Pregnant at forty and over - thread 2

[cloudjumper]

To continue the support for those of us who are pregnant at forty and over.

thinking lack of symptoms might be meaningful - had bad abdominal pains all day now seeing some brown bleeding - but seems to be getting heavier.
Have rang EPU who have answerphone service- not sure what to do

oh fragile, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm hoping it's just some normal brown bleeding I had some of that and I was fine, but it was very scary and upsetting and I can remember well how you must be feeling right now). what are EPU's hours? Have you left a message?

Got worse - trip to Epu was inconclusive ( they said blood test levels had fallen) - scan on Monday . But have passed some huge clots/ lumps of tissue and all pregnancy symptoms vanished - so no doubt in my mind. Surprisingly I feel ok about it although suspect that is just more that it's a relief to know after a horrible 36 hours. Been a roller coaster of week- back to ttc asap

fragile, I am going through the same started spotting sat, today terrible cramping and passing large clots. Absolutely gutted. I hadn't told anyone and don't feel able to irl. Went to a&e and am waiting for an appointment at epu for scan, but I know, in my heart of hearts, it's over.

Irrational ideas like 'maybe it was twins and one is left' keep popping into my head, so it's important to me to see for myself at the scan that it's gone.
Good luck and what a rubbish mummy's day X

ooharmehearties- I am so sorry to hear that - it is a horrible experience. I had my scan today which said there was no pregnancy -I think I had truly accepted that it was over before as I didn't feel upset at the scan at all.
its only now sat back at work that its all sinking in - I wish in a way the last week/ten days had never happened - better to have never known that I was pregnant in a way.
Fingers crossed for you x

Oh I am so sorry for you Fragile. Fingers crossed for u ooharm

Notfrom just popped in to wish u bundles of luck for tomorrow. 37 week is 'term' so good timing, given all the recent concerns. I am confident you'd have organised yourself, despite the short notice. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Waiting desp. for your BA with a pic :) Good luck xxx

Sorry to hear that Fragile and Ooharm - life can be so cruel.

@notfrom and EagleRay - so it's day 6 for me in terms of recovery from ELCS. I'm feeling pretty good today but I'm not gonna lie, the first few days were tough. I couldn't walk or stand for a couple of days and it was more of a shuffle across the floor. Lowering myself down onto the toilet was interesting. I'm only taking paracetamol for the pain as codeine completely f*cked me up last time causing urine retention and severe constipation but the pain is definitely easing off and I'm not clock watching like a junkie anymore. I was passing blood clots for the first few days but I'm 'drying up' already. I'm not ready to go out and walk in the street or anything yet, but at least I can get up the stairs. I've still got the attractive compression socks on but the midwife says I can take the them off soon, plus DH has to inject me in the thigh with blood thinning stuff (oh he loves doing that, not!). After a tough start with breastfeeding (baby's mouth is very small as he was only 5lbs 5oz so latching was near impossible), baby is now feeding really well and steadily putting on weight. I've got one bleeding nipple so I'm expressing that side to give it a rest. So, all in all, the first few days were hard, very hard and yep, I cried when I couldn't even stand at the sink to wash myself, but actually day by day, things are getting easier.

So sorry Fragile & ooharm. Have you been given an appointment yet Ooharm?
Glad things are starting to get easier Mrslebon. It's a slow, exhausting process. I have had 2 nights in a row of putting Declan to bed at around 8 and he is settling & falling asleep himself rather than screaming! It makes such a difference to my evenings. Now they're full of fun things like ironing instead of constant feeding .
I've got 2 appointments to view nurseries tomorrow, ready for September. I know it's still ages away but it makes me feel sad that I even have to think about it already.
Hope all is good Notfrom. Any news?
My friend is due on 31st March. Her baby is already nearly 7lb. She is nervous....
How are you feeling Ellie?
Hope everyone else is ok x

Hope you are feeling okay mrslebon - glad baby is now feeding well. I would love to breastfeed, but I've heard nothing but difficult stories from people. I hope I can do it too!

