Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

special make your excuses for a rest, I do this with my equally lovely mil. Can totally imagine how frustrating this papp-a thing is just seen your other thread hope others have practical suggestions

Right in need of a moan. My dad is being useless and ds is being a pain. Dad said we should go for walk in woods because so sunny so went with him and ds. Ds screamed most of time which is so unlike him as he loves running around outside. We came home and my dad just took himself off into study so I entertained ds. Ds went down for naps fine so I went for a lie down dad went out. Ds had 90min nap and I've attempted to give him lunch (didn't eat much) dad still out. He was playing with cars then started throwing them at my face so I took them off him. He then kicked me on tummy so told him no. He then cried so we are watching cbeebies and I'm feeling like an awful parent. Hopefully Dad will take him out when he gets back so I can rest but just exhausted and crying and need help. If I was home I'd have friends come over but whole point of coming to my parents was so they could help. Dad was so good when he came to visit how is he so useless here. My mum is off tomorrow and she will be amazing just a few hours to get through!

Anyone have any advice? I had hypermesis in early preg and finally stopped being sick at 20 weeks. Now approaching 31 and have started being sick again every few days.... I'm wondering if the hypermesis is on its way back or if I should be worried? Thanks!

Hey pample sorry to hear you are vomiting again. If it's 'only' (not trying to minimise, all sickness sucks!) Every couple of days, you're probably not in danger of dehydration etc. However, if it gets worse talk to your midwife.

ickle Just get through these next few hours! Hopefully your mum will be more use tomorrow.

MIL came in to talk to me while I was trying to sleep this morning to say she didn't understand the issue (personally I don't see why she needs to understand, it's nothing to do with her), so I gave her the outline but said we don't know until my consultant appointment, and it might be nothing. She then went on and on about how my dh's nephews were all prem and they're all fine.

I don't think she understands how lucky a 27week prem baby is to not have any long term issues. I didn't want to discuss the issue with her, she only knows because she's staying with us and dh and I needed to discuss it when he came in last night, I haven't told my own mum and sister because I don't want opinions (they are fab, but liable to be very emotional and I can't deal with it atm).

MILs finally gone out, and I've had a good cry. Why the fuck would she bring up premature babies with me? She also asked if any of the medication I've been taking for my 'morning sickness' could have caused it. Like I'm not feeling shit enough.

Sorry rant over. I'll try to cheer up by my next post.

Lovely to see some familiar names still on here. Remember me? I sadly lost my baby five months ago. I have just found out that I am five weeks +2 days pregnant, unfortunately I have the flu too so waves of nausea are hitting hard intertwined with coughing and feeling feverish and unwell

fresh congratulations on your pregnancy, but, urgh, flu and pregnancy sickness combined sounds horrendous. Have you got pre-emptive meds for hg?

Thankyou special. I still have ondansetron from last time but I'm always scared of taking stuff in those crucial first few weeks but may give in if things get worse x

I understand that. I hope the sickness doesn't get too bad. Make sure you're careful and keep down lots of fluids. Any hint if dehydration/dizziness etc get yourself to a doctor. Have you already got any DC? And have you got family and friends that can look after you if you do start being very sick?

Huge congratulations fresh delighted you are pregnant again. Fingers crossed the flu is it and hypermesis doesn't reoccur!

special urgh is all I have to say about your mil very unhelpful. Glad she's out, have a good cry and some chocolate?

pample sorry to hear sickness is back- do you still have kesticks incase of dehydration. Fingers crossed this is a temporary glitch and sickness goes away as quickly as it came back!

Dad has taken him out, despite getting him his coat and then making him wait 20 mins until he was ready to go. This does not go down well with ds when he's ready to go that means now. Another proper temper. Dh is coming down tonight so very much looking forward to seeing him! At least it's sunny. Sickness been awful today blame my stress and lack of rest! 😥

I'm trying to keep up with fluids which is hard when you feel weak from the flu and also hard to keep up when you're sweating and have bouts of diarrhoea, feeling quite light headed and dizzy from the flu anyway so hard to read symptoms but trying to drink. My DH is down with the flu too thankfully we have parents to help with our DD. Keeping up with fluid is my most important job at the moment I think. Yesterday I was just pouring with sweat and felt horrendous and was worried about dehydration, I had a sports bottle to hand and just lay there constantly sipping, amazing how even though I still felt rough I felt an improvement just from drinking more. I feel too ill to go to the Dr so hope can manage it at home

ickle I'm eating nutella from a jar and the cat has come and sat on me. Glad your dad is taking ds out and that you'll see dh tonight!

fresh I've only had a mild cold combined with HG and that was bad enough. Hope your family recovers quickly!

