Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
links.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Vixx I was totally off for 7 weeks, and am now on the world's slowest phased return (currently doing 3 mornings a week), so I still get notes to say reduced hours etc. Sounds like the cyclizine kicked in quickly- did you manage to keep the food down?

Special great news about the scan! Sending turning thoughts. Glad I'm not the only one recognised by pharmacists! The blanket is my too bad, I'm a real amateur but thought I should make the baby something as lots of my lovely relatives are beavering away for it! I should finish it tomorrow I think. I tend to abandon things like puzzles half way through, I get frustrated if I can't work something out quickly, it's a major character flaw!

Erin halls sound tough. Please make sure you seek help if you need it.

Jodders I'm so pleased for you! I second what Special says about the meds for your gum- I had them when I was st my worst, they were great (but do take ages to dissolve).

Sleepy alas, I am not patient at all- I just needed something to occupy my brain. Did your DS like his room? Sorry you're suffering so much.

Fresh brilliant biscuit game!!

So glad to hear from you mrsmonkey, I've been worried about you. The bunting idea sounds lovely! I'm thinking I might have some made after the birth with the baby's name on. I hope the 7UP helps you- I'm also all about flat lemonade at the moment.

Ickle Happy Birthday! Is it your birthday today?

MrsMonkey and Sleepy Thanks for the reassurance that your first ones were breech until quite late on before turning. Fwiw, I really do not care how this baby gets out of me, whether thats a vaginal birth or a c-section (though the thought of a c section does make me feel queasy - I'm fine with chopped up body parts, but anything medical on a living human turns my stomach!).

MrsMonkey Not long to go now! Hope DD is behaving and you get a good nights rest.

Fresh You eat as many biscuits as you can!

Sleepy My life hit a new rock'n'roll high last night, as I was swigging gaviscon from the bottle at 2am. Badass me! How life changes very quickly! Glad you're wanting more foods, and good work on DS's room.

Lucy Hope the meds are still helping.

Positive, non-nauseous thoughts to all!

Lucy glad you have company this weekend.

I've felt really low today, the worst I've felt mentally for weeks. I miss working and being 'normal'. I've felt a bit resentful towards DH as well which is so so not fair! I think I'm just that he can carry on as normal and I'm left behind. I've not been to work for 2 days and I have the weekend alone now too. Baby has been quiet movement wise as well which has scared me- I'm 19 weeks so I know it's normal not to feel it all the time at this point, but I'm still worrying. Had a self-indulgent cry about it all earlier and now feel thoroughly ashamed of myself.

Rae The secret to finishing baby blankets quickly is chunky wool and big needles! Thanks for the turning thoughts. Hope you have a nice weekend.

Rae poor you. A good cry helps sometimes. Sending non twee virtual hugs!

Feeling super sick tonight, blerg 😷

Sorry your feeling so sick lucy hope you managed to get some sleep. Enjoy ab fab- my Facebook is full of photos of people going dressed up!

special but chunky needles make my mistakes too obvious 😉 disclaimer- haven't tried since was pregnant with ds so 2+ years ago! Wouldn't mind trying again at some point...

rae never feel ashamed of crying as lucy says is quite cathartic! I honestly do feel your work frustrations and was also crying in dr when he signed me off 2 weeks ago- he thought I was wierd to be so conscientious but honestly work is really important to me and not being able to do it makes me feel so useless. The only thing worse that not being there is being there and doing a bad job/letting people down because I can't do what I commited to. That is the most frustrating part and the reason in some ways it is better for me to just be off. I know I'm good at my job but doesn't feel like it at the moment...I think it is also worth knowing I was very resentful of dh the first few months of being a mum the first time. There I was getting no sleep with a very fussy baby who was such hard work and he would get up, go to work like nothing had changed. He would often leave with me crying saying I couldn't do it! (I did have undiagnosed pnd for a while!) Anyway as ds got bigger it definitely got better and I understood it was hard for dh too -especially when said fussy baby only wanted me! Just worth knowing sometimes.

special no my actual birthday is Wednesday but celebrating with friends this weekend. Thanks though 😃 I find not thinking about c-section the best/easiest plan! If it happens I will have no choice so why worry before!

rae you sound like me with my knitting. I got most of it but could I find how to cast off? No! So I would do some version off it and then be frustrated it never looked right and stop! Shame because was quite enjoyable - althoigh dh did use to take the piss a lot!

