Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Congratulations Lex!

Hooray Lex. Great news

Yay Lex!!!! xx

AKP yup, total head f@ck! I've had symptoms in all my pregnancies so it's odd for me not to, although not being sick has it's benefits!

Thanks everybody - we are thrilled!

Now are there any nub theory experts out there? (I don't think the pictures are good enough)

Lovely pictures. Jo if it helps, after my spotting since Friday, I went to the GP this morning, she referred me to EPC and said because I had a miscarriage in December best I get it checked, she also reminded me that at 40 I had more chance of it going wrong, I reminded her of my miscarriage in 2005 when I was 29. Anyway she scared me.

I searched high and low for an early scan in my area no luck so found a place in Cardiff which is quite far. Well I had an abnorminal scan. Measuring 6 weeks my own dates using opk ovulation dates are 6.1 weeks. We saw with strong heart beat. She could not even see the bleeding. She assumes it's old implatation blood.

She didn't even want yo use the transvaginal scan because the picture is soooo good. We are so happy. 12 weeks scan next.

Fab news flourishing

Congratulations on the good scans flourishing and lex (am rubbish with guessing the sex, but I'll go boy!) Was hoping a quiet thread over the weekend equalled good news and no more bleeds

bowser I've been buying bits and pieces for a while now as I've come across good offers. I don't believe in jinxing anything but we've not been spending large amounts on any one item anyway. Am now 25 weeks and we have the main things ready. If you see a good deal then go for it!

Well done on the good scans.

Pretty are I'm out, radiographer couldn't see anything & said sac had decreased but doctor because of my dates wants repeated HCG so going back in 48 hours probably for medical managed. Then go for more tests but initial results haven't high lighted anything.

Good luck to you all & thanks for the help.

Fabulous news lex and flourishing

Oh no dinosaur I'm so sorry it isn't better news. Fingers crossed HCG will be more positive xxx

Everyone who has had their 12 week scans, how on earth did you get through those weeks?

I had a positive scan at 7 weeks and am now feeling as rough as a dog, but I still can't sop worrying. Added to that, we are apparently moving house in 8 weeks (thought we had until August, but everything pushed forwards two months), so stress levels are rising...

dolorite I have everything crossed that your HCG levels give you a better picture of what is going on. Life can be so unfair, with all this stress, worry and general crapness.

I wish I had the secret to a magic fast forward button economy but alas all I can say that it did go quicker once I passed 10 weeks I think. Last week flew by because we were so busy with brother in laws wedding do I guess my only advice is to try to stay busy! Xx

dolorite thinking of you.

economy I agree with lex... Seemed to take forever to get to 10wks, then you can count down days until the 12wk scan. I look back now and wonder how the hell I stayed sane. 12 (well, I was 13) to 20 has flown by though 8 days until my next scan Fwiw, I was the sickest I've ever been (4th pg, 3rd DC) but still freaked out regularly, so being very ill didn't reassure me either.

Yay for positive news/scans lex and flourishing

Can't remember who said about PGP/SPD (on prev page) and am on phone so can't scroll back but I'm sadly a veteran in this... Already had physio and got support belt! Aim is to stay off crutches this time

OMG cockles! Just remembered your awesome scan news too! How exciting!!

Thinking of you Dolorite

Definitely drags waiting for 12 weeks. I was lucky in some ways that I had additional scans because they were worried about something on my early scan, but I went 3 weeks without one and it drove me insane.

I've got my next scan at 16 weeks to follow up on something on my 12 week, which is good in a way as I think the wait to 20 weeks would have been painful! It's been a week since my 12 week scan and time is dragging!

Keeping busy is helping, but there's always that nagging worry at the back of my mind. My main concern is getting through this week with the kids while I feel as sick as a dog. I keep telling myself that feeling rubbish is a good sign but likechandelier says, it still isn't reassuring me much! Not feeling well enough to exercise is also playing havoc with my crazy-lady brain. Might try and go for a quick stroll in a minute, then head to bed.

8 weeks tomorrow...

dolorite - hopefully you'll get better news in 2 days.

Congrats on the happy scans lex and flourishing. Mine was meant to be tomorrow but I moved it to next Friday on advice at my scan at 10+2 where I was measuring only 9+3. Surprised at my own self control to actually push it back as now time seems like it's dragging!

Thank you for the good wishes, so sorry for all the ladies having problems, thinking of you 💐💐💐💐

Lillian that's amazing will power, well done.

