Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Well done Shoop, I'm so glad you're back getting the help you need. Don't let anyone tell you, at the end of the day it's your body and you know if you're not well.

I saw a new midwife (my other one was sick) and she immediately got me a GP appointment as I have a suspected UTI and also the Metaclopramide has stopped working so she wants me to discuss on other options. She was great - does anyone know if I can ask to have her as my main midwife? The other one was fine but this one was so full of energy and didn't make me feel like an idiot, always nice!

For the list, I'm 26 March. Hoe is everyone today? Spandau, I think you should go back to your GP and maybe get your ondan upped or go onto something else - that doesn't sound right at all!xx

Bugista glad you got a lovely midwife - it makes such a difference. I don't see why you can't request to have her - worth a try! Our due dates are close!

Yay nearly due date twins Shoop :) How are you getting on at the hospital?

shoop you did do the right thing.

Take a look at the Pregnancy Sickness Support website, Mother Hen linked it in the OP.

That organisation has a very experienced doctor on its board, Dr Tony. He has worked with the best HG doctors in England and co-authored research papers on it.

I guarentee you that the organisation (and Dr Tony himself) would say that you did the right thing.

Kinda thinking I'm gonna just have to grit my teeth and suffer like previous pregnancies.
Just older at 35 and have health problems :(
Hate going back to docs as don't want the she's making it up /over reacting stigma :/

8 weeks today

Due date 8th may sob x

Shoop I'm so sorry to hear things are bad but glad you are back in hospital. Hopefully you will feel better with the meds and fluids.

Spandau you sound awful...I really think you need to go to the hospital to get rehydrated.

So far having an okish day. Back on the meds which is helping and managing to eat and keep down food so far. Heartburn is playing up so think reflux will be an issue tonight but hopefully not! Fx this means better days ahead for me.

Sorry to anyone rudely overlooked. Hope everyone is having a good day!

Nurse couldn't find vein so I have been waiting for the doctor but no sign yet.. Haven't been given any drugs either. Am considering just getting my notes and going home it's seems like there's no point in me being here and I miss my family so much. Sorry for selfish posts today I am really struggling to cope

shoop ... you're not selfish. This is a place to speak and vent and write it down. Do hope you can see a doctor soon though.

spandau hoping that you are doing okay

wishing everyone a quiet evening

Shoop you need to kick off.. those you shout loudest get the best care... told to me by several NHS staff!!!

Just seen my evening meal in reverse .. less than an hr since I had it

Grrrrrrrrrr
Going off stuff quick wjen u see it in reverse :/ ew

Dunno about hospital lol iv got 4 kids needing me here... lol hypocrite after nagging u Reebok he he .... don't know why I'm laughing ....think it's hysterically :(

Hey what ages are you lovely ladies
I'm 35
Granny of the group ?? Lol

Shoop feel free to vent away. We are all here to support each other. By the way re veins it's probably because you're very dehydrated. Same with happened to me...in fact it took 4 pokes by 3 different people to get a vein and the place they finally got it in ended up bruising. It's been a few weeks and the bruise still hasn't gone. Hope you're on meds now and being taken care of.

Spandau completely know what you mean about seeing it in reverse. It's happened with meals I've had 4-6 hours earlier! Is there no one who can take the kids? I really think you need to be rehydrated as you will only get worse. 35 isnt a grandma! I'm 30.

Heartburn and reflux kicking in so feel like crap again. Luckily dd has just gone to sleep so I can hug my bowl and sit in silence again. My back aches, feel weak and tired but I'm suffering from insomnia plus struggling from pain to get any sleep. Feeling quite down. Sick of being indoors all the time. Just want my life back. Dh tries to get me to go for walks with him and dd on weekends but I can't do it. It's a struggle to get from bedroom to living room and there aren't even stairs involved. Sorry for the rant. Just sick of being here.

Reebok rant away, that's what this group is for. I know what you mean about wanting your life back; it seems like the hg has you prisoner in your own home and all you can do is look at the same 4 walls, it drives you mad!

I am nearly 30 and agree 35 is not old spandau!

Thanks thisis...I remember the same feeling when I was in my first hg pregnancy. Thing is, I don't even want anyone to come and see me. I sicken me. I look gross. I'm embarrassed of my home. I don't like talking anymore because of the excess saliva and it makes me feel sicker. I don't even like being around my dh. I just feel so lost. I either sit looking at the walls or I try to watch a bit of TV. A lot of the time I mute it because of the noise. But it's just that I can't take this same droll routine day in day out....I sound like a crazy person don't I. I just want to be me again. I want energy. I want to want to talk to someone....without feeling sick. I want to stop crying because of how I feel.

reebok I know exactly how you feel, I didn't socialise or leave the house for weeks. When I eventually went out with my husband at 14 weeks I projectile voted several times in the middle of a busy town centre. I think it then dawned on him how bad I was!! I remember telling a friend we couldn't go on a prep manned camping holiday and she texted me suggesting we went up in the evening for a be - I hit the roof because although she meant well I couldn't believe she had suggested it given the state I was in! Although every day is like Groundhog Day I just didn't have the patience to be around people when I knew they didn't understand and kept telling me it would pass in a few weeks. Grown ups colouring books seem to be everywhere at the moment, I've just bought one and find them quite therapeutic! I hope you start getting some better days soon xx

Re read my post, it makes no sense. I think my fingers are getting too fat for my phone!! It's supposed to say preplanned camping trip and suggested a barbecue!

