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marie22 · 17/12/2006 16:17

i have just found out i am 14 weeks pregnant, i am not in a stable reltionship either. i know i have to tell my parents buti need to get my head around it first. i havent started showing yet and was wondering when it will be possible for them to tell. if anyine one has experience with having to break the news it would be good to hear how you did it! my parents are very strict so i need as much help as poosible!!

thanks!
Marie

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babylove123 · 21/12/2006 22:49

spelling. Its a way of saying sorry if you havent spelt something right. You're 22, you shld know that

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 22:51

sorry i am a bit dyslexic (sp!!) lol

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babylove123 · 21/12/2006 22:53

lol, dont worry. Hey, u got msn?

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 22:58

yep its [email protected]

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babylove123 · 21/12/2006 23:00

Cool, i'll add u if thats ok? Will do it 2morro tho, gotta go to bed as i have work 2morro last day tho till Jan 2nd!

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 23:05

cool! have fun at work and we can speak later! i have my first docs appointment on the 5th so i really want xmas to go quickly!!

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babylove123 · 21/12/2006 23:06

Awww, we can waste it together but for diff reasons! really happy for your btw, glad its all worked out well

Talk 2 u 2morro!

Indith · 22/12/2006 09:55

Hey glad it wemt well Marie! Sure rest of family will be happy for you too if they see that you are.

And babylove I hope things go ok for you too!

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marie22 · 22/12/2006 10:01

thanks indith! how r u?

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PinkTinsel · 22/12/2006 10:25

fabulous news marie

so glad she took it well, such a relief isn't it? are you nervous about telling your dad now?

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marie22 · 22/12/2006 10:32

i think my dad wont take it as well because ive always been daddys little girl as i am his youngest, but hopefully with my mum there it will help (unfortently i dont think getting him drunk will work!!) any more tips u can give me? do u think i have i done the right thing by telling them seperatly?

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PinkTinsel · 22/12/2006 10:45

i told mine separately as well as like you i was far more afraid of what my dad would say. i'm an only child so also a daddy's girl! it helped having my mom on side, we brought him out for a nice meal and told him as soon as we got there and discussed it over dinner.

he took it shockingly well, all he said was 'if it's what you want' and started discussing baby names, and gave me a lovely drunken lecture that night telling me to be happy about it as it would be the best experiance of my life (never did tell them it was planned )

Indith · 22/12/2006 10:48

Feeling very pg Marie! 6 days to go til due day!

Dads are harder than mums, mine took a lot longer to come around but scan pics and time work wonders. Plus when you move out you somhow move into the realms of adulthood in their eyes too which helps.I'm the baby girl too in my family. Dp and I didn't move into this flat til mid Sept so I was at my parents until then and spent a lot of time feeling like a wayward teenager!

But hey its going well and should be a happy thing! Sure your dad will be ok specially if your mum is happy about it.

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marie22 · 22/12/2006 11:02

wow! then this is a very special christms for you then! congrats!
i do have an older sister so i am still treated as a kid by him which my be why i am less responsible then i should be! hopefully it will be ok. im not seeing him till the party so im not going to get the chance to tell him till xmas and im not sure if that is wise. i dont want to ruin his day. should i wait until iv had my scan so i can show him the pic?

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Indith · 22/12/2006 11:07

Yeah fun Christmas this year!

I would tell him sooner rather than wait for your scan, he might not be impressed at having it kept from him. Besides as I'm sure you know it is so hard to not talk about it!

My big sis sort of had the position of 'family failure' then I got inm on the act. Poor dad didn't know what had hit him! Still he is quite looking forward to being a grandad now bless him.

PinkTinsel · 22/12/2006 11:12

i held back on telling my parents for a couple of weeks as they were going on a holiday they were really looking forward to and i didn't want to ruin it for them if telling them went badly.

could you tell him on boxing day?

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marie22 · 22/12/2006 11:14

yeah i guess your right, i will try and tell him xmas eve and hopefully it will be ok! it is diffinetly getting harder not to shout it out to the world but i do live in a stuck up community so might not tell them, i am going to wait till after the scan to tell the rest of my friends as i wana make sure everything is ok. my best friend is being very supportive which is really helping and i think she is also finding it hard not to tell people as she is looking for our new house!

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Indith · 22/12/2006 11:29

Yeah it gets like that with friends. Is best for them to wait a bit (I failed at that though!)Be prepared to have all your female friends cooing over you and touching your belly! And I swear they all find scan pics cuter than I do...looked like a little alien to me!

Must say though it has amazed me the reactions of the people I was most afraid of finding out. Many of my friends are strict christians of various denominations for example and they have all been nothing but supportive and not in the least bit judgmental.

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marie22 · 22/12/2006 11:33

thats good then coz one of my friends is a christain and doesnt believe in sex before marriage but i am perpared for that lecturer! after the parents and family im hoping my friend will be easier else as my mum says their not very good friends!

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babylove123 · 23/12/2006 17:48

Hi Ind, Thanks for the thoughts, hope you get the result u want too

Hey Marie, soz i wasnt on last nite but have added u 2 msn now. Look forward to talking on there soon

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marie22 · 28/12/2006 17:48

well christmas didnt really go well with my dad, he was very upset at me and i had the disappointment speech which really hurt!
he has ingnored me since i i told him and has gone back to work so i have not had the chance to talk to him.
its been hard but alot better with my mum supporting me but i have los the joy i felt before. i guess it might take him a while to get used to it.

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PinkTinsel · 28/12/2006 17:52

i'm sorry marie

he will come round though trust me, just give him time to get used to the idea of being a grandad.

{{{{hugs}}}}}

if you want to chat add me to your msn; dee _ pinktulips @ hotmail . com (without the spaces)

Indith · 29/12/2006 11:14

Agree with PT he will come around in a while

Dads tend to be the worst, his baby girl is growing up in a big way! Mine was very disappointed and spent a lot of time telling me I should abort but he is perfectly fine now.

Keep him involved even if he doesn't really want to talk about it and give him plenty of time.

I'm around on msn far too much (all comes of waiting for a baby to put in an appearance!)

Indith _ underfire @ yahoo dot co dot uk

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marie22 · 04/01/2007 10:12

hi sorry havent been on here for a while, thanks for the support indith! he had a bit of a shock the other day which has made him more concerned as i had to go emergency doctors yesterday as i had been having bad cramps for two days and yesterday i started bleeding
the doctor checked me over and said that the heart beat was slightly higher then he wanted but that all seemed to be fine. i am going back to day to have my scan as i have just found out i am 16weeks! i did ask my dad to come with me but he has to work so its just me and mum going. im hopeing the scan pic will stir up something in him!
hope ur all doing well and the bumps!
I'll let u no how the scan goes!
Mariex

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