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My boyfriend wants me to have an elective c section

170 replies

061678719x · 31/12/2016 20:59

My boyfriend wants me to opt for a c section because his small mind thinks that my down stairs will never go back to normal. Opinions on this?

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angryangryyoungwoman · 31/12/2016 21:11

Seriously?

Yesitsmeagain · 31/12/2016 21:11

OP... you're very young and he isn't. He didn't want the baby in the first place and now he's trying to dictate to you how you give birth - instructing you to have major surgery to benefit his own sexual gratification.

I can't even begin to explain how wrong this is.

Are you living with your Mum?

midcenturymodern · 31/12/2016 21:12

My opinion is you are nothing but a fuck hole to him and you should get out before you waste another second of your time.

BlossomCat · 31/12/2016 21:12

Blimey. I've pushed two babies out of my vaginally, and my husband still has sex with me as he shows me love and respect, and was not concerned about the 'state' of my post childbearing body.
Tell your 'dh' he's lost his chance to ever go near you ever again.

Riversleep · 31/12/2016 21:12

Tell him to give you enough money to have a csection at the Portland, put the money in the bank for your dc and dump him.

DoomGloomAndKaboom · 31/12/2016 21:13

It doesn't matter if there's no telling him. You don't have to tell him anything.

You just have to have your baby the way you decide is best. Then you have to decide if the baby's father is worth keeping.

Biscuitsneeded · 31/12/2016 21:14

Hmmm, well, I'd like to see the consultant's face when you have to give your reasons for needing an elective CS. OP, he sounds like an utter and complete tosser. Tell him when he's ready to have major abdominal surgery for your sexual gratification then you'll talk. But seriously, this is not what you need in a partner...

sonlypuppyfat · 31/12/2016 21:14

Why do women chose to have kids with such brain dead dickheads

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH · 31/12/2016 21:14

Oh my gosh really? Is there anything else he makes comments about?
FWIW I find its tighter after Blush

ChocoChou · 31/12/2016 21:14

Prat!!
You'll be fine, mine has never been better Grin

Mum2jenny · 31/12/2016 21:15

No, your baby, your vagina, your choice.

However I'd go for a vaginal birth if at all possible as you will be more mobile afterwards.

However I might be more likely to tell your dp to take a long hike.....

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 31/12/2016 21:15

So he's going to pay for private surgery then?
Good luck getting an NHS consultant to sign one off with that as the reason on the paperwork.
Has he been to any appointments with you? I'd bring him and see what they say...

Wolverbamptonwanderer · 31/12/2016 21:18

Ha ha ha ha OP is your BF 12? He's honestly too dim to understand what he's suggesting.

Have you known him long?

DollyPlastic · 31/12/2016 21:19

HmmR

tooclosetocall · 31/12/2016 21:23

Your body is your body. He doesn't get a say.
Dr's and midwifes would be 😦 at his suggestion too. Csections are a health/life-saving procedure (mostly) and not for the preservation of the size and elasticity of ones vagina.
He sounds immature & ignorant.

DrSnowman · 31/12/2016 21:23

What a rotter, I am a man and I can see that he is a very selfish thing. You should ask him if he is a man or something posing as a man.

A real man would put the health of his woman and his child above his sexual urges and his desire to get his way in a particular way.

tooclosetocall · 31/12/2016 21:23

🙄Bloody heck. Midwives

randomeragain · 31/12/2016 21:24

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Crumbs1 · 31/12/2016 21:25

I would rarely advise dumping but in this case......

Wolverbamptonwanderer · 31/12/2016 21:26

Little something no one told
Me- I have had 2 sections. After you have a baby your body releases hormones to tighten (for want of a better word) your vagina again.

If your vagina never streched the hormones still get released. It makes your vagina tighter than it was before?

Sounds good? It might do to a 12 year old boy. But I couldn't have sex for close to a year both times because it was agony. That's a hell of a lot longer than you wait with a vaginal birth.

Fartleks · 31/12/2016 21:26

So he wants you to have major surgery and a longer birth recovery

wowbutter · 31/12/2016 21:27

I had a Caesarian. Didn't dilate properly. But guess what... still incontinent. Can't comment on the baggyness though!

cookieswirls · 31/12/2016 21:27

If he really did say that then he's a twat. i think a c section can alter your body more than natural delivery anyway

ArcheryAnnie · 31/12/2016 21:29

A c=section is major abdominal surgery with a whole range of possible complications (some of them potentially permanent). I know, because I had one.

Your boyfriend sounds like a horrible manbaby who doesn't have the least care for you, if his primary concern about his partner bearing his child is if her fanny will feel sufficiently tight around his dick afterwards.

He can fuck right off.

Yesitsmeagain · 31/12/2016 21:31

randomeragain I think you need to read the OP's previous threads. And then come back to apologise.

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