I'm almost 35 weeks now and am sporting a bit of a waddle Feeling pretty good though - very reassuring to see the bub moving about every night. DH is incredibly impatient to meet him, and I'm starting to get that way too now. I'm beginning to see how the last couple of weeks of pregnancy must get a little tiresome.

Our little nursery is coming together - something I never thought I would do - our two fur babies are looking shifty and suspecting change is afoot!

Hope everyone is doing well xx

Hi everyone,

Need your prayers. Am approaching 23 weeks and today scan showed some funneling but the length was more than 35 mm. Fibronectin test (whiciv determines the risk of preterm labour) was negative. This was done as scheduled previously due to my previous loss at 22 weeks. They are going to rescan me in a weeks time to see its progress. Havent made any changes to my medications. Havent advised any intervention like stitch etc yet. Havent even advised complete bed rest but obviously I am gonna give myself complete bed rest and drink plenty. Ladies please please pray for me. This is my 6th pregnancy after 5 losses! Please pray that this baby holds in there healthily until its completely safe for her to come out xx

Oh Ellie, I am thinking of you.

I'm afraid I don't understand the significance of the funnelling- what does that mean? I am hoping that if your HCPs thought it required any action they would intervene? Hoping you have a very peaceful few weeks and the next scan puts your mind at rest. You are over half way there now, this baby IS bloody well going to stick on in there, we are all willing it for you so much x

Thinking about you ellie. Yes, as city said, what does this mean? You're obviously getting the best care and monitoring. Sending you lots of positive thoughts. x

Thanks so much Brooke and City. What I understand is funneling essentially means that cervix has started to open up. They said it might be due to weak cervix or preterm labour. I can not believe this is happening to me..please please pray for me. I dont even know how to deal with all this uncertainty and a long wait of 7 days!

*open up and shorten (like a funnel).

Ellie, cling onto the fact that the length remains good and hasn't shortened, which is a really positive sign I hope the next week goes by quickly for you!

Thinking of you Ellie

@brookeberry - yep, breastfeeding can be very hard at first. Getting baby to latch, getting the right position, sore nips, possibly not producing enough milk (esp after ELCS) etc.. I had some great breastfeeding support at the hospital right after baby was born and they were so generous with their time. I needed to be manhandled and they were literally squeezing my boobs to get things right! With DS1 I just scrunched up my toes every time I fed until I'd pushed through the pain barrier and used lots of Lansinoh in the process! This time I have to say it's been much easier so I'm guessing what they say about your nips toughening up is true. And once you're off and running, it's the best thing in the world and so damn convenient! And there is nothing cuter than a newborn blinking and rooting for your boob - it's adorable.

Hi, yes it was as I feared, I lost the pregnancy. So sad. It's doubly hard as the kind donor who helped me can't continue due to personal circumstances, so I have to go through all the process of finding someone new .
Feeling numb at the moment, and also very much feeling my own mortality in all of this.
Good luck everyone, hope to see you on this thread again X

So sorry to hear that ooharmehearties

So sorry ooharm xx
Thinking of you Ellie xx
Hope you're ok Notfrom xx

Hi not been on this board before. Is this an appropriate place to ask opinions on whether you can see a line on a pg test?

On the pregnancy board, yes. On this thread, no.

Ok thanks. I've had some help on a post i created earlier. I homed in on the 40 plus bit on this thead title. I'm 45 with 2dc. Had a couple of ectopics and mc prior to dc. Will see if this pans out to be anything. Usually get bfp around 10dpo so figure I'll have an answer either way tomorrow.

Hi just marking my place here. I'm 40 and 12+2 weeks today. I have my dating scan on Monday and I'm so excited! I'll be 41 when baby arrives and I'm also rather overweight sooooo wondering how the medical staff will treat/view me. Kindly and respectfully I hope! So far I've been super tired from weeks 5-8 then not too bad but now at week 12 I have really awful nausea and sickness! Least it means baby is doing her/his stuff!
Great to read this thread and all the positive stories so far! X