Feeling really unwell & haven't felt baby move

[Quarksoundslikequack]

It's been well over 12 hours since I last felt movement, 8 of those were me asleep.

Feeling like absolute shite, out of breath, light headed.....pounding head.....feeling sick.

27 weeks pregnant today

I'm sorry you're unwell OP. And I hope they're treating you well in hospital. I'm very surprised they gave you an X-ray as I thought they tried not to unless absolutely desperate. Being pregnant is not a good time to have an X-ray. Well I suppose they can give you the right meds now for your sickness but just be very careful in there.

firefries It's totally fine to perform a necessary diagnostic x-ray on a pregnant woman. The rads the fetus would receive from the mum having a chest x-ray is miniscule. I'm not saying that I'd like to have a lubar CT while pregnant, but the OP really needn't worry about a chest x-ray (even a few views) that actually told the doctors what was wrong with her, so was absolutely needed.

*lumbar, obviously

I was just about to say the same thing as lazydog! Also any medical professional treating a pregnant woman will be incredibly careful when deciding on any course of treatment.

Hmmm... I'll have to go off and fact check this, but I just read an article that seems legit at first glance that states:

"During a seven-hour flight from New York to London, travellers receive about the same dose of radiation as a chest X-ray; from New York to Tokyo, two chest X-rays."

Loads of pregnant women fly. And that's the radiation a person's entire body is exposed to during a flight, whereas of the total radiation used to x-ray a woman's chest, virtually none of it would reach the uterus/fetus.

I think the OP can relax about the x-ray(s) and focus on her recovery, without unnecessary stresses

I'm pretty sure untreated pneumonia is a lot more dangerous than an x-ray in pregnancy or indeed in general!

I had pneumonia when pregnant with no 2. They gave me steroids as I was after 25 weeks. I was pretty much ok after a few weeks.

2nd time I got new pneumonia I was off for 3 months. So it does vary.

Aww OP pneumonia! You've done everything right for you and bambino quark.

You're in the right place and doing the right thing- already owning motherhood!

Sorry to hear this. Pneumonia can take a while to get over but you will. Hopefully baby quark is ok they're just being overcautious.
And don't worry about the xray.

Fingers crossed your busy being monitored/sleeping after a busy night.
Of course you can be xrayed, they just take special precautions.

How are you and baby op?

Baby is absolutely fine, he's been moving and kicking lots.

However, I'm not so fine myself. Physically I'm feeling much better but mentally I am struggling. I have decided to discharge myself and see a doctor tomorrow once they are open.

I know it sounds absolutely stupid but being here is really tough for me, seeing men with their gf's/wives supporting them knowing in 12 weeks il be back in having my son & il still be alone. Last night when the midwife told me his heart rate had slowed & it could mean he was distressed & possibly unwell, all I wanted was to call my ex.....however, mentally it would be more damaging to me because I know he'd tell me he doesn't care & not to bother him again.

I think you are being very foolish to discharge yourself, for the health of both you and baby it would be best to stay where you are.
Why go to a gp tomorrow when you are in the hospital now getting the care you need.
Are you under the mh team? Could you ask to speak to someone today regarding your feelings. You mentioned your ex would call the police if you contacted him, I think it is high time you focus on your unborn child and not the man who doesn't want a relationship.

Morning quark
I think it would be really high risk to self discharge and you would never forgive yourself if you started to get more unwell again therefore putting your baby at risk too.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors....so on the surface all these couples may look like they're "perfect" but this could be far from the truth and they may not even still be together if they weren't having their band aid baby ! Sometimes you have to be careful what you wish for.....
Put your anger /upset/resentment into being the best possible mum to be possible. You sound like you're doing a fucking great job already by the way so don't underestimate yourself !
YOU CAN TOTALLY DO THIS! X

Please don't discharge yourself, I think that's a really risky thing to do. I agree with the idea of speaking to someone there about how you feel, and to see if there is any support available from any specialist mental health midwives.

