New thread for TTC graduates - PinkB, MrsmcJ, Bodkin, Fettle, Chooster etc!

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Hello! Thought we should leave those lovely TTCers in peace!!

MrsMc

You poor poor girl! Don't every think you are upsetting this thread, we are all friends on here and i personally would be more annoyed if you didn't tell us how you were getting on, as i'm worried about you.

My DH really didn't cope too well with my first mc, as he really didn't know how to deal with me. It is just horrible - you have to try and talk to him. All you need now is a hug!

It might still be ok - i'm afraid with one mc, I had no bleeding as it was a missed mc, so I had an ERCP. With my early one at Christmas, I hardly bled at all - much much less than a normal period.

Oh, I do hope it is ok for you.

Definitely don't go to work tomorrow - if you've been losing that much blood, you'll be very weak and worn out.

Phone doctor or MW for advice.

Take care, and big big hug!!
xxx

MrsMc, I lit a candle in church for you and Jules99 tonight. I am so sorry to hear things are getting scary. Are you talking to the maternity ward or gynecology? Gyne wards are prepared for this kind of thing (at least the one in Newcastle was) and are very helpful.

I know what it feels like to go through it with your family so far away. I'm not saying that you are but when I miscarried all I wanted was my best friend with me and she is in Gib and it was hard. Like the others have said, look after yourself, keep your energy up by eating and drinking and if it gets very painful and you suspect you will need pain killers go to hospital to be examined.

Thinking of you xx

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Hi all,
As a test that I have recovered from my recent ectopic I have managed to bring myself to have a nosey in the pregnancy threads again!! I wanted to check how you all were doing and saw this thread and recognised all your names. I'm so delighted to hear you're all fit and well and progressing nicely
So sorry to hear what you are going through MrsMcJr you were just a month behind me in everything from TTC, to your trip to the GP's and then conceived a month after me aswell and now I can't believe you are going through this traumatic time a month after me too. Really hope you're being looked after - it is an emotional rollercoaster whatever happens but MN will get you through this as it did me. The ladies on here are so supportive and there always seems to be someone somewhere who has gone through exactly the same. Everything crossed for you x

Oh dear really hogging this thread with my tales of woe, sorry

Thank you Tili, a hug would be lovely My DH was more caring when he got home but seems very, very sad. He just wants everything back to normal but I fear that things might always feel different now but time will make things better I?m sure and if our baby survives this, the pain and anxiety will soon be forgotten. Thank you for your email address, that?s very sweet. I have lots of good friends in RL and I am very close to my Mum and sisters but I just feel too jaded to recount the story from the beginning as this would be the first they?ve heard of it. My little sis, who is 25 knows about it but I also want to preserve her innocence because I want, when her time comes to have a baby, for her to think it is all wonderful and exciting and not worry about any of this.

Thanks Faby feeling stronger today.

Fettle, thank you too. I am at work but taking it very easy. Both the MW I saw on Fri (who co-incidentally was the same one as the week before) and the one I spoke to on the ?phone last night did say that you can never tell a MC from the volume of blood. Some don?t bleed at all and others perfusely. They also both said that it is amazing sometimes how people remain pregnant after lots of bleeding so it can go either way. Very scary though, I just want to know what is causing it ? it would be so much easier to deal with if I knew what was happening.

Gillian ? thank you for the candle, that means an awful lot to me. The EPU is only manned some of the time and the rest is dealt with by labour at my local hospital. I will call again if things get worse. Thank you for thinking of me.

Thank you for posting for me Firststar ? I am still hopeful, is that mad?! Sounds silly but I am still on probation at work and if I am off any more days, I?ll get stat sick pay and DH and I just cannot afford that to happen. I?m not going to be silly, if I have to be off I will be but I figure that if I can manage it?s best to be here, at least in body.

Thank you Pinkelephant, how are you now hon? Are you going to try again or give it a break for a while?

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Oh MrsMJ - just read this. So very sorry you're going through this. I think you should do whatever gets you through it. If holding onto hope is best for you. Do that. As the mw said, there are lots of possibilities. They can't know for sure until your next scan I imagine.

DH's can be so crap sometimes. They just deal with stuff like this badly. My DH was similar. Absolutely no understanding of what I was going through. He came round later though and apologised for being an arse (not much consolation at the time though).

Still hoping all will be ok for you. xxx

Thanks Ladies

Hi all. MrsMc - really sorry to hear things have gone from bad to worse for you, and that you are still in limbo-land. Please don't feel you can't talk to us on this board about things, we are all here for you xx

Hope everyone else is well. Will catch up properly later.

Thanks Bodkin, I know I can talk to you all but I don't want to bring you all down or make you worry so thought it was better to share the gore elsewhere, that's all. I'm ok, In a rage today for no apparent reason, these moods swings are a pain! How are you? good I hope. {smile]

Mrsmcjnr

oh my goodness, you are going through so much, it just dosnt seem fair. Are you still getting the scan tomorrow, or did I read its now happening on Friday???

With all the bleeding, I would go down to the epu again and ask to be checked out, especially if you are not due for the scan until Friday. You should not have to go through the whole week worrying.

