Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
links.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

mrsmonkey I am so glad you feel a bit better. No doubt you feel, 'about time!" at thirty-seven weeks. Great advice for ray.
icklekid Happy birthday! and dare I put ? I'm glad you have a relatively easy day ahead. Sorry LO was restless at dawn. I was responsible for the bizarre Barbie and Ken Go Gothic games - my own father used to tell me comic stories about Count Dracula. About that Play Puking thing, that seems to be typical from what I hear from other threads. Fortunately, when you recover they seem to abandon it.
Fresh I so agree.
Rae How annoying, that they can do that. As others say, they should have made you aware before. I can't improve on advice from others. I'm glad anyway that OH is being so good.
We haven't heard from Lucy and others for a day or so. I hope she's OK, and everyone.

ickle Horray for the trousers 🎉🎉🎉 hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your day. I'm just about to boot my laptop up and start again. Feeling very tired so will probably struggle!

Thanks Lucinda DH is a superstar, I'm realising all over agin what a lovely man he is, so maybe that's a solitary good thing about HG

Hello everyone!

Firstly, Happy 30th, Ickle! I hope you manage to do something nice. If it helps, I'm a right old mish mash of gold colours over here (rose gold watch, platinum engagement & wedding rings, rose gold diamond band & my grandma's yellow gold ring on the other hand) & I think it looks okay. Maybe you just need more jewels to balance it out 😉😉

Rae I'm sorry you've had such a stressful time. I think what they're doing is legal, although unkind. They could certainly have managed it better. I'm working full time & haven't had the best few weeks so have worked at home a lot. They seem happy as long as the work is being done. I'd just take them up on their offer of home working. I certainly have.

Jodders I'm also in a bomb site. I have made it 100% worse with my DIYing. We'll get there. It's just mess, if it bothers someone else, just suggest they can help by tidying for you!

Lucinda thanks, I'm okay ish. Suffering with horrible headaches & working. Keep falling asleep early & not having a chance to log on.

I have today & the rest of the week off of work. Painting today & taking my mum out tomorrow as it's her birthday & she's just retired. Lunch & then Motown the Musical (her choice). Going with DH & also meeting the in laws. Just hope I'm okay. The tickets were eyewateringly expensive, so I hope she enjoys it.

To those who asked, the friend said he had no idea. It's stopped, so that's something. Ironically the person who I thought was a very good friend & is now acting like a mean girl is a man who is 42 next week! I mean really. The woman involved has always been unpleasant, not exactly a popular person at work, so I'm not at all surprised by her (has quite a reputation of being rather enamoured with herself & her nickname is 'nasty' - to think I used to defend her!), but I am surprised by him. We were really good friends until it literally changed overnight. He'd been spending a lot of time with 'nasty' before hand, who seems very jealous of me judging by the emails she's sent, so I'm assuming she's behind that. She'd said the week before that she didn't like me being friends with 'her' friends & asked me to defriend mutual friends on social media, which I thought was more than a little odd.

It's silly, I'm still a little sad about him though, he changed overnight from one of the kindest people I knew to a horrible bully. We were very good friends for years. He's a very sad soul though, never had a relationship & a bit socially awkward, so I do wonder if there was more to it. He changed as soon as I told him we were going to have a baby, as in as soon as I told him that was that, he was unpleasant. DH & my friends think he couldn't cope with me having a baby for whatever reason. Still makes me sad though.

I need to finish the painting I've done today but am completely exhausted. I really need a cup of tea, but horror, the milk curdled! That's not on!

Waves to everyone 👋🏼

Thanks Lucy. I'm at home now (just having a quick break- I'm editing a document prepared by a junior member of staff before we issue to the client/ and it's heavy going!) Hope that you have a lovely day tomorrow! What are you painting today? The situation with your 'friends' sounds awful- sounds like it's mostly coming from nasty but that your main friend is easily led and has his own ishoos. Time to move on I think (I know that this is easier said than done, but you deserve an awful lot better). You don't need the drama! I've been in similar positions before though, and I know how hard it is to give up on a friendship that was once so good.

Happy birthday ickle, I hope you have had a restful day. As much as I love DS, I do enjoy having child free days (although I have a tendency to do too much still).

Sorry to hear about the UTI rae but at least you have antibiotics and could be one of the reasons why you've been feeling off kilter and unbearably tired. As others have said take up working from home when you can. It's a shame you've been forced back to full time before you felt ready. I must admit I'm doing far too much at work and then suffering at home because of it. I've been in bed by 8 all week and tonight is no exception as I'm about to get in the shower and then get into bed. London was ok, but think the combination of early commuter train and longish walk has taken its toll though.

Congrats on reaching full term mrsmonkey, hope the hospital appointment went well. Not long to go now til you meet baby. Bet you can't wait. Hope special is also enjoying mat leave.

