Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Thanks heaven. I'm just craving fruit because of the thirst. My mouth is so dry and my pee has gone really dark (sorry tmi).

Awww that's not tmi. I was just the same before I went to hospital and it was absolutely awful. I suppose there's no way you can get yourself off to a&e tonight? Is there anyone that could look after your little one while you go?

I was sick once after clearing up some cat sick. I really am glad I don't have to go through that all the time like some of you do.
It is (bizarrely) cheering to hear others mention loneliness. I hadn't articulated my feelings before but that is what it is - loneliness. No one understands how rotten you feel and if you're off work, you're at home all day with nothing to do except watch TV. Even reading makes me feel ill.
Sigh.
This thread is ace though.

My partner emptied the bin last night and I threw up! Definitely not fit for working on the deli just yet with all the meat and cheese smells around.
Reading makes me ill too. I miss it so much. I usually read a couple of books a week. It is lonely to sit at home seeing no one and doing nothing because you feel so wretched. Had to walk to the postbox earlier which is literally round the corner and felt so bad by the time I got back.

No one to look after LO so have to wait until tomorrow. Would feel bad taking her now. She's exhausted. Staring at her thinking how did I manage to get through this the first time and however will I manage again. I think I have over done it by going to work. I need to get signed off again?. I will end up killing myself if I carry on this way.

Why can't I just have a normal enjoyable pregnancy like some women??? I'm either sick to my stomach or a mc. What is wrong with my body?!!! Sorry. Just feeling so emotional and let down by my body.

Don't apologise reebok. I completely understand. I've had terrible sickness with two pregnancies (inc this one) and lost two other babies so I feel just the same and am completely terrified I'm going to go for my 12 week scan and be told something's gone wrong again. People tell me not to be silly, everything will be fine this time but it is so so hard to reassure yourself of that. I think your feelings and mine must be completely normal. I feel let down by my body too to be honest. I have said to my partner and mum that I think my body hates being pregnant. It just doesn't know how to cope. My sisters sail through. No miscarriages yet and next to no morning sickness and although I am happy for them of course I just want to scream Why me? Why am I laid up with severe sickness and even hospitalised or going through miscarriages when others in my family have very few issues? And then I feel so guilty for even thinking that way. Okay rant over. Apologies!!

I don't know if you can manage to eat anything at all but I have found yoghurts to be okay. They are soothing on my throat and tummy and if they do come back up its not too horrible. But don't have Greek yoghurt as that is bad.

Helps to know I'm not alone. Your words really hit a sore spot or whatever the saying is. Feel same about my sisters minus one who understands as she had hg too.

Yogurt is a big no. I have acid reflux so have to stay Away from dairy.

Only things appealing at the moment are banana as I can kind of keep it down, green apples, quavers and ice lollies. That's all I've managed today. If one more person tells me to try a cracker I will slap them. A pregnant colleague suggested them today as she had mild ms and that helped her. I felt like shoving crackers down her throat!!!

I hope I didn't make you feel bad. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone and I understand how difficult it is.

No I can relate to everything you said. It's crazy but when I was pregnant with dd I wished for a mc although I had one prior to conceiving her. I feel so guilty now I felt that way but I just wanted the torture to end. I got really depressed and no one wanted to be around me. Not even dh. I think it's going to happen again only now I have a little girl relying on me.

I wrote a long post on my phone and then pressed something which made it all vanish, so annoying.
Reebok, just to second Meerka's concern - I'm really glad you're going to hospital and not to work tomorrow. You sound absolutely wretched, understandably. I know Ealli swore by tinned peaches when she was at her worst, and I think sipped the juice for hydration. I found tinned grapefruit quite helpful, but I realise maybe too acidic for some. Also ice, ice cold lemon barley water in tiny, tiny sips.

Heaven, I really despair of comments like 'try eating little and often'! If it was really that simple don't they think you'd have tried that. As for ginger... Ginger, I always joke on here about dispatching the Ginger Hit Squad to take out people who are stupid enough to mention it as a cure for HG!
Lilac, sorry about your class, but completely understandable that you had to leave. The environment sounds far from ideal, even for someone without HG.
Barmee, sorry to hear about shower voms yesterday. How are you now?
I'm sure my other post was longer, feel sure I have forgotten something - apologies to anyone rudely neglected.

I have had times with this one where I've wished for a mc. I know it's the last thing I want and I know I'll be devastated if it does end that way but when I have felt so rough it feels like the only way I could feel normal again. It's hard to cope with that and I'm glad to know in a way that someone else has felt the same.

