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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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keys27 · 16/02/2016 14:15

Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 14:09

Thinking of you lynsey. Xxx

Also you as well lucinda I agree with north you've been such an asset to the group. Lovely lady I again agree and hope we can support you. I think when you have a feeling something is wrong you just know xxx

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 14:13

browser good luck for scan tomorrow. It's a little easier once you past 12 week scan as u mentally know your past the high percentage for mc rate however because your symptoms fade and u can't feel baby you do worry. I started to feel flutters which was lovely but they come and go. I want to purchase a Doppler but think it's a bad idea. Can't wait to feel the kicks. Xx

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obsessedlex · 08/03/2016 14:32

I'm so nervous waiting to hear from Lyndsey ! x

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 14:43

Me to lex. It's so strange we don't know each other but feels like we're all such good supportive friends and are so anxious and nervous for people who are having a rough time. Fingers crossed won't be to long now and good news xx

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Lucinda15 · 08/03/2016 16:09

Thank you so much for the kind words it really means such a lot. I will hover on the board, would be a bit lost if I didn't check in every day Flowers I really wish everyone all the best and want to see how you're all getting on.

keys so exciting that you are feeling flutters! How lovely and so reassuring after ur rough trot recently. Super news.

Really hoping we hear from lynsey soon....fingers crossed for you.

For anyone who needs a pick me up, some lovely flowers that my mum sent me today - thank god for family, and you lovely lot!

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Turi1983 · 08/03/2016 18:12

Lucinda words fail me. I am so terribly sorry about your news. Sending as much strength as I can muster over these next few days, weeks and months.

Lynsey any news?

Chandlierswinging thank you for your advise and for sharing your history. My issue is that BMI doesn’t take into account muscle mass, body shape etc. I don’t think anyone who looked at me would think I am overweight. It annoys me that the NHS use such an archaic measure and that I’ve been made me feel crap! Regarding your planned section, it’s a great relief to hear about your positive experience, thank you. What is PGP/SPD?

Last year I tore my ACL, had reconstructive surgery on my knee, had a SMM for a MMC and then surgery for endometriosis/fibroids – I am hoping I’ve managed to build quite a high pain threshold for a c section but who knows! Has anyone investigated having a c section done privately? Apparently if there is a medical reason, it is possible on some policies. I’m with AVIVA.

Bowserlovesmojitos I completely understand…

Feeling a lot less sick today at 10 weeks 4 days – trying not to freak out…

Sophia1984 · 08/03/2016 18:43

Hi Turi. Totally normal for sickness to ease off as you approach end of first trimester. Mine disappeared for a couple of days at 8 weeks, and then was on and off till about 14/15 weeks. Although it feels reassuring, it's really no sign at all, so don't let it freak you out. The sore boobs also go, which I found really weird as I had got so used to them hurting! You'll have your scan soon and that will be lovely :-)

Backhometothenorth · 08/03/2016 19:26

Bowser I also had a loss of symptoms at 10 weeks and booked a private scan as was so sure things had gone wrong. Symptoms soon returned and I am now fourteen weeks (fingers crossed)

Turi elective c section op and recovery was great for me pain-wise. Couldn't believe it at the time as had been so worried about it.

Lucinda they are beautiful flowers xx

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 19:47

I remember loads of us worrying about the symptoms fading me being one of them it's so normal. I had about 4/5 weeks of symptom free then it's hit me again now.

Lovely flowers lucinda Hun my heart honestly goes out to you. As I said when your ready to try again were all still be here supporting you. And make sure you stay with us as well your a lovely lady and can probably help and give advice to other new pregnancies who join. Such a strong lady. Xxxx

I wonder if anyone can offer any advice here or been through anything similar in the past. My brother and SIL went for their 12 week scan today. Going by her dates she should be 13 weeks however they dated her at 10 weeks. Hb and everything was fine and was measuring correctly for a 10 week fetus. But she is sure of her last period. 3 weeks out is quite a a lot. Anyway they were not very helpful to her and said she needs to come back in 2 weeks the receptionist who was extremely rude said I have nothing for 4 weeks. My SIL said but I will right on my 14 week then and if they have measured wrong I will be around 16-17 weeks and she wants her correct scan for testing. The very rude receptionist said she had nothing else and if she didn't take that date then she wouldn't get a scan.
Where does she go now can the EPU scan her to check her dates again? Should she be worried? I'm so upset for them because they were so excited.