Nausea has been bad today and had another night of acid voms on Monday but last night wasn't too bad so hoping for a good one tonight.

Hi to everyone else, lucy enjoy the rest of your week off and all the plans you have. I really hope HG doesn't ruin anything.

Thanks, Sleepy, me too! Will be nice to see my mum either way, I've not seen her since Christmas before I was even pregnant the first time. We are having lunch at the Sky Garden (Walkie Talkie building), so at least I get to go to one of my favourite places, even if I don't feel like eating.

Thanks, Rae, I know, I had. Unfortunately they won't leave it alone. It's so very childish, I really wish they'd just get a life. Maybe then I wouldn't be so interesting. Painted another door & all the bits around the bottom cupboards. So fiddly. Also painted the shelves. Getting there slowly. It's hard work sitting on the floor like that. Feeling stiff now.

Somehow I forgot to take my pill at lunchtime & suffering now. Being distracted by the tennis & wondering if I could even hit a single ball back to Murray. I'm thinking not!

Finally have a cup of tea! 🎉

Thanks Sleepy, it's funny how I managed to not notice so many symptoms! I've literally been going to the loo every half an hour this week and have pains in my side 😁 Glad that you survived London- hope you have a good rest tonight.

Lucy well done on the DIY efforts! It speaks volumes that they won't leave it alone like you say- they have nothing else going on. I normally love tennis but I can't focus on Wimbledon this year!

Hi all! Just had my 20 week scan- all is well with baby (the sonographer was very excited about how good the heart looked)! It did show that I have a low-lying placenta though unfortunately, so I need to go back at 34 weeks for another scan: if it hasn't moved, I need a c-section. I am clearly not suited to pregnancy! 😂

Great news that all is ok with baby rae, and over half way now which is a good for the mental wellbeing, or at least it was for me. Shame about the low lying placenta, although I hear they do often move so fingers crossed you won't need a c-section.

Been thinking of you rae as know you said you were nervous about scan. Great that all is fine, there are some advantages to elcs so don't feel all is lost. Definitely know what you mean about not suiting pregnancy!

sleepy glad your getting plenty of rest 8pm bed time sounds ideal! Did you manage a vom free night? I was up 1.30 for nearly an hour being sick non stop. Awful heartburn this morning so not tried to eat anything yet!

lucy hope you had/have (?) A lovely time with your mum that sky gardens place sounds perfect. You will have to show us your diy efforts when complete for us to all be jealous of. I was very much enjoying the tennis yesterday- dh didn't even dare suggest putting the football on!

Well tonight dh and I are icing ds's birthday cake...wish us luck not falling out! Dh is so funny about how he wants things done so I will just smile, nod and hope for the best (with standby trip to asda if needed!)
Ds is still fast asleep after 2h nap so far he was very good for mil this morning so had a proper rest...might try and face a sandwich...wish me luck!

Thanks Sleepy! Yes I'm mainly just thrilled that the baby is fine, DH had a massive wobble when we were told and said "but I want you to be ok as well!" so I'm a be rattled by it. I know what you mean about the half way mark, I was so excited on Sunday to be officially 20 weeks!!

Thanks ickle! we're so chuffed, it's amazing to see the difference between 12 and 20 weeks as well! One of my friends had a c-section and I know it was a lovely experience for her, so that helps. Good luck with the sandwich! What kind of icing are you having on the cake?

Great news on scan rae ! Try not to worry about placenta for now. If you end up with c-sec I can give you lots of tips! (And they're fine, honestly, if that helps. DD's birth was v peaceful and moving experience).
Good luck with cake ickle !
lucy hope sky garden and show is fun and you manage ok. We had lovely meal at Sky garden with a little sleeping DD in tow last year 😊

Hello.

Rae Glad you had such a good scan! Don't worry about the placenta too much yet - they often move round as the uterus stretches (mine did). How's work going? You coping ok?

Ickle Hope your DS has a nice birthday!

Sleepy Sounds like you're still doing a lot. When do you start winding down from work?

I'm doing ok. My sister came and stayed for a few days, and I had such a nice time that I'm a bit down now she's gone. I had a 3d scan done as part of a uni study, and baby looks identical to his Dad! It's just not fair! He is now head down, which is awesome.

Hope everything is going ok with Lucy, Lucinda, Fresh and everyone else.

Thanks mrsmonkey

Special glad to hear of a moving placenta! It seems like most do, so fingers crossed. Work is okish- I've worked from home this afternoon which I think will help me survive tomorrow. Apparently the person who told me my pay was being cut made a remark to my manager today along the lines of 'funny how she was too ill last week but fit for work now I've cut her sick pay' (which I guess is an understandable reaction if you look at it objectively). My boss went mental apparently and said that they have no idea how bad I am on evenings and weekends, and no grasp of the fact that I have no flipping choice but to drag myself in now because we need the money. Lovely to be defended but I really just want to keep my head down now!!

