Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

Thanks for the kind replies. I did test on the day AF was due last time, but had started spotting later on the same evening. It took two weeks for it to finally finish and was quite painful for a couple of days towards the end, so I don't know if I would have thought it was a normal AF if I hadn't tested.
AF was due yesterday, I'll try my very best to ignore the two Frers which are being delivered from Amazon today! With my two children, my BFP's were exactly that.. Big and fat before AF was due and they showed up within milliseconds. I know every pregnancy is different but, Lordy, they're all bloody stressful!

Sorry duck as i said i've not had a chemical before that was just my interpretation of one.

I would definitely be considering myself pregnant with all the tests in your pic so you should too. The motto on the thread is - today you are pregnant! Congratulations. Enjoy it x

Thanks Ginger! Don't get me wrong, had I not been ttc and not tested that day, I would probably have thought it was a heavy, messed up AF, I have had those in the past. But as I was ttc, I was probably more aware of the pain etc.
I really want to be excited (and I am) I just can't say it out loud in RL just yet

Haha just tell someone it may make it feel more real! Lovely news.

Oh heck i have another dilemma. Just rang the hospital to see where to go for my scan Monday and they told me i could go in tomorrow if i liked.

The benefit of this is they could likely get me in for the mva monday if i did. What do i do? Now it's all getting real i'm panicking.

I'd take them up on the offer Ginger. You've spent days on end worrying. It doesn't make sense to prolong your misery longer than necessary.

Do you think? I'll wait and see what dp thinks. He has a heavy night planned tonight so he wouldn't be in a state to come which is fine as i'm going myself Monday anyway but im thinking processing the news hungover might not be good?

Not something we can get out of either, df is having a little house party tonight with all my db's and their familys and tbh even i want to be there as it's very rare we are all together and my df will be looking forward to it.

Ginger - if you have something on tonight then maybe tomorrow is a perfect time for a scan - you won't be sitting at home worrying about it! Regardless, if you decide to wait then it is only another 24 hours! Keep us posted, got everything crossed for you.

Bugger it i will ring and book at least i will know. Thank you xx

sew we went to see lalaland last night, enjoyed it though don't think it's quite worth all the hype.

ginger I would go for the scan tomorrow too, specially as you're going on your own regardless.

I am utterly shattered today. Late night after the film and up before 7am today followed by kids birthday party. Think I might need an afternoon nap!

All booked for 10.00am tomo. Like you all say at least i will know and fingers crossed will get sorted monday should i need it.

An afternoon nap sounds just the ticket!

I dont get lala land. Not saw it but saw the trailer. Are they just day dreaming or something? I love a cinema trip.

That's great ginger, you'll be able to enjoy tonight & the wondering will all be over before lunch tnrw. Really hoping you get a positive outcome.

I have started to panic about my scan on Tuesday. Had painful cramping last week & no symptoms at all since. I'm convinced it has just gone away again & I think my heart might break. I was only having extremely mild symptoms on this pg anyway compared to constant awful awful nausea with my mmc & my of with DD was somewhere in the middle of both. I wish to god it was Tuesday so I can just know.

ginger that's great news you're getting your scan a bit earlier. Good luck and hope it all goes well, will be thinking of you.

DH and I dtd last night for first time in a week or so, woke up to a peachy coloured discharge when I wiped. Nothing else until now when I went to the loo and have reddy brown when I wipe. Gone into a major panic, also sharp pain in my tummy when I cough..
Have a scan booked for Monday at 10.40 but so worried now and just amhad a little cry. I have such high hopes for this pregnancy and felt so positive. Not felt as sick today which hasn't helped

Maybe it would be best to not dtd at the moment oliver? It's probably just.your cervix though apparently the blood vessels there are fragile in early pregnancy.

eden as everyone else has said every pregnancy is different and sounds like you had strong ones in your mmc which just proves they dont mean all that much. Keep positive im sure everything is fine.

I'm hoping that's all it is ginger and very pleased i have my scan all scheduled in for Monday so I don't have too long to wait. I guess if this continues between now and then and turns bright red I'll have a pretty good idea that it's gone wrong again..but will hope for the best for now

Good luck for tomorrow & Monday ginger and olivers mummy x

Thanks sah.

