Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Uki - what is your mum saying? I think two boys together would be fab!! All the mixed gender sibling I knew when I was growing up fought like cat and dog - I find my dsc amazing, but suspect they're on best behaviour at ours!! I think you should be as selfish as you need to be to avoid getting upset. Being pg after m/c is hard enough as it is!!!

Ejb - you mean mama, you!! Having a debate with myself about whether to let ds have an egg. I am sure dh will want him to so will probably get him a wee kinder egg. Or give him a smallish buttons one and snaffle the chocolate myself! So much for selfless parenting, hey??

Firststar - just think. All this in store for you next year!

Nice story for everyone - just heard that a friends sister is pg. She was on her 9th or 10th cycle of IVF and was giving it one last try before calling it quits! Has cheered me up no end...

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Oh Mump- I don't know where to start with my mum, But I rang her after my scan and she said, "so what are you having" and i said, we didn't find out, and she said "oh it must be a boy then, you would have told me if it was a girl"

The next day my dad said "mum thinks your having a boy", and I said well she might be in for a shock, and he said "i hope so"
they did get a gdaughter after my ds, for which they constantly said I hope SIL is having a girl, which of course made me feel inadequate, but now I'm just blown away.

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Firststar - how old are your dsc. I have a dss (13) and a dsd (9). They are staying with us at the moment and for the whole of next week so lots of choccies at our house!!

Uki - what an odd way to carry on! Have you tried explaining that the way they are carrying on is making you upset? I would tell them that the scanographer couldn't tell what gender the baby is to get them off your back in the meantime... Parents can be so wonderfully supportive or complete pains in the backside, to my mind - and that will be us in 20 years odd!!!

Yeah, my mum doesn't really think before she says and does things, so when i told her how i felt, she said well i've done my best as a mother, and hung up on me.
Anyway i'll get over it, but she wil expect me to ring her, but I'm not

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Sounds horribly familiar! My mum is constantly hanging up on me or saying she feels too ill to talk - real guilt trip stuff with the last one!! I am sure they will be happy when the baby arrives, regardless of what sex they think it should or shouldn't be. Hope that things get better soon...

I guess I'm just also overely emotional and can't help but be upset (by everyone and everything) Last pg I ended up in counselling because a mother of a student complained about what I was wearing, I just couldn't handle it thought she was complaining about my bump hugging tops or something.

Anyway it's getting very late for this mum to be 2. Night night all.

Have a good holiday mump, I'm off on hols on the 17th just after my bd which is nice. So see you after 25th.

Firststar - my dsc adore ds and are very excited about the new one! Dsd says she would like a little sister this time around which is a relief as we were always worried that she might feel threatened by another girl... You will have two invaluable little helpers, if they are anything like mine!!

oh my god my mum would just be pleased to be getting a grandhcild...sone people are odd.

Enjoy your holidays.

BTW my side pain has no turned into a backache and I am sure my symptoms are going....sigh shall just have to sit it out and wait...

Have a good holiday too, Uki! Sounds like you could do with some R&R away from it all...

Uki - I am emotional and weepy all the time too, I only have to see someone upset and it sets me off.

Hope you sort your family out soon. It also bugs me why everyone else is so concerned about what you are going to have next, I mean, really does it really matter, as long as they are healthy and have everything they should have.

Uki, you poor thing! What will it take for people to understand that it will be a boy or a girl and they are going to love it either way?! So unfair to put you under pressure.

My mum has been a nightmare but more because of the worry of our situation. I had to tell her straight a few weeks ago and I'm hoping she listened. She actually said to me: "well, we're more worried about this pregnancy than you are". So I replied saying that its not about her, its about me and dh and we are worried - we are the ones in the middle of the situation at the end of the day! She had a go a me the week before about being off sick and I told her she would have spoken to a stranger nicer - she didn't like that but I think it made her sit back and think about the way in which she speaks to me. The next thing to overcome with her now is the fact that all pg's are different - (I'm an only child). She keeps saying to me "isn't it a bit too soon to be getting that?" (ref bump, bad hips, tiredness, hunger) and I keep telling her that its not too soon, each pg is different and this is my third child (and 5th pg).

