Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

Good luck for your scan today olivers, all things crossed for you.

Good luck Oliver!

Good luck today Oliver

So sorry sew and ducks
It's a rubbish place to be, that we can all relate to. Hope to hear good news from you both very soon
oliver good luck for today

Very sorry sew and ducks, look after yourselves

Hope all goes well today olivers

Good luck oliver

I'm so sorry ducks & sew & hopefully you will be back soon.

That's great news ginger hopefully the bleed will clear up soon.

Currently sat in triage after coming off the monitor. Had braxtons & loss of plug, midwife felt baby head really far down so I got sent in.
Baby is all good & they're thinking UTI & definitely not in labour so that's good.
Absolutely shattered.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Oh sew and ducks I'm so sorry to hear your sad news 😢 Take care of yourselves and go gently. Bottle of wine and runny cheese for you both. Hopefully the next one will be lucky and sticky 💐

Just home for my scan and saw a heartbeat flickering away. Measuring 8+2, so only 4 days behind where I thought i was. Must've got pregnant the first time we dtd just a week after mva! So relieved and now just need to get through the next couple of weeks with no more bleeding. Sonographer couldn't see any reason for my bleed so we're thinking it is just dtd and old blood. Not too worried about it but will give it a rest until the 12 week scan at least..

Lovely news oliver congrats!

Our little blobs look very similar haha!

Amazing news oliver!!! So happy for you.

Great news olivers!!
Thank goodness it shows all blood spotting etc doesn't mean the end.

I tend to keep my mouth shut around this subject as although it can be totally normal, in my experiences with spotting, it was bad news both times, one scan showed a blighted ovum and the other a mmc.

I'm so glad all is going to plan for you olivers and ginger, huge relief for you and healthy babies are on their way
Also gives us a good excuse to keep a nosey on the threads to see your progress and get to the "I've had enough now, get this baby out!" stage

Great news olivers and ginger. I always fear the worst with spotting but so glad that you have had successful scans. I hope the rest of your pregnancies are as street free as possible.

sew and ducks I'm so sorry to see your bad news. I hope its over quickly and as easily as possible for you and that you will be back on this board very soon.

dolerite hope you are feeling OK and manage to get some rest.

Had a bit of a wobble at the weekend. Me and 3 friends who have children the same age as DS take a photo at this time of year (around their birthdays). All the others had a photo with their new siblings and my DS was the only one on his own. Made me feel a bit tearful although I know how lucky I am really. I rarely think about the ones who I've lost but sometimes it hits you.

27weeks today. On Wednesday it will be exactly 3 months until due date.

Hope everyone else had a lovely weekend.

Excellent news olivers! So pleased for you .

Hello all. I've posted on here before but it all got on top of me and I retreated into my shell.

I had a scan at 6 weeks and again on Saturday where they said I was about 9 weeks. I was starting to get over my anxiety as both times I saw a good heartbeat and the measurements looked good.

But yesterday I had a terrible tummy upset and now my sickness seems to have almost vanished and I'm panicking again. I'm not entitled to anymore scans at EPU which is fair enough but I'm not sure I can wait until 12 weeks, and equally I can't afford another a private scan. I'm so worried the tummy upset will be a bad thing?

I'm finding this so hard, I honestly feel like I spend my days worrying and a scan reassures me for a day and then I'm back to panicking. Did anyone else feel this up and down?
Im sorry, I'm moaning and being horribly negative reading that back. I'm not sure why I'm even posting. DH is away so I'm on my own and I guess I just need to voice my fears as I'm feeling very lonely. I'm sorry if this is post is insensitive. I'm in the September an group but don't want to post there as I don't want to bring the mood down.

I am sorry for those of you have recently suffered losses . It's always just rubbish. And so happy for those of you with positive scans. Wonderful news.

Great news Oliver!!

Hi littlepooch. Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed. I definitely felt very up and down. Not so much in this current pregnancy but in the one before this I was constantly googling etc. Super hyper. It was like a constant yoyo. Unfortunately nothing can be done though. If talking helps then do talk on here. It's a sad and lonely place to be because no one can fully understand. You are almost there though and 9 weeks is a proper milestone. For what it's worth I don't think a tummy upset means anything and I also recall symptoms dying down around this stage. They say the body gets used to the hormones so the symptoms aren't as strong.

