Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Lynsey There is othing I can say, I am so so sorry.
I'm in tears for both you and Lucinda, it's so unbelievably crap and unfair and I wish there was something, anything I or we could do to help

Everyone has been so kind, can't thank u enough for the support. I'm having trouble switching off this eve and can't sleep. Mind whirring. Had thgt I might hover around on the thread as feel attached to you all and do so want to hear how you're all doing. But I don't think it's the right place for me anymore.....I remember how I felt when I heard bad news, always concerned and sad for whoever it was, but also filled me with fear and I don't want that for any of u.

Wishing u all the best and hope u all have very uneventful and smooth pregnancies! (by the law of averages I reckon things look good for you guys! Hopefully lots of good news on this thread now)

So I will sign off now - keep my seat warm. I'm hoping I can join u all again soon. X

lynsey if u read this I send a hug and thinking of u.xxxx

So sorry to hear your news Lynsey, especially after your positive news a few weeks ago. We are with both you and Lucinda in your sadness tonight. Much love xxx

I couldn't sleep last night I woke up at 2am struggled to switched back off for hours so when my DD woke up at 6 I was like noooooooo!!!!!! I can't believe how horrible life can be sometimes. Lovely words by everyone sophia that was truly comforting what you said I also believe in what you have put really hoping that brought comfort to both lynsey and lucinda. I wish you both speedy recoveries and we will see you back here very soon lovelies I'm sure of it. Xxxx

thank you sunday she did call the midwife a number of times yesterday but no one got back to her. You see where we live we now come under kings for our scans and not our local hospital which is like a mission to get to. When the lady on reception very rudely said we've got all your lot coming up here now it was just so insensitive and rude. Not what you want when your having a baby. Kings are meant to have the best technology now it's all new and up to date and I even met the professor who is very famous so there panicking saying dates are so wrong a few days ok but a few weeks? I'm trying to offer them some comfort and it's so hard. The only comfort I can give them was kings got my dates wrong as well and when I went back I was 13+4 even though 10 days before they dated me 11+1. but if they have got it right a month away if she is 10 weeks takes her up to 14 weeks and if they if they've got it wrong then she'll 15,16 or 17 weeks. Do you know when they can no longer do a downs testing on baby? I think she's more worried she's 3 weeks behind.

Hopefully midwife will call today. To top it off I have my dreaded heart scan tomorrow of baby's heart which I'm so worried about :(. This is one week I wish was over been terrible to so many people.

keys I think they can do testing for downs syndrome later via a blood test (?quadruple test?) so not a problem. If I were in their situation I think I'd book a private scan, I'm not normally a fan of private ultrasound providers but there isn't much option if NHS can't give an appointment soon enough. Hope midwife can sort something out for them tho.

Please check out the TTC after mc thread lynsey and Lucinda even tho I know you won't be thinking about ttc right now. People tend to post there while going through the mc process as well x

lynsey and lucinda I'm so so sorry. Sending love and sympathy to you both. I hope you both heal well emotionally and physically. We are always here and more than happy to listen.

That is really rubbish keys but no advice in afraid. It amazes me the differences in provision and care

Thanks guys. Nothing midwife or doctor can do so now we've booked her to go private if only for peace of mind. Such a shame how she's been treated really pregnancy is meant to be less stressful as possible we put ourselves through enough stress let alone the people we can turn to if things don't seem to right. Never mind I'm sure all will be sorted even if it is at a cost. I know my mum would do it for me. Just hope everything is ok with baby tbh 3 weeks is a long way behind xx

I just wanted to tell you all after looking at my discharge letter they've classed it as a missed miscarriage. I didn't know what that ment so I read up on it and it's scarily similar to a blighted ovum. So basically it's caused by the same problem, only difference this time is that there was a heartbeat for a short while whereas with the BO there wasn't.
It's incredibly hard to swallow as they said the chances of it happening again were extremely low. Not happy with mother nature right now x

