out for your drink.

Chocolate Glad to hear you're well, despite the feeling bigger. When things seem like more effort, I recommend a nice nap!! Wink

Kiwi I hope you enjoy maternity leave!

AFM, its been a strange few weeks. I've been in and out of hospital pretty much constantly with the bleeding. Its literally been 2-3 days at hospital, then 1-2 days at home, then 2-3 days at hospital. No idea why the bleeding seems to stop when I'm there and restart when I get home. Anyway, I continued to keep missing appointments with my consultant and the doctors at the hospital (where I was supposed to be delivering, for gods sake!) pretty much refused to make a decision on what to do with me and kept advising me to 'tell your consultant this is what we suggest', even though I kept explaining that I kept missing my appointments because I was in with them! Eventually, they booked me in for a section on 11th April (38 weeks) but even then they kept saying it wasnt definite until my consultant agreed and I would have to see her first. It was awfully frustrating. Anyway, I finally mananged to make it to see my consultant yesterday. I got a bit upset at first, as she kept saying 'I'm not happy with the 11th' and I thought she was talking about pushing it backwards, but then she checked her book, asked if I'd be willing to change delivery hospitals and told me she could book me in for Monday (37+2)!! I think my jaw hit the floor! She basically said that she was very unhappy with the attitude of the docs at the other hospital because of their refusal to make decisions, and said that even if they wanted it to be her decision, it was simple enough to phone or email her to ask her opinion and formulate a plan instead of leaving me hanging, especially considering I was bleeding and getting stressed out every few days. She said she was not happy to let the cycle of bleeding continue any longer, and would rather get my boy delivered. So, Sunday night I go in for a sliding scale for my diabetes, and monday morning I will be having my section. The only thing that may interfere with this plan is that they want there to be space in the SCBU for him, just incase he has breathing difficulties due to early delivery/c section delivery or incase he has low blood sugars because of my diabetes, so if there's no room in SCBU, section will be Tues/wed/thurs/whenever there's room, but it will def be next week. Its both very scary and very exciting. In the meantime, if I bleed or have reduced movements etc, I have to go straight in and I will be in til after the birth so I'm resting as much as possible to try and stay home as long as possible. I have also had to start colostrum harvesting, as the consultant said it would be very beneficial for baby, due to the diabetes. I've managed about 0.4ml so far, and I'm hoping it'll get a bit easier over the next couple of days. Needless to say, I've deferred my uni course now. I only had two assignments left, and they've let me bank my assessment scores so I have to restart in October officially, but I wont actually have any work to do until this time next year, when I will just complete the two assignments I havent yet done, so thats worked out fine. :-)

So thats my update!! Apologies if I've missed anyone, and I hope everyone is well. I will keep checking in and keep you posted when possible.

Waves

lucieloos · 31/03/2017 09:55

Mpp, sorry to hear you've had the stress of all the bleeding and in and out of hospital but wow that's amazing that you are going to be meeting your baby next week. So excited for you. Keep us posted!

Everything is going well with me thanks. Baby is following the 50th percentile line or just above so midwife has told me I'm not going to have a 9pounder or anything. No real problems at the moment. Had some mild period type cramping a couple of days ago but think I over did things with painting and decorating around the house so taking things easy now and it has stopped. Next midwife appt is a week Tuesday. I've had the week off this week and have 4 more weeks in work when I go back before I start maternity. Can't wait now.

JustTrixie · 31/03/2017 11:08

So relieved for you that yesterday went well Blueroses

I was going to ask after you MPP glad you managed to see your Consultant and have a plan. Wow, your little boy will be here so soon. I hope all goes well for you next week. I did get the cramping checked out with the midwife as I felt so worried and all is fine.

Genghis massive congratulations on the birth of your little boy Smile

Not long at all now Lucie!

Love the name change Boris hope all is well with you and your little boy.

Enjoy your maternity leave Kiwi I am also keen on hypnobirthing so will pick up a copy of that book.

My NCT seems to be really late, I'll be 35 weeks pregnant at the first class. We've booked a baby first aid course and also a John Lewis nursery tour for after our 20 week scan so lots of dates in the diary.