Great news Oliver.

Littlepooch...I had the 'scanxiety' in between scans, I had my first at 7+4 and then had to wait till 12+3 and it felt like an eternity! I'm now a week away from the 20 week scan it's felt like ages too! I agree with Purple how symptoms change and some go, for the first few weeks I had a runny tummy (sorry tmi) but now I have the opposite and get really constipated! (Sorry with the tmi again!)

Sorry to hear you're worried littlepooch it is completely understandable. I saw a heartbeat only this morning and felt great but have had an odd tummy ache this afternoon for about half an hour and could t help but worry! I think we will continue to worry until we have healthy babies in our arms. Talking to these lovely ladies definitely helps bring me down off the ledge though!

What was great about our scan this morning is that DH gets it now. He asked the sonographer if we could see the heartbeat again just before she finished and was so chuffed. He's been talking about due dates and what flavour it will be and wants to book an early gender scan and to take DS with us so we can all find out what we're having together, so cute!

littlepooch one thing that kept me going was referring to mc statistics a lot!

If you have seen a healthy scan at 9 weeks it is massively unlikely anything will go wrong.

Maybe you're coming out the other end symptom wise?

I have hardly any symptoms and mine was in there just fine yesterday.

Another way to look at it is have your worry then relax and remind yourself this is what being a parent is all about!

Maybe you could speak to a midwife who might be able to recommend coping strategies or the miscarraige association? Im sure they will have advice on pregnancy after mc. If not we're all here and some of us from the same ante natal group with the same worries!

Thank you all for your kind words and for your reassurance. I'm normally a very calm, rational person. I am trying to stay calm and just try to keep busy until the 12 week scan and hope for the best. The gaps between scans seem so long! Even 12 to 20 weeks is a killer, I remember.
oliver I know what you mean, my DH was the same. Up until our scan on Saturday he's been very detached but on Saturday he started engaging. I know it's his way of coping as our previous losses were obviously so hard for him too. I'm trying to cling onto that feeling we had on Saturday when we were both happy and optimistic.

littlepooch I also have scanxiety (excellent name for it!). Had my first scan at 7wks and all well. The relief lasted about 3 days I'd say. Due to meet my consultant tnrw morning for another quick scan and I am a bundle of nerves. I'm analysing every twitch & twinge, imagining what I will do if it's another miscarriage and getting no sleep for worry some nights. I'm praying that I get done reassurance tnrw but even if I I already know the 2.5 weeks to my 12 wish scan will be unbearable. I have knocked all the hope out of my poor dh who is now fully expecting the worst and I imagine stressing about what he can do to help. I haven't been down this road before thank god but it sucks. The posters here though have really helped me to get a grip and reading the good news stories has to give us all some hope. Today I am pregnant....

gingerbread I haven't looked at statistics but that is reassuring to know that we stand a good chance. The sonographer did say on Saturday that to get to this stage is good and positive, I thought she was just being nice as she could see I was on the verge of hysteria at one point! I'm so glad your scan was good news x

It's awful isn't it eden - all the analysing etc is wearing me down. My DH is really really stressed at work and with stuff to do with his family so I'm trying to keep it to myself (which is not like me) as he doesn't really need my worries on top of it all. Good luck for your scan tomorrow - how many weeks are you now roughly?

I was reading something today about my own pregnancy and it said mc risk now was 3%. That's tiny! Im happy with that.

Hi just checking in. Currently 15+4 and counting the days until next scan at 20+6. Trisonomy tests went well and we are low risk.

Absolutely dying to feel movement even though I know its still early. All the accounts the say 2 nd time mums feel movement eariler make me think that if i just focus really hard i'll feel something! Sometimes i get little. Nerve twinges or small feelings of pressure, but isnt it meant to feel like fluttering? I wouldnt say i've had that.

Midwife next week when i'll be 17+0.

Oliver that's brilliant news!
pooch all you can do is take on day at a time if you can.. not easy but the best way to stay vaguely sane
15+5 today and seeing MW Weds when I will be 16 weeks.
I have my 20 week scan booked for the day after my eldest's 18th birthday
Still wobbling like crazy here, too. Trying so hard to not keep detached, but it seems it's the only way my brain is allowing me to be at the moment. Even when my youngest asks me how long til the baby comes.
Hope everyone else is doing well