Pregnancy after infertility

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Thought I’d start this thread as I find myself feeling quite out of place on the ‘normal’ antenatal club threads - find it difficult to relate to being upduffed after 'just' having some sex, and thinking ahead to buying maternity clothes, how much maternity leave to take, where I’d like to give birth etc

I realise it’s entirely my own issues and that infertility world has clouded my views, but I want to scream ‘DON’T YOU KNOW EVERYTHING THAT COULD GO WRONG!!’.

There’s a thread for pregnancy after previous loss, but thought there might be some kindred spirits who are navigating the world of pregnancy after infertility

Glad to hear your scan went well blueroses. Did u have the nuchal translucency done?

I did, they said the scan appeared to be low risk but they took my bloods and I'll get the results in 3 days if high risk and 2 weeks(!!!) if low risk. Everything has been so carefully monitored so far, I don't want any surprises and will probably accept all tests offered!

Glad everything went well blue thats the same timeline as results in my area. I guess if you dont hear in 3 days you can assume it is low risk - but what a nerve wrecking 3 days!

I'm still so so tired and having a few headaches but think its mainly due to the weather. I'm just suffering as I normally medicate at the slightest sign of pain and now I am just suffering through. 15 days to scan and counting - slowest period of my life ever!

Good idea. I think even if it doesn't change your mind about continuing with the pregnancy for example it's still always good to know all the fact so you can prepare. I'm sure everything will come back fine if they've said it looks low risk. Good thing about the 3 day thing is that once youre past that, if you haven't heard anything then at least you know you're just going to get a letter in the post to say it's low risk.

I'm off for a post night shift nap now. Zzzzzz

That's what I was thinking HP. Hope you have a good rest!

Birchy yes it is tough not being able to medicate. Do cold compresses help at all? I find Vicks VapoRub helps when I have a headache - I know that's not what it's for but rubbing a little on my forehead can ease a headache, and it's safe during pregnancy, particularly as nothing is ingested.

While my GP said it was safe to take hay fever tablets, the pharmacist said not, so I'm not taking anything anymore. My eyes are so itchy 😪

Glad you had a good scan Blueroses. I am sure you can take Piriton, my hospital prescribe it to pregnant women for itching.

I have started fresh red bleeding this afternoon out of the blue and occasional mild cramps . My supervisor was lovely about it and sent me home. Clinic are going to scan me tomorrow but I'm afraid it won't be conclusive at only 5+4. I have just had to ring DH and tell him. I guess I was starting to feel hopeful after all, and now I just feel so sad. Can't see a good outcome to this.

Glad your scan went well blue

Thinking of you kiwi

hellosky fx for you too. It's so incredibly stressful, try to relax (hollow laugh)

Hellotree don't be disappointed if you don't see much on the scan tomorrow as you said it is very early. I hope it goes well. Good luck.

Hello ski and kiwi thinking of you both.

Glad the scan went well blue. Pregnancy after infertility makes it so hard to beleive your baby might be real/safe/strong....

Thank you all. You might think I am bonkers but I've decided not to go for the scan today. I would have to travel 90 mins for it and realistically they are not going to be able to give me an answer so early on so I'll be no further on. I have asked them to scan me in a few days after I am 6 weeks. The bleeding seems to have stopped for now. I am not hopeful but what's a few more days to wait.

I think that's perfectly reasonable hellotree, it probably won't give you the reassurance you are looking for and waiting a little while longer might be a better option. I was told 7 weeks if you want to get the best chance of seeing a hb. Hope the bleeding stays away.

Hellotree, thats a very sensible (but tough I'm sure) decision to make. Everything crossed that the bleeding stays away.

That's perfectly understandable Hellotree. You have to do what's right for you. All the best for the scan when you get there.

I think I'd have done the same thing in your shoes Hello. Just take the weekend to relax and look after yourself. Xx

I think that's v sensible hello. Fx for you.

Ladies, I have just woken up and had some brown & mucousy blood when I went to the loo and wiped. I really think it's all over

Nothing to be done before my scan on Monday but it's not looking good.

Stealth noooo. I'm so sorry you've had this. Very scary. I have everything crossed that it's not what you think it is.

Oh stealth, there's no point telling you it could be a million other things because you know that, and it doesn't make it any less worrying. Come and sit by me on the terrified bench.

Thanks for all the support. It's nice to have a little place to come where people understand how you feel. I can't understand now how I was so positive at the beginning of my other pregnancies. I feel like a different person now.

Rationally I know it could be anything (was running around the tube yesterday carrying a weekend bag, a bit of old blood etc etc). But can't shake the feeling this is not right. I guess I'll find out on Monday.

It seems to have stopped for now. But aaaaah. I hate this.

Hand holding ladies and reminding you again that you can bleed (quite a lot) and still keep your bun firmly placed in the oven! I had brown spotting almost every day for the first 10.5 weeks of my pregnancy. Butas you have said it doesn't stop your mind racing to all the possibilities. Last night I had a real dragging feeling n my lower abdomen and it was probably because I was n my feet a lot at work on the night shift and maybe the baby was in an awkward position but I still worry everything something feels or seems different. Good luck and put your feet up this weekend. X

Sorry about all the errors in that msg. I blame the tiredness. Time for bed after work now.

Spoke too soon. Had another wipe of blood when I just went to the loo. Gah. It is definitely brown

Stealth sorry you are having blood but as others have said keel hole. I also had mixture of bright red blood and dark drown for 3 days every time I wiped - had an early scan and everything was fine and bleeding settled down on its own. It may be nothing at all. I'm glad you have a scan tomorrow though as I don't think I would have settled until I had it.

12 days and cou ting until my 12 week scan which will actually be AT ,12+4, although from early scan they thought I was a bit behind my dates. I woke up feeling g a different person today. Got lots of housework done, been to garden centre, had a nap and heading out with girls now. I do feel a bit more dodgy after nap but nothing like this week when I have been in tears from feeling so ill. Hopefully placenta is taking over and I'm starting to feel better.

stealth faint hope is where it's at on this bench. It's not over yet. I'm realistic but I'm still thinking positive sticky thoughts. Glad you are feeling better Birchy and thank you for sharing your positive experience.

HI all

Could I join you please?

I have just found out that I am pregnant, after two miscarriages and a history of fertility problems, and i am petrified!!

Last July, I was told I would NEVER conceive naturally due to a low AMH, however the next month, we fell pregnant. We lost that baby at 8 weeks, and then fell pregnant again a month later, and then lost that one at 11 weeks after having seen it on an ultrasound. Heartbreaking.

After the 2nd MC, I went to see a consultant privately and he has turned out to be my hero! He refuses to accept that low AMH means I am screwed. He thinks we over-test and over-analyse, when in fact fertility and getting pregnant is an inexact science. He said that my age does miscarriage make it more likely - 35 - but he said I shouldn't obsess about low AMH. He says I get pregnant easily and so that is a good sign and we just need to try and keep this pregnancy.

SO here I am! I found out on Thursday with a FRER, got a Clearable Digital last night. I am having my HCG levels tested, find out on Tuesday how & if they are rising. Depending on their levels, my consultant will put me on extra hormones. I have also started injections of blood thinning drugs, every 12 hours. Does anyone else have this?

I have been on another thread - TTC after Miscarriage - and I found it so incredibly helpful to talk to people who understand and you all seem so lovely.

xx