Welcome erin are there other students still around in your halls? Can be quite isolating if not. Hope it feels like home even if it's not as imagine that would just add to making this time tough. Take care of yourself. If your Midlands based and don't mind sharing would be happy to help if I can.

Right well despite waking at 4am I've doubled the amount of sleep I had the previous night! Ds ended up having a 3h nap which was much appreciated and I napped for some of it too! Dh got home and went with him to pick up party food he had prebooked at m&s - the boy did good! All looks lovely! Just a few last minute bits to pick up in the morning and we are sorted! The builders also left their gazebo yesterday- I may have told them about the party to put pressure on them finishing! So we have a bit of outside space which is great! One of my oldest friends, who hasn't been replying to any of my messages since I saw her a few months ago, text yesterday apologising for not replying and saying she was coming. I definitely cried! Hope she is ok but will be lovely to see her as she's not local. Right probably should try and get some more sleep now... sorry to anyone rudely missed. Waves at lucinda and promises to spend the party sat down (on my exercise ball!) And people can come to me!

Have a wonderful party ickle, hope the weather stays dry and the food stays down.

How are you feeling today Lucy?

Thanks ickle. Sorry to hear about the PND. Hope you have an amazing party! The weather is great here so hopefully it's the same for you. Good news about your friend- any idea why she's been AWOL?

Have a great party,ickle! Hope you're able to enjoy some of those M&S goodies.

Rae have a bit of an upset stomach & feeling quite low. Husband is away & those people that upset me months back seem to still be taking pleasure in doing the same. They went out of their way to make fun of me yesterday even though I've not seen or spoken to them in 6 months - which was their choice. They make fun of me for being 'posh'. I realise that in comparison to them I am, but I'd never make fun of someone because of their class, but apparently it's fine to do the same if you're picking on someone for being 'posh' (as they put it). The woman just sounds like a jealous child, but a lot of people are involved in their mockery & frankly I just want to be left alone. They didn't want to be my friend anymore, fine (& frankly I'm super glad I found out before exposing a child to their toxic nature), but please get a life & leave me alone. Normally I just ignore them, but feeling sick, being alone, it's all a little much.

Going to attempt to take a cupboard door off with a mini set of screw drivers so I can paint it - no idea where my DH has moved the tools to in our bomb site of a house! Wish me luck!

It worked & I've found a novel use for the mystery cold setting on the hairdryer...

How long until stemetil kicks in? typing this from my bathroom floor**

Lucy sorry to hear about how you were treated yesterday! They sound awful. I completely get that it's harder to ignore that kind of thing when you're so physically low. I am massively bothered by things that I'd not have thought twice about a few months ago. All I can say is that it sounds like you behaved really well under the circumstances. And, as you say, your child will be spared being around such horrible people. As an aside, I am super impressed with your DIY skills

Jodders I'm sorry but I'm not on Stemitil so I can't help- hopefully someone else will be along soon. You poor thing! Are you managing to keep anything down- sips of water or ice cubes? Please keep an eye on your hydration levels. Thinking of you

Well I've had a haircut and just chucked another 'baby wash' on, so I'm soon be able to box all of the baby bits up until nearer the birth. Thought I might as well get it washed now and iron what needs ironing on maternity leave. I'm trying to keep myself busy without DH here. Also getting quite anxious about the 20 week scan next Thursday so trying to give myself as little time to worry about that as possible! Not feeling horrendously sick today, just nagging nausea and extreme tiredness. My HG has definitely started peaking in the evenings again, I always feel worse coming up to bed time. I'm going to lay down for a bit now so that I don't overdo things.

