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22 and no where to turn

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marie22 · 17/12/2006 16:17

i have just found out i am 14 weeks pregnant, i am not in a stable reltionship either. i know i have to tell my parents buti need to get my head around it first. i havent started showing yet and was wondering when it will be possible for them to tell. if anyine one has experience with having to break the news it would be good to hear how you did it! my parents are very strict so i need as much help as poosible!!

thanks!
Marie

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12yeargap · 19/12/2006 09:35

I was 21 and in my first year at uni when I got PG the first time, my parents gave me a seriously hard time when they found out, but came round pretty quickly.

They'll only be angry because they're worried about you.

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fortyplus · 19/12/2006 10:05

They may be angry or shocked at first, but then they'll almost certainly amaze you with their support.

You're still their little girl and this is their grandchild - it's something that you can't begin to understand until you are a mother yourself.

Just be brave and tell them... otherwise it's going to ruin your Christmas!

Start the conversation with something like 'I know you'll be upset but I really need you to understand...'

I've had several friends in your situation, including one whose father was really racist - she didn't tell him that the baby's father was black so the first he knew was when he saw his granddaughter. He's the most loving Grandad you ever knew - it was love at first sight & it helped him change his attitude.

You'll be fine - tell them today.

feedmechristmaspuddingnow · 19/12/2006 16:32

Marie, how did it go? Is everything OK?

babylove123 · 19/12/2006 17:50

Thanks Kama

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PinkTinsel · 19/12/2006 22:15

hope everything went ok marie. it's nervewracking i know but one thing that stood in my favour with my parnts was that i told them as soon as possible, 2 of my cousins got pregnant at 23 and 25 and didn't tell their parents til quite far in and it didn't help matters, only made it worse

Uki · 20/12/2006 04:23

Marie

I admire you for keeping the baby and being so mature.

I'm sure your parents will be fine, and should be happy you've made a decision.

Good luck telling them, i think earlier is better it will be an even bigger shock to hear of i'm 6 months pg.

12yeargap · 20/12/2006 10:11

BTW, early 20's is a GOOD time to have a baby, physically. I'm really noticing the difference between being PG at 21 the first time, and now at 33...wish I had some of the old energy!

jessie123 · 20/12/2006 11:11

my sister in law has just gave birth to a baby boy this mornin and she is 19 years old. her family were not to pleased but the minuite they held him in their arms they were really happy . 22 is not an unusual age to have a baby and although you are not in a stable relationship i think you need to show that u are responsible enough to look after this child. most family's feel a little more relaxed and happy about the situation when they are reasured that you can take care of things. i think its best to tell them asap as the longer you leave it the harder it will be. good luck xxx

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marie22 · 20/12/2006 16:27

hi guys!!

so it didnt good as well as i had hoped! i told my best friend first, she was very surportive and we are now thinking of sharing a house together. i then went to tell my parents but im afraid i chickened out as we have just found out a member of the family has become very ill so i couldnt up set them again!!!
i will try again tomorrow as i am spending the day with my mum so hopefully a day of bonding will help!
i will let you no how it goes!!

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Indith · 20/12/2006 16:31

Oh I'm sorry Marie. Hopfully bettr tomorrow.

Glad you have good friend support though, they ar the best things for getting all excited and reminding you that pregnancy is in fact a good thing!

babylove123 · 20/12/2006 17:45

Good luck Marie, hope you manage to find the right time and it goes well

PinkTinsel · 20/12/2006 17:59

marie, get her drunk if you can. i told my mom after a huge session (luckily i'd given up drink a year before) while she was at that weepy lovey dovey stage and it went great!

good news about you and your bf moving in together though, it'll make all the differance to be out of their house

paulaplumpbottom · 20/12/2006 19:09

I think you might be suprised. Even if she is upset at first it won't last. Good luck

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 10:51

ok just about to take mum shopping and i thin out for a meal! i will drive and take pinktinsels advise so she can drink!
hopefully it will be ok! i'll let you know later!

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Miaou · 21/12/2006 11:07

Just seen this - good luck marie, we're all rooting for you

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 20:23

hi everyone!
so it went very different again to wot i thought it would! we went shopping to buy something nice to wear for christmas which unfortunetly meant she seen i am buying a size big in clothes! after shopping i was knackered so we stopped for a meal. whilst in the restuarant my mum asked if i was ok because she had noticed i'd been down so i took this chance to tell her.
luckily she had had a couple of glasses of wine (thanks for the tip!) and it was not the reaction i was expecting! she said that she had suspected it and that she had noticed i was filling out! (which i havent even seen!) she said she had wanted more for me in life but as i had thought it through she would stand by me!!! and she will be there for me when i tell my dad.
it was weird coz she was more upset when i said i was going to move out!! but i think i still will as i need to feel independent.
i have booked an appointment to get my first scan as it is a little late which my mum will also come with me in the new year! i cant wait now! i can start enjoying it now!

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Miaou · 21/12/2006 20:37

Oh fantastic marie! Hope it goes as well telling your dad too.

Try to keep your mum involved if you can - eg going to scans, talking about your pregnancy. It will help to soften the blow of you moving out and you may well appreciate the support over the coming months.

And enjoy your Christmas

babylove123 · 21/12/2006 20:50

Well done Marie, glad it went so well! Enjoy your pregnancy

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marie22 · 21/12/2006 21:06

thanks guys!
i just so relieved!, i have to go to a huge family party this saturday but i dont think i will tell them untill i have the scan and make sure everything is ok!
its weird but now i feel upset i cant tell them and really happy that my mum noticed i might be pregnant so hopefully i will look and fill more pregnant soon! (still suffering with morning sickness and nose bleeds!!!)
hope all your pregnancys and children are well!!

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