Reebok I totally hear you
I can't bare to around anyone yet hate being alone
Getting irritated with my toddler who I adore and hate myself for it ...
I'm not sleeping I've got sciatica I've got reflux I'm only 8 dam weeks
If I think of this as until 16 weeks I wanna top myself
No one gets it
I feel like my stomach is churning a time bomb of poison it actually hurts all the time ...
Think I need to invent some handwashes soap powders washin up liquids deodorant s that don't make pregnant woman chuck...
Maybe we could become millionaire s outta this shite ;)
Nite all xxx

spandau I joined this thread during the preg with the Pipsqueak. He was born when I was 44 =)

So sorry everyone is suffering so much at the moment. Hoping today is a better day.

I'm travelling today to a funeral so hoping I don't vomit mid-service! Keep everything crossed...

Shoop, what happened in the end at hospital? How are you now?
Barmee, sorry to hear you have a funeral to go to and really hope you make it through without being sick. Gosh, looks like you were up very early.
Hope everyone feels a little better today. Reebok and Spandau, hang in there. It is hard when you already have small children. My 3 year old DS tries to leap onto my bed for cuddles, play, chat, but he is so exuberant and squirmy, makes the bed feel like a ship at sea, and I end up fobhing him off which makes me feel dreadful.
Still battling the constipation horror. Going to try the suppositories this morning.

Oh, and Spandau, I'm 41

I wondered if I could have a moan here as nobody else seems to get it. I am 7w pregnant, I have been vomiting constantly for 2w now. I can't eat, drive, go out, do anything! Even walking my dogs is too much as I have no energy. My house is a mess and everything is being neglected and I'm really struggling to see any end to this.
I am self employed, if I don't work I don't get paid. I've had a week off but will have to go back next week or we can't pay the mortgage.
I have been given anti sickness tablets from the doctor but they haven't really made much difference. I have also tried sea bands and eating constantly but the more I eat the more I am sick.
I am sick of listening to helpful stories of morning sickness and ginger biscuits...
I'm struggling to see how I am going to cope with this any longer

Does anyone have any words of wisdom?

Greyhorses It will get better, honestly! Even though you don't feel like it at the time. From about 6 weeks through to 22 weeks (sorry! but everyone is different!) I felt like I was being slowly poisoned from the inside. I am now at 25+4 and although I still have my moments, it is nothing like what it was, honest!

Take it a day at a time. If your meds aren't working, ask to try something else, there are several options.

Don't worry about housework, that can wait. Can you delegate walking your dogs? And do you get any times of day where you feel slightly better, even for a short while? For me, I had a "window" of about 1-2 hours every evening where it was as if the fog lifted. Maybe try to get a little bit of work done then, if you can? I know being self employed is hard and I truly empathise.

Hoping you have support from friends/family in RL but keep coming back here too, it kept me sane in the dark days!

greyhorses which meds are you on? There are a number of meds which are considered safe, if you say what you're on atm we can suggest others which might help.

You do need to get more effective meds if you can; the aim of treatment of severe pregnancy sickness is to 'enable women to carry on as normal a life as possible' according to the Government's Best Practice organisation, the NICE.

Also, get some Ketostix from the chemist. You pee on them and the darker the colour the stick goes, the more dehydrated you are. Anything 3+++ and you need medical attention. Most people can come through but dehydration can become dangerous for you and the baby, so it does need checking. Lack of food isn't usually such a problem.

It -will- get better like two says, but it might be an idea to hope for the best, and plan for the worst.

None of this might be necessary but if things don't improve, can you:

• arrange dog walking
• accept that for now, the house is going to be a mess. It WILL get better, but for now, set your priorities clearly as to what you MUST do, and what you can (temporarily) let slip
• get more effective meds
• can your other half or your family help out at all with practical matters?
• (planning for worst case) Can you shave down your work to the essentials, thinking that your work capacity might be limited for say another 12 weeks?

Thanks to both of you. Sorry I sound so negative.

I am on promethazine and these do work slightly but I am still vomiting and have constant nausea/drooling.
My doctor is very reluctant to prescribe anything else (I had to fight for these!)

My DP is trying but he works very long hours with an hour commute. He usually leaves at 6am and dosent get back until around 7pm. I have asked for help and he does what I ask but I can see he is fed up too. We are supposed to be getting married in 4 weeks and I can't see this happening at all.

Work is a nightmare. I get paid for the shifts I work and nothing else, I'm not entitled to sick pay other than the SSP which is not enough to live off at all (it would not even cover a quater of what I have to pull out bills wise)

It's just so stressful and all I want to do is feel normal so I can do what I need to do, I really don't know how you have all managed to cope so long as I just want to lie in bed and cry

Greyhorses, so sorry to hear how you're suffering. I'm also 7 weeks PG, with my third child but only second HG pregnancy (escaped the first time with a bit of morning sickness). HG is a truly debilitating condition, so no wonder you feel awful and have no energy. As Meerka says, you are going to have to ruthlessly prioritise. I am signed off work and just lie in bed most of the day like a blob, which I hate. I am a clean/neat freak to the point of OCD, but have just had to accept that my house is a tip and will remain so for a while. You have to put your health and your baby's health first.
The strongest medication available is Ondanestron, which many of us are on. The main side effect is constipation, which is unpleasant, but at least on this drug you are able to keep down small amounts of food and drink. It's brought me down from 10+ voms a day to about 3. If you have an Early Pregnancy Unit near you, try to go there for treatment - they have more experience than most GPs.
Meanwhile stick around on here. Everyone is supportive and understanding. And people who mention ginger in any form are automatically taken out by our Ginger Hit Squad.