Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Keys you have been such a voice of support for all of us - we're all crossing fingers for you that with a little rest baby stays put.
Congratulations to those with successful scans - it doesn't totally take the anxiety away but golly gosh does it help!
Officially i'm now in the second trimester but with the real fading of symptoms and lack of feeling baby i'm not sure it's actually that reassuring! Life is going a little cuckoo at the moment though so lots of distractions which is helping!

How are you today keys - I hope the steroids have eased the pain? Xx

So sorry to hear that Keys, I hope they stop soon and you get some peace of mind. Let everyone look after you and spoil you and the baby

Congratulations to everyone on their pregnancies, it's lovely to see

Hi sundayraspberry, 22 weeks is fantastic, congratulations :)

Hi Turi1983, It is a rollercoaster, I'm still stuck on 'surprised' and trying to stay very detached from the idea of it all. I have to tell work this week, but my husband and I are just playing everything else by ear. Were your close family and friends a good support?

Hi all. I had a mc last month, very early on about 5 weeks. I was being very pragmatic about it (quite unlike me) until I found out 2 of my friends were pregnant, one is due a month before I would have been and one 2 weeks before (all of our PFB were born within 6 weeks) and that seems to have hit me much harder - both the jealously and unfairness of it all but also I will now have a yearly reminder (and a constant one for the next few months with them both getting bigger and talking about pregnancy symptoms)

To add to the confusion, I may also be pregnant again. It feels more like the beginning of the mc than my pregnancy with my DD - I can't get a pregnancy test to say that I am pregnant but have nausea and incredibly tender boobs. I have PCOS and am on Metformin to help me ovulate so have no real idea how long my cycle is and when to test!

Hi Pduck, sorry about your mc, it's a situation no one wants to be in. The issue with your friends sounds really tough too

The only way to know if you are pg again for certain is to poas although I have pcos too and I appreciate how difficult it is to know when to test! I didn't have my first period until 5 months after my mc and convinced myself many times during those months that I was pg again. Having said that, it is entirely possible to fall pg immediately after! Poas and see what happens and I can heartily recommend the TTC after MC thread on the conception boards if it turns out you are not pg again yet. Good luck x

pduck one of the preschool mums is due around the same time I should have been, in the next few weeks in fact. It is not easy and the feeling of jealousy is completely natural. She told me a day after I had had surgery for my mc (she didn't know, to be fair) and I did not react well. I cannot talk to her about her pregnancy and have probably been (in her mind) incredibly rude by blindly ignoring her growing bump and showing no interest. I am happy for her, but am also incredibly sad for me. So, I know how you feel x

Pduck Sorry to hear to hear about your miscarriage. It's surprising how sometimes things can just suddenly trigger you into feeling a certain way, I found myself getting jealous and upset comparing with a friend too but it's hard not too.

Could you get an early response test and try? Or perhaps contact your doctor? I know my body lost the feeling of being pregnant very quickly after my miscarriage though apparently tests can stay positive for a while and when approaching ovulation and for two weeks after I had my pregnancy signs back again :(. You are also apparently at your most fertile after miscarriage so you can get pregnant again even before you have a period- they just recommend you don't to date the pregnancy, but some people feel ready right away and get pregnant quickly.

Hi pduck. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Two of my best friends, and three of my cousins were pregnant when I had mine, and it was hard. I think it's totally normal, but actually once they had the babies, I was overwhelmed by love not jealousy.

Like nervousshockedexcited says, you can actually be super fertile after a miscarriage. I got pregnant again 2 months after mine.

Had my 20 week scan today and baby is lovely, wriggly, healthy and male!

Thank you all for your kind words.

Sunday - I'm trying not to poas again until the weekend as my DH wants to celebrate or commiserate (pick up the pieces) properly not have to run off to work. It still feels like a very long time until then though!

economy - I'm really sorry to hear that, it must be especially tough so close to the due date. I'm sure the preschool mum won't have taken it to heart and will forget about it all when it arrives.

nervous - I did an early one the day before I thought I might be due but I could have been totally wrong on that. The symptoms for the 2 weeks after ovulation sound like what I might have had, as they have all seemed to have disappeared over the last week and I'm now almost 3 weeks on from ovulation. I'm just not very good at 'wait and see'! My doc advised that it wasn't a problem to get pregnant straight away - they struggle to date me anyway, there's not much information for them to work with on women with cycles of 6 months, sometimes as long as 9!

Sophia- that must have been so hard with so many people around you pregnant, but I am glad there is hope for the jealously disappearing. Congratulations on your little boy, that's very exciting news.

Congratulations Sophia!

Lovely news Sophia

Congratulations Sophia!

Week 10 here and I'm feeling very apprehensive as I haven't really had any nausea / sickness for just over a week now. Next scan not til next Thursday. Not had any bleeding or anything so I know realistically all should be fine but I'm stressing. I've also had a few twinges down there.

Hate this feeling of not knowing

Thanks everyone

Northern 10 weeks is a really common time for nausea to disappear as you come to the end of your first trimester, and twinges are totally normal too as things are starting to stretch!

Congratulations Sophia! Must be nice to have seen a healthy little boy in there.

