Pregnant at forty and over - thread 3

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To continue support for mothers to be over 40.

Lovecake thoughts are with you and your family!

Re movement, I think I had fluttering sporadically about the 22w mark and started to feel movement propped from w23/24.

lovecake I have days with lots of movement then days without any noticeable movement. I was told before 24 weeks the baby is still too small and feelings will be erratic.

Yes movements vary at that stage but once regular and they change /are different then call triage

They would always prefer to see someone then not go in and something happen to baby

Yah for a boy 💙💙💙

Heartburn and non stop peeing and now back ache at night

I've given up work and thankful I have as tired and not risking bubs for anything

Blondes poor you!! Hope you can take it easy now you're not at work!!

All went fine at midwife today. Although she said "are you sure you still have 7 weeks to go, you look ready to drop" she's not the first to say that either! I do have a feeling he will come easy unlike his sister.
Anyway heartbeat strong, my blood pressure fine, head down so all as it should be. Now onto fortnightly appts.
Back home to sick DD1 who has just done her best exorcist impression all over the sofa. She's had a nasty flu/cold type virus since Sunday and greeted me with projectile vomiting bless her. Such a glamorous life
Enjoy your leave Blondes. Have you started nesting yet? Hopefully you can relax and concentrate on you for a bit.

YEs started nesting. I bleached all the windows sills last week. I didn't retro but had the urge 😂😱

Bubs room is practically done. Have to find a toy box for downstairs for her ickle toys she has been given

Her bag is done for hospital - mine is kinda packed

I have snacks. Always read on mn how hungry people are

Sorry your daughter isn't well :(

Hi there! This is my second baby.
It's been fine so far although I am very tired and occasionally dizzy (I have low blood pressure generally and pg makes that worse). I thought I felt a few flutters inside last week (c. 16w), wonder if it was baby???!!!

Hey ladies. How are things today?
I'm feeling a bit fed up - got a horrible sore throat thing and very achy all over. Also, I still don't have a bump and (as far as I can tell) haven't felt baby yet. Nearly 18 weeks - I know I shouldn't worry too much but I'd love to actually feel pregnant, if you know what I mean? Ah well. Maybe just my hormones and the lurgy making me a bit grumpy! Hope you all are feeling better - so excited on behalf of those who are nearly there

I'm 22 weeks today. Babi is moving as we speak. Had my 20 week scan and age was breech which I was told was normal at that stage. Her room is almost ready although she'll be in our room for a while. My in-laws are getting her a Moses basket. It's my first baby and I don't really know what to pack for the hospital. She'll be born in June. Short or long sleeves bodysuits? Hat and mittens? What are the essentials? And also need to pack my own bag too. Where do I start? I know I've got time to research but thought I'd ask you who already had experience

giz I'm 20 weeks and my "bump" depends on how much wind I've got. I did start feeling movements just before 19weeks then it stopped and I rarely feel a thing :(

russ I have a child but I've no idea what to take for a June baby either. The problem is that in Scotland the weather could be tropical or like an alpine ski resort. I've no idea what to do with a newborn in hot weather. Sorry that's no use but you're not alone be in wondering wtf...

Hi all, russ I'm also 22weeks, sounds like we're due v close together! I'm very impressed that you're even thinking of packing bags, I've not bought anything yet never mind packed it!!!!
Giz, my bump still isn't massive, most people haven't noticed at all! Movement (or lack of) stresses me massively, I wish she'd kick all the time on demand so I felt better!!!
Sadly my mum passed away this week. So heartbroken that she'll never get to meet her first grandchild, life isn't feeling very fair at the moment. I know many people go thru way worse but just feeling sorry for myself tonight. Sorry for me me me posts.

Love cake, so sorry to hear about your mum. My mum passed away suddenly almost 2 years ago. I only mentioned my DH as a potential boyfriend at that time. She'll never know I married him, bought this huge house and expecting his baby! And it's a girl! You can imagine how sad I am about it all! And still feels like it was yesterday! So I totally understand how you feel and what you're going through. And very sad for you. PM if you want to talk away from here. You're not alone.
Babi is moving as we speak. Really weird feeling, I must admit. But reassuring at the same time. And nice to know there's someone else is due around the same time as me. Some girls I know are behind me by a few weeks. Sending you big hugs

Cake I'm so so sorry to hear about your mum.
Hi to newbies
34 weeks Sunday. Keep hearing how boys are early not packed bag yet was on list to do this week but DD still ill - Drs today as had horrendous night with her last night. Horrible virus cold thing she has. Had to call my mum to come for a few hours as was on my knees with exhaustion - been a rough week.

Baby is really moving and grooving around now. Bouncing in and out of pelvis. Midwife said they do this second time around - DD was lodged in there for ages so at least this time I get some respite now and again.
Hope everyone is having a relaxing weekend

Last night. Prob too early to feel kicks yet

Gizmo. I had flutters butterflies etc about 20w but didn't feel kicks till almost xmas and 26w. I do have a low placenta that consultant that I wouldn't feel anything till a bit later

Many do feel kicks from 20/22 w

Russ tricky I would take babygros and then long and short sleeve vests

Think I posted on this thread what I have for bubs bag. I have mine semi done but need to properly sort it

Cake it's lovely when they do kick but now at 33w it's quite violent kicks and a tad ouch at time. Also starting to get a bit crowded in there 😂 and really feel limbs poking through skin and tummy ripples as she moves

Bit like alien movie

So so so sorry to hear about your mum 💐 totally understand. My mm died almost 3yrs ago so never even knew I finally got my dream after 5ivf. She was alive with the first failed one and paid for the 2nd as knew how much it meant to us but sadly had died by the time we did the next round

She will be looking down on you 😘

Ditto russ 💐

Womble. Not long now eh

My condolences cake

womble my brother was three weeks late so I'm not sure all boys are early. It's been the story of his life ever since!