If it don't rain it pours in my family seriously xxx

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LynseyH5 · 08/03/2016 20:15

Hi all. Thank you so much to all who have been asking about me and waiting on news. I'm sorry i can't bring good news. The heartbeat I saw a couple of wks ago is now gone. I booked in for surgical management for Friday but bleeding is already getting worse so looks like I'm gonna just have to see it through this time.
I don't need to say how I'm feeling, I'm sure you can imagine.
Lucinda I'm so sorry you are going g through this too. I have to echo previous comments, your a lovely lady who has been a great support always ready with kind words. I really hoped for the best for you.
Thank you again everyone xx

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 20:19

What an absolute crap day. lynsey I'm so so sorry I can't believe this I really can't. I'm so so sorry to you and lucinda. I can't really type right now as I'm so gutted and so upset. Your a lovely strong lady as well and we don't want to lose you either. I'm Dom sorry I can't type right night I'm so gutted xx

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keys27 · 08/03/2016 20:20

Can't type right now sorry I'm so gutted.

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JayBeanie · 08/03/2016 20:30

What an awful day. Lots of love to Lucinda and Lynsey. I'm so very sorry for your losses, I was so hoping everything would be ok for you both. This thread has brought tears to my eyes tonight. Hope you both have RL support to get you through this horrendous time. ThanksSadThanksSad

LillianFullStop · 08/03/2016 20:30

I'm really really sorry lucinda and lynsey. To go through this once is unfair enough but to have to go through it again must be so difficult to bear.

My thoughts are with you both and your DPs. There are no words really just know we are thinking of you and crying with you for your losses. Please look after yourself and please if it helps to let it all out here on this thread we're here for you.

obsessedlex · 08/03/2016 20:33

Oh I'm son sorry lyndsey what an utterly crap day. My love goes out to all of you xxx

Lucinda15 · 08/03/2016 20:33

lynsey so sorry this has happened to u. I was really hoping it would work out for u. sending a hug and and shedding a tear for you and your little heartbeat. It is not fair. So sorry Flowers

Sophia1984 · 08/03/2016 20:37

I'm so sorry lynsey. I hope now you have had confirmation you're able to start your recovery. Please know that we're all here to support you with this. Have you seen the 'practical advice for going through a miscarriage' thread - it's incredibly useful and provides a lot more information than the hospital will. I know it must be horrible to be bleeding, but maybe it's a good thing if your body can cope with it naturally without having to go through surgery. I know it sounds weird, but sometimes it feels like our bodies hold on physically until we mentally know that baby is gone, but then they let go. It's always comforted me to think that although our baby's body is lost, their soul somehow stays inside us and just waits for another form to come out in. Big hugs xx

GoulashSoup · 08/03/2016 20:57

So sorry lynsey I don't know what else to say than I am sorry you have to go through this. It is utterly utterly unfair. We are here to listen if you need to talk. I hope you have someone looking after you.

Big hugs to you and Lucinda for a restful night.

positivity123 · 08/03/2016 20:57

Oh lynsey I am so sorry.

chandelierswinging · 08/03/2016 21:05

What a sad day for the thread.

Lucinda Flowers

Lynsey Flowers

Backhometothenorth · 08/03/2016 21:11

Oh no I'm so sorry Lynsey Thanks
What a cruel and terrible thing this is. Lots of love to you and your partner xx

Threefaries · 08/03/2016 21:38

I'm so sorry Lynsey and Lucinda. Life can be so cruel sometimes Flowers Flowers

sundayraspberry · 08/03/2016 21:45

Hugs and Flowers to you too lynsey, I'm so very sorry x

sundayraspberry · 08/03/2016 21:50

keys could your SIL ask her midwife to help sort it out? Surely that's what they're there for, and they should be able to pull a few strings.

LynseyH5 · 08/03/2016 22:00

Everyone's words are much appreciated and made me cry again, you've all been an amazing support. I don't really have many words right now. Because of the bleeding I felt things weren't right but seeing a heartbeat a couple of wks ago gave me hope.
This really is the cruellest thing a woman can go through.
I wish everyone on the thread the best of luck with their pregnancies and hope you all have a smooth ride from here on out. Love to you all xx