Madgwick · 31/03/2017 12:16

Hi Blueroses, thanks for the link this morning and invite to join you all. I've had a bit of a read through but at work so will have to read properly later on when home. Really sorry to hear what you've been through recently and keeping fingers crossed all ok for you. I think I'm quite a way behind everyone as just over six weeks. Hi everyone Smile.

Custardandcream · 31/03/2017 12:28

Blueroses I'm so relieved the stitch went ok yesterday and it's great the doctors seem happier

MPP sorry to hear you've been having a hard time, you're consultant sounds great (now you've actually managed to see her!) good luck with everything next week, how exciting!

Genghis congratulations!

Sara the movements are lovely (even when I was woken up by it on Saturday!) hope your scan goes ok today, don't worry too much about not feeling anything I know plenty of women who didn't until 23 weeks

lucie, Chocolate & kiwi interesting to hear about the lack of breathing techniques, will try and remember to look into that separately from the classes

Trixie you sound like you have a busy few weeks! I like the sound of a John Lewis nursery tour. I think my NCT class is really early I'll be starting at 25 weeks, I could have gone on a later one with my due date but the final weekend session clashes with MIL's 60th

AFM I have no real update other than I keep reading that I should have loads of energy (22+2) but I don't so that's a bit annoying!

Waves to anyone I've missed

Custardandcream · 31/03/2017 12:34

Madgwick welcome and congratulations! When's your fist scan? We're all at different stages so don't worry about being behind

Madgwick · 31/03/2017 12:49

Hi Custard, thank you! Still quite nervous about it all at the moment. 7wk+1 scan is on 6th April (from 2nd try with ICSI).
Not strictly related to this thread but am having a few technical issues. Have only just installed the MN app today but struggling with it as it goes to the top of the thread and you have to scroll down each time which takes ages. Email notification seems to work for new post but can't see my last comment from app. Is it because I'm on an android mob do you think?

Custardandcream · 31/03/2017 13:42

Madgwick unfortunately I don't think the nervousness ever really goes away! But hopefully you'll feel reassured after you scan, not too long to wait at least. I can't really help with the technical issues, I just use the browser on my android and it works ok

Madgwick · 31/03/2017 14:05

I hope so, I'm still not sure it's sunk in that we made it this far but will feel happier once first two scans done.

That's what i've ended up doing, the app was a pain Grin

FeelingForSnow · 31/03/2017 15:50

Hello girls,

Sorry for hijacking your post. I'm 33+1 after ICSI and been having regular growth scans. Her weight is just under he 10th centile and her tummy has tailed off and is on the 9th.
I remember being told by the fertility clinic that IVF babies have got smaller birth weight of approx. 200g on average.
I just wondered if any of you who are in late 2nd or 3rd trimester also have small babies even though there is no apparent reason why?
Everything else seems to be OK. Waters-good; cord-good; placenta- good and they also checked if the baby's blood flow is normal which it was. Sometimes if something slows down they redirect the blood to affected area to compensate but that does not seem to be the case.
She is otherwise very active and I feel great. Although I measure 3cm behind I don't feel small.
Sorry for a long post.

Blueroses99 · 31/03/2017 16:54

MPP how stressful for you with the dithering doctors but your consultant sounds lovely and I'm pleased to hear that you'll be meeting baby MPP very soon 💕

Lucie I'm sure it'll fly by for you!

Trixie the JL nursery tours are exciting! Enjoy the more fun bits of the pregnancy!

Madgwick welcome and good luck with the scan next week! I use the browser version as I hated the app and deleted it straightaway.

Custard loads of energy?! I think that's a bit optimistic so don't worry if you don't have that.

Feeling welcome to the thread. I'm afraid I have no advice as I haven't reached the stage where the baby is measured but I'm sure someone will be along with more info soon.

Friends, Sara, Hedgehog (and everyone I've missed) how are you ladies getting on??

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blue2014 · 31/03/2017 17:18

Feeling - I don't have any advice but my DS was nearly 10IB at birth so I don't think it's always the case they're small. Best wishes to you and your little one. I've known a few babies on 10th percentile and they're fine

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