My strongish movement lasted two days and now I'm not sure if what I feel is movement or just my innard twitching. Fatigue seems to be returning alongside an insatiable thirst (mainly for Tropicana smooth orange) - I haven't got much of a bump to speak of but I can't get my winter jacket done up anymore -just in time for the cold weather. I've commandeered my oh's lovely down makes me look like the Michelin man jacket in the meantime.

Cake so very very sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 22 years ago and being pregnant has brought all sorts of things to the fore.

Your mum knew you were happy and had a bright, family filled, future ahead of you. It will take time, but it will get easier. And whilst you'll always miss your mum, I know I wouldn't ever want to lose that. Missing her means she's still with you.

Sending love, and here if ever you want to talk on it offline. Xxx

Thank you all for your lovely messages, it's just such a rubbish time at the moment. Sorry to all you other ladies who have been through similar, not sure how to post flowers emoji but hugs to all. Xx

hello, and welcome to the new people.

I'm back after a bit of a break - I was feeling my anxiety rocket towards my 20-week scan and I decided I just needed to try not to obsess think about it for a week or two.

First, Cake I am so so sorry to hear about your mum. I can't imagine how difficult that is for you - I have no doubt things will feel 'sharper' because of your sadness that she won't get to meet your baby. But as a pp said, she knew you had this lovely family life ahead of you. Take care of yourself

One of the reasons I was feeling so anxious before my scan was that I wasn't feeling movement but yet was sure I could feel some flutterings at 16/17 weeks. So I worried a lot more that they may have stopped, then I would have done if I hadn't felt them in the first place! I am 21 weeks today and still not definitely feeling it - the odd kick that feels like a pulse in my tummy, then nothing. But my scan was fine so now I now she is okay I am not really worrying about movement. (I have to go back for more scan as baby wasn't lying right for the heart checks and didn't respond to OJ or my pleading, but so far so good). I have an anterior placenta too so probably won't feel as much as with DS. Heartening to hear that lots if you didn't feel much until 22+. Hope you are not worrying about that so much now Cake.

Seems as though everyone is cooking nicely. My SIL had her baby boy last week (induced at 42 weeks!) and so I am really Excited about meeting mine now! Last week was good - I turned 42 and after my scan we have been telling people it is a girl. We will be telling the in-laws next weekend when they visit - we held off telling them the sex straight away because I wanted SIL to have her baby first (MIL is desperate for a granddaughter). Exciting times.

Nesting isn't going well because getting the baby's room ready requires us to clear out DH's study and he hasn't even started yet . My sister has offered to paint it but first I have to clear out 6 Ikea Billy bookcases and their junk precious contents. We have most of the stuff we need for the baby except a chest of drawers - but until we sort the room out we don't have anywhere to put the furniture so clothes and other stuff are all over the guest room! Grrr.

Beautiful day out here!

Seacow. Sounded like our bubs bedroom

Had to dismantle old wardrobe and throw away a single bed to then wire in new plug as only had one. Then paint. Then carpet. Then finally build furniture etc and transfer all from spare bedroom

Bubs is totally spoilt and had far to much stuff and had over taken out home 😂

We don't even have a spare room for the baby :/ we're planning on moving to a larger house in a year or two so baby will have to share with us until then.

We've only bought a darth Vader babygrow so far as oh couldn't not buy it as soon as he saw it. He'd have bought it had we been having a girl or boy.

Oh Bloop- made me laugh out loud in the DLR! Sounds like my pal H who had his little girl in a Leia outfit from about 18 months ;)

Blondes that's quite a haul!**

Seacow welcome back! And belated happy birthday! Not sure where you are but if you want help shifting furniture you don't want see if you have any local charities that will collect. Greenwich Hospice or Emmaus are local to me and will collect furniture donations from wherever they are in your home (so no lifting, shoving or dismantling required).

Sending more love Cake. One more thing - it's ok to let yourself be sad. trying to crack on can be counter productive. Let your OH and friends and family help you through it and if you need to sob for a bit, then do.

Indeed a stash. Spoilt bubs !!!

Been a manic afternoon. Leg swelled up so been in triage since 330.

They aren't sure if dvt or swelling but calf is big so putting me in v high dose of Fragmin to try and counteract clot if it is one

Ultrascan will show either way. Hopefully get one wed

Due to history of dvt and one of the reasons I am red flagged - they are wary

@Blondeshavemorefun bloody hell! I hope you are ok? What a worry. Do they know which it is yet?

No. Waiting for emergency scan now. They have slipped me in so have to wait ,,,, have book phone and free wifi so ok at mo :)

Fingers crossed all is ok. X