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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE · 26/11/2016 19:20

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Hyperemesis Support
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MotherofPearl · 02/12/2016 09:38

Didn't Castle have her 20 week scan yesterday?

CastleFeck · 02/12/2016 09:51

MOP thanks yes I did, all was fine, got to go back to get some measurements as the baby was in a difficult position. It's a boy. Dd has taken it really badly, she wanted a sister. She wept all night and I feel wrung out this morning. What with HG and now this awful reaction to what should be good news I feel totally down.

LightTripper · 02/12/2016 10:41

Oh I'm sorry Castle: I'm sure she'll get over it once she realises that she can also play with and boss about a boy. How old is your DD? Mine is only 2 and I'm not sure she really gets the difference between boys and girls yet. My niece and nephew are girl then boy with about 2 years gap and get on really well (still play together nicely at something like 10 and 8).

user I think my sickness has been worse this time, but I've found pills so "after pills" it's been better IYSWIM (less throwing up, even if I've felt similarly bad). The main thing that made it harder this time was the lack of realistic hope it would be over soon. I think I've read that girls tend to be worse. Certainly, although starting worse, my sickness ramped down quicker this time (boy) than last time (girl), and another friend of mine was sick until 18 weeks with her girl and only 16 weeks with her boy ... but I think it can vary a lot from pg to pg regardless of gender, and in my case it's difficult to separate from having found and stuck with better pills this time.

I had a massive fail yesterday. Went to a fancy restaurant for lunch with clients. Ordered a crab starter and didn't notice that one of the things it came with (on a long list) was oyster cream. I am allergic to raw oysters. I could taste it as soon as I started eating, and avoided the most oystery bits. Thought I had got away with it until I was just finishing a different client meeting at about 5.30 and started to get hot flushes. Luckily managed to wrap up and get out of there just before I threw up for the first time.

Journey home was interesting. Usually 20 mins on the bus. This time about an hour consisting of 3 separate bus trips as I kept having to get off to either throw up or dispose of sick, followed by a lovely lady taking pity on me throwing up in the gutter and offering me a lift for the last little bit of the journey in her car.

Then got home and weed on the floor (despite Tena's best efforts) while vomiting in front of my nanny and DD.

It's all glamour. And I'm not even sure the HG had anything to do with it: I just need to learn to read a menu properly Confused Blush Confused

So OH had to come back from choir rehearsal to help put DD to bed. I went to bed super early, slept until about 11pm and then was wide awake until about 3am. Am now a bit tired, to say the least, but feeling back to just the normal amount of nausea ... roll on the weekend! Taking DD to see Stick Man tomorrow morning - I just hope I can stay awake!

Hope everyone else is doing better xx

LucindaE · 02/12/2016 10:53

Goodness, would you credit it!: PC playing up yesterday, hence my silence, sorry everyone. Car still off the road, the television's joined in, but I don't watch it much anyway, that's one thing...
Blondes That is such an admirable attitude about being determined to enjoy even a Hyperremesis pregnancy! But you never know about it being your only pregnancy! A woman I knew who had fertility problems for years become pregnant by accident after her first, and she was 43 or so.
Congratulations to babyand and Castlefeck on their scans. castlefeck Really sorry that your DD was so dissappointed - that is a strong reaction; she'll come to love being the bossy older sister of a boy!
SecondSunrise That does sound awful. Could I join with lovely MotherofPearl in asking what meds you are on?
fourcorneredcircle Sorry to hear you have joined the Peeing while Puking club: I got in the habit of whipping off my knickers. Wink Obviously, you can't do that if you get caught short outside, though.
Sorry to hear of babyand's sore mouth. How is it today?
user I only had the MMC pregnancy and the one with my DD so
couldn't comment. I'm glad you got meds working early, anyway, as they do say that if the uncontrolled vomiting cycle does't kick off, the brain's paths aren't activated, or some such. Sorry, but I love that expression 'tactical vomiting'. Wink
I'll post this before PC plays up again...
I hope everyone is OK. Apologies if I've rudely ignored anyone.

peacelove Sorry to hear placenta isn 't giving you a break yet.

