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Pregnancy after infertility

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bananafish81 · 03/03/2016 13:15

Thought I’d start this thread as I find myself feeling quite out of place on the ‘normal’ antenatal club threads - find it difficult to relate to being upduffed after 'just' having some sex, and thinking ahead to buying maternity clothes, how much maternity leave to take, where I’d like to give birth etc

I realise it’s entirely my own issues and that infertility world has clouded my views, but I want to scream ‘DON’T YOU KNOW EVERYTHING THAT COULD GO WRONG!!’.

There’s a thread for pregnancy after previous loss, but thought there might be some kindred spirits who are navigating the world of pregnancy after infertility

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HP07 · 15/05/2016 11:26

Hi, welcome to the group Hopeful. I too have a low AMH but managed to fall pregnant naturally for the first time after 2 years of ttc and being told that it was likely we would need to go through IVF. Sorry to hear about your previous mc, what an awful time of it you have had. Wishing you the best of luck with this pregnancy.

HopefulKate1980 · 15/05/2016 11:40

Thanks HP! Nice to have found you all. How far along are you??

HP07 · 15/05/2016 11:56

I'm 21+5 now. Its been a nerve wracking experience so far but feeling a bit more relaxed with every passing week. This is a really lovely group which is a great support network. It's good to be able to come and air any worries that might seem trivial to other people or just have a chat really. :)

Blueroses99 · 15/05/2016 14:15

Hope everyone is having a good weekend as best they can. Fx for those with scans this week.

On a lighter note: I have found it v stressful trying to hide the pregnancy as I'm already enormous and have been paranoid about being spotted with my 'baby on board' badge (essential for travel as standing on the tube made me sick) or in the wrong shops (I needed my first maternity clothes at 7wks) so now I'm at 13wks I feel ready to tell family and close friends. Everyone knows I love baking so my friends received this pic - some worked it out much quicker than others...

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HP07 · 15/05/2016 16:55

What a lovely message Blue :)

MrsLen · 15/05/2016 20:32

Blue what a great way to tell everyone. Xx

hellotreeshellosky · 16/05/2016 11:08

Welcome Kate.

Love your pic blue, how cute. Smile

I am just plodding on, no more bleeding, don't know whether to be cautiously optimistic or not. Scan tomorrow at 6+1, I hope they can see enough.

How are you stealth?

Blueroses99 · 16/05/2016 12:00

The pic was too cryptic for some and did have a few people scratching their heads. I was asked if there was a baking event in November 😂 Most got it though and there is a nice feeling of things being out in the open and receiving nice messages (almost like its 'normal'!)

Good luck for the scan tomorrow Hellotree.

stealthbanana · 16/05/2016 14:05

Haha at a baking event blue. Some people!

Just wanted to quickly update that all is well - saw a little foetus and heard and saw a nice strong heartbeat today. Am more overwrought and relieved but it'll sink in eventually! Home to recover from the emotional stress of it all now....

Blueroses99 · 16/05/2016 15:12

Great news Stealth! So happy for you. Even good news is much more emotionally draining than expected so take it easy.

hellotreeshellosky · 16/05/2016 15:19

Great news stealth, so pleased for you!

HP07 · 16/05/2016 15:40

Fantastic stealth. It's amazing isn't it?

HopefulKate1980 · 16/05/2016 16:01

Great news Stealth. How far along are you?

stealthbanana · 16/05/2016 16:41

Hi kate - I am 7+2. So still very early days!

Thanks all. The relief is overwhelming. Just woke up from a 2 hour sleep!

BorisIsBack · 16/05/2016 16:43

Stealth that's wondrful news. How lovely.
Welcome Kate!

HopefulKate1980 · 16/05/2016 19:04

Thanks so much for all the lovely welcomes! That means a lot.

Good luck for tomorrow hellotree!

Hope you have a relaxing evening planned Stealth!!

I've just left work after a long stressful day and I'm sure this can't be good for establishing this bean!! During my last pregnancy I worked quite long hours and a few 15 hour days around week 8/9 and while my consultant says this would not have caused the MC, I do wonder. I must try & stay calm!! Any tips?!

Xx

Blueroses99 · 16/05/2016 20:13

Hi Kate! My counsellor says that very little that a woman does will influence the outcome of the pregnancy but I know it's natural to worry.

My only tips are fairly obvious ones, is there anything you can do to reduce hours or workload, or work from home occasionally, or take the odd day off to rest? Will these actually make you feel better and more calm, or more stressed because of missing work?!

I do acupuncture, easy reading books and 'colour me mindful' (yes adult colouring books are actually very calming!)

HP07 · 16/05/2016 20:30

Hi Ladies, good luck tomorrow hellotree. I've just been to my first aquanatal class this evening, was really enjoyable. Suffering a little bit from a horrendously busy 15.5hr night shift last night. On my feet for all but about 45 mins of the night and have really sore feet, stiff leg muscles and cramps today. Think I'm going to sleep well tonight.

HopefulKate1980 · 16/05/2016 20:45

Thanks blue. After my second MC I promised myself I'd have some time off work but now I'm here it doesn't feel right as I keep thinking: what if I lose it? I may re-think at 8 weeks, if I get that far. ( I am a v positive thinker as you can tell!!!!)

I need to try yoga I think xx

HopefulKate1980 · 17/05/2016 11:06

Hi ladies

I'm really worried. I had a text from my consultant this morning to say that he wants to repeat my blood tests tomorrow. He is going to call me at lunch but this suggests my levels aren't rising normally. And I can't help thinking the worst. It's only 4 weeks so better to know now I suppose but I can't help but worry. Anyone else had this? Xx

birchygoo · 17/05/2016 11:26

Hi Kate and welcome to the board.

I haven't had that experience but it may just be that he wants to check they are continuing to rise - I wouldn't get too worried just yet. I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 5 weeks, I had been taking pain killers for pain that I thought was my period coming. So when I had bleeding at 5-6 weeks they only did one blood test to make sure levels were high enough that they would be able to see anything on a scan. However they still couldn't see much on this scan and had to scan me again a week later.

Also you are still very early so numbers are still small, this may be why they are following up.

I have been trying to take the attitude, worrying isn't going to change anything and there is nothing I can do to make things go right. So I will just let be what will be and worrying is only going to be detrimental

But of course its much easier to tell myself this than put it in action!

HP07 · 17/05/2016 11:33

I had two hcg tests at the start of my pregnancy to check that they were doubling as expected. It's not uncommon. Good luck.

HopefulKate1980 · 17/05/2016 11:56

Thanks both. I've already had two tests and he wants to do a third... I'm not sure I can handle much more pain after the 2 years I've had. I'll wait to see what he says at lunch. I'll let you know. this could be a very short stay on this thread! Xx

birchygoo · 17/05/2016 12:02

fingers crossed for you Kate

HopefulKate1980 · 17/05/2016 12:20

Thanks. I'm petrified

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