Yes i suppose but even then it doesnt mean the worst. I'm sure it's nothing and will keep everything crossed for us all. Least we all have early scans!

Afternoon my lovelies.
I was riddled with cramps through the entirety of the first 12wks, had to even have paracetamol at times so take no notice of cramps I'd say.
Also pulling/sharp pain is completely normal also on either side.
I had no symptoms other than slightly uncomfy boobs and that was it!
I'm crossing my fingers for you tomoz ginge, you feel the way I did at the beginning, it was like if things arnt on track I'm wasting days, it's that self pres mode we get into, hopefully you will have your answer tomoz and then can make them plans for either way!
Oh and yes will mellor is still in it, I'm not too much of a fan lol
Breaking bad is awesome but it takes a while to get into lol

Also to add, the early days are hateful, there's no solution you just have to grin and bare them some how, I can't imagine how I got through them now, such a hard time.
I'm sat here now with my feet up and a cuppa tea and the baby is kicking and punching right out of my stomach and all the kids are watching him saying eeeeeeh mum is that normal rofl moral of the story, try to have a bit of faith if u can my lovelies as at the beginning I wouldn't of dared imagine being this far & this happy ❤

Oh ginger olivers and eden I'm sorry you're all having such a tough time at the moment. I was so desperate for that first scan as, like you I just wanted to know as soon as possible if it was going wrong so that we could start to deal with it and move on. Luckily for me things are working out so far. I had some random stabby pains every now and then in the first few weeks too olivers so try not to worry too much. And ye maybe hold off dtd for a little bit as maybe you are irritating your cervix?

So nice to hear positive news from further along bec.

Oh and re lala land ginger, it's not a dream, very much in the style of an old school romatic musical but set in modern times, so it has some fantasy like sequences. Ryan Gosling is gorgeous and awesome as always but I don't think it quite deserves all the hype.

I'm a mess! I did another frer. It was with very concentrated but not fmu. It took ages for anything other than the first line to come up and when it did (outside the 3mins) it was so feint. Much feinter than last night which was much more diluted.
I'm having really strange stomach pains too. Not like the ones I had during my cp, more like the sort you have when you have a stomach bug.
I've sent my very reluctant husband to try to get a clear blue digital.
God! I tested once when I was pregnant with my children and that was it. I've done 5 in the last 6 days now, I'm losing my mind (and about £40)!
Does anyone have positive stories after ridiculously feint lines?

ginger I'm glad you've managed to get a scan tomorrow, will be thinking of you, really hope it's a good outcome!

2ducks I drove myself nuts with tests getting fainter in the first few weeks, I was obsessed, one morning the line was fainter than the day before and I even gave up and had an alcoholic drink that day as I was convinced it was all over (thankfully only a small one!), and I'm 20 weeks tomorrow. I don't understand why line strength varied so much, but I no now I was just driving myself nuts over nothing. I understand how hard it is to stop testing though as I just really wanted to no as soon as if something was wrong, didn't want the bleeding to take me by surprise. Please try and lay off the testing if you can though, it really can't give you a proper answer. Really hope it all works out for you, your in the right place here, this thread helps keep me sane

olivers good luck for Monday too, sorry to see you and others are still having such a bad time, hopefully everything settles down soon

Thanks Abi. My husband couldn't get a cbd so he bought a random brand home. I did that and it was bfn for about 1hr. Now that too has the faintest line ever.
You're completely right about the constant testing. It's just messing with my head. What will be, will be. But I wish it would happen sooner rather than later, if it does.

It took me forever to get a faint line on the internet cheapies that are suppose to be super sensitive, and with pound shop tests too, the lines just didn't come up! But got positives on sainsburys own before any others, there is so much variation between them all, it's infuriating. But whatever the future holds, today you are pregnant, try and take comfort in that if you can

All the best tomorrow ginger xx

2duck, as others have said step away from the tests... they don't give an accurate picture and you will just continue to beat yourself up. I know it's very very hard... but there is absolutely no rhyme or reason to pregnancy (if that makes sense?). Symptom spotting, repeatedly testing, they don't mean anything. I must've spent hours and hours and hours reading stories on the internet during my early days in all 3 pregnancies (2 mc, and 31 weeks just now) and they don't mean anything, every pregnancy is different. Xx