Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Congratulations on good scans gals! brilliant news! X

keys, oh hun, sorry to hear you've been in hospital and are going back in! but if that's where you need to be perhaps it's a blessing in disguise....you will have no choice but to rest, and that extra rest may help keep mini keys in a little longer while you build your strength up...?!
Keeping everything crossed for you my lovely xxx

Baby starting to engage as suspected...nan had a major heart attack and will probably pass away in hospital over the next week...weird thing is in between her faint mumbles, she opened her eyes, looked straight at me, and said "he'll come in two weeks" ..... Was as clear as day! Very spooky, but I'm a spiritualist and believe in fate/meaning etc....also believe that when you're close to passing you can flitt from one side to the other...perhaps she had to give me a message, an answer to the question I keep asking when is he going to come hoping she gets to meet him before she passes but its not looking likely...

Welcome newbies, tonns of support and understanding here...its a long journey, a difficult one, but the outcome is so worth it! X

Congrats northern. keys I'm sorry to hear you've been back in hospital.
I've had more bright red spotting this morning. Would have to happen over a bank holiday. I'll have to go to A&E if it doesn't settle. Just so worried.

lillian Congratulations on the scan hun. Dont worry about measuring behind by a week I did as well. However they did send me away and I had to come back 10 days later but I think that may of been the hospital I am under its a new fetal medicine research unit so you had to be the dates stated in the letter. I was so gutted but when I went back a week later I was actually measuring my original date plus a day forward and only made the testing by 2 days as she got it so wrong first time around. So you could find yourself having a massive growth spurt over next few weeks so personally I would keep your original date. The worst thing they will do is send you away and come back the following week just means you get to see bubba twice :). Great news about heartbeat and healthy baby hope your minds put at rest for now anyway hun lol your always stress no matter what gestation the baby is.

sophia I have no experience in what your describing hun but I do know of people who have had this and most of them the placenta moved up as late 36 weeks they were literally on edge right up until the birth. However it did move. All I know of is one person who it didnt and funnily enough I met her in hospital in the week but she had other complications. They will keep a close eye on you hun I am sure it will move for you. If it dont ive had 2 c sections and I have to have one with this one as well its honestly fine but completely understand why you want to have baby naturally I would love to experience that. Chin up hun the chances of it moving are really high.

paws Oh no I am so so sorry to hear about your nan. They do say they flutter back and fourth. I know its such a sad time for you but I hope it gives you comfort knowing theres someone there on the other side for her. So hard when your about to celebrate such a life changing exciting experience and knowing one person you want to share it with is so unwell :(. Big hugs my lovely really hope she gets to meet her great grandchild xxxx

I managed to avoid hospital my youngest DD has a server ear infection so I want to look after her as much as I can. I am on antibiotics not much more they can do for me other than bed rest. They did say I would be in and out. My bladder dont work properly dont even empty half way so I am so prone to urine infections which is so dangerous when pregnant plus with the stitch in plus the weak cervix. I will be amazed if he comes out when he is meant to but keeping everything crossed. As for now I will enjoy my home comforts and enjoy the lovely weather we are meant to be getting only England would have terrible wind and rain on the bank holiday can not wait until summer hits now I love the smell of summer BBQ's fresh air and cut grass I cant bloody wait :). Have a lovely Easter lovely ladies. Make sure you eat lots of chocolate we have a great excuse to stuff our faces :).

cockles Oh hun. I am so so sorry. I bleed early on loads in this pregnancy. Keep your chin up huni i know its easier said than done, Hand holding with you. xxxxxxx

How are you cockles hun xx

dinosaur I might call the midwife to see what she thinks I suspect they tell me to just keep the date as is and see how we go.

Thanks keys I'm trying not to worry and just enjoy the good news so far the worry is always there but I let myself relax a bit this weekend and have told my family the news! Hope you are doing well and being looked after in hospital.

Thinking of you cockles - doubly hard having a lot of places closed on account of it being the long weekend but I hope things are going ok for you.

Hand holding also cockles...x

Thankyou for your kind words keys....glad you managed to avoid hospital, but please don't over do it...and keep an eye on that bladder for any signs of infection! Have a lovely Easter xxx

Thanks guys. Im having a little bit of a panic I asked OH to get me some non alcoholic beer today am craving it and hate beer usually.But thought non alcoholic wont hurt anyway he come back with some and said the lady said they were non alcoholic. I wernt to sure but the back of the bottle said alcohol free had about 8 of them they were going down so lovely as well. Felt a little sick after and tipsy looking closer i read they did contain alcohol weve had a massive argument (just what I need) and he has left so god knows what state he will come home in think he feels guilty as well. I worked it out to have had 5% of alcohol and I never touch the stuff been in tears.
Do you think I should call the maternity unit because of my history? Im in a panic this is my first and last drop of alcohol in this pregnancy. Id understand if I had known but I should of been more cautious :(

Don't panic keys. What brand are they? Are they alcohol free but contain a v small percentage, like a shandy? I wonder if you feel ill because of all the gas in them rather than the alcohol x

Brivia or something like that but I had a lot of them and in a short space of time. Ive have since drank gallons of water and wont be touching anything again. Been googleing like mad. What makes me angry is and im not judgemental at all people are all different and its their life but some women still drink a bottle of wine a night and have no problems what so ever. I havent drunk at all in this pregnancy didnt with last two either apart from first one where I had one glass of champers for my birthday. I do everything by the book and I still end up with complications. Nothing I can do now I am sure theres no damage done I dont drink anywhere near as much as some threads ive read ive just panicked and I know I can talk to you guys and your not judgemental and wont scare the life out of me. Thank you sunday hun xxx

No probs. I really don't think you'll have consumed much alcohol and very little will have passed through to baby. I occasionally have a small half glass of red wine, prob 3 times since November. Make sure you ring DH to reassure him, an sure he's feeling worried too x

Can totally understand why you would worry in your situation btw x

Thanks hun really appreciate that. I loved a glass of wine whilst I wernt preggers and I think I would defo have the occasional glass of wine if my circumstances were different. As my mum said my nan would never of known the risks and drank and smoked heavily whilst pregnant with all three of her children. The guidelines are helpful but can be over exaggerated. Ive had Chinese peanut butter everything in this pregnancy before I would of been to scared to have touched that stuff.