Fresh, I remember you well. Welcome back and congratulations on the pregnancy. Really hope HG doesn't strike again, and hope the flu lifts soon.
Pample, sometimes the sickness can return in the third trimester, not unusual unfortunately. Just what you need when you think you've put it behind you.
Ickle, sorry you've had a tough day with your DS, and your dad being less than helpful. Hope tomorrow goes better with your mother in charge.
Special, sounds like you've also been faced with unhelpful and insensitive family members. I hope your appointment with the consultant on Friday provides you with some answers and helps to put your mind at rest.

Goodness, thread has moved on quickly.
Welcome back to Freshbreadandfaith. Congratulations on pregnancy. Sorry about flu. I know pharacetemol (spellling) is safe in pregnancy. I expect you're trying that. Also, try and use the old fashioned method of sponging in tepid water to reduce temperature (not cold; that will have a counter productive effect). You don't want that when you're shivering, but it will honestly help. Don't worry about abnormalities and prescribed meds. The websites I've linked above give reassurance about that.
pamplemOusse Welcome back, too. I remember the name. Sorry the horrible symptoms have come back. I hope they stay (relatively) mild. If they get worse, it might be an idea to go back on the meds.
Special How awful for you,all these concerns and your MIL being completely tactless too. Of course, the meds you've taken haven't a thing to do with it. Lucky she didn't take that job she was offered in the Diplomatic Service (trying to make you smile). As others say, can OH offer reassurance?
Rocket Poor you. How awful those Public Puking Performances are. Very good of you to attend a family event. I so agree with others, that is a terrible amount of vomiting and the meds are ineffective and please do try and get some additional ones, as it must be so hard to avoid dehydration with that level of sickness. Bins were my speciality! They didn't have tops on on the ones in Ealing in those days.
MotherofPearl I am so glad about that great piece of advice about Zantac. I didn't even know it was available over the counter!
squeezed Sorry about horrible day.
icklekid I remember my daughter went through a stage of not wanting to go out on walks (it didn't last long). It's very frustrating when they seem to be being impossible anyway, and much worse when you are ill. Gentle cyber pats on offer.
SleepymrsE Congratulations on turning a corner, and potato and cheese for lunch. Sounds wonderfully healthy, unlike the awful things one has to eat at one point...
Thinking of spandau and Ican't and Reebok and mrsamerica and everyone. Apologies for anyone rudely overlooked.

Hey MoP and Lucinda. It's a bit of a specialist area really. Dh only has a vague idea, and said himself that I've probably read more about it than him. He was a bit concerned yesterday and went and asked a collegue, who was also a bit vague and just said it's not always a very reliable test.

I have gone through all my pregnancy notes and letters with a fine comb today, and the only letter I've had is one saying my risk of downs is low and they do not recommend further testing. Absolutely no sodding mention of Papp-A.

However, at my 12 appointment the midwife scribbled that I am on the SGA pathway, which stands for small for gestational age. I had never noticed this before. Googling shows that I'm probably on this because of low maternal weight/hyperemesis as all my baby scan measurements have been perfectly fine and within normal range (I've been double checking everything like a mad woman). All these things that were never said out loud in appointments to me and dh. I've only really asked at scans and dopplers 'is everything normal?' to which I've always been told yes.

Friday is so, so far away.

Sigh. My MIL does genuinely mean well, she's a very nice person. I'm just not feeling very up for dealing with anyone atm.

Sleepy if you like potatoes, have you tried potatoes dauphenoise (sp)? Someone cooked it for me a few weeks ago and I love it! Dh cooked a massive dish for me and divided into small portions in the freezer so I could eat it whenever I fancied. He reckons its a good 'un for me to eat regarding my weight as he made it with double cream and cheese on top. Its suitable beige so doesnt set me off. Officially the least healthy way to eat potato! If I'm feeling grown up, I sometimes have peas with it. The hg beige toddler food diet really is something!

Sorry lots of long posts today. I'm being a bit desperate and needy. As of tomorrow, I will hopefully have won my battle with BT and have proper Internet, so I can watch Buffy on Netflix and not bother you lot so much!

Welcome back FRESH
Hope everything works out this time
So sorry you have the flu
Awful
Lots of to you xxx

Hi all, sorry I've been absent. Really struggling with these contractions and dd is playing up like mad. Feeling like the worlds shittest mum as I know she's playing up more because I'm unwell/she's not at home or in her normal routine and I'm being neglectful/snappy towards her. Every night at bedtime I find myself in tears and apologizing for not being the mum she deserves. 37 weeks Friday so hoping baby arrives soon. Cannot take anymore of these contractions.

Sorry to hear so many of you are suffering badly. Remember the beginning is most difficult. You're all doing so well.

Mop has maternity started?

Special thinking of you.

Fresh welcome back! I remember you well!! You really supported me in my early days. Congratulations. Please try not to worry about medication. It's perfectly safe even in early days. Fx you won't be hit with hg.

Another hg day down ladies. We are getting closer to meeting our babies. Ps I really cannot wait to get rid of this gross taste in my mouth!!