I don't think it's quite the same Lynsey- as I understand it, with a blighted ovum, there was never an embryo and with a missed miscarriage there is, just unfortunately the embryo stops developing at a particular point. With both however, your body continues to think you are pregnant. I totally understand how angry you are with Mother Nature though, and how upsetting it is for you to be going through this again xxx

Yes I don't think I said what I properly ment. Both a mmc and bo are caused by chromosome abnormalities. That's why I say they are very similar x

I think pretty much all early miscarriages (including blighted ovum and MMC) are caused by something being chromosomally wrong with the embryo/foetus, as opposed to later miscarriages being more likely to be due to something with the mother/womb. But chromosomal does not mean genetic, so it can often just be bad luck striking twice :-(

I'm suffering so much with nausea - anyone's tips would be welcome - going to have acupuncture tomorrow to see if that helps. I haven't actually thrown up but I have such a fear of it and way way tmi but I keep just being sick in my mouth
What do you ladies do for nausea? Anything that has helped? Bleurrghhh xx

Lynsey and Sophia yes that's right. I saw a miscarriage nurse/ counsellor at the Zita West Clinic in London and she was amazingly helpful in explaining to biology behind it all (the best £120 I've ever spent!) and they can also do a number of tests which helps if you have a little cash to spare- the NHS machinery can be frustratingly slow. Having had an EP and MMC my heart truly goes out to you xxx

Lex menthol pastilles, chewing gum, squash, raspberry jelly, lots of protein (eggs and yoghurt), sea sickness bands, good hydration, sleep?!?

Lex acupuncture helps me, hopefully it will help you too. That and ginger everything, biscuits, tea, cake... Ooh and starbursts although not sure a whole bag is the way to go

lex You have my sympathy. I've managed six days without throwing up now (was daily from 7 weeks until 14 weeks!)- whoop! I've found that it varies according to the day/week with me as to what might help- and most days nothing helped, so I would really recommend trial and error. Here's a few things that worked for me at different times:
Dr Pepper, if you can drink it, or as ice cubes- got that from the hyperemesis thread!
Tonic water.
Watered down Apple juice, very cold with ice.
Foxes Glacier fruits.
Ready salted or salt and vinegar crisps, especially the more snack type ones like Pops or Chipsticks rather than actual crisps.
Salted popcorn.
Nakd bars or bites (In small doses)

I just wandered round the aisles of shops picking up things I thought might help! When I was so ill that I couldn't keep anything down, and was on meds, my GP told me it was a good sign for the pregnancy, which kept me going...

Lex Bizarrely I found fruit salad flavour chewits helped me massively - maybe the texture of them?
Can I ask for lots of finger crossing please for the next few hours? Scan tonight - so so scared

Quickly checking in whilst away - Lucinda and Lynsey I'm so sorry to see your updates

Hand holding for you Bowser

Good luck Bowser!

Good luck bowser - everything crossed xxx

Good luck !browser. Xxx

lynsey! I had 3 miscarriages in a row hun before this pregnancy :( I know last one was caused by a clot in my womb but the other two have no idea. It's such rotton and heartbreaking luck it really is. I do know how your feeling right now confused angry hurt :(. Don't give up hun I was close to after my last mc in may and I didn't think I could cope with another loss but I kept going. I'm not sure about the difference tbh hun they do normally say is chromosome abnormality. My friend also went through the same I remember after having DD she had mc after mc after mc no explanation for it. Then she had 2 healthy pregnancies big hugs hun xxx

lex luckily I haven't suffered morning sickness physically this time around but have felt it really badly. I find the chewing gum with the hint of bubblegum taste has help also apples the juicy ones. With my dd's I couldn't keep nothing down not even water was awful I was working then as well so I know how you feel. Have you tried ordering the sickness bands? My SIL wears them on both arms xx

Just had scan and all is ok, obviously we are very happy but just wanted to update you and thank you for hand holding.
Don't want to make a big deal of it due to recent sad news on here but again, thank you so so much for all support.

That's fantastic news bowser! Enjoy your evening X

Great news Bowser!