Sorry but you are risking the health of your baby discharging yourself. The very reason you went in. GPs are fantastic, but unfortunately they can't help you when you are already under specialist obstetric care in hospital. All they can do tomorrow is advise you to return and you would have to go through the whole waiting and admsibprocess again. Without the antibiotics you could get ill again quickly.
Speak to the midwives, you won't be the first person going through it.
Tell your family you need support and when you are well and home speak to your midwife about your worries. People can't help if they don't know.

Doctor has just come to see me, because I'm on oral antibiotics, he feels it makes no difference if I'm at home or here. He is happy for me to go home.

I'm not concerned for the relationship,I am simply concerned for the lack of empathy he has.

Quark try not to think or worry yourself about his opinions. He doesn't care. His loss. Not yours.
Your situation is not the fairytale most people dream of. But it is reality.
I have a friend who went through this, she was so strong, held her head high and raised the most wonderful child, now an adult. She did this without even so much as an acknowledgement from the father. YOU CAN TOO
Ask for support from friends, family and health care team. Try CBT to stop those negative thoughts.

I was doing so so well until I came into hospital on Friday, then I was left on my own in my own room, to sit & think about everything going on now & the future.

I know in time I will get over him fully & this, however given the fact I'm pregnant & hormonal, I find I'm quite emotional right now & that's what causing the issues.

Come tomorrow when I'm back at work & my mind is pre occupied, I know il be fine & wont even think about it all.

I guess I just thought given the fact I care so much about my baby, then he would too (funny what you think when you're feeling down).

These next 12 weeks are going to be very hard for me, as next Friday I am having to go to the council & present myself homeless (not the situation I saw myself in whilst 27 weeks pregnant!), probably a few weeks in a hostel however I pray that is over with before the baby arrives, otherwise I genuinely will lose my marbles for good if I had to take my newborn baby home to a "crack den" type place.

Me & baby are doing fine (me not so much mentally), I'm seeing my mental health nurse on Tuesday so hopefully I can get some more help in terms on antidepressants!

Let's hope in 2 years time, I can come back to Mumsnet & tell you how great my life is!

Pleased that you're feeling physically a bit better.
But worried that you're talking about going to work tomorrow, sounds to me like you need a good rest at home before beginning to think about that

Where r u living now?

OP, please do not go into work tomorrow; you have pneumonia, for heaven's sake you need a rest!!

Given what you are going through with your ex, your scare over your pregnancy, your housing situation, and now pneumonia on top, you have coped amazingly well from what I have seen on this thread. Please give yourself a break.

I completely understand what you are all saying, however, mentally I can't be alone.

I contacted my exes sister to advise of the situation & surprise! She blocked me.

I wish I could now say "oh no bother! I understand now, they are all selfish pricks & il now move on".

It's rejection, something I cannot bear, I cannot deal with & the hormones from my pregnancy are only making all of this so much worse.

If you are determined to go to work, make sure they know you have been in hospital over the weekend. Phone your midwife and mental health team first thing tomorrow, and I'm guessing they are already on board with the housing situation. They will help and there will be pathways that won't let a pregnant woman be homeless. They can sort you out with ante-natal groups and perhaps some other support groups so you are not on your own. Let you family know in simple terms how you are struggling, don't drop hints and think they should get it, tell them outright.

Don't worry about your ex, the only contact you have to have with him is the money coming into your bank account from him. Easier said than done though, but you will be grateful not having him in your life from the beginning for your child.

Go to your hospital or midwife centre - I waited and ended up finding out it was because I had lost all my amniotic fluid (gradually so hadn't realised) and I could have lost my son.

I didn't want to be seen as a hypochondriac or paranoid first time mum but I could have lost my baby just because of waiting and not wanting to be seen as those things.
If I can have another baby I'll go every time I'm concerned and not give a crap - it's not worth the risk. He could have been still born just because I waited