Economy, I have not been to gym for 3 weeks, I feel really tired all day, I will try and go tomorrow morning. Not sure if body step is a good idea?

Maybe a short bike ride to get started. I am hoping exercise might give me more energy and help relax me.

Exercise is not giving me more energy, sadly, flourishing. It's one of my few coping mechanisms, so feeling too tired and rough to do anything is really hard. I used to go for a long run to clear my head, but most I can do now is a walk around the block at snail pace. I'm meant to be starting to sort through all our stuff in preparation for moving in June, but can't even do that. Is hibernation an option?!

Hi ladies, I don't know what's happened to me. Woke up today feeling really low and anxious about everything. I've just posted a thread about scans because I can't decide if I would feel reassured by an early one or not. My EPU don't offer them so I would have to go privately and DH doesn't want to go through the stress of it, which I completely understand and I had previously decided I wanted the same.

I don't feel like I've got any symptoms at all, despite being so exhausted yesterday i was in bed at 8pm. I've woken today and my boobs don't feel as sore and I don't feel as tired - but I got shed loads of sleep last night so that's probably why!!!

I also can't decide if I keep feeling pulling jabbing pains low down on the right.

So cross with myself for getting this anxious. I felt so in control and positive a couple of days ago. The silly thing is I'm not going to know or ever relax... I had symptoms up until the day of my managed miscarriage and I had zero pain or bleeding before that day either. I was 11weeks when I had the managed miscarriage.

Sorry for going on a bit!

Hi AKP, sorry it's such hard going for you. As many PPs on this thread, symptoms come and go. Like you, when I had my MMC I actually felt a LOT rougher than I did in my current successful pregnancy. I want to support you but I'm not sure how best I can help- I wonder whether actually dealing with your underlying anxiety may help. I felt very stressed and anxious throughout my early pregnancies and actually saw a miscarriage counsellor privately who was amazing, but I wouldn't say that it crossed the line into mental health issues. I hope this doesn't sound unfeeling but really you are the best placed person to assess who/ what might help you best.

I am a bit concerned about the one sided pain you describe- as I have also had an ectopic pregnancy the it should be something your EPU are happy to scan for. You don't always have other symptoms such as bleeding or shoulder tip pain. I can't recall how far along you are now but I can only liken the pain to something like appendicitis and the pain for me came on quite quickly and strongly. I was in no doubt something was wrong. I certainly don't want to increase your anxiety but wanted to ensure I flagged it. You should definitely make a point of telling your EPU about these symptoms and quickly, if there is any possibility of this being an ectopic they will be much better placed to help you than a private clinic.

Thank you for your reply eastend and I'm so sorry for worrying you. I don't have any significant pain, but maybe once a day I get a bit of a fluttery pulling feeling in one side. But because of my anxiety I feel like I'm convincing myself it's something to worry about!

I'm thinking I might see my doc and just explain how I'm feeling, she was incredible during the miscarriage, so I think she would be worth a visit.

I'm 5w5d at the moment.

In terms of therapy, since the miscarriage I have been having some positive relaxation therapy, interestingly its been the longest gap since I've seen her and I've not listened to my CDs over the last week and this is the first time I've got in this negative state. I've got an appointment on Friday and I tbink I'll get the CD out tonight!

Hang in there AKP79. Like you, I'm constantly worried. Just want to hibernate until 12 weeks.

Talk to your gp - sounds like she'd listen. flowers

Any bleeding AKP? Just keep an eye on the pulling feeling and speak to your EPU sharpish if you think it's getting worse. It also sounds like you know what you need to do to keep your anxiety in check, staying in a positive headspace is a good idea no matter what happens.

I also just read your other thread- personally I would speak to the midwife or your EPU directly, not via your mum. I'm sure she has your best interests at heart but you are the best person to ask for what you want.

Thanks economy that's exactly how I'm feeling too xx

eastend not had any bleeding at all. I phoned the EPU earlier today and asked if they'd offer a scan based on what happened over Christmas and they've said only if I'm referred by my GP. I'm definitely going to call her, she knows my history (I've got a DS who is 4 now, he was born with meningitis, but thankfully has no lasting effects, his dad left me when DS was 3 months saying it was because of the way I was when I was pregnant - I had pre and post natal depression) so with the miscarriage as well it's probably not surprising Im finding everything so worrying. Will call GP tomorrow. Xx