My boyfriend wants me to have an elective c section

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My boyfriend wants me to opt for a c section because his small mind thinks that my down stairs will never go back to normal. Opinions on this?

I would be wanting to be keeping such a stupid fuckwit well away from any baby I was having tbh.

I wouldn't want to have sex with someone spouting that shit either tbh

Great post morebushthanmoss.

Op your partner is truly disgusting. He sees your body as existing for his sexual pleasure- you're effectively a hole to him. Seriously get rid of him

Oh and tell him that I went off sex for 2.5 YEARS after my c section

Terminate. The relationship and the pregnancy(if early days). You are a child. You deserve a better future.
Hope you have lots of support and better relationships in future years . 💐

I think OP is about 7months gone

That's not really helpful 2014

I've had both a section & vaginal delivery. It took 6 weeks before I felt normal after my section + I had discomfort at times for a year after. I also have a scar & a little overhang where the scar is. Also I didn't want sex for ages after as the pain was too much. After my vaginal birth I skipped out of hospital, was out at the park that weekend with my 1 yr old & wanted sex after a couple of weeks as although I had some stitches I felt OK. Also my husband doesn't think there is any difference after vaginal birth & if he did he'd know well not to complain....I just pushed his/our child out of my vagina!!!!

Your boyfriend would want to cop on, in the nicest possible way. I definitely wouldn't recommend it for no reason. Tell him he will have to do EVERYTHING foe the first 6 weeks if u end up with a section. See how quickly that changes his mind. He sounds like an asshole. Sorry!

Bet he won't let her breast feed either as boobs are for his enjoyment only and he won't want them to get saggy

I dreaded opening this thread because I was afraid of what I might find - which was exactly what I did find

Run.

Tell him to get a grip...as long as you and baby are safe that is the main thing. How selfish of him.
However, my gp commented that my lady region is toned and tight for somebody who is 5weeks post natal embarrassed much!

As someone who has had two c sections they aren't easy. It's major abdominal surgery that takes weeks and weeks to recover from. Will the fucking pig be able to wait weeks while he waits for you to recover? Kick the twat out

He's an utter twat. Please tell him I said that.

you cant just request one anyway theyre usually just for medical reasons unless u pay to go private

but hes being an arsehole who says things like that

That's not true Gabs. NICE recommended some years ago now that ECS should be available on request. They are no more dangerous for a woman than vaginal births. 6 of one and half a dozen of the other.

However, if the OP says she wants one because her boyfriend doesn't want her having a flappy vagina, I can't see that going down well.

fair enough didnt know that i still think they try and put u off for financial reasons

IT astounds me how many male partners of mners treat their dps like blow up plastic dolls.

Jesus Christ get rid of him! If you stay with him after this then I doubt you'll get much respect from anyone. It's major surgery for his selfish little prick.

No. No. No.

I had an elective last year due to previous emergency and there were numerous hoops to jump through and it was a real fight to get it signed off. It depends on the hospital and consultant on how likely it is to be granted. I had to go through councelling and a course, see a consultant midwife and get 2 consultants to agree.
If the OP isn't keen though and only the boyfriend is then I would be amazed if it's granted. She'd have to pretend that she really wants one and convince the consultants.

Are you happy with him op?

I don't think the issue is getting it granted... it's that the arse hole even suggested it.

Well yes of course.
Midwives can be good at dealing with unsupportive partners though. And they should've asked about domestic issues / supportive partner at booking but definite worth mentioning again.
Any consultant will give him short shrift. If the OP is intent on staying with him perhaps the advice of a medical professional might be something he'll listen to.

Abbey that's horrendous - I can't believe you had to go through all that!

In 2012 I booked my elective c-section in one meeting. I told the dr I had read the Royal college of surgeons research and knew full well they considered c-sections to be 200% safer for baby and neither safer nor more dangerous for me, so that's what I'll have please. She didn't ask me twice.

^ not that that is the point here!!! And that's still 200% of minuscule risk.