Sorry to hear how you're feeling rae & Lucy evening is my worst time too, I can't abide the smell of good from 5pm onwards especially and have been known to cut a lemon in half and hold it to my nose if cooking smells are causing a problem
It's best for me if I can be in bed between 7&9pm my dd finds it amusing that I'm getting ready for bed same time as her!!! Hugs to everyone xx

'smell of food' that should say

Jodders I was on it previously & I'd say about 3 days. Any more than that & I'd go back to the doctor.

Rae yes, trying to ignore them. It's hard as they are just vile, horrible thing to do. Same one who made fun of my prenatal depression. I hope karma really does exist.
Thanks but don't be too impressed, I only did that one door! Nowhere to dry them & it keeps raining when it's not supposed to. Was waiting for summer, but can't wait forever!
My HG is bad first thing & in the evening too. Definitely worth having a rest if you can.

I can't remember, who has the mismatched furniture? Would highly recommend this paint. You don't even have to prime or sand. You just paint it on & rub wax on when it's dry to set it. Nifty.

Goodness, I can't believe how busy this thread's been.
erinkingston1 Welcome. Poor you to be feeling so bad and in hospital for so long. Did you say you had been given meds? Do you have kesostix? If not, it's a good idea to invest in some to test for the early stages of dehydration. The radio can be a lifesaver if you don't feel up to looking at a screen, and audio books if you don't feel up to looking at a printed page. Do you find flat full sugar coke, ice lollies, the juice of tinned fruit, soda water, ice cubes, jelly, cheap ice cream, Lucoazade or chocolate milk or Elderflower water any good for retaining fluids? You are very young to be facing such a horrible thing alone. Have you got any family reasonably nearby? You've had great advice from the others, particularly about student services. I assume the doctor connected with them knows how ill you are?
mrsmonkey I'll get the Pink Castle ready for you, drawbridge lowered. It's been horrible for you, having these late admissions.
RaeHow is the suspected UTI? Sorry you feel dismal. Cyber hugs on offfer.
Lucy Are these dismal bullies people you know in real life, or on the internet? It's really mean of them to pick on you when you are down.
Is there a way of avoiding them?
Apologies if I've rudely overlooked anyone.
Jodders I'm glad you've got meds.
Vixxfacee Almost certainly there's no need to worry. Very likely the drug suits you well.
ickkle Is it your birthday? Happy Birthday! If so. [grin[
SpecialStains I am glad you've 'just' got nausea now. That sounds quite alarming about pyrodoxine.
Waves to SleepymrsE and Freshbread.

Fresh yes, it's the smell. The fridge in particular. DH cleaned out with bleach the other day but whatever it is still makes my stomach turn.

Lucinda real life. They are doing it online though. We aren't friends anymore because I asked them to stop making fun of me & gossiping about me when I wasn't there. They claimed it was just a joke & I was being dramatic by being upset - however it continued months after & was catty & personal. Now they are making fun of a tradition my grandma had at Christmas which I continued in the year since she's passed. It's not a joke, it's deliberately nasty. Before it was upsetting quite a few people (they'd post comments online) & so I told them I wasn't comfortable with their jokes & asked them to stop. They just kept calling me childish & saying that it was 'a free country' so they could do what they wanted. They then blocked me saying they'd had enough of my drama & now continue to do it online & tag in people we both know so I'll see it, or they put it on my friends messages & they get upset & tell me. It's just harassment, they are 10 years older than me (in their 40s). Just being jealous children, I think. It only started since my grandma passed away & left me quite a generous inheritance. The woman in question is extremely obsessed with her status & money & somehow both doesn't like 'posh' things or people, whilst openly admitting that she wants their other friends to be jealous of her & so she shows off how much more she earns than them - it's very concerning behaviour. Very narcissistic.
I really really don't want to be their friend, I just want them to stop.

