no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Thank you all for your kind words. It's lovely that there are such sweet, supportive ladies on here. It's such a hard thing to get your head round, I keep thinking if only I'd been there to hold her hand, if only I'd spoken to her more often, maybe I could have helped her out of that dark place. It makes me feel really guilty for having been so wrapped up in my own worries about pregnancy etc. I know I can't blame myself, it's not my fault, but it's hard not to look back and see the times when I could have been a better friend.

Sorry for hijacking the thread with my woes!

north that all sounds really scary, I can imagine how you must have felt going over that. After my ectopic, when I spoke to the doctors about what happened and learnt that my tube had ruptured and I had lost a lot of blood, I really struggled to get my head around what could have happened to me and how close it was.
I hope you're coping ok with the thought of giving birth again, it sounds like you've got your head screwed on and the doctors are clearly looking after you really well and will no doubt take great care of you throughout the process. If you do need to talk about any worries/fears I'm all ears, I think it really helps to talk it through.

I am so sorry to hear about your friend bing. Thinking of you, it must be so difficult.

Glad you found the discussion bout your notes useful northdown. I really hope you manage to avoid a repeat experience and that they look after you well. I had a birth reflections meeting with a mw to discuss my notes about a year after the twins were born. I didn't find it very useful as I felt she just wanted to defend the hospital rather than help me understand what happened. Sounds like your session was a lot more useful.

Sorry to hear that bing, try not to worry about the upset and stress affecting baby. They are very resilient :)

glad to hear you've had some closure (if that's the right word) My birth plan will be much the same! Get us both out alive.

I'm going for a scan tomorrow (16) weeks and have just realised it marks a year to the day that I started bleeding with my miscarriage. The anniversaries just keep on coming don't they!

northdown it mut have been hard going through your last labour like that (and sorry you had such an awful time of it), glad you have a plan in place and are being looked after.

I had a difficult birth - natural in the end but induced, lied to by the hospital about being able to have a water birth overdue, there were no beds in labour ward and they didn't tell me, student mw had me pushing for an hour when my cervix was caught on DS's head, days of slow labour, too much going on and people in and out so I could no longer concentrate on when contractions started and stopped, bins tipped out when the consultant lost his keys and they thought they may be in my room! DS's heartbeat kept dropping and no one explained what the machine was saying during the labour then no one noticed when he was born he wasn't breathing! He was also born with an eye infection and they instantly assumed I had Chlamydia because i was under 25 and a week later I got an infection in my womb and couldn't lift him - turns out 2 weeks before when I told my MW I thought my waters had gone and she said I had wet myself - my forewaters had gone! Walking around for 2 weeks without half my waters had given us both bad infections. I bought my notes from my old trust (£50! ) and read through them myself this year.

bing you're not hijacking the thread with your woes and don't dare think that! We're here to help as much as we can. And don't be blaming yourself. It's not productive esp for you right now. I hope next week's scan is more hopeful. Xx

It's nearly the weekend thank God! Had difficult morning at work. Now debating a second sandwich... Don't want to go back. Anyone anything nice planned this weekend? Looks like summers returned here for tomorrow at least so we'll probably sack off our list of chores and try to get out.

My goodness north & mummy I am so sorry you had to go through such difficult births. Have you written to your trusts and complained? They take these things very seriously and use experiences such as these to improve patient care.
My dad is a surgeon and every single letter of complaint that arrived at his particular trust is read and responded to and those (medical staff) involved get hauled in to explain themselves! Obviously the most important thing is that you and baby are fine but still these things can be so traumatic. Big hugs to you both.

I think it all went in a bit of a whirlwind! Once I had DS, he had some oxygen and mouth suckered so her could breath, everyone sort of left the room, leaving me to feed DS, DP and DM went outside to ring people and I looked at my perfect baby and it was all worth it and calm decended around us. Plus the post natal team made up for it letting me stay in an extra night to make sure I was sure on feeding as I struggled a bit.

It wasn't the delivery I'd imagined but the care I reciewed all the way through was excellent. I've no concerns, in fact I'm quite confident about having this little one in the same hospital

Had a private scan this morning (16 weeks) and thrilled to say we're having a daughter It's such a good feeling to have passed another milestone. just another 4 weeks to wait til I can tick off the next one...

Congratulations melon! How exciting!

Great scan news melon! Go team pink!

I had a right old wobble at lunchtime. Just finished walking the dogs round some park land at a national trust house and the car park was full of perfect families arriving... With several children each... And picnics... I totally appreciate that I'm on my way to a real life dc2 and thats a huge blessing but the journey has been longer and harder than we naively thought and I couldn't help cry thinking about the 9 or 3 month old plus ds we should be walking the dogs with. OK me post over. Obviously hormonal... Hope you've enjoyed some sunshine ladies x

Oh diddly sorry you felt like that today, it's somehow harder when something hits you out of the blue as a reminder I think. I too have a little cry every now and then when I think of my lost DC. I do find its getting less often now I can feel this baby kicking and I know he is definitely in there growing away!

2 of my very close work colleagues announced their pregnancies the week after my MC and that was devastating. I've had to watch their bellies grow and them both go off on maternity leave in the last couple of weeks. We all would've been due within a couple of weeks of each other. I've had to be really jolly and pleased for them for the last almost 6 months.

Just think, this time next year you'll be the one picnicking with your delightful little family and you'll appreciate every second x

Hi all can I tentatively join you all had a baby 6 months ago after several miscarriages and after a miscarriage a couple of months ago I have just found out I am pregnant again

Welcome babytinx, hope the next 8 months are boringly uneventful for you.

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time mrsd, as cherry said, soon you'll be picnicking with the little one and creating new happy memories.

Hi everyone. Baby Eva was born 8th August at 9:10 after approx 13 hours of labour. Water birth with gas and air (and many screams and expletives!) she was born at 39+5. 7lbs 3oz and strangely born exactly 1 year after I got my first BFP so the journey through MC and preg after MC has really come full circle.

I wish you all uneventful and healthy pregnancies. Thank you to everyone who got me through xxxx

Wow happy, how beautiful is little Eva! Congratulations, enjoy every second

Congratulations Happy, great news!! Beautiful xx

Congratulations happy, she's beautiful! And what a lovely name!!

Hope you aren't too tired from the birth. The one year thing seems like she was meant to be, doesn't it? Enjoy your rainbow baby xx

Congratulations happy, she's beautiful, and a lovely name.

Gosh, welcome back baby, i remember you from when i was lurking for a long time on here . So sorry to hear you've had another mc but congratulations on your bfp. Hope your stay is long and uneventful

Congratulations, happy! You have literally come full circle! Enjoy getting to know your beautiful baby xxx

Congratulations happy! Such a gorgeous photo :)

Welcome babytinx, I remember you also. Have my fingers firmly crossed for you x

She's beautiful happy, congratulations!

Hello baby, congrats on the bfp.

This is such a lovely thread, so much support and pics of little squishy babies have really cheered me up this morning. My twins have both come down with chicken pox so we're stuck inside during the nice weather. People keep saying it's odd because it's not chicken pox season but it's definitely pox! I had a blood test to check my immunity last pregnancy and I am immune but it still worries me a little bit because I'm only 8 weeks and apparently it's dangerous to the baby before 20 something weeks.

Congratulations happy! Gorgeous picture.

My stats are 23, of with DC2, Edd 7/4/16.