New thread for TTC graduates - PinkB, MrsmcJ, Bodkin, Fettle, Chooster etc!

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Hello! Thought we should leave those lovely TTCers in peace!!

my scans not till 3 choosterchops! i will let you know unless i am crying in a corner somewhere!

Thanks for the empathy Chooster & Greedy I would like to know what the levels are but doubt they'll tell me - it's almost as if this is just to test that I'm telling the truth .

Chooster - I feel so bad that we haven't been able to meet to chat for a while, I hope you get some peace of mind soon. I know it's been tough for you after your last pregnancy. Sending hugs!

I'm feeling a bit headachey and a wee bit icky today, almost glad!

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I would not have been satisfied with "i'm fine", Chooster! I think feeling detached is totally normal - God I feel like that sometimes and (fingers crossed) I have been fortunate enough not to have suffered any problems so far - so I totally understand. Even if we had 100 scans we still wouldn't be convinced until the baby is born that everything is 0k!

I'm having one of those horrible "we're not speaking to each other" days with DP after a silly row last night. I hate it when we argue in front of DD, and it seems to be getting more frequent lately - so am dreading how bad things will be when we've got a screaming baby and have only had 2 hours sleep each.... Usually, we hardly row at all, but lately... am sure things will be resolved soon - we've been together nearly 11 years, so we must be doing something right!

Hope all goes well with your results tomorrow MrsMcJ.

Hope its all gone well Greedy and you are skipping home - well, figuratively speaking of course.

Thanks Firststarn and Bodkin, I may start feeling better once I get past the stage I lost my last pregnancy (21wks) - Its wierd how your mind can play tricks on you and I'm sure the pregnancy hormones aren't helping my paranoia!

Oh Bodkin, thats such a shame about the arguments wil DH - My DH and I got through patches sometimes where everything seems to niggle and then it just passes and we have a spell of getting on great again. I hope things become smoother soon. Like you I hast arguing in front of DS and that makes me more stressed at the time.

Good luck with resolving it and heopfully you'll be able to do something special for valentine's day to remind you to be nice to each other

I know what you mean about commitment to work I'm trying to research something really hard and keep nipping back on here when my brain starts to hurt! I'm exhausted too - roll on home time! Hope you resolve things soon Bodkin.

Of course I'm sure you are always nice to him and its all his fault...

Sorry Firststar, meant to say, I don't really know why she is testing me over a week after I got my BFP, maybe because of the spotting or maybe she just didn't believe me

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MrsMcJur good luck chick!

Guess they do have to follow protocol First Star I agree with the limbo feeling, we put so much effort into TTC and get that BFP and then you get it and very little happens at first, it's hard to accept that something so different is actually going on isn't it? Seems like the hospital are getting things moving for you Thanks Babymad

agree with everyone about the limbo thing - and even now I don't really feel like its definately real - and thats with being able to feel a little bump - I keep thinking that once I can feel it move I will know its definately in there. Saw it on the scan a couple of weeks ago and it was doing gymnastics all over the place, but it still didnt feel totally real then. Am very excited about it all, but also feel a bit detached from it.

bodkin - hope you make up with dp soon - i know dh and i (well more me than him) have been having a few more arguments recently, but i know even while i feel myself getting cross that its probably hormones cause i wouldnt normally get annoyed at things that we fight about.

oh and any news yet greedy?

Help I cant stop eating! cant wait 30/60 mins for tea so I've just had snack but still hungry?!

hello all! my scan was fine thanks! a bit dissapointing cos they couldnt see a heartbeat cos its still too early. i thought it would be to be honest but i was still hopeful! they make me exactly 5 + 4 wks which is exactly what i make me too! they could see a pg sac and a yolk sac, and its nice and high in the uterus so thats all good isn't it? they couldnt find a reason for all the bleeding i have had, and they will re scan me in 2 weeks time.
guess i was just hoping for a bit more reassurance today really! i will just try and get on with things and assume everything is all ok until my next scan! what else can i do? i might as well enjoy this pg hey?