I have text OH saying how sorry I am but have not heard back from him :( I did lay into him quite badly. He brought up a situation a few years ago we went out with his friends and one of them was pregnant. She was around 26 weeks it was her 30th and she drank 8 bottles of bud and had a shot of sambuca I remember thinking to myself wow shes going to do that baby some harm. I found out later that night in convo with my OH that she has an alcohol problem and that for her was not a big consumption of alcohol I was so shocked. She had about 6 bottles of bud a night. But her DS was born fine and im worrying about about a little amount my first drink in 15 weeks lol. Sometimes you do panic yourself though. I suppose everyone is different in what they think is a safe intake years ago no one would of given it a second thought.

Thanks so much for replying hun has calmed me right down xx

Hi keys so sorry you are so upset. I know it's not really the point but I've been drinking low levels of alcohol too. The Royal College of Obstetricians now say a couple of units of alcohol a couple of times a week is fine so if it's low alcohol beer it'll be totally fine, particularly as you have drunk plenty of water too. The concern is fetal alcohol syndrome and you really have to drink really heavily for that to be an issue. I know it's hard but do try and calm down. Big hugs lovely!

We've all different perspectives on stuff. I was a bit concerned as I've had to take a few paracetamols a day for migraine this week when I would rather not have to take anything. But rationally i know that it's fine for a few days. Hope your OH comes to understand x

So no more bleeding after yesterday morning. We're staying with my sister and her DSs in the South West, so they're doing a good job of distracting me. I'm still paranoid though, I feel less sick than I did yesterday and probably reading far too much in to it.
Hope all well with everyone else x

Thanks guys it really means alot you all understand. I know he is fine the movements have been so strong last night and this morning. I just panicked he came home and I apologised again he said even if they were alcoholic beers a one off wouldn't of hurt me as I have not drunk anything previously. He is saying even if they were 5 bottles of bud or small glasses of wine a one off wouldn't of caused any damage. Its done now and I have to move on with it all I knew I could post to you guys without being judged your all so supportive.

sunday In hospital hun with my stitch and last week I was contentiously taking paracetamol and codine I had no choice also buscupan as well they assured me it was very safe and I was having them every 6 hours for 4 days continuously so i honestly wouldnt worry its nice when I can reassure other people with certain issues.

Thanks again guys it really helped me settle last night xxx

keys glad you're feeling calmer, and thanks for your support yesterday x

How are you hun? I was thinking of you xx

I'm ok thanks keys, I have a scan booked for next Friday anyway so just trying to hold tight until then. No more bleeding though, phew

Well I'm on holiday this weekend so I'm out of the country and I've had a bleed this morning - bright red and it stopped about lunchtime, but no clots or pain. Means my 12 week scan on Tuesday isn't going to be worry free now!

I know realistically everything was fine on Thursday so it might be nothing but for gods sake, can someone give me a break! I'm hoping it was constipation / coughing / randomly induced.

northern I wish this random bleeding would just f* off for you (and cockles) Hope you can still enjoy your holiday, somewhere less wet than the UK?

I'm just counting down my last 15mins at work and then my bank holiday can begin, phew.

Sorry about your nan paws, if Samuel arrives when she said he would it'll be a nice bond to have between them when she's not here in person. Hope you get some more lucid moments with her before she passes

Sorry to hear you've been bleeding Northern. I hope it's settled down and that you get reassuring news on Tuesday.
Paws I hope you're ok.
It's ok here, no more bleeding, just trying to stay positive and to stop being sick. No Easter eggs for me!

Just caching up. Sorry to hear of bleeding for northern and cockles. Fingers and everything possible crossed that all is fine.

We're away in the uk for a week. Not only is weather crap but I feel awful - sickness kicked in and just so so exhausted. I also feel like I have a constant heavy weight in my stomach. I'm trying to be happy for kids as this is their holiday but honestly, I just want to curl up. Oh and I stupidly started to read the thread about mc rates in chat - either people listing lots of healthy pregnancies or people talking about 2,3 + mcs in between healthy pregnancies. Feel really worried now, it's going to happen to me.

I have a scan booked for 9 weeks + 2. Only 2 1/2 weeks to go.

Sorry, that was a real downer.

Hi everyone, I'm just catching up too.

Economy poor you, the exhaustion is just horrible isn't it? And reading about other negative experiences is really hard too. If it's any help to you, I try to remind myself that there is more chance that it will be ok than that I will have another miscarriage. I was quoted a 20% risk of further miscarriage when I had the last one, I think that's an average fro everyone - that means an 80% chance it's ok. Keeping everything crossed for you.

I'm feeling much better today, I got some antiemetics from OOH as I was so ill I couldn't stand up. It's like a little miracle. I've finally been able to scroll back through the thread properly without it making me want to throw up, and I've seen so many supportive lovely messages about my bleed which I didn't even see first time around. So thank you all xx