Im thinking of you. Lots of hugs going your way............

love dd1

Hi DD1, how are you? I?m doing a lot better today (sicky and dizzy though, odd isn?t it?) much less bleeding and not feeling as weak. I just wish it would go away completely. The pains have died down a lot too, just the odd twinge now (which could be good yes?!) Yes, scan is Fri so that beanie has time to grow since the last scan. I promise I?ll call EPU if it gets bad again but I?m actually happy to wait. Thank you for your support

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LOL thank you for counting my sleeps for me First Star (in some ways I don't want Friday to come!)

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Hello all, can I share this with you?

Well, decided that I had better tell my Mum what was going on last night. I thought about it hard and thought she?d be really hurt if she finds out I?ve been through all this and not taken her counsel. Don?t get me wrong, I love her to bits and we are very close but I know from a very brief chat I had with her at Christmas that she does not and will not ever understand difficulties in getting pregnant or anything that might happen before the birth. That sounds harsh but she and my sister fell very quickly whenever they wanted and had text book pregnancies. Anyway, I was feeling a bit stronger last night so called her and told her the whole story of the last 10 weeks! She?s abroad you see. Anyway, she was really upset for me and worried about me but said all the things I knew she would (that do not help at all) but to be honest, as I knew she?s say these things, I almost found it amusing, guess it was the irony. Anyway, laugh with me ladies but these were her top 10 comments on the subject:

1. ?I?m surprised you got pregnant at all, you were so stressed out? ? nonsense! I confided in her that I was upset it was taking so long to get pregnant (especially as I fell pregnant 10 years ago, a week after coming off the pill, using a condom on a one night stand! )

2. ?There must be something terribly wrong with the baby to have bleed so much, best that you lose it really? !!!!

3. ?It?s hardly surprising if you lose it given your lifestyle ? have you even stopped drinking?? !!!

4. ?It can?t be right given the drugs your DH was taking for his back when you must have fallen?

5. ?Aunt X bled a lot when pregnant and Cousin X was never quite right?

6. ?At least you know you can conceive?

7. ?You?ll just have to try again?

8. ?These things happen to girls your age?

9. ?You?d better tell your sister or she?ll be hurt after all, it?ll do her good to worry about something other than herself ? I?m sure she has post natal depression?

and the icing on the cake?.

10. ?So what amusing things have been happening??

Love her to bits but doesn?t she take the biscuit!!!!

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Thanks hon I guess as we get nearer to Friday I get more scared about the scan backache has developed today (just when the bleeding stopped!) feels like ligaments and it is making walking hard - god I feel so sexy right now - NOT

How are you hon? Have to go to LONG meeting now where I will be canon fodder - fun! But i'll check in this evening!

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Hi Firststar - yup, DH will be with me (he's promised to be at everything and has told his boss all about it and he's being great about giving him time off). Thank you for your words DH and I had a chat earlier and I told him how scared I am that being too postive and hopeful will not set me up well for bad news if that's what we get. He said he recognised that but if it's helping me to get through then it's good and we'll deal with Friday when it comes. Guess he's right .

Remind me which scan you have next Friday? what have you done with your mat leave then? just interested

Hiya

Mrsmcjnr- I think your DH has got the right attitude. You will deal with whatever the scan on Friday shows, and if feeling positive is keeping you up until you find out, then all the better. Not long to wait now.

Thanks hon

Hi all

MrsMc, glad to hear bleeding is settling down. I think your DH is right, if being positive is helping you now, that's the way to go - even if you were feeling negative, I don't think it would make bad news on Friday any easier. How are you feeling? Still pg symptoms? Can sympathsise with the aches and pains - being pg really isn't that fun in these first few weeks. i'm really hoping it will get easier in the next trimester!

MW appointment went ok yesterday - womb is protruding, but she couldnt' hear a heartbeat, but for 10+1 that's not that surprising, so trying not to let it bother me. Dating scan is 2 weeks on Friday, which isn't long now. She's told me not to get my blood tests and urine sample done until after my dating scan, as she thinks that it's best that I get through the next few weeks and really feel that this pg is going to work, before taking things further - probably very sensible. But i've got my first consultant appointment booked for beginning of April (due to previous pg complications, I have to have consultant-led care, although MW says that if he's happy in April, he may not want to see me again until much later in pg, but I will see MW every 2 weeks!!) At least they are taking it all seriously, which is good to know!

BTW, for those of you who are interested, snot-like CM is perfectly normal - as long as no smell or other thrush symptoms, anything else is considered normal!! I wouldn't necessarily class it as normal, but at least I don't have to worry about it!!

MrsMc - agree with you from a different thread, Mothercare bras are really itchy!! If my dating scan shows good news, I'll maybe treat myself to some Bravissimo bras!

Anyway, hope everyone else is doing well.

take care
xx

Hi Fettle ? thanks for your post. I guess I don?t feel any different really, I can still list the same symptoms, nothing new though apart from the damn backache! Glad to hear the MW appointment went ok. Hope ypu feel a lot better about things after the dating scan. It?s good that they are going to be looking after you well