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My boyfriend wants me to have an elective c section

170 replies

061678719x · 31/12/2016 20:59

My boyfriend wants me to opt for a c section because his small mind thinks that my down stairs will never go back to normal. Opinions on this?

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pringlecat · 31/12/2016 21:53

Did he want this baby in the first place? He's not coming off well here...

user1471495191 · 31/12/2016 21:54

Fwiw (just because I can't see many reassuring posts as yet) my natural birth has done no harm to either my vagina or our sex life. I think you have bigger issues with your partner though.

Soubriquet · 31/12/2016 21:54

I've had two vaginal births.

I still have sex and I'm not incontient.

He is a twat

Next thing he will ask is for you to have a husband stitch downstairs Hmm

addstudentdinners2 · 31/12/2016 21:54

i apparently won't want to have sex with him again and this will ruin our relationship and that he thinks I will pee myself

I had a c section op. Since my ds was born my OH and I have had sex only a handful of times. It has nothing to do with the birth and everything to do with the fact babies make you fucking knackered.

It's his attitude which will ruin your relationship.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 31/12/2016 21:57

he says I have not told you all the reasons.

Could you point out to him that you've posted on mumsnet, i.e. most of the posters are mums. In case he needs it spelling out further most of us have given birth.

We know about the issues around childbirth, more so than he it seems.

Most of us still think you should LTB.

Soubriquet · 31/12/2016 21:58

And yes I would lose all my respect for my partner if he said this.

Wouldn't go near him with a 10 foot pole

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 31/12/2016 21:58

What's he gonna do when you are recovering from this surgery? What's he gonna say if you too knackered to have sex because of the baby?

If all he can think about is getting his dick wet, dont expect to with him forever.

coldcanary · 31/12/2016 21:59

Would you want to have sex with this specimen again anyway? I bloody wouldn't..
3 natural births and a healthy sex life here, at least partly due to the fact that DH is a supportive respectful partner who thinks I'm hotter than hot and treats me like a human being, not a collection of holes with legs.

MollyHuaCha · 31/12/2016 22:00

Sounds like yr DP has listened to "locker room talk"... 😁 Please don't have an unnecessary C-sec. It's an unnecessary risk to your health and recovery time is usually longer than a vagina birth. Why not take your partner to your next antenatal appointment so it can be explained to him by a midwife or doctor?

StarryIllusion · 31/12/2016 22:00

He isn't going to care how your downstairs looks because he is never going to see it again after that comment, is what I would say to him. Knobend.

MonkeysLostApostrophe · 31/12/2016 22:01
Xmas Hmm
sweetkitty · 31/12/2016 22:01

He sounds really immature.

FWIW I've had four vaginal births, my DH has seen them all, held my legs up for me, caught a head (when the MW wasn't ready), wiped up my poo, watched me being stitched up afterwards and still fancies me, wants to have sex with me and says it feels no different downstairs. He thinks I'm pretty amazing giving birth 4 times says it's the most amazing thing he's ever seen.

bloodyteenagers · 31/12/2016 22:01

Well you can tell him this.
I just read the latest update. I have had four children. According to him I should be now sitting in a puddle of my own piss? I even laughed and not a drop.
If you stretched and it didn't go back to place, then after having sex you would be permanently stretched.. Unless of course, he is too small to make an entrance so no stretching is noticeable, then I could understand the confusion.

What other lovely nuggets of information does he have?

DailyFail1 · 31/12/2016 22:04

This sounds like one of the stupid things men say during early pregnancy. It might even be a 'manly' way to cover up some serious anxiety he might have over the childbirth process. You need to show him the facts and figures - there are far more complications with c-sections than vaginal births. Longer healing time too.

addstudentdinners2 · 31/12/2016 22:08

It might even be a 'manly' way to cover up some serious anxiety he might have over the childbirth process.

Hmm
1horatio · 31/12/2016 22:11

He sounds awful. I'm so sorry :(

MountainPeaks · 31/12/2016 22:12

OP how old are you both?

AyeAmarok · 31/12/2016 22:13

Brilliant.

Bring him with you to the midwife appointment where you talk about the sort of birth you'd like and when the midwife asks you if you've had any thoughts about it, get him to tell the midwife what you want and why.

How tragic.

NovemberInDailyFailLand · 31/12/2016 22:14

I had two uneventful vaginal births and an elective (for proper medical reasons) c section that gave me sepsis and almost killed me.

girlelephant · 31/12/2016 22:14

I have no words over how disgusting this man is

Hellmouth · 31/12/2016 22:15

I'm sorry, your OH sounds like a grade A twat :(

coldcanary · 31/12/2016 22:20

i second taking him to see the midwife, if yours are anything like the formidable ladies I saw they'll give him a good talking to!
But will he listen?

honeysucklejasmine · 31/12/2016 22:23

Wow, he sounds very immature.

DoloresAbernathy · 31/12/2016 22:23

You poor thing, what a knob he is.

StarsandSparkles · 31/12/2016 22:25

My ex asked me to have the same. He was very rightly made an ex pronto. Its major surgery ffs its not just a walk in the park. Hes a shallow bastard

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