Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

*theantaaremyfriends that's exactly what I feel like. My friends were 24,20,16 weeks when I was 12 weeks and then miscarriaged so seeing their babies - whom I'm very close to is so so so hard.
It's easier now knowing I've got my baby coming - 24 weeks, but still hits home they have 1 year old babies and I don't.
Makes me very upset xx

I'm 9+3 littlepooch had my mmc at 8+5 so hoping I'm at least safely past that.

Hi littlepooch, my symptoms dipped off at around 9 weeks and they come and go a now (not that I had many to begin with) so I wouldn't worry too much about that. Also I did a lot of googling about tummy upsets and if there was any risks (I had a bit of a bug before christmas) and all I could find said it wasn't anything to worry about.

I had an early scan at 7wks and my booking in appointment was at 9 wks, that wait wasn't too bad as the business of Christmas was inbetween. But the wait from 9wks to my 12 wk scan, which was last Thurs, felt like an eternity!
I don't think the pregnancy hormones help with all the up and down feelings either.
As eden said - the thread mantra is "today I am pregnant".

netflix I'm only 2+2 behind you and reeeally trying not to think about 20 week scan as I know the wait will be unbearable.

My first feeling of movement with DD really took me by suprise as it didn't feel quite as I expected "fluttering" to feel.

Oh that reminds me I need to call and book my next midwife appointment.

Just poked my nose in to see how everyone is getting on!

Only thing that maybe of use about movements, with my boys, I felt flutterings. Like a really bad case of nerves. But this time round I didn't get that, I got the feeling of a large bubble popping inside every now and again until it became obvious what it was. Currently baby has hiccups, which always seems to happen at bedtime!!

My mobements with DD were like popping bubbles too Lynsey and she had hiccups loads! Such a weird feeling.

How is butterfly doing? Xx

Ah thank you for your kind words and support everyone. I am definitely going to use the groups mantra when I feel myself spiralling. I guess in our cases the innocence of pregnancy has been taken away but I hope at some point we can try to enjoy our pregnancies a little.

Ah thank you for your kind words and support everyone. I am definitely going to use the groups mantra when I feel myself spiralling. I guess in our cases the innocence of pregnancy has been taken away but I hope at some point we can try to enjoy our pregnancies a little.

I'm still not convinced this pregnancy is going to make it, I think someone said earlier they felt detached? I think that's what I'm feeling, like if I don't get too attached to this little raspberry then I won't be so upset if it all goes wrong - lies!

DH said last night that I seemed depressed despite having our good news yesterday morning...it's so odd, like I just don't believe it.

I think I need to get past 10 weeks which is when my bleeding started last time. I couldn't help thinking that I was 8+2 yesterday and saw such a beautiful little heartbeat fluttering away, but that my mmc stopped growing at 8 weeks...I still don't feel like I'm out of the woods yet...

Must keep repeating to myself Today I am pregnant!

I'mgonna I wonder if there is anything in that?! I'm having a girl this time with the bubbles but all boys were flutters. Strange!
butterfly is in slow labour the last we heard x

Im detached too olivers i think yesterday i started being a bit more optimistic but i think until i get the 12 week scan out of the way and screening back i wont relax really.

With my last one i had looked into alsorts at this point and started thinking about names etc this one i am just trying to forget about for now until a little symptom reminds me

Oh with Lucas i had pops. That exactly how i remember describing to my friend when i first felt them - like a little bubble popping! Sorry that might throw the theory out of the window ha!

And today I am still pregnant!!!! Lovely little heartbeat & all measuring perfectly. I'm on cloud 9!!

I think for us all we have to get past the point of our last loss before there can be any real hope. I'm 9+4 today, had my mmc at 8+5 and goddammit I am going to be hopeful and excited today. The world is full of mad scary stuff but here & now, today I am pregnant. Tomorrow is out of my control so I am not going to think about it.

Detachment has been my saving grace all along olivers and has honestly kept me from losing my mind but just for today I'm allowing myself to be happy.

Hi Everyone one, I had an early miscarriage last August and I have just found out this weekend that im pregnant again. I'm stressing a bit because the line was a bit faint, clear enough to know its positive though. I need to get the pregnancy confirmed with my dr. first but has anyone else experienced this?

Very good Eden congrats!!!!

Purple daisies- welcome and sorry to hear about your loss. Lots of us had faint lines initially, how far do you think you are?

