Bleeding at almost 8 weeks

[Greenglassteacup]

Not much but it's there when I wipe and it's red. This has happened a few times, at around the time of implantation & then at weeks 5 and 6. Never much but there nevertheless. Mild cramps too. I've got a bad feeling this time

Biat = boat

Absolutely Green you need more time for now.

You have had the emotional week from hell, huge stress to get your procedure booked, plus a GA and an operation. And you are still in pain and bleeding. It would take me a whole lot longer than 4 days to start to feel like me again.

You are doing a fantastic job, and don't need to do anything else but take each hour as it comes.

You do whatever is best for you, it's shitty regardless and very early says.

I think I have an infection, am
Waiting for the dr to call me back. Heavy dragging cramping & foul smelling discharge. I just want this to end

Hi, I'm 18 + 5 and woke up yesterday to bright red blood! I had a cerclage 2weeks ago so went straight to hospital, was kept in all day even though bleeding tapered off after 2 hours. Baby's heartbeat checked regularly and was fine so get discharged last night.

This morning wake up again to the same thing.
Checked over by the hospital and get sent home again after again hearing baby's heartbeat and a check on my stitches.
Only have slight period pains intermittently and still light bleeding no tenderness. They said they don't know where it's coming from and there isn't much they can do so just to rest.
Has anyone else had this? Worried sick at moment x

I'm so sorry I meant to start a new thread x

Nine days after the erpc. Two sets of antibiotics taken concurrently. Still bleeding, although not as much. Sadness not lifting yet.

One in two chance of this at my age, I'm 42. Too much risk to try again

Seeing pregnant women wherever I go

It takes time, it's very early days yet. Its been over a year for me and I still get very sad at times.

You will be hyperaware of pregnant women and maybe even kids too.

Do you want to try again? That's important to ask yourself and your husband at a later date but grieving for this loss is the most important.

Have you spoken to the miscarriage association? I can recommend them for bad days and the forums are good.

Hello Cakes Thanks for talking to me. I'm sorry you've been through this too. No we won't try again. I'm 42 and it's a 1 in 2 chance of it failing again. Don't think I could cope with this happening again. I have looked on the miscarriage association website which has been helpful but haven't called them as don't know what I'd say or what I'd want from them. I've almost finished the antibiotics & touch wood, seem to have stopped bleeding. I'll have to think about clearing all of the baby thibgs out of the loft at some point but that's too much for now

I have been torturing myself by reading the conception and pregnancy threads. Don't know why I'm doing that

Thank you glass. I'm glad the bleeding has stopped and the infection has cleared.

Just take things a day at a time. I still have hidden things I can't get rid of yet, I know others who do too.

I didn't know what to say to the ma either, I just ended up crying. They just listened which was good for me. I only called the once though, didn't know what else to say.

We torture ourselves a bit after don't we? I read mum blogs, pretty sure I was punishing myself.

Are you as old as me cakes? And have you given up trying?

Greenglass I just wanted to offer a handhold. I've been where you are now three times and it's horrendous. I did eventually have a second child at 40, but even now I am really jealous of pregnant women and I hate birth announcements. I think mentally I'm pretty scarred but I do think time will heal and eventually I'll just focus on waiting for grandkids to appear.

I was also told you have a 50% chance of miscarriage at 42. There again you also have a 50% chance of a successful pregnancy. I am 42 in February and we are going to try for DC3. I know the odds are against us but I feel like I could cope with another MC. Not sure I could cope with another three but I'm still breast feeding so I doubt I will even be able to conceive so it's kind of nonsense thinking right now anyway. In your position I would get out the end of this tunnel and then see how you feel then. You might find you feel strong enough to try again. There is no point trying to make big decisions now when you are in such a bleak place. I devoured box sets during my MC and afterwards. I watched four series of GOT and really enjoyed everyone dying. It kind of summed up my mood, the more violence and suffering the better. The last thing I wanted to hear about was other people being happy 😁

Hello Sleep I'm so sorry you've had to go through this three times. Thank you for talking about your experience and for offering support. I am holding on for the Christmas holidays when I can have a break frim work. All I want to do lately is sleep

Hi glass I'm a few years younger than you, 38. It put me off for a few months I was scared and sadly I also had a chemical pregnancy during that time that got my hopes up and dashed them.

After a year we decided to try again but not try if you see what I mean. We had very little sex because we were both scared of it all happening again. We were very lucky because somehow it has happened again and I am now pregnant. At first we thought all was over because the doctors classified it as a threatened miscarriage until after the 12 week scan but it has stuck thankfully.

If I had miscarried a third time I don't think I could have tried again. I know dh couldnt. The first broke me and the second just ground me down. I have good friends who have miscarried- one over three times- so it was and is a support network.

My friends are the same age as me and one just over 40. Two tried again, one using ivf because she was worried about the risks of her age. One won't ever try again because of the risks and the risk to her mental health.

Some people get a massive urge to try again right away and some get pregnant again right away because your body is most fertile. Friend 1 was like that. For myself it hurt too much and I was too scared to even think of it. I desperately wanted but my first loss was my first baby and I wanted that, not another.

Cakes thank you for talking to me and telling your story. and congratulations on your long awaited good news.
The idea of trying again or even having sex again for me is too frightening, I think like the friend you spoke of, I'd be concerned about my mental health if I had another missed miscarriage. I feel like maybe I could cope with an early miscarriage that my body dealt with but not another missed miscarriage that needs to be removed unnaturally.

Thank you glass. I hope the bleeding and pain has stopped now and you are feeling a little like your body is feeling better. The mind and heart take a lot longer to heal and that comes in small stages.

Yes you do sound very much like my friend does and she's now glad of her decision. In time you may change your mind or feel as she does. What is best for one person is not for another. We are all different and heal differently. The sad thing we have in common is we've all lost and we're all bruised or torn by that.

Hey I know this is a very old post so here goes I'm 9 weeks & 4 days pregnant I had implantation but now I've got spotting again it is around my period due time but it definitely isn't a period I'm haveing little cramps nothing major, my periods were herendous before I got pregnant to a point I was useing a pack of pads a day I'm thinking maybe my body's still not reliseing I'm pregnant? The blood is going from light pink to brown I'm also 30 so classed as an old mum🤦‍♀️ this is my second child but my first child was not easy she came at 26 weeks she's nearly 12

@natlou12 you should make a separate thread. The OP may not want to be getting email notifications about this thread.

And 30 is not classed as an old mum(!) Giving 30 year old me palpitations on a Sunday morning lol