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LucindaE · 02/12/2016 10:57

LightTripper Oh my goodness, you poor thing! That sounds truly awful!
Humiliating, too. You deserve better when you have been so wonderful on this thread. Star Cyber pats on offer.

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user1477229112 · 02/12/2016 10:57

Thanks for all your replies ladies I half wonder if I am having a girl as I feel I am managing better but then I didn't have Meds from the start, I was sick all the way through with my with my son right to the day of birth so I too have no hope or anticipation that this will go.

My mum never had boys all girls and although she had morning sickness she didn't have hg, so I do wonder especially as there is no Family history of this horrible ailment.

So sorry to hear about your daughter castle my almost 4 year old really wants a brother so I can imagine he might be a bit disappointed with a pink bundle but we shall see!

Hope everyone is doing a well today !

peaceloveandbiscuits · 02/12/2016 13:23

Ffs. Day four of no vomming or even feeling sick and now I'm getting brain zaps again. Too good to be true.

babyand · 02/12/2016 14:44

I had some good days this week now followed by absolutely awful days! I'm really struggling

fourcorneredcircle · 02/12/2016 18:07

Poor user, peach and baby Sad

Thinking of you all Flowers

LucindaE · 02/12/2016 19:13

I'm still dismayed at poor LightTripper's horrible oyster/bus trip experience.
Much sympathy to all having bad days!

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MotherofPearl · 02/12/2016 19:26

Castle, so sorry to hear about your DD's reaction to the baby being a boy. That's hard for you, especially when I'm sure you felt happy yourself. I'm sure she'll come around to the whole thing. Could you involve her in choosing his name perhaps, or is she too young for that to win her over?
Peace, glad the meds are still working.
Baby, so sorry you're having such a wretched time. Do vent on here as much as you need to.
Light, that all sounds ghastly, you poor thing! All you need after emerging out the other side of HG is a non-HG vom attack.
Lucinda, sorry to hear of multiple electronics fail! Hope it's all sorted soon. I get so fed up when things break down, and they always seem to do so all at once. I had a dreadful time with my fridge and dishwasher breaking within a week of each other over the summer.
Waves to User, Four and everyone.

babyand · 02/12/2016 19:45

I'm at an all time low now. Spent the whole day vomiting while my poor dd watched on. Then my parents in law called and brought chippy and ate it in front of me while they could see I was struggling. Then I had to leave to be sick and went and sat in bed (I live in a bungalow) and heard them talking about the mess of the house and they both started cleaning. While I'm greatful for the help It's embarrassing that I can't keep on top of things at the moment. We are supposed to be taking dd to see santa tomorrow and then Sunday have a hotel and shopping trip organised with my mum and sister. It's 3 hours drive away. Iv just cried all day long I'm really struggling. Have the meds stopped working? What has changed all of a sudden Sad

SecondSunrise · 02/12/2016 20:00

Good to hear of good scans babyand and castles. Agree on your disappointed dd being involved by choosing some cute outfits/toys and watching/reading stuff with big sisters in.
Light that sounds a journey from hell! I've taken to wearing a pad on days I know the puking is going to be bad as I can't stand the knicker wetting.
Another awful day here, 10+ pukes of full stomach emptying. In front of my dd which is freaking her out a bit. I'm on Stemetil, Cyclozine didn't help previously. Is there other things I can push for?

SecondSunrise · 02/12/2016 20:02

babyand would your family help if you asked them? Can you print out a sheet from one of the info websites so they can see what you're up against?

LucindaE · 02/12/2016 20:13

babyand Oh dear, that sounds so awful for you. It can be alarming for LO's. More on that later. What meds are you on? They don't seem to be helping as much as they could. Sunrise's idea about printing out how bad Hyperemesis is, is a great idea. How are the ketones? Don't despair; this may well be a hormonal surge.
SecondSunrise That sounds awful too. Poor you. Many people swear by Ondansetron. Dr's don't tend to prescribe it first, as it costs more than the others. How are your ketones?
It might be worthwhile for you and babyand to ring up the Pregnancy Sickness Support line on 024 7368 2020. They'll have to ring you back, ut they have helped a lot of sufferers on here to obtain effective meds.
babyand There's a good book about 'Mummy has HG'. I'll look for it online.

