no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Hi islander I understand how you feel. I had a mmc picked up at 12 weeks after a healthy scan at 10 weeks. I'm now just 5 weeks and trying to hold off until 8 for my first scan. My doc said around 6 and a half weeks she can usually see a heartbeat but with some people not until after 7. Fx your scan this week goes well.

Thanks Monkey. Here goes counting the weeks down!

Good luck on weds nouser, will be thinking of you this week.

Islander I'm sorry for your loss but congrats on the current pregnancy. I know what you mean about not being able to relax until 20 weeks. With dd I couldn't relax until she started kicking and even then I used a doppler. Had my second mc 6 weeks ago and I'm now 6 weeks pregnant. Scared as didn't have AF in between. Fx for us all.

Feeling so bloated since yesterday. Keep having trapped burps so I feel nauseous. Don't remember this with dd. I was so sick I couldn't eat anything anyway.

Is it sad of me that a really good mate is coming over today to see me and dd (not seen her in ages and she doesn't know I'm pregnant) but all I want to do is stay in my pjs braless and sleep? I had to shorten my nap to make myself look slightly presentable. Feeling like crap too because the trapped wind is making me feel like chucking up but I can't. Anyone else feeling unsociable?

Sorry for your loss islander and welcome. That must have been so tough to go through but congratulations on your pregnancy.

Thanks for the kind message tft, I'll be thinking of you next week too. Must admit Wednesday can't come soon enough, I'm spending the weekend working myself up into near hysteria and googling all sorts of horrific things that I shouldn't be. I'm going away on a girls weekend on Friday too (been arranged since before I even fell pregnant the first time!) and also worried about that now. It's ridiculous.

reebok bless you, it sounds like you've had a nightmare week. Will the friend be staying long? It may be good to see them and take your mind off things for a bit? If it was a really good friend I'd probably also be braless and in my pjs too! I've been taking boots own brand indigestion relief for wind and indigestion and it's sorted me out every time, can anyone fetch anything like that for you to try to shift the wind? I think Rennies are ok in pregnancy too.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

Hi islander. Time feels like it's slowed to a crawl since finding out I was pregnant - you're right, 20 weeks just feels so long away! I am 11 weeks tomorrow - found out at 11+5 that I had a mmc last time so am feeling mega nervous about this week. This time I had a scan at 5 weeks and they couldn't see a hb but it was found at 7 week scan. So I'm hoping things will go ok this week but I am not counting my chickens as I know a hb early on doesn't always end well, as you well know. I really hope all goes well for you this time - there's so much support on here, everyone understands how anxious this time is.

nousername my scan is on Wednesday too. It can't come soon enough! Absolutely bricking it. Heard heartbeat on Friday but that reassurance is long gone.

Good luck for all of you with scans. Keeping my fx for you all. I still haven't been to the gp. I'm guessing I'm 6 weeks but no AF since mc. Still can't bring myself to go. I feel like if I don't go, then nothing is happening and I can pretend all is ok for a while but the moment I go it's real.

Tried Rennies nouser. Doesn't work. I find myself having to burp every minute. It's crazy!

Reebok, I had crazy heartburn and indigestion last time and the only thing that worked for me was the double action gaviscon in the pink bottle. Have since heard that sherberty sweets like love hearts or refreshers are good, I've been eating loads!

Evening all.

Sorry I've not been on here for ages-the whole hacking thing freaked me out but also I've found it easier to get through the first few weeks by just putting my head down and trying not to think about things too much.

Welcome to any newbies though and hi to those who have moved over from the 'ttc after miscarriage' thread! I'm now 9+5 and we went for our private early scan this morning. I was absolutely terrified beforehand but all was fine-a little baby in there with four arms and legs wriggling and waving away! Unbelievable really. Am so pleased I waited as long as I could bear as it was amazing to see him/her looking so baby-like really. I've got my first midwife appointment this week and hopefully the 12 week scan won't be too long away. Just have to figure out how to stay sane until then.

Anyway, just wanted to pop by to say hi and give an update. I'll try to read back now but thinking of anyone having a tough time-especially in the first few weeks, time goes so slowly.

reebok I hardly saw anyone during the first 12 weeks. Dh, dd, my mum and dad, a couple who are very good friends who understand the stress of being pregnant after mc were the only people I saw. Lived in my pjs on the sofa, canceling every plan appart from doctors appointments. So well done for managing to visit your family and for entertaining a friend.

I suffered with horriable heart burn and indegestion when pregnant with dd, actually did make me sick. Now sickness is dying down I seem to be going the same way again this time. I need to go to the GP because I was prescribed stuff last time but have found gaviscon peppermind takes the edge off for now, enough to get to sleep anyway. Sherbet sweets help, and refreshers lollies give a little restbite. Dd has learnt 'excuse me' thanks to all the burping, and told a certain in law off for being rude when they didn't say it last night.

How do you book in with the midwife in your area? Can you self refure or do you you need the GP to refure you? If it's just a case of phoning up and asking for a midwife appointment, would you find that less stressful than seeing the gp? Although mine was really reasuring I wouldn't have actually needed to see him. I know making an appointment with the midwife might feel even more intimidating.

Congrats on the scan clouds.

Suz, gaviscon makes me vomit so that's a big no for me.

Thanks dobby. Dd is unwell at moment which is making life harder. With my area I have to register pregnancy with gp first and then they make a referrel to the midwife. Will try to call up tomorrow. I mc last at 7 weeks and was 6 weeks on Saturday so I think that's the milestone im trying to achieve.
Retested this morning and still getting strong lines...I know these mean nothing but makes me feel slightly better. Starting to feel a little sick and boobs ache but tbh I had severe sickness (hg) with both mc so sickness doesn't always mean things will be ok in my case.

And that's me saying "goodbye" already.
My GP referred me to the hospital last week and they checked me through rather thoroughly (honestly...bloody hell, I've never been poked and prodded so much in my life). They decided to re-test levels and do scan again later that week, then kept me in for laparoscopy...and removed my ectopic pregnancy. So, it's not that I can't get pregnant...it's just that the little thing loses its way and then gets stuck.

Good luck everyone else, though. I might re-join you after ivf treatment. It doesn't look likely that natural conception will lead to anything but yet another ectopic. Oh well.

Oh mini, I'm so sorry

mini I am so so sorry to hear your news.

So sorry to hear that mini. Be kind to yourself x

So sorry mini . Thinking of you.

So sorry for your loss mini

So sorry for your loss mini

So sorry to hear that mini. Hope you're being looked after x

So sorry Mini. Hope you recover from the prodding soon.

Thanks all. I'm fine, really. (It seems a lot easier emotionally this time round - surprisingly.) Just need to let it all heal physically now. DH is trying to be helpful and is looking after me wonderfully, but he'd have me sit on the sofa all day, if I didn't insist on at least walking to the kitchen or bathroom every so often. It does mean that we've finally established the reason for our difficulties (it's only taken nearly four years), so we can actually move on and put some things into place to get going in a safer and planned way. Hospital staff have been lovely and I know the doctors there are also pushing for me to finally be seen by the fertility specialist. We'll get there...
Good luck to everyone else.

Oh mini such sad news, glad to hear your being well looked after

Sorry mini glad dh is there to look after you