So glad it went well for you, yes enjoy!

Very glad it went well Greedy - Its probably as much re-assurance as you can get at 5+4 and at least you have a plan for being seen again.

Very very very pleased for you...

Is it tea time yet babymad??? I'm very hungry as well today. I went to sainsbury for my lunch and treated myself to a creme egg. I was devastated when I couldn't find it when I got back to the office - I started to get a little upset until I spotted an egg shaped lump in the one of the folds of the carrier bag.... Phew - a major crisis was thankfully averted

did you really start to get upset when you couldn't find your creme egg chooster? how funny! all these lovely pg hormones to look forward too! i do remember when i was pg with ds crying when i saw the xmas lights in debenhams, and also crying whilst watching the marathon! oh dear! hey! at least i have never cried over a creme egg.................yet!

Good news Greedy - at least with all the bleeding, the little one is still in there and growing nicely!! 2 weeks will fly by - it's been 2 weeks since I did my 1st test and hasn't that flown!! [only joking, last week dragged by didn't it!!]

Chooster - do you find that Creme eggs just aren't the same as they used to be when we were younger? (assuming you are about the same age as me). I always thought they were bigger and easier to eat the inside with your finger, but now the inside is more thick and sickening!

Still eat them though - although today it was minstrals that took my eye. I put on so much weight when pg with DD, due to nausea, the only thing I could stomach for lunch was cheese sandwiches and crisps and I found I had the same problem this morning. I have to try not to - really can't afford to put on anymore weight. When I was pg with my 1st mc, as my booking in, I was told I was at an increased risk of gestational diabetes due to my weight and I'm about 1 stone heavier since then!! (comfort eating my way through 2 mc and 5 months of DH in Iraq!!)

Bodkin - I was wondering today about your job - are you still able to do it while pg, I seem to remember from the Nov thread that it involved poisonious fumes.

Firststar - glad you admit to being addicted to MN too - I find I'm checking quite often during the day and I really musn't while I'm at work, but I'm so bored there at the moment. Roll on maternity leave and money for nothing!!!

Anyway, have to get DH's supper ready - back later if I have a moment.

Hope everyone else is well - hope result is positive tomorrrow MrsMc.

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Conkertree ? you explained your feelings really well it?s funny, all that time TTC, I never thought about how I would feel afterwards, I guess I just thought I would be unconditionally happy, I didn?t bargain for the worry element!

Babymad that?s great news that you are so hungry, your body is probably trying to tell you it needs more food to make up for your recent losses. Make sure those snacks are healthy for you both now .

Greedy! Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! That?s wonderful news. I?ve been preparing myself for the fact that all I will see when I have mine will be a sac and yolk but I am looking forward to the reassurance that there is one (or two!) and it is in the right place I am 5 + 1 (my calc) so I imagine that my baby will be looking pretty similar to your?s right now. Maybe in 2 weeks time you?ll be able to see more. I am so delighted for you, I really am. Was it an internal or external scan? I am already getting anxious about the scan. I am retroverted and know that my bladder needs to be REALLY full to see anything and even then, it can be hard.

Chooster ? mmmm love cream eggs I felt a bit icky today, I think I left it too long between meals and then ate too much for lunch, I have felt a bit like I have a hangover all day ? OMG turning into a hypochondriac!!! Greedy my laugh at you getting upset about the whereabouts of the egg but I honestly had to leave a card shop the other day because the cards were making me cry ? left before buying what I went in for

Chooster - how many scans do you get up here? is it normally the 10 week growth scan only or do you get a nuchal too? how about a 20 week anomaly scan? hope you don't mind me asking, I know you have had a few more than that with your last two pregnancies. I'm just wondering if I need to consider a private one. Can't really afford it but if I won't get a nuchal on the NHS, I may as well book one in as soon as I know things are ok at 7 week scan (see, staying positive!) because we would like one.

