My boyfriend wants me to have an elective c section

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My boyfriend wants me to opt for a c section because his small mind thinks that my down stairs will never go back to normal. Opinions on this?

You poor girl. Please don't stay with this loser. Make a long term plan to leave him. And in the short term, give birth to your baby whichever way is best for you and the baby and nobody else.

My first thought was that this sounds like exactly the sort of thing my abusive ex partner would have said. For him to even ask shows that he has very little respect for you. Do you have any family/friends that you can talk openly with? You should mention these comments to your midwife as she'll be able to put you in touch with some support services. Good luck xx

Suggest to your soon to be ex that he gets himself educated before attempting another relationship with a woman. In the meantime, a blow up doll will probably suit him pretty well.

This website explains why a c section doesn't necessarily improve vaginal tightness vibrancepelvictrainer.com/vagina-tightness/

Yes I also had a massive issue to get my ELCS agreed, despite having had an EMCS less than a year and a half earlier. Some hospitals really make it as difficult as possible - and I quoted the NICE guildelines, complained to PALS, spoke to the supervisor of midwives and was crying every day of my last trimester from anxiety. Just because NICE recommend women can choose an ELCS doesn't mean that hospitals are obliged to follow the guidance, as I found out!

OP I hope you have dumped this idiot by now. Things will be much better for you without him!

Oh darling. Poor thing. I am sure this is really not what you need from a partner right now!

He sounds like he is very uneducated in terms of women's reproductive health and child birth. He's clearly heard/ read something along these lines, but has no understanding that a C section can be risky and is major surgery.

Two thing really- do you think you can re-educate him and also tell him firmly it is your body and your choice to make alongside a health care professional. E.g. He doesn't get to dictate or decide.

Secondly, please think carefully about whether you really want him at the birth as your birthing partner. You need someone who is able to support you, your wishes at your most vulnerable time. I am not sure it sounds like he will be able to do this.

I must have been very fortunate. How very sad it's not an equal playing field.

Get rid! What a pig!!

How does he think anyone who birthed vaginally goes on to have subsequent children if they're so ruined no man would ever go there again?!

Have you spoken to him further OP? You are very young and I understand how scary it is to contemplate doing it alone (I was terrified at 32) but this is not a good man you have.

Believe me, the NHS are not going to book you in for a couple-section to please your boyfriend.

Also, I don't mean to be blunt but if he's making comments like that, I would be concerned about where his priorities lie. Some women love sexy when pregnant but equally some go right off because it's awkward and can be painful. What would he do if you didn't want to have sex for a little while? Obviously it's very important to him..

You deserve better and he is way too immature to become a father if that thought even crosses his tiny mind.

Oh please get rid. You don't want a man who puts the needs of his prick above those of his partner and child. This shit is just the tip of the iceberg.

What about when you're shattered in the early days and he's pissed because you aren't up for it? What about when baby wont go to sleep and he's pissed because he's horny?

And FWIW, I've done a vaginal delivery and major abdominal surgery (not a c-section) and I'd take a vaginal delivery over that any day.

@ICantThinkOfAUsernameH how could it possibly be tighter after 🤦‍♀️🥴

Tell him where the door is and never have sex with him ever again

This thread is almost FOUR YEARS old.

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@MaryShelley1818 I didn't even see that 😱💀😂

Zombie and probably a fake thread anyway!

Your boyfriend is a cunt and you should ditch him, imho.

Give us an update OP! Did you kick him to the kerb?

I honestly don't know how you can even question if he "has a point".

He would rather put you and your baby at risk for his sexual gain? Is he 18 years old? He's disgusting and quite frankly should keep those selfish, naive thoughts to himself during such a vulnerable time.