Lucy This sort of cyber bullying from people who are jealous in real ife is horrible. I wish I could think of a solution. I hope someone else can, because it's bad enough when you're healthy, let alone when your ill. All these social media sites are meant to have policies that prevent it, but in practice, they don't seem to work too well.

Fresh that lemon idea is inspired!! I might give that a go next time DH cooks something that disagrees with me.

Lucy they sound like utter morons. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this at an already difficult time. Can you avoid seeing them in future? Shame that you didn't get a chance to block them first- that might have stopped their antics showing up at all for you.

Lucinda I feel ok today! I've managed to get a few bits done around the house. Just waiting for DH to roll home now

Hope that everyone is coping tonight. Thinking of you all.

Thanks, ladies, I'll be okay. Normally I just find it funny that 6 months later I'm apparently still the most interesting thing going on in their lives. It's just a wobble due to a bad weekend & being home alone.
Like you say, just bullies. They aren't worth my time. My mother couldn't stand the woman in question anyway after she was quite rude at my hen party. She didn't say thank you at my wedding afternoon tea to my mum, who hosted it, so apparently that's all my mum needed to know - not a fan. Funny the things that annoy people about others.

Well ladies I had a horrendous dream about ds which has really shaken me and feel very sick so hoping posting this distracts me from both...

lucy those so called 'friends' sound absolutely despicable. I am so sorry that you have had to put up with it especially whilst you will be grieving for your grandma. Block and perhaps message any mutual friends to explain if they tag them or message in any way regarding you then you would appreciate them not making it visible to you because of the distress. You can report it on facebook/twitter and obviously if harrasment continues to the police but hoping it doesn't get to that. (As much as mn loves to jump to call 101!)

rae well done for getting a few bits done it can be very satisfying to feel useful and productive! Hope dh didn't keep you waiting too long! Well done on hair cut and try not to worry to much about scan on thursday although I realise that might not be possible. Is there something specific you are worried about? Sorry if I missed it in a previous post or just the effect of hg on baby?

fresh I'm nornally done for the day by 7.30 when put ds to bed! I try and pretend for an hour or 2 but normally end up on sofa snoring!

jodders hope medication did kick in. Take care of yourself. We all have bad episodes from time to time. Getting any fluids to stay down is vital at this point.

Thanks sleepy it managed to stay sunny for nearly all which is amazing and much better than forcast!
lucinda technically not until wed but celebrated today! Was so lovely to have so many friends come and visit. Just made it really special. Ds was amazing (on less than an hours nap!!!) And loved having so many children over to play. Dh did a brilliant job with the food and there was the perfect amount- it all worked so well! Bonus being my house now looks like a florist which is amazing! I did try really hard not to do too much but will be suffering today regardless I think...

Ickle glad you had a nice birthday, sounds like a great party. Which dress did you go with?
I'm feeling better today, ignoring the charming people. A mutual friend who I think is involved in the joke but doesn't know why they make fun of it just posted something & I commented to say I assumed he didn't know the reason behind the joke as I didn't think he was the type of person to make fun of my late Grandmother. His reaction to that will determine whether or not I block him. Sorted.

Lucy I generally find that my Mum is (irritatingly) always right too!

ickle so sorry about your dream, it sounds awful!! Did you go in to check on him to make you feel better? DH rolled home at just after 11 He needs to get up in a bit for round 2 so he'll be tired in Monday. I'm just generally worried about the scan, terrified that they'll find 'something' wrong when they check the organs. My hairdresser was telling me horror stories yesterday which hasn't helped! So glad you had a nice party. Hope you manage to put your feet up today.

ickle happy belated birthday. Sorry about your dream
Lucy sorry to hear about the bullies
Love to all. I'm so tired still. Second trimester is supposed to be better but I still feel sick and even more tired if that's possible! Xx