She just opens her mouth without thinking, I'm sure of it! As long as I don't end up like her, I'll be happy. (even though I do love her dearly at the same time grrrr!).

Sorry to rant, I feel much better now thats off my chest! We're going round there today so I'll let you know if we survive lol!

Have a lovely Easter all xxx

hello everyone,
i'm not even sure when i last posted here, but i just thought i'd let everyone know that we had a little boy yesterday morning, 8lbs, born at home in the kitchen. I found this thread amazingly supportive all the way through pregnancy, even when I didn't post much myself (internet has been up the spout for the last month at home) - thanks to everyone for making it such a safe place to be. I still can't believe I grew the little bundle we now have all myself from a seed, it's such a miracle. lots and lots of luck to everyone awaiting their littlies.

Many congratulations

In the kitchen? You can't just leave it at that {grin]

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Congratulations Littlefrog...ahh, I love those delirious early few hours & days.
Did you manage to make your kitchen cosy then? How did you do that?

(To anyone who doesn't know, I know from another post that Littlefrog was intending a home water birth in he kitchen so I don't think it was an emergency 'oh my God the baby's coming' scenario on the kitchen floor - or at least I hope not.)

My son! It seems so extraordinary... I can't quite get my head around the idea of having a baby, let alone a son with his own name and character! Rubles is right, it was a planned home birth - not in water, in the end, though the pool we had was brilliant for most of labour. Very peaceful, with lots of candles, and a hypnotherapy CD on in the background. All went v well, though the midwives got a bit fretful at the end as he passed lots of meconium, so I did end up with stitches as a result of pushing him out quickly. must say, the fear of things going wrong never did leave me during this pregnancy - every time they didn't instantly pick up a heartbeat with the sonicaid I was (silently) convinced it had all gone wrong...
Hope everyone is well, and having a lovely Easter.

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My goodness
I couldn't find this thread it was so buried under all the chats.

Hope we ate lots of chocolate, and enjoyed the break.

littlefog-so lovely to hear about your new ds, the kitchen floor sounds wonderful, all though can hardly imagine it, as it would be almost impossible to do here.

I have been suffering with cystitis and thrush, ouch, ouch.

I haven't really ben drinking enough water, and I'm going back to sourdough bread too.

Firstar & Mump
Forgot to say the other day that dsc sound wonderful, they will be great helpers won't they?

Uki, I've been suffering with thrush too and its driving me crazy! I'm planning on going to the doctors in the next few days about it. (can't get there today or tomorrow!!!). So does sourdough help then? I got it when I was pg with DD and ended up with pessaries but I've heard they don't prescribe them now...

I'm just leaving now for my glucose tolerance test and it just so happens that my best friend has got her scan at the same time so we're going in together and I'm going to sit with her little boy while she sees the consultant!!

btw, we're both at the same hospital (I'm 16+4 and she is 30+4) but she wasn't offered the glucose tolerance test - in fact, she was told they don't do it any more - anybody else had any experience of this?

Then, we've got to get the house ready as we're looking to exchange and we've got a family coming round tomorrow to view the house - arrrrggghhh!!! (pleased its happening but needed a bit more notice really!)

Congrats littlefrog!!

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purple- I tried a natural rememedy over the easter weekend as I had no other option, vinegar and water spray, and eating more yogurt. The vinegar solution helped a little for itching.
Now I've got a pessary, fine in pg if you don't use applicator, that's what web and then pharmicist said. it's not really helping yet.

There4's a thread on here recommending garlic, but that just sounds weird (a) it's grown in the ground, not very sterile (b)what if it gets lost. Well that's my opinion anyway.Thrush is 20x more likely in pg, lucky us.

Firstar- we have a way to go yet, dsc and us will have to be patient. Try to enjoy it, movies, dinnners, shopping that should help.