Special It's awful being in suspense. I do feel for you. amysmummy had some horrible suspense earlier in her pregnancy, what with a one in five chance of Downs and then another worry later on. The chances are massively in your favour all will be well for you with your worries, as they were for her.
Reebok You poor thing. I'm sure you are nothing like as bad as you think as a mother, or you wouldn't feel guilty each night. Probably just a bit snappy, and that won't do permanent damage to your dd', she will forget it all very quickly if others' experience on this thread is anything to go by, and have the fun of a sibling in years to come, and that's a great gift. The contractions must be awful. BH ones that aren't contractions are bad enough. I'm hoping that baby makes an early appearance. Also, to be honest, I hope that DH feels very guilty about not being more supportive, now his family are away.
Thinking of everyone.

We're a day closer special hope that it doesn't feel so far away now we are half way through the week! Horray for Netflix it has definitely been my sanity saver!

Welcome back reebok sorry it's not on happier terms but 37 weeks is so close now you can definitely do it and are absolutely not the worst mum! To go through hg and look after other dc is just tough. Anyone who doesn't cry regularly is less normal in my book!

Hope amysmummy and icant and everyone else is doing OK. Thinking of you all (whilst in bed as tried to go out for drinks last night with an old friend. I ate bread and was very sick both at restaurant and at home. I've not been able to face breakfast and now think I may have heartburn! Thank goodness for my mum taking ds out to a story time session locally!)

Hi everyone, I made it through the morning in the office. Lots of stuff to get my head round with changes happening to the department, feeling guilty and vulnerable for having been off sick so long. But I survived. Shattered now so definitely time for a nap this afternoon. The number of people who told me I looked pale/rough/poorly was ridiculous.

Reebok sorry to hear you're still suffering the contractions. Will they not induce now you're 'full term'? You sound like you're doing amazingly well considering all you have been through and as I know from toddler tantrum experiences, you aren't a bad mummy at all, it's just one of those phases that all kids unfortunately go through (not that it helps when you're feeling so poorly and they throw a wobbly).

I hope you're feeling a little better about things special, hopefully the consultants appointment on Friday will put any fears to rest. Thanks for the potato tip, I haven't tried but may be adventurous this weekend.

Sorry to hear your sickness is bad again ickle, maybe get your mum to pick you up some scones for later.

Ohh sleepy I forgot how good those scones were!

reebok So sorry you're still struggling. You're not a shitty mum, you've managed amazingly well in very difficult circumstances. I do hope baby comes soon and then post pregnancy amnesia kicks in.
Sleepy aren't people nice in their helpful comments.
Ickle I hope you managed to rest today.
special Thinking of you. It must be very difficult.
fresh Congratulations. I hope that you don't feel to awful.
Waves to everyone else I've rudely overlooked.
Just seen the Midwife and I'm measuring big again, so another growth scan. I'm likely to have a gestational diabetes test. My coco pops diet might be to blame if I do have it. I Googled treatment options and it mentioned healthy diet and exercise, ha ha, I cant walk and I can't keep veg down. Also seeing consultant to discuss being induced. I'm resigned to not having an idyllic relaxing water birth but it is a shame. Just want her here and healthy.

Reebok
I know how you feel (minus the contractions)
It's been a horrid Easter
I've nopatience withmy kids
I min so much pains I'd reflux and gross taste is back !!!

Thanks everyone. I'm trying my best to stay calm with her but it's so hard. Hurry up and get out baby!!!

Ickle sorry to hear you were sick after your day out with your friend but well done for going.

Sleepy, tell them to shove their comments where the sun don't shine!

Squeezed that sucks about gd! Fx it isn't that.

Spandau I know how you feel about the reflux. It's what's keeping me up right now alongside contractions.

Unfortunately no offer of an induction for me. Trying to do a little more now that I'm in the safe zone and force the contractions to bring on labour. It's bloody painful and I cry through activities as some
Contractions honestly kill. Really scared I won't have any energy in labour after these last few weeks of hell.

Reebok you have come such a long way, proud of you, kinda jealous that you are at the end of this marathon and I'm back at the start again! I attempted having a shower this morning, totally exhausted me so I crashed back into bed after. I'm nibbling crackers sipping cordial then crashing back into bed again. When the waves of nausea hit I curl into a ball shut my eyes tight and grit my teeth. This is my third hg pregnancy and I think I'm developing a phobia of being sick I just don't want it to start, so I'm hiding under the covers and lying very still when the waves hit to see how long I can get away with it for..... xxx

Well after days of fighting intense nausea I just threw up. It has officially started.....

Well ladies, just done my last commute! So relieved. Working at home tomorrow finishing off various things but that's totally bearable. Just so happy to think that I have roughly 4 weeks of glorious rest ahead of me before baby is evicted. Reebok, Spandau, yes yes yes to getting rid of that horrible taste!
Fresh, so sorry to hear that the sickness has hit. Your description of lying in bed fighting the waves of nausea really took me back to those awful early days. Nobody other than fellow sufferers knows just how horrific this condition is. Hang in there, and big hugs.