Congratulations sophia! X

northern I had strong aches and pains all throughout first trimester...i think it's a good sign that everything is stretching and changing as it should! But scary I know x

keys thinking of you...hope you're resting as much you can x

northern at 9+2 my nausea has gone too (never thought I'd miss it) I've booked a private scan next Thu for 10+2 weeks for a bit of reassurance until my NHS scan in April.

Lillian id be doing the same if I didn't have a scan next week. 12 week scan a week on Tuesday as well so I'm just trying to take it easy and keep positive!

Reassuring to hear others say there's stopped too!

Hi everyone, it's nice to catch up with all the news. keys I hope you're getting plenty of rest and that all goes well for you.
I'm 5+5 today and have had a bit of brown discharge this morning. So I'm panicking. Nothing I can do except wait, but I just keep thinking I can't go through another miscarriage.

Hello all, I'm going to join you all here if that's okay. I'm currently 5+1 after a MMC in early Jan (dragged on all through Dec really) and having moments of nerves. This one has felt different to the one I lost though, I already feel more connected to the baby. No real symptoms yet, in fact things seem to be similar to last time in that regard- faintest squinter of a BFP at 13dpo both times, vague symptoms starting and tapering off over the course of a week. Currently quite tired though and wasn't tired at all last time.

Have had two tiny bits of spotting- both light pink when I wiped, a few days apart, but that's it. I'm keeping fingers crossed that I have nothing more. I was referred to the EPU after the first lot of spotting but I didn't want to go in very early, so the nurse said she would refer me for an early reassurance scan instead. We never saw a HB last time so I'm keeping fingers crossed.

Anyone else here dealing with a dodgy thyroid? Going to see a private endo tomorrow as I think there is something going on. Hoping he can give me some reassurance.

Evening guys welcome to everyone joining so lovely to see you here and congratulations on your pregnancy . Its a tough ride especially these next few weeks but it does go quick I promise :) even though it dont feel like it.

cockles Has the discharge stopped hun? I bleed all the way through my first trimester was awful this pregnancy has been terrible with worry. Big hugs hun.

sophia awwwww a healthy happy baby boy on the way I am so pleased for you :). Half way there now hun.

Sunday 22 weeks now thats gone so quick I remember you posting on here t 14 weeks its mad. Baby is nearly classed as viable now thats so fantastic.

Stretching pains are so normal but I agree with paws so worrying. Just hang in there. I hope you have scans coming up soon. Big hugs.

Thanks for lovely well wishes guys. I am steroids now so stopped the contraction so im hoping there going to work. If I can get to 30 weeks I will be over the moon of I get past 30 weeks I will be jumping for joy as for now I am doing everything I am being told I have no pains just uncomfortable where stitch has come down. I am keeping so positive I feel really positive as well. Nearly 18 weeks I am getting there. See my doctor today she said I still have a long way to go I went red inside Ive come soooooooo far 18 weeks for me is such an achievement and I dont feel like I still have far to go. These past 14 weeks have flown by for me.

Thanks again guys for well wishes it really did bring me comfort readingyour posts.

keys that sounds great re contractions stopping. I hope they don't start again for a long long time.
Spotting has stopped for now at least. I had some cramps but felt more from my gut and I've been very constipated. Just hoping it all settles. I'll get a scan in two weeks time so just an anxious wait until then.
Welcome elderberries and I hope your spotting settles too.

keys so pleased to read the contractions have settled down, litterally want to tie myself in knots crossing everything that it stays that way and that baby stays put until 30+ weeks. Are you still on bed rest?

paws how are you doing now health wise? I've been thinking about hoping that you're as comfortable as you can be.

Just wanted to say to all of you who are newly pregnant post on this thread. The support you are able to give each other is truely invaluable. I found it almost impossable to talk about things that bothered me other than with my midwife so being able to post here honestly and have other people understand what I was going through kept me sane for the longest 40 weeks and 2 days of my life!

My little boy is two weeks old tomorrow. Despite worrying my way through pregnancy and labour and never truely believing he was going to be mine and the niggling worry that all the stressing I did was going effect him he is the most chilled out and contented baby I've ever incountered. I'm also feeling so relaxed it's unbelievable, feels like I've done years and years worth of worrying about him before his here and now I can just enjoy him. So although I'm sure it many of you may never believe it, even if you are worried all the way through, it doesn't mean there isn't light at the end of the tunnle. And what ever stresses and worries you have while pregnant don't have to effect you and your baby when it's all over.

Welcome elderberries, congratulations on your pregnancy. There are a few of us here at around the same stage, me, cockles, nervous, economy and maude. Hopefully we can keep each other company and sane for the next 34/35 weeks.

Keys, good to hear from you, I'm glad things have subsided a bit for you. I will be keeping everything crossed that it stays that way for you.

Cockles, I have wanted to get on here and offer you support all day but work has been relentless. Well done for getting through today, I hope you have had lots of distractions from the need to knicker twitch all day. Glad there has been no more spotting.

Lots of stretching pains here too. I have given up running already as it felt weird and uncomfortable. I had always thought my pelvic floor had survived my first pregnancy as I never got to term so baby never engaged and I never actively laboured, but perhaps things did get a bit stretched. Running in between has not been a problem and I have been running 10-13 miles regularly up until recently, but in the last couple of weeks it feels weird, uncomfortable, so I have decided it's best to stop.

I also have a huge bloated and distended tummy already, I will be investing in stretchy trousers sooner than later.