Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

I have read up on the cyclizine and by all accounts it seems to really help others. I really hope so as I'm not sure how much more I can take. I don't want to be ungrateful for my pregnancy as I want this baby so much, I just hate feeling so rough. I hate moaning too so I'm so sorry to just be a moaning Minnie to you all. I just want to feel human again!! My beautiful boys have been so good and let me slob around, they are happy as long as I feed them regularly lol. The only positive I feel right now is that I feel how I did with my healthy pregnancies. The mc's weren't like this at all. The BO I just felt exhausted (like I was dragging myself through sludge) and the mmc I didn't feel anything apart from about 3 days of sore boobs. So in the long run, this can only be a good thing....right?!
Charlotte I have everything crossed for you that this is implantation spotting and that it's just a scare. It is common to get similar symptoms to your period so try not to give up all hope yet. Seek help if the pain gets severe though. I hope you get some rest tonight

Charlotte I have you get some answers today. I had a bleed at about 5 weeks but all was OK obviously my 8week scan.

I'm 9+5 today and my boobs are agony. I'm going on holiday in three weeks and I'm desperate for holiday clothes but really do not know what to buy. I daren't buy maternity clothes yet but also don't want to buy stuff that won't fit in a few weeks. Going to hopefully book another scan today for next week. We've decided that if all is well on the next scan we will tell our dd. I want her to understand why I can't do waterside with her on holiday etc. If not, then I have two weeks to insist on medical or surgical management before we go. I hate that I have a 'plan b'. I hate that I can't just be positive. I get angry at myself but I just do not know how else to be.

Awww whatser it's awful always having a plan b. We went away two weeks ago and I took with me thick pads and strong painkillers just in case, felt so morbid packing it but gave me peace of mind knowing I was prepared. Have fun shopping just buy lots of floaty maxi dress things

I hope everything is ok charlotte

Great news on scans Mac and Cockles and f'xd Charlotte. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do and if something isn't working then early is best. Try and take positive though lovely!!

Life with a newborn is settling down well. If there is any silver lining in any of the misery, it makes you appreciate the experience so much more. The physical pain of childbirth was actually less the the ectopic (although obviously more constant!) and bleeding much less than the MMC. It's amazing what your body can spring back from! And of course I have a little bubs and I still can't beleive he is ours!! Whatever happens ladies, however you end up becoming mummys, it's all so worth it!

God yes, weird isn't it Eastend, I bled loads for 6 weeks, clots and everything after my 13/14 week loss, but after DD's birth at term it was heavy for a couple of days and then just light period style for about another 10 days and done and dusted. The midwife said breastfeeding can really reduce blood loss as it helps the uterus to contract down. So glad to hear how well you are getting on, the happiness shines out of your post

I am feeling sicker again, damn, I was hoping it might just taper off now but it's been building over the last few days. Missing my little hotwater bottle tonight, she is staying over at Grandma's, I just had a phonecall from her before she goes to bed.

Charlotte I hope your doing OK. Fx this isn't a MC, but contact your local EPAU, they're there to reassure and help if the worst does happen. Here for hand holding hun.

Whatser having a plan b is good, it gives you back some control on this crazy hormonal rollercoaster. FX you won't need it though. I'm not keen on buying maternity clothes either but things are getting tight so am buying more baggy, flowing or stretchy clothes now. My mate lived in regular stretchy jersey stuff from H&M for most of her first pregnancy.

I'm absolutely knackered right now, this past week has wrung me out physically and emotionally. My mum had a heart attack last weekend, she lives on her own at the other end of the country so I've been down there seeing her and getting her flat straight before she was discharged. Luckily it was a mild one and she should be OK if she makes some lifestyle improvements, and is back at home with the rest of the family rallying round here. But she'll need to move soon as her flat is like Fort Knox and I hate to think what would happen if she had another attack whilst at home. Am saddened by the vote result, but more by the political back tracking, and reports of racism increasing. The long drive home was elongated by a breakdown that took 11 hours to get towed, and 5 hours to get car repaired yesterday, so I got home about 24 hours later than planned, extremely tired and emotional.

I'm 8 wks today, had my scan booked for last Friday but moved the appointment to Monday so I could go see my mum. So starting to feel anxious about the scan result tomorrow. Despite my 4 pregnancies I've never seen a healthy bean, I'm going to cry like a baby either way tomorrow.