Sending you both hugs, Heaven & Reebok.

Thank you MoP. I hope we haven't taken over the post too much. How are you feeling at the moment? Was it you that was trying to get hold of some cyclizine over the counter or have I confused you with someone else?

Thanks mop. Will try the tinned peaches. I'm desperate for some sort of drink. Thirst is getting too much. I'm actually scared to eat now. Really thought I would be ok this time because I started Meds straight away.

Heaven, sending you hugs. It's terrible but on Saturday I was in such a state and asked my dh if I could get an abortion because I couldn't take it anymore. I regretted it within minutes. I mc in July. I know if it happens again I won't be able to try again. Not after this. I don't think I'm strong enough.

I'm not sure if it will help at all but drinking sprite seems to settle my stomach and keep the sickness at bay. I had many weeks were all I are was dry sugar puffs, I carried them round in a freezer bag and snacked on them throughout the day. I couldn't face them now I feel a bit better but I did find that if I used them to make sure my stomach didn't get compliments empty I could sometimes manage to keep a piece of toast down. I tried explaining to my husband how I was so hungry and so thirsty but nothing appealed to me at all because I knew I would see it all again later. Everything I ate/drank was carefully chosen by how easy it would be to bring back up later. Rest helped me massively but I too was bored - I couldn't watch TV or read because I had no concentration span and most of the time the room was spinning, I did find some apps to do jigsaws on the iPad, that passed a lot of time and didn't make me feel really ill. It's so hard when you have other children, I had weeks were I did very little with my daughter because I could barely get out of bed. My better days started from around 25 weeks but in my last pregnancy I was so much better from 16 weeks. I hope the weeks pass quickly for you, posting on here has helped me through some very dark days x

Thanks for the advice ems. Sprite just comes back up unfortunately and with coke I just feel more dehydrated. Know what you mean about barely doing anything with your daughter. I literally have her glued to the iPad. Glad she goes to nursery as she gets interaction from the staff and decent meals 5 days a week. She keeps wanting to hug me and says 'mummy cuddle make mummy better.'

Does anyone have blisters on their tongue? Can't remember if I had this with dd.

Hugs to you too reebok. Whatever happens you will get through it. You are stronger than you think. You've already proved that with what you've coped with so far but I have my fingers firmly crossed for a good outcome for you.
Ems that's a great idea about the jigsaw apps. I'm going to look them up now.

Tinned peaches were my life line. If for nothing else than I seemed to get goodness out of them even if they did come back - and coming back they are one of the easiest and more pleasant (?! Less unpleasant?!) Things to bring up.

I totally understand the feeling let down by your body and wondering why the hell I have a normal pregnancy. We fought hard for this pregnancy and I certainly felt (a lot and even now) that perhaps I should have listened to my body not wanting to get pregnant as a sign that it just couldn't do it. Then when I got spd as well it sorry if confirmed that my body doesn't seem to be designed to grow and carry a baby. Which is a horrid, horrid feeling and to be wished on no one. Another aspect of the complete isolation of HG.

In terms of boredom etc, Netflix or amazon prime is wonderful. Netflix especially as you can watch hour long episodes of stuff, 3 in a row on autoplay without having to move. And you can do a months free trial. I watched all of the Good Wife (5 seasons) over the course of a couple of weeks!

Reebok for you to be feeling this thirsty, I think you need help maybe before tomorrow. Can you ring the NHS number and see what they say, or your local maternity unit, tonight?

I know childcare is difficult, but you sound in a physical state (never mind emotional) and I think you need help now. Is there someone who can help with your little one and you can talk to the hospital?

The more I read what you've written, the more I think you need to ring the maternity unit.

White down the bullet points of what you've written here

• very dark urine;
• desperate thirst
• blisters
• I mean this in a very gentle way, please don't be offended, but one of the signs of serious dehydration is a degree of finding it hard to think. Is that how you feel now? if so, it's another sign you need to tell them

How is your skin? is it dry and does it stay up when you pinch it, instead of sinking down?

reebok I agree with meerka. She had reminded me of the difficulty in thinking straight. We laugh about it now (hub and I) but at my first hospital admission my head was all over the place; I just lost it talking to nurses and consultants and then had a full on break down complete with body wracking sobbing.

I think I had difficulty thinking straight as well. My partner had to make the decision to take me in because I just couldn't seem to and when we got there I could barely answer their questions or anything. They'd ask for date of birth or something simple and I'd just stare blankly. Couldn't seem to process it for a while. I didn't realise that could be a result of the dehydration. I do hope you can get yourself there very soon reebok.