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LucindaE · 02/12/2016 20:28

babyand Would a picture book help your DD?

www.amazon.com/Mama-Hyperemesis-Gravidarum-Only-While/dp/143922367X
I can't stand amazon as a monopoly, but this is the only link I can find to get the book.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 02/12/2016 22:27

Castle. Glad scan went well and congrats on a boy 💙💙

Seems no rhyme or reason if b/g and sickness but sure gets worse each preg

Light tripper. Omg. Poor you. Being ill with an allergy. Bus ride home and then wetting self while sick in front of people

You can't have the rosette 😉 that's mine all mine till I disgrace myself but you do get 💐🍰💐🍰💐

Lucinda. Def only bubs for me. Bad enough being told I'm geriatric all the time at 43. If I got preg 6/8w afterbirth naturally I would be 45 and that's too old (for me) to have a second

I may even use contraception ......

Baby - ouch on mouth :( and sorry parents not more supportive to you. Explain to them how poorly you have been 💐💐

Peace and baby. I have good days. Then a bad day. Hang in on there

After my oj incident mon am (but worth it to make bubs turn and get heart measurements and find a girl) I've been fine till last night. Sick in evening. Big time. Little puke then huge explosion of sick out of mouth and nose :(

Been fine today tho very tired. Sickness does take it out of you xx

Really hope lh is ok as hasn't been on for ages :(

LucindaE · 03/12/2016 10:15

Blondes My goodness, 'geriatric'! I had forgotten they use that insulting term; I was 'elderly primigravida' and that was bad enough! I know it's the medical term deriving from the Latin, but I think it's time it went. Do they refer to male patients as 'geriatric' at forty? Sorry to hear of vomiting-out-of-nose episode; that is really painful.
How are people feeling today? I hope those having a dreadful day yesterday have a better one today. And LightTripper, too. What work do you do? I seem to remember you battled in when ill determinedly.

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babyand · 03/12/2016 10:37

Morning all. Thanks for all the advice and well wished yesterday. I feel a bit better today iv managed a slice of toast. Dd is only 16 months so I know she doesn't take any notice it's still heartbreaking watching her watch me! We are going to see santa today where we will take a pic for our pregnancy announcement so hopefully the more that know the more help I get xx

Sneezypeasy · 03/12/2016 11:07

Sorry to hear so many of you have had difficult days this week Flowers

Thanks for the link about the book Lucinda, I am still clinging to the hope that I will start to recover soonish (I did last time), but if it does go on longer it's good to know that there is a book available to help young children.

I have said a few times that 3 year old DS is struggling with my illness (mostly with my absence). He doesn't know about the pregnancy yet, but we have scan next week, so starting to think about when and how to tell him.

Plenty of people know already (kind of hard to hide when I have been so ill), I don't want him to find out from well meaning adults asking him about being a big brother (though at 3 this may just go over his head!).

DH is worried that he will resent his sibling for making me so ill.

For those who went on to have a second, did HG effect how and when you told your children?

peaceloveandbiscuits · 03/12/2016 12:16

My DS makes retching noises when I'm being sick. It's really fun when I'm trying to hide behind a bush and discreetly vom into a bag Hmm

LucindaE · 03/12/2016 12:36

I'm glad that a couple of you are feeling a bit less desperate today. Oh dear, that is grotesquely funny abot DS. Grin. They imitate anything at that age; they love copying sneezing, too!

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peaceloveandbiscuits · 03/12/2016 19:43

Fuck fuck fuck. I've got bad brain zaps again. Something about anti-emetics doesn't agree with me, clearly Sad if they get unmanageable I'll have to come off the new meds as well Sad

Five days since I was last sick. I thought I'd cracked it!

fourcorneredcircle · 03/12/2016 19:45

peace your DS sounds hilarious... to everyone else. To you, not so much. I can understand that!

Glad you're having a better day baby

I think I've decided I'm never doing this again sneezy so all power to you and others making a second, or, gulp, third go at it!

peaceloveandbiscuits · 03/12/2016 20:37

Oh yeah everyone else finds it hilarious... "what noise does mummy make, DS?" "Bleurrrrrrrgh" ha ha ha ha ha Angry