I hope everyone's doing OK today.

Oh mimi what a horrible time you're having - no wonder you're exhausted in glad your mum is going to be ok, how very worrying for you. I cried all the way through my scan last week, from the waiting room. I'm sure they're used to it!

Mimi what a week you have had! Glad your mum is OK. Good luck for tomorrow, I hope all goes well xx

Thanks Whatser and Princess, am indulging in a pj day , bliss!

Hi ladies thanks but think I lost this one.
Been on heavy like a bad period since late Friday night... i don't think I could still be pregnant after this and my boobs have stopped hurting. I didn't think they would do anything this early but I am going to call the doctors in the morning and just ask them if I should go in and see someone don't know what for but spose they should know for my records. So heartbroken. Can't understand why it's happend again :(

Oh Charlotte, sorry to hear that. Bleak as it is, you should see a doctor and make sure this gets documented as a MC. It was probably just one of those horrid, unfortunate things but on the off chance that there is some underlying condition that causes this to happen, you would be able to get some tests if it happened a third time. I can imagine that is the last thing you feel like doing. It's so unfair.

Mimi, what a stressful week! Hope you've enjoyed your day of relaxation today. Good luck for your scan tomorrow, will be thinking of you.

Agree that a plan B can be seen as a positive. You always needed one, in every previous pregnancy, you just didn't know you did. It's good to be mentally prepared, even for unhappy situations.

Good luck with the scan mimi glad your mum is ok x

Thank you mikesh. I shall ask them if they can document it and see if they suggest anything x

Oh Charlotte I'm so sorry it's happening this way. No one should have to go through this. Take it as easy as you can.

mimi what a rough ride you've been on and your mum! Glad to hear she is in the mend and that you've had a relaxing day. Hope all is perfect for you tomorrow too!

Well the cyclizine certainly helps with the nausea, but it also really knocks me out :-/ I was asleep on sofa within an hour of being up this morning, 2 hrs later I got up and had a shower, then was asleep for another hr!! Thankfully partner was here today to look after the boys.

I read one womans story, she used to wake up early, have her tablet then sleep for another hr or so... I'm thinking this might be a good idea to try.

Oh and I only needed the one tablet, today I took it about 8am ish and I'm only just starting to feel a bit yucky again now so that's good too as if I were taking 3, I think I'd be comatose!

Charlotte sorry to hear you're going though this . FX you never experience this again but it'll probably be easier to be seen at RMC if it's documented, also the EPAU should be able to support you, and check if you've had a complete mc. Hope you're getting lots of hugs and support in RL.

I'm feeling so much better for having had almost 10 hours sleep, 3 home cooked meals and a truly lazy day. Almost daring to feel positive about the scan tomorrow

So sorry, Charlotte. Hope you recover quickly, physically at least. Second what others have said about going to the doctors. If you take a test in a weeks time it will confirm things for you.

charlotte

Sorry for your loss again Charlotte I also think it's a good idea you see the GP even if it's just to get it on your medical records x

Hope all goes well tomorrow Mimi, sounds like a horrendous journey home but worth it to see your mum settled and feeling better. Can't remember if anyone else has scans etc coming up this week? Fingers crossed also if there is.

Shame about the side effects lynsey, do you think the drowsiness will improve once you've been on them for a bit? Great that they're helping with nausea tho!

I hope so Sunday! That why I was reading other accounts from various ladies earlier trying to see if the side effects get easier to cope with. The few that mentioned it said they do but time will tell. My hormones really are getting to me now! Partner just let rip and I've gone mad cos of the smell. Shouted at him "you know I can't cope with this right now!". Oh the joys!!

Can I ask a personal question? How are you all dealing with sex? DH and I are avoiding penetrative sex because I'm paranoid that it might cause a bleed. Not sure how much longer I can hold out though. I really miss my dh.

We're avoiding sex at the moment too. I started bleeding and had a MC after having sex in a previous pregnancy so DH not keen on tryling again until I'm firmly in the 2nd trimester.

whatser we didn't have sex much in the first tri (my choice mainly but I think dh was a bit worried too) and only maybe once a week in the 2nd. Feel a little guilty now I can't be bothered in the 3rd trimester, it's just too difficult logistically and I feel swollen down there anyway! Tbh I've not felt particularly fruity since being pg even tho I'm enjoying my new temporary body shape, just a hormone thing I guess.