Sorry, posted too soon- Special I' so pleased for you that the baby is head down now! Must have been lovely to see our sister. Hope you've got something nice on this weekend

Rae That person at work is an absolute dick. Glad your manager stuck up for you though.

Yeah, I'd say they're not popular at the moment. My boss thinks I'm too good at just getting on with it, that I've always been seen as approachable and friendly and that maybe I should reign it in a bit rather than going all out at work to maintain it and collapsing in a heap at home. I get where she's coming from but I'm trying to bear in mind that I don't want to chuck my career away over this, or be seen as a 'sulker'. I also think that if I suffer too visibly I will be sent home by HR as not fit for work- they keep saying that they have a duty of care towards me and will send me home if they need to. What a flipping nightmare. DH has just called me to say that he's bought a lottery ticket though, so things will almost certainly be looking up for us tomorrow night 😂

Sorry to hear HR are being a nightmare rae, just keep working from home when you can. Maybe alternate a day working from home then one in the office. Would that work?

Hope cake decorating is going well ickle, sorry to hear the night time heartburn voms have got you too. Haven't been bad the past two nights so hoping the new meds are working. Maybe worthwhile asking your doc for some omeprazole too?

special you are right, I'm not slowing down at work but it's a bit full on still so just having to deal with it. Have got tons to do before I finish and hoping to keep going until mid Sept if I can although with odd days leave etc I don't have a horrific number of days left to work. Glad you had a good time with your sister. Although you're feeling a bit down now she's gone you will hopefully find something to occupy your time.

Just got into bed and shattered again, falling asleep on the sofa while trying to talk baby names. I'm sure this baby won't have one at this rate.

Hello everyone 👋🏼

Rae excellent news on the scan. Did you find out the gender? I'm going to have a c & having done lots of research I'm not at all worried. Will be different to an emergency situation. Also, can I just echo the comment that this person is indeed a dick. Honestly. Next time you need to be sick at work, I have a suggestion re the location...

ickle great day, thank you! I shall post pictures when I'm done with the DIYing. Although I feel like it'll never be done! But slow progress is still progress. I just hope the tiles prove easier than the painting! How is the cake going? What is the cake going to be?

MrsMonkey lunch was lovely, thank you. I'm usually partial to their brunch, so lunch was a nice change. Mum really enjoyed it & the show, so that's excellent. Always worth the money when someone has a great day. The kid playing MJ in Mowtown was just brilliant. Little star!

Special baby K looks like dad too, definitely has a better chin than mine! I've been feeling down of late too, so you aren't alone. Although that's pants, sorry you feel like that.

Sleepy I'm not surprised you're so tired - don't over do it at work.

Hello to anyone I've missed.

Good idea Sleepy, I might suggest it if things settle next week. I feel your pain r.e. baby names!! Do you have a short list?

So I've been obsessing over something the sonographer said instead of sleeping... We want a surprise, we don't have a preference on the baby's sex at all, but I think that the sonographer basically told us that the baby is a boy. To fill the silence at the end, I said "I'm sure it's difficult to sex them at this stage" and he said "oh no! Yours has been showing off the whole time!" So I'm a bit disappointed, not because I don't want a boy, I just feel a bit like some of the excitement has been taken away. DH thinks I'm nuts and that it could just as easily mean a girl.

sleepy I keep saying to dh we really must think about names...will probably end up doing it on holiday when we have time! Yes if heartburn doesn't improve will speak to gp about omeprazole last night was horrific 😥

rae I'm so glad your boss defended you- like you say you have no choice. Definitely don't go out of your way to do more than needed. Just get the essentials done- as for long term career post maternity leave I promise it won't be remembered. They will remember you being unwell and doing all you could.

special glad you had such a nice time with your sister. 3d scan sounds fab am a bit jealous as would really like one but can't justify cost sadly.

Thanks for all good wishes with cake icing no arguments were had which is a miracle! Was going to go for stiff butter icing to make it spiky but it is a) far to warm and b) I didn't have enough real butter so added some flora so very soft. So I used back up royal icing. I'mI'm pleased anyway- will take a photo on Saturday for you all! Thankfully 2 year old ds won't care as long as he can eat it!

Sorry Lucy, cross posted with you! Great idea about the sickness location so glad that you had a good day today! Looking forward to seeing the DIY pictures too!

Sorry lucy missed your message - glad lunch was so nice and that your mum enjoyed the show! It is a dinosaur themed cake!

rae I agree with your dh could be a girl showing off lack of bits just as much as if they had a penis! I can understand being frustrated either way! Get yourself to sleep nowA

... And now I've cross posted with ickle. Sorry! I hope your heartburn eases tonight. Looking forward to seeing the cake photo!

... I've done it again. Cross posting queen! Night all