Hi Fettle, how are you feeling about things now? The last week has felt like a month hasn't it!? I'm being naughty too logging in from work but I just can't help myself, I'm obsessed with you lot, MN and the beanie!

Yes MrsMcJur very healthy, chips with curry sauce and jam pud, .

Got a trick for you "little hair tie" looped though your jeans botton hole and and then hocked over the botton .

Conkertree what kind of pram/pushchair are you after? I could point you in the right di-tion, I've had 100's no joke but all good fun under my other ID (sliverx2) I was forever talking about prams to MNers! Just brought one last night off ebay (my 4th for this LO dont say I'm mad as I already no I am but DH is worse than me) only cost me £230 free post for a package that would of cost me £340+ only used 4 times in total at grandperants house, look see going on again!

I'm 34 Fettle and I definately remember creme eggs being a lot creamier. I remember biting the top off then scooping the insides out with my finger - Yum!!!! The fondant bit is definately more solid now - Still good though.

I didn't actually cry Greedy (now that would be silly!!!) but it was a close call. Actually maybe I've got an 'egg' issue as I remember crying about eggs when pregnant with my DS. My DH had been away on a business trip and flew back one morning. I'd planned to make him a cooked breakfast and sobbed (and I do mean sobbed ) when I realised the eggs were out of date. There was tears, snot, dribble, wobbly chin everything. Poor DH....

MrsMc - As far as I understand it you get the 12 week scan without nuchal and nothing else. You get the option of the triple blood test at 16 weeks (ish) and if that throws up a high chance of a problem then you are offered an anomoly scan usually between 18 and 20 wks. A friend of mine up here paid to get a nuchal scan done 2 weeks ago and it was £190. I'm really not sure if that was the best deal or if they just went to one place so maybe you can get it cheaper. At least I think that is what the score is.

I've just checked my pregnancy notes folder and you also get a booking in appt, then appts at 16wks (MW), GP at 22 wks, MW at 28wks, MW at 32, 34, 36, 38, 40 and 41 weeks. Its pretty good really but just a little shy on offering the scans. Well worth paying for one in my opinion although it is pricey!

Yum - I want an old creme egg now!!!

Strange that maternity services differ so much in different areas! I started DD's pg in Wiltshire, which was ok, but only 1 scan at 20 weeks, we then moved to Northumberland, where the antenatal care was absolutely brilliant (I had complications in later pg and was dealt with so well).
We're back down in Wiltshire now, but in a different PCT and here you get a dating scan around 12 weeks and then another scan at 20wks.

You would think as making babies is the same wherever you live that the care would be the same?

Anyway, that's probably a major political discussion, so i'm going to bed now!!

sleep well all
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Morning all - thanks for all your concern. We had a good chat last night and got things a bit more sorted. Like you say, it is probably just hormones kicking off things that I would normally let lie - but tbh - he seems to be suffering from that too! Mind you, he was also suffering from wind and bizzarre cravings in the early weeks - so think he's having a sympathetic pregnancy

Greedy - your scan sounds like everything is as it should be for your dates, so that is fantastic news. Has the bleeding completely stopped now? I hope you will be able to relax a bit until the next scan, but that's like saying don't think about an elephant.

Chooster - love your description of the Creme Egg incident - and the joy at finding an "egg shaped lump" in your carrier bag!

Babymad - mmmm. Your tea sounded great!

Fettle - am still doing the stained glass, although it will get increasingly difficult to reach my workbench as the bump gets bigger. Working with lead is a bit of an issue, but I wear protective clothing and a good quality dust mask (which leaves me with attractive red lines on my face for the rest of the day!) Had a blood test done to check my lead levels at my booking in appt - they haven't phoned me to say "put that stained glass window down now", so think it must be fine. Will get it checked again throughout the pg.

Hi MrsMcJnr - hope the result is +++++ today - I'm sure it will be - you are crying at birthday cards!!!!