Gosh yes, detached is s good way to sum up how I feel right now. Seems easier doesn't it.

Wonderful news eden! Today you are pregnant!

I had flutters with DD. I can't remember when it started but I remember having a week or two of "ooh was that something?". By the end there was no missing her great big thumpy kicks!

Hello purpleparadise. I think lines are often not very strong to begin with, especially if you're testing quite early on. I'm sure everything I read told me not to get too hung up on how dark the lines are.

Thank you, I think im around 5 weeks ish, not 100% because I stupidly didn't note down my last period and I usually would! I think im probably just worrying and scared that the same will happen again.

Congratulations on the good scans yesterday and today

I keep loosing track as I'm busy with work and DS is playing up loads at the min, he's almost 2 and a half so I guess it's just a natural age thing but it does get pretty tiring, and I normally have such unrelenting patience with him, think the pregnancy hormones and paranoia are making me find it harder than I would normally. 20 week scan is on Thursday (il be 20+4) and I'm so nervous! This will be our 7th scan this pregnancy so I was hoping the scan anxiety would have calmed a little by now but nope.

Also terrified now I've started to feel movement, it's so irregular at this stage, but I already can't stop worrying about it. I think because DD was ill for weeks before we found out and I didn't notice via her movement that I just feel so much more responsibility this time to pay attention to movement. Sorry to bring the thread down, can't believe I'm still so nervous about everything! Probably a good thing work is keeping my busy or I'd be a wreck!

Great news eden!
purpleparadise don't fret over the lines, they aren't a reliable way of anything other than if you have two, your pregnant...congratulations :-)
ginger haha the theory didn't last long but oh well!!
alb I do think patience is hard to come by in pregnancy. Once or twice I've actually had to leave the dinner table as my boys were being a bit silly and I could feel myself getting annoyed. They weren't even doing anything bad, I just felt like I couldn't deal with it. Bedtimes seem worse cos they seem to get a second wind, I'm flagging and all I want to do is chuck them in bed and sit down. Your human and everyone has off days, try to relax at any opportunity you have and it will help, promise!

Congrats Eden.

Alb - we're v close in timing. I have my 20 week scan next week at 20+2 and feeling very nervous, it's been such a wait since the last one! For me it's also due to not being able to have the blood test when they did the neuchal measurement (as it started as a twin pregnancy so they said results wouldn't be accurate) they offered me the amnio but I didn't want it due to risk of mc. The neuchal meaurement was low so hopefully all fine.

I did feel my first flutter yesterday (I think!) which nearly made me cry at my desk at work!

Great news Eden, so pleased you are able to enjoy it too - spoil yourself and celebrate with something today!

Ginger I was the same with mmc, it was so early, but I was already looking at prams and making name and shopping lists, working out how much I'd need to save to survive on maternity pay etc...this time, I haven't even thought about any of that!

Purpleparadise a line is a line, don't worry about how faint it is, it's a positive! Test again in a couple of days if you fancy, it should go darker..or try a clear blue digital which will give you an idea of when you conceived..

Lovely news alb

purpleparadise a line is a line. Without hcg you wouldnt get one so you are pregnant, congrats! I wouldnt worry too much about the state of the line. Mine were very feint to start with and different on different tests.

Great news Eden

On movement, my experience so far (25+5) is that monitoring it consciously is only a recipe for stress!

I find that mine will have a busy day, where it feels as though he/she is trying to kick their way out(!) and then will have a quieter day. It seems to depend a lot on what I am doing. If I'm busy, on my feet, then baby goes quiet. The only monitoring that works for me is to start taking more notice if it has been 4/5 hours since I last noticed movement. Generally if I eat/drink then sit down for 15 minutes I'll feel a nudge and be reassured

Alb - it sounds as though you are being well-monitored this time which will give plenty more opportunity for anything out of the ordinary to be picked up. I really don't think you should feel that you 'ought' to have identified that there was a problem last time by gauging movement. Its just not as straightforward as 'counting kicks' anyway!

I think that most midwives say that its not until 28 weeks that you experience a regular enough pattern of movement to be able to judge a change anyway.

I know its easier said than done but I'm learning to enjoy the movements mostly, as well as being a little aware for health & safety

I agree re the line Ginger.

Mine was fainter for this pg than my previous that resulted in mc so I really don